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I'm no lawyer, but I have some thoughts. I think you're better off to simply stick with exchange of money. To barter services is not in the Lawyer's (or yours) best interests. Ask to see the lawyer's credentials. Good luck!

We're going to see more and more of this kind of thing in the time to come, while the courts figure out what they'll do with changes in the law. I am frankly tired of the approach this writer takes, portraying all of us as hapless victims, forced into the sex trade and unable to make appropriate decisions and choices for ourselves. That may be true for some, but it's not true for many, and I venture to say it's even less true for independent companions who work indoors--that is, most of us. About 85% of paid companions work indoors, and most of us are independent, not working for agencies, in brothels or massage parlors. We are no more likely to be drug addicts or alcoholics than other people. Sex workers with addiction issues don't do well in this industry. In most cases, their chemical dependencies are what drive them into sex work, not the other way around. I do think it's true that the majority of women enter the sex trade because of overwhelming life circumstances that make them desperate to earn money, quickly. That's certainly true for me. Like the writer of this book, I was in the midst of an acrimonious divorce and fighting to keep my children while my ex could afford lawyers and to create endless court delays. Even now, years later, he refuses to follow court orders to pay child support; I am the only one who provides for our children. When I was doing "career planning" in high school and in university, I never expected to become a paid companion, but I'm not sorry that this is what I do. I would have a much harder time living with myself, knowing that my children were not okay and that I couldn't care for them adequately simply because I refused to spend a few hours in the company of some very good and generous men. While I think my story is not at all uncommon, I know other women who work in this industry without having similar pressures and responsibilities in their lives. They love this work and actively chose this profession, not out of desperation, but as a clear, deliberate choice. Writers such as Foilleau generally portray paid companionship as degrading work with clients who are violent, abusive, angry, drunk or drugged and who have little or no genuine respect for women. This has never been my experience with any of my clients. Some I have liked much more than others; a few have become close, genuine friends. Some men I simply didn't enjoy or I couldn't form the kind of rapport with them that matters to me. But I have never been abused, threatened or placed in any kind of risk by any of the gentlemen who have visited me. Significantly, I can't say the same thing about my former husband who is a "respectable" professional with a high profile in his community. I was at much greater risk of lasting harm during my societally-approved, middle-class marriage than I have ever been with the men who have paid for my companionship. The last thing I want to say about writers like Foilleau as well as the anti-sex feminists who campaign for increased restrictions on sex workers' lives and rights is that these folks' arguments always de-humanize us. We are portrayed as unable to make responsible decisions for ourselves, ignorant of the meaning of our work and/or enthralled to patriarchy, traffickers and pimps. Therefore, they say, our own experiences are not to be believed. They claim that the statements we make about our lives are products of the traumatic abuse from which we need to be rescued and protected--against our will--because we have lost the capacity to do what's right for ourselves, our children and our families. Sensible, cautious, clean and sober, independent paid companions are not endangered by our clients anywhere nearly as much as we are by paternalistic, moralistic people like Tania Foilleau. In a misguided attempt to save women and men in the sex trade, they campaign to increase the risks for workers and our clients. One cannot save or help those whom one does not fundamentally respect. Foilleau and others like her are not our friends, they are our opponents.

This is not the way to get good criminal legal advice that you can rely on. I would be leary of a lawyer and his ethics that accepts sexual services in lieu of proper above board payment. If you were to have a problem because you relied on such advice there would be no recourse. If you spend a couple of hundred for a brief meeting, the lawyer then has established an obligation and liabilty to you the client. If you are short of cash I'm sure there are resources through either non profits or social services here in Ottawa to get the advice you need. If you go this route I'm sure that there are others here to point you to these resources. Good luck

I agree with all of the ladies.Book and meet with the first one that confirms. As for myself, I always book ahead of time and confirm the meeting at least 1/2 hour before the time agreed to. It is not right or respectful to let someone dangle like that. If a meeting has to be cancelled or delayed the sp should be notified as soon as possible

Yeah! I know it's unbelievable.He was in his own property in his own house.

http://ireport.cnn.com/docs/DOC-515427?ref=email

Thats also why I said I'm 99.9% with you...actually I think you and I are on the same page RG

It is understandable that something might happen, but never understandable why notice would not be given. I have never not showed, but then again, I tend to be a last minute shopper, and that results in nothing might happen. I really hope that this isn't done with the expressed plan to not show and that it was really a result on something unusual happening. However, based on the frequency we hear about, I just think there are some joy riders out there that do this for kicks and it is not very respectful for any of the ladies. I wish this wouldn't happen, but it is obvious part of the business, but is expensive for the ladies. If intentional, I just think that what goes around, comes around and they will pay for it in some part of their life, maybe not immediately, but eventually. Sorry for this happening, hope this doesn't occur again.

Wow. Definitely a thread that I can sink my teeth into. :) Firstly, when it comes to a steakhouse every patron loves his/her cut done to his/her expectations of "done-ness" (Just made that word up!). Consequently, even the best houses get bad reviews from discriminating palates. All that being said, there are good ones in Ottawa. Prime 360, is one of the spots that gets many rave reviews and almost as many enthusiastic "thumbs downs"...go figure. For my dollar, it's a great spot. the service is professional, the Scotch selection is FANTASTIC!!!, the cuts are interesting and delicious. For example, I love a bone-in strip loin and it's so hard to find in town. However, Prime 360 has it. Also, the damned restaurant is just below the Minto Suites, hands down the best rooms for weekend romps! Now, why more folks haven't mentioned le Baccarat or L' Arome in the Casino is beyond me...two fantastic spots. Juniper on Richmond Road...excellent. They're holding their annual cooking competitions this year, too. Worth checking into. Best burger...Try Vera's in Bells Corners, inside of The Butchery. They're new to Ottawa but have more than twenty spots out west. Delicious and juicy. I find that The Works overcooks their beef, leaving it way too dry. Whalebone...know how to make fish interesting. Very cool atmosphere, too. For a national chain, Moxies is very good. Bekta, 18, Foundations, Social...all worth a visit but, in my opinion, over valued.

I'm first come - first served (after you've been approved as a new client, of course). I might have 3 repeat clients email me "Are you available today, Megan?" and I will reply "Yes, I have one opening at 2:30pm" to all 3. The first person to write back confirming they want the time, gets it. I don't "hold" spots for anyone, and I don't think that is a fair thing to ask of me. An inquiry is not the same as a booked appointment!

Could be that they where fishing for information?! Any case, I give them that once chance to either call or email back, if they don't, I don't see them. End of story

Sweet Madison is a sub and subs should not be categorized as liking it rough. Your role is to ensure the sub is treated with respect and you must earn her trust. After all its not all about you its about understanding that to please a sub is to allow her to please you not to be subject her to something she does not want. Well That's my Rant. Cheers and good luck

What an interesting reaction. I thought this wasn't a review board. But you just, in effect, reviewed my post. The fact that you find a particular practice outside your teapot does not automatically qualify it as offensive. Additional Comments: Hey, Vero, thanks for your reply. I feel a bit dumb now for having written the part about women with lots of tats. Guess it's my generation showing. Actually I think some older men equate women with LOTS of tattooes with other lifestyle choices that might include rough sex. Stupid generalization, I guess :lol: