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I think we all have multi identities and many ways of being in the world. I'm an escort, but I'm also a lover, sister, friend, student, and yogini. Some things aren't relevant in certain contexts, and we all have things we would simply prefer not to discuss. All of my friends and family know what I do; unfortunately, being able to live life openly is a privilege only few share in this industry. The only time I've ever lied is with an intimate partner who did not support me seeking my financial independence through escorting. Suffice it to say, we are no longer together. For some people, the 'double life' is necessary for their mental, physical, and emotional health. It's not necessarily bad, and it doesn't necessarily cause dissonance. For some, it can be very healthy and I've heard many gentlemen echo (both on the board and face-to-face) that the experiences they have with service providers help create and maintain a balance in their lives... Despite the 'double life' at times (managing/mitigating risk and making sure not to get caught), I think that's a really beautiful thing.

Again I agree that the "best of" threads are unfair and subjective but my point again is that those who are referring to this being an inappropriate question are some of those who thanked and seemingly appreciated the best bj / ultimate bj thread, to me this is inappropriate and hypocritical. Can you like one and not the other, I suppose, as you can like what you choose but I just find it unfair. Yet again, just my point of view:) Also this is a new member, someone who isn't a seasoned hobbyist so perhaps it might have been nice to pm him as to appropriate questions instead of a somewhat public scolding. We all want new members to feel free to come here to enjoy and post. :) In his defense, if I were a newbie and I looked around this site and saw other posts saying this person is the best at, or is great at and many thanking them and ads outlining their talents and what they love, why would I think asking a question about the same subject inappropriate? Thanks for your input I hope you appreciate mine:)

I don't like shallow or phony people even if they are paying me. It's a total turnoff. Looks are not what does it for me. I like people who have personality and who are genuine. I don't want a guy visiting with me who thinks he is the cat's meow and bases the entire encounter around that. Arrogance is another turn off. I prefer clients who seek out qualities of a lady aside from looks. Everyone has their preferences but as a service provider, I cannot be judgemental based on a client's looks. However, respect, cleanliness and personality go a long way. Looks aren't everything and I don't base chemistry of an encounter based on them either.

We all do what we have to do. I had this discussion with a friend, regarding escorts etc. His take was "using their body for money". I asked him, and any of you, what is the difference then between and escort who uses her body sensually and someone like me, who was a truck driver and abused his body for years? Broken feet, toes, hands sore backs, knees, hips. I am 48 and feel 68 some days. I used my body, size (6'3 250) as a means to an end. I was an ape who lifted heavy things for years. I call that abusing myself!! I guess the difference is I can say I was a truck driver, while ladies often have to use caution in revealing their profession. I for one, am thankful there are ladies providing comfort, companionship and intimacy.

Beer. There is nothing better on warm days than to consume beer. Okay there are better things to do, but beer should be included. Wait. Wait..... WAIT!!!! Brilliant idea!!!! PATIO CHAMPAGNE ROOMS!!!! I love my brain.

I personally have never been a fan of the best of threads...be it who gives the best (fill in the blank)______, who is the most beautiful etc etc etc Companionship, even paid companionship is about two people getting together for a private intimate encounter. And no two encounters, even with the same two people can be exactly replicated, each encounter is unique. Companionship and encounters are definitely YMMV. Making it about who's the best makes it a competition between ladies. Best of threads demeans, IMHO encounters which can be very special and intimate A professional companion should be focused on providing the best companionship she can provide. She shouldn't have to worry if she is as good or better than another lady. Put another way, I know when I see a lady I try, and hope I am, the best gentleman and client I can be, I don't worry about what some other guys do. And I wonder how many guys would be fans of the ladies putting out best of threads such as "who's the best client" and so on. A rambling RG

I would compare looks with food..., we haveva saying back home..., "food always comes i. First through the eyes...". And this is the explanation..., as being human beings our any first impression we are attracted or not by the our vision.. Ex: two plates on the table one with gorgeous presentation and decoration, and one thta just have food on plate nithing fancy..., what would you choose? most likely the one with the beatiful decoration..., but lets say.., next u open up to the rest of your sences... And you start discovering that even if the other plate has better outside looks.., the one that is not so pretty has a better aroma, texture..,etc... So is same whit people, we have a tendency at looking the outside, but the more we explore the inside, you can start liking or disliking a person more..., and that person that on first look impressed you may not so much anymore and that person that you never expected end up really winning yoir heart! In conclusion: to make a long story ahort..., looks do affect but at the end like many said before, personality, intelligence, good sence of humour, inner beauty can be much more important!

I don't want to speak for anyone here, but I don't think there's as much disagreement here as it may seem. Emily, no one would deny that everyone has the right to express their opinion, and you've a lot of wisdom to offer. And yet Cristy's original question is a fair and well meaning one, I would say. I'm quite new to posting here myself, and before I made my first one I read through much of the "new to this" section. As you suggest, it was very helpful and probably saved me from a few missteps. But there is a *lot* of information in there, and it can be easy to miss things. And things are more confused when you do indeed see many other threads asking for opinions. It may not be easy to know where the line is drawn, or at least how to best phrase questions (and answers) so that no unintended offense is given. Again, I'm new, but one of the things I appreciate about CERB is how helpful people are to clarify and gently nudge one in the right direction when needed. And of course things are made even more difficult when expressing thoughts in writing, where tone can be hard to convey. I do think we can all agree that no one in the discussion has intended offense. Virtual hugs to everyone (as an aside, I give the *best* virtual hugs :redface:)

True true, question is a question, a thread is a thread. Not sure if this is CBJ VS BBBJ tho? I personally do not really care for the " best of " threads, as it can exclude some SP's ( unintentionally) and leave some feeling hurt or left out:( This is where it usually goes all astray, with hostility and feelings of competitiveness rather than comrades and support.

Dont really think that is an appropriate question, as services depend on the lady offering them and what one finds the best another may not.

My biggest celebrity crush is Louis C.K. That means, if I could meet, have lunch with or suck the cock of my choice of any celebrity it would be him. 'Nuff said! ;) I have always appreciated the qualities in men that are less easy to spot at first glance (sense of humour, among others), but especially since I started fucking such a wide variety of men, my tastes have definitely broadened and I find myself checking out all kinds of different guys when I am out and about. At the grocery story, waiting in line, I'll be checking out the chunky balding dude with his wife ahead of me, who is joking around with the cashier, and seems very friendly and polite, thinking to myself... I wonder if he likes to eat pussy...? ;)

Well you could have a toads head and the body of a cow, I could care less. What I do like is a well dressed person, something very sexy about a well dressed person, and someone who exudes confidence, kindness and understanding- a well rounded person, someone who has their shit together is what I find the most attractive, looks fade, body's expand and shrink, our outer shell is just that a shell, what it houses is what I find most important. :)

Yes...well said. As people strive to be politically correct with this query, the post above saying beauty is subjective and beauty means everything sums it up well too. Of course, given a choice, my pick will always be to be with a pretty lady, and fortunately there are lots of them here on CERB to choose from.

I find that the better looking she is, the better we get along :)

My favorite Super Hero of all is Sara McQuestion! She is a real life sexual superhero right here in our very own realm! She can make the sun come out by just opening her mouth and keeps evil away by her very presence! cat

I do see what your saying Cristy, however, I feel that this is such a subjective topic, that it is difficult to say who gives the "best" . For some, gaging is hot, for some it is a turn off. Some like sloppy, some like a bit of teeth, where other's shiver at the idea of teeth. In this case, I think it is a trial and error, and be sure to communicate to your SP what you like the best. This is the same for any activity. But dont think asking a question is stupid at all, we all learn from asking. But perhaps a less subjective question would produce more accurate result? As RG said, best to look in reco, then PM the lady that you feel would be your ideal playmate:) Communicate with her, then give it a try:) I am sure any kind BJ is going to ultimate experience:)

I think if we are honest there has to be some attraction before we start to look beyond the physical. Unless you are in a position to spend time with someone (say a friend of a friend) how would you get to discover these deeper qualities? That being said we do ourselves a disservice if we stick only to a narrow physical ideal. As the previous posters have said there is some much beyond looks that becomes important if you are to see someone again. Fortunately for people like myself who don't make a great first physical impression it is the nature of the buisness that SPs are more tolerant.

This is a great thread. It points out that when some guys ask for just a "hand job", there is much more to it than just a HJ.

Honestly for me I think looks would be about 20% factor for me. For example if that person reminds me of someone I know in real life it may be awkward. The person can't look too young or too old it just doesn't feel right. I've worked near at colleges and universities and I've seen students that looked like they were 12. Nor do I want to be with someone who looks old enough to be my mother. So ya looks play a small part but personality and chemistry mean a lot more to me.

