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Maybe she’s off, or on vacation etc..

Thanks for sharing... I don’t presume to know the specifics of your situation, although I can certainly understand why you feel the way you do. When you’re with someone that you feel you really connect with, the emotions and feelings you experience are real. However, and I want to say this gently, try not to forget the context of your interaction. In other words, you likely met this woman in a business capacity. Now, that’s not to say genuine feelings cannot develop- they certainly can. In my experience, I’ve come to know some incredible women over the years, some of whom I consider friends - however, I don’t lose sight of the broader picture. I enjoy the time we have when we’re together, but I never expect anything more than that. In all my years in this industry, I’ve only heard of a few instances where a real relationship has developed. I’m not saying this to be harsh; On the contrary, I wouldn’t want to see you get hurt. If you feel that broaching the subject with her may assuage some of your trepidations, you can certainly discuss how you feel. However, be prepared that she may not feel the same way. Another suggestion may be to try and find a genuine, reciprocal connection by exploring real life dating etc.. That may be one way to fill the void. You may also want to consider talking to a therapist to try to get at the root cause of what’s missing in your life and how you’re feeling. Trust me, there’s no shame in that. I once went through a bad break up with a woman I’d been dating, and it helped me see things clearer. Again, these are simply some ideas and options.... not saying what you should or shouldn’t do. Please accept my fondest wishes that everything works out for you!

My only regret is not getting involved sooner!

Today marks my 10th anniversary as a member of Cerb/Lyla, although I've been involved with the adult entertainment industry closer to twenty years... where does the time go? I came across Cerb by happenstance, having been a member of another board for a number of years previously.It was quite a serendipitous find, to say the least, as it has enriched my life in a plethora of ways. Reflecting back, I have a treasure trove of incredible experiences, fond memories and several tall tales that will be forever etched in my memory. In practically two decades, I can count the negative experiences on one hand, yet the positives have been eye opening, and have helped me grow as a person. Further, in all that time, I've only told two people about my, shall we say... extracurricular activities?? lol,,, I was met by a combination of bemusement and curiosity, which lead me feel as though I were a member of a secret club or society, one in which in order to fully understand, you have to actually experience it for yourself...Now, in light of this momentous occasion, I thought I'd regale you all with a little bedtime story... Once upon a time, back in the days of "the blue pages" and Star Blvd (there's a blast from the past for you!) I began my first foray into the world of paid companionship. This was back before photos on websites were the norm, which left a lot to the imagination! While perusing several sites, I became enamored with one whose descriptions were so elegant and tasteful that I had to find out more... so, I took the plunge and called. I spoke to Greg at Select, who at that time was a driver who would eventually become a co-owner after Troy and Lisa left. He spent twenty minutes with me, answering questions, fielding comments etc.. I was so impressed with his professionalism that the rest is history! The one thing that has always stuck with me throughout all of this is the old adage of not judging a book by its cover. In general, I feel that society is quick to condemn anything that they have no knowledge of, that which evokes sentiments of fear and inadequacy and so forth. As such, whatever it is will be portrayed in the worst possible light.... the dark alleyways, shady characters etc. when in fact the opposite has been shown to be true. In reality, this industry, in my opinion is one of the most decent and honest I have ever come across, made up of caring and compassionate individuals just like you and me. 99.9% of people I have met through this hobby have a had a positive impact on my life, with some even going above and beyond. There was the lady who insisted on taking me out for lunch on her time, and she paid!.... another lady who ended up staying an additional three hours on her own time because she wanted to (I truly was not expecting that!) and an agency owner who had just taken over and heard about my bad experience with the previous management. Although it was no fault of his own, he insisted on sending over a lady at no charge to make it up to me....these are just a few examples which showcase the kind of people this industry is comprised of, and one which i am proud to be a part of!

+1 Thank you for speaking up Ms.Manda.... I echo your sentiments, as you’re absolutely right!

I’d like to see the old ‘friends’ list and visitor profile messages restored in their original format. However, if that isn’t possible I completely understand. I also miss some of the old symbols that were present on the old site such as the crown, smilies etc.. I just thought of this as a way to make the new version seem a bit more familiar, that’s all...

Since the changeover to the new platform, I’m slowly but surely becoming more accustomed to it. Given the fact that a lot of us have only had experience with the old site for 10 years plus, a learning curve is to be expected. However, Cerbmod and others behind the scenes are making a concerted effort to make it as viable as possible for all of us. I really appreciate the posts asking members for their input. I am confident that in time, the ‘new’ Lyla will ultimately surpass what we had previously.

Thanks for the heads up!

Very sorry to hear about your experience. Having him say “you don’t look like your pictures” is very vague... e.g. in what way? He also could have used a gentler approach with a bit more tact. I can definitely understand why you felt the way you did in this unfortunate situation. I will say that individuals can look different in various photos depending on the pose, lighting etc.. I’ve gone on dating sites where women had posted a series of photos, and imo looked like different people from one photo to the next. So, it can happen.... However, if I had been the one cancelling after you arrived, I would have insisted that you take the full donation, plus a tip to compensate you for your time, gas and inconvenience. I would also have offered my sincerest apologies. After all, it’s the least that any respectable person would do.

I’ve always wondered how ladies manage to fly under the radar continuously as well. However, just recently I’ve found out that some Indy’s / agencies actually have an arrangement with the hotel itself. That is, the escort agrees to maintain discretion while conducting her business, and the hotel benefits from regular bookings. It’s a win win. I’ll admit I’ve heard about the LE initiative of visiting hotels, speaking with front desk staff and promoting their “See something? Say something!” campaign. However, in real terms it’s fairly evident that no one really cares about what consenting adults do in private. When LE mobilizes its resources, it’s usually to deal with genuine cases of human trafficking, or to deal with a nuisance, such as the street level arrests which occurred in Sydney.

Also, I feel the OP totally overthought everything. The lady’s not going to be walking in with a neon sign that says “I am an escort”, know what I mean? The key is to be (act) confident in your surroundings. I remember one time, I went to see a lady at a hotel and I happened to be a bit early. So what did I do? I sat in the lobby and read the newspaper! Lol. One of the front desk staff actually approached me and asked if I was ‘with the tour’. My response - ‘No’. Then I went back to reading the paper. Hahahaha... They don’t need to know why I’m there, and it’s none of their business, anyway. You get the respect you demand.

Perhaps, but with one important caveat - for the longest time, the number one rule on this board was (and hopefully still is): If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all. Now, what if anything happens to Juergen is up to the mods’s discretion. However, I would hope that decorum prevails and we do not go down that slippery slope that some other boards I’ve been a member of know all too well.... Differences of opinion are fine, but let’s keep the discussion civilized and respectful for all concerned. Just mho...

@Jurgen287 Don’t be jealous... it doesn’t suit you. To everyone else, I’m surprised Jurgen’s still on the board after the comments he’s made. Perhaps he should be reported to the Mod so that appropriate action may be taken. We don’t need this sort of thing here.

Exactly.

At least it’s a start, regardless. Assuming that the agency owners are successful in refuting the advertising and material benefit charges, it may pave the way to another challenge in the future. Essentially, then you’d have a situation where a specific service is legal to sell, advertise and profit from both from an individual and third party standpoint. For anyone (especially a court of law) to uphold the tenet which makes said service illegal to purchase is non sensical and anathema to independent thought. I’d say there’s a very strong possibility that the odds will swing in our favour at that juncture. Certainly, the court should take into account the spirit of previous rulings pertaining to the issue at hand in reaching a decision (See Himmel et. al.), and recognize that a partisan law based on an arbitrary construct (“morality”) has no justification being a part of the Criminal Code Of Canada.

Fully agree, but I seem to recall that when C-36 was drafted, the Conservatives were deliberately conflating human trafficking with consensual sex work. To curry favour with the voting public, the government ostensibly made the claim that C-36 was needed to combat human trafficking, pimps and the like. However, I distinctly remember that those in favour of full decriminalization posited that such a draconian law was unnecessary, as anti trafficking laws already exist for this express purpose. In other words, sex workers, agencies and patrons involved in the non-coercive sector of the adult entertainment industry should be allowed to operate freely, while existing laws governing human trafficking would protect the vulnerable. Did I miss something there?

Certainly a strong possibility also.

The owners of Fantasy World Escorts will be staging what amounts to the first real challenge of C-36. Instead of being heard in London Ontario where the alleged offenses occurred, the case will be moved to another venue sometime in early 2019. The agency owners are challenging the advertising and material benefit provisions of the law. In other words, if the sale of sex is legal, then does it make sense to prohibit third party advertisements and third party profiting where those selling said service are essentially employees of said business? I must admit I’m not that familiar with the workings of the courts or the interpretation of law in Canada. My question is, if these two aspects of the law are found to be unconstitutional, would it mean that only these tenets will be stuck down, still leaving the purchase of sexual services illegal, or by extension, might the judge go further and strike down C-36 in its entirety? An interesting topic for discussion and debate...

Very true, although I find that’s the case with a lot of newer members - ask for info but yet don’t make an effort to contribute in a meaningful way to the board. I realize that’s a gross generalization and not indicative of everyone. However, I find myself pining for the days when Lyla (then known as Cerb) was a lot more active in terms of its members and overall posting/participation and dissemination of information. Granted, I’m well aware that the new laws had a lot to do with this. Many of the long time members have gone inactive, which is a shame. Although that said, we can all do our part to add to the vibrancy of our little community here... 😊

The OP could have phrased his request a bit more tactfully.

Another way of handling it (if you felt uncomfortable) is to meet her in the hotel bar for a drink. That way, the two of you have a place to go, and the front desk staff would have lost interest in you anyway after glancing up for a moment. From then on, the two of you could adjourn to your room... At that point, who’s to say you’re not a bonafide couple? No one would be the wiser.

Oh yeah... I almost forgot - one little tidbit about Park Avenue which I always found amusing: Their address was 69 Queen St. Lol! 😛

+1 - Same here... thanks for the trip down memory lane..,

Wasn’t there also an “Ada’s” location on Windmill Road in Dartmouth back in the 90’s? Back then the city was a lot more open in general.... pages upon pages of ads in the Yellow Pages! Lol

Oddly enough, Park Avenue was generally left alone by LE due to keeping a relatively low profile. They were only busted a couple of times in its almost 20 year history before they closed for good in 2008.