Phaedrus

This board does tend to be somewhat Ottawa/East Coast-centric. There are other *ERB boards that are centered on Montreal, Toronto and the West Coast (the last of these may be what you're looking for), and other boards whose geographical biases I'm just not sure about. Of course, different boards have different moderation policies and therefore different atmospheres, too. This may also influence where you choose to spend your time.

Another batch... Not planning on it, but as others have said, this is very much a wait-and-see thing. For established providers, I think the fact that you're an established provider will suffice. I imagine entrants to the industry would find things... hard. I've never been one to go chasing after whoever's the shiny new SP this week, so this wouldn't actually change things much for me, but it might for those who do. And I also imagine it'd be a significant deterrent to new clients. Yes, definitely, although for me I'm mostly concerned with how intelligent someone seems to be. Assertiveness or being passionate about some debate doesn't bother me, but coming across as stupid is fatal. No. Best? The