I've recently learned how unimportant looks are to me with playdates/partners.. After realizing "my type" wasn't quite working out as such, personality wise, I'm not so picky with looks now, even in my personal life, provided the gent is hygienic, respectful, and has a good personality. My experience, especially in this industry has been that the coolest, most fun people I've met, were not always who I would have thought from physical appearance, they just have awesome personalities. I'll take my average Joe who's a great time, than the cocky or rude man with the sculpted body anyday :)

Well I have to join those who say this is not a double life. I have been involved with SPs/MAs for many years in Canada and abroad ( some that will read this weren't born when I saw my first SP lol) and I am not ashamed of that. I might even add that I have develop some great friendships with some of the ladies I met. I actually had one SP over to visit my family last year. Sure never told them she was an sp but that's just so she could be judge for who she is not what she does to earn a living. I strongly believe in judging people by who they are not what they do. Unfortunately society in this part of the world is not there yet. Many would learn from travelling to Europe as we seem to be 30 years behind here. So although I don't talk to family about this part of my life, I cherish and am damn proud of the friendships I made over the years!!!

A confession, yes I do look at the ladies' photos. But what is it that attracts me to a lady, and makes me want to meet her? It is her personality, and it is personality more than anything that makes a lady beautiful. I get an idea of her personality through her posts on CERB, and our subsequent emails/pm's back and forth. And for the most part it has worked. It is fair to say that I have been fortunate to meet many beautiful ladies in this lifestyle. That they also look beautiful is just for lack of a better word, a bonus. A rambling from a middle aged, bald, eyeglass wearing overweight, average looking guy RG

That's a really loaded question. Looks could mean anything from the way you maintain yourself, the way you carry yourself or the lucky numbers you received from the genetic lottery pool. As Mr Green has pointed out, "to each his own taste." What I may find stunning may do nothing for someone else, and conversely what you find gorgeous may do nothing for me. My preferences? A beautiful person. It's a combination of everything mentioned above, not necessarily balanced but magnified by a beautiful personality. That beautiful personality shines through every veneer of external beauty; conversely, an ugly personality will tear down beauty to a point where nothing exists. The providers to whom I am most attracted generally possess a charm that is endearing - it's that intangible element that intelligent women possess. There's a playfulness, a wit, and a sensuality that supplements natural beauty. It forces you to see the positive in everything about them. It blinds you to what they may feel are their imperfections. Oh... and nice boobs. I like nice boobs.

I love a nice firm grab on my ass. And a kiss on the back of my neck.

Like literally two hours ago, and it was great! As of this morning, I was a 26 year old virgin. I never felt ashamed or unaccomplished being a virgin, I had reached this point as a choice. But I was not confident with intimacy, most if not all girls I've met have been pretty sexual or have a sexual past which always intimidated me (I never saw them lower, but felt a bit in awe). I avoided relationships because I was worried about the physical intimacy part, I was going to fall flat on my face. And I created this mind block. I noticed a few threads on this forum about guys who are virgins looking for an SP, but there was no mention if they went through with it, and if they did, how they felt about it. So I thought I'd share for anyone who are in the same shoes I once was. In a nutshell, I loved the experience, and I have no regrets. I got in touch with Peachy a week ago, and explained that I was a virgin, and that was something I wanted to change. She was incredibly thoughtful, and put me at ease with asking her to take me to the other side so to speak. I was nervous, actually, I was anxious for her to come. I booked 3 hours, and I asked her to stay an hour longer once she was here (I was having a great time and didn't want to rush it). So my reasons for doing what I did. 1) I'm more confident with safety when it comes to the women here then the general public. If anyone knows about safety, these ladies do. This was my number one priority always (even before I came up with this idea) 2) I wanted a positive non-judgemental environment (at least in my mind). I didn't want to think and over think everything I did, and with her, I was more then comfortable. I was able to explore, try out stuff that I wouldn't have done with maybe a girl I was dating. 3) I was confident in asking her how I could be better. And I took everything she said constructively, and it was a lot better then I imagined! 4) Confidence! I met this girl a couple of months ago that seemed to be very interested. Back then, the old me kept things between us friendly but non-sexual. I think given the situation now, I'd act much differently. My confidence in this department took a massive beating the last couple of years for reasons too long and boring to share here. I feel as if one evening took all of that self doubt away. Downsides? I don't feel as if there were any. I don't feel any regret, or remorse or anything of that sort. I was hoping when I asked Peachy was that she be someone awesome (I've read some stories here about people having soso dates). Peachy was AMAZING in that she was so understanding about my fears, and newness. I bring this up because I found her through going through pages and pages of reviews. There are some awesome women here, but I found one with very complimentary reviews, and it worked for me. Which I guess leads on to my next part. Would I recommend a virgin meet an SP? To each their own. I wrote down a list of reasons why this would be a good idea vs a list of why this was bad. My bad side of the list had some religious objections, but then the good side had religious support for getting help any way possible (my confidence was shot). There are some that say that this experience should be with someone special. And I think that applies for some people for sure, but I treated this as a learning/therapeutic visit more then anything else. The rate I was going, I was not going to be able to meet that someone special ever. Recommendations: 1) Take your time, read reviews, talk to who you are interested in 2) Take your time, don't book just 1 hour. For the first two hours, we took it slow, talked a lot, and made it more intimate. 3) Figure out your reasons. I was brand new at this, and I think if this is your first time, trying to go into this to fulfil a fantasy might be putting too much pressure on you and her. Just explore the sensation, explore your body (I discovered things about my body I was pleasantly surprised about). 4) Tell her you're a virgin! And that's when you first get in touch with her, not when you meet. I can't think of anything else. This being a recommendation board, this is mine :)

I love bikini season!! ; )

This is an interesting thread and I think people have made some really excellent contributions. For myself, I long ago came to terms with my so-called "double life". As others have said, though, I really don't think of it that way. All aspects of my life combine to make me who I am. Just some people see me in different lights. I think that most of us have multiple identities, multiple roles. People in one context see and understand us in a certain way, which is different than how others might see us. Of course, in an ideal world all of these things might blend together, but it seems to me that rarely happens. Not only is it better for you if some people don't know things about your life, often it might be better for them as well. To the extent that knowledge and understanding is recipricoal ... if you know about me, then I likely know about you ... it makes sense that we have private areas that others don't share. Of course, we can choose to share, and that's the wonderful thing about inviting someone into your life and allowing them to understand you in a fuller way. It's rare to find someone like that, but when you do it is a truly wonderful thing. If you're in that situation, cherish it.

Yes he is a new Hobbiest, but alas we have a NEW TO THIS SECTION on a whole range of topics and subjects as well as etiquette. Posting a thread asking ladies what we think of BBBJ's? lets see here, if we don't like them we wont offer them. And who gives the best - that is like beauty - in the eye of the beholder....There is NO correct answer to this as this answer will vary depending on the person. I was in no way giving a public scolding, but if you can figure out how to make a post, you can also take an hour prior to posting anything and get knowledgeable in regards to things. While you make not take offence to the questions asked some of us do...And like yourself we have he right to post our opinions and thoughts as well. Emily, I just felt your response could have been friendlier, as this one could have been, jmo:). There are actually a couple of lines in this post that come across as sarcastic. Not trying to be argumentative just helpful and courteous, as I said he is new and as a newbie we should want him to feel comfortable posting not stupid for asking a question. The new to this section doesn't discuss questions pertaining to bbbjs or their appropriateness, so appropriate or not its allowed and yes so is your opinion, my opinion, his opinion and so on.:) I didn't suggest other wise. I simply thought the question could have been responded to in a friendlier, more welcoming way, even though I do appreciate that you took the time to post:). But to my main point which seems to be missed -why is it okay to ask who gives the best bj or the ultimate bj and no one takes offence to that? In fact that thread is thanked many times, lol. In the link I provided in my initial post, that whole thread discusses bjs and who is the best, so again is the offence because of a bbbj or the question itself, I still am not getting why one is okay and the other isn't. :) Thank you

For me personally, it's pretty simple to get me off with a HJ. Spit (I've always preferred good old fashioned spit over lubricants when it comes to HJ.....plus the sight of a beautiful woman spitting on my cock is freakin' HOT!! LOL). Stroke hard. Stroke fast. Full hand grip (None of this thumb and forefinger stuff lol). Dirty talking is always helpful but not required if the lady isn't into that. Also enjoyable, provided we're taking our time and that the lady has good arm stamina lol, is bringing me to the edge and back again a few times before finally letting me go (I think the term for this is "edging" if I'm not mistaken?) Makes the orgasm that much more intense and.....explosive :p And ending with nice pearls, cim or a facial (provided the lady in question enjoys this). To me personally, there's nothing more anti-climactic than having an awesome bj or hj with mind blowing build up and then ending with someone treating my jizz like it's a toxic chemical spill.

It's wonderful to know we can make lists now that look like lists instead of strange things with HTML problems! Yay!

Awesome lets go!!

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You beat me to it Cat !!! It's amazing when you meet Sara the awesome sexual super hero !!! ..... then if you are lucky enough to meet Saurus... and she changes super hero outfits....well...."undresses" .... whoa baby !!! Then you are totally helpless under her superpowers :) Woo Wooooooo

Looks aren't very important to me, attitude and engaging personality is. Having said that, sure it is nice to be in the companionship of an extraordinary beauty, but I define beauty very broadly and if there is personal chemistry, that's much more important! JMO :) FR

Might I suggest looking through the recommendations for Halifax...it may, and I say may, be mentioned in some ladies' recommendations although many do prefer to leave intimate details of an encounter private But discussing intimate details of an encounter publicly on a board, seems IMHO somewhat inappropriate. And reiterating Emily's point, isn't who's the best really subjective A rambling RG

Well Tracie, your eyes definitely have it! As your avatar depicts. I close my eyes in order to concentrate on the feeling of the orgasm, although leading up to it I'm very visual and like to watch everything. Men have asked me many times to look up at them while giving them head, so I think a lot of men like the eye contact, is it a turn on for me, not really. I need to concentrate on one thing at a time, lol, so a lot of the time without thinking I might close mine . At the time its not something I think of, actually its hard to think in the throws of an orgasm, I just concentrate on the mind blowing experience and actually if I saw my own facial expressions I'd probably howl with laughter.

This is fun....I needed that! Real name -Azia Sinn CERB Handle -Asia Jiggles (this works, I have a tendency to jiggle)

I was never huge in to comic books, but my two favorites were Green Lantern and Green Arrow for some reason. Still a huge fan of both!!!

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Pete, always pragmatic!!!

Just something to add, just my opinion of course. When I give a tip and gift it's because I want to give a tip and gift. I don't do it because I think it's expected, or I think I'm obliged to do so. For me, giving a tip and gift, it's a way to show in some tangible way my appreciation to the lady for the companionship she has provided me. And that companionship, for me, has a value far exceeding the donation the lady requests A rambling for what it's worth RG

Wow, this has been a very helpful read. I am in same position as these 2 guys were and have been trying to get the courage to finally meet up with an sp in my area. After reading their experiences, I am even more confident to go through with it. Now if only Peachy would make it down to NB, I would be all set!

Ok, I just posted this for fun. Now back to the topic.

Cool topic idea:) I have been told I give an extremely nice hand job. I think that if you are creative, and putting alot of visual stimulation to your hand job it helps in the art of teasing and pleasing. Visual stimulation is the key to any kind of session. I will use my breasts, rubbing the head of the penis up and down between my breast, on my nips, and always lots of good lube:) This is a good way to start it off and returning to this method a few times throughout. Visual stimulation is also shared by almost touching the penis to my lips, not really doing it, a mere warm breath is felt, and this is great arousal!! I find many men like it when your hand covers over the head, and not stroking down, but rather stroking up wards. Changing your grip and pressure is a must, so that you are not boring your participant. When done proper, this can be so much fun and your participant will be so excited and aroused that all other activities are forgotten about, and the satisfaction is certainly felt:)

I would never expect a gentleman to leave a tip although we are always appreciative. I know some men bring a tip for the first encounter or sometimes on the second encounter to show appreciation. This is always such a sweet gesture. It really is the best thank you an SP can get. However, if a gentleman does not tip his service should in no way be affected. We as service providers have set up our own rates and should never 'require' a tip to keep service at a certain level. Early in this thread Cat mentioned some of the additional expenses that SPs have and a tip does definitely ease some of those bills. Are they expected though? No. While a tip is always appreciated, the best tips an SP can get are courtesy, a sincere thank you, and repeat clients. :icon_biggrin:

How does one enjoy the experience of taking a bra off, without wearing it in the first place? I'm relatively sure that the Bra is my favorite component of the female fashion industry, God Bless Victoria's Secret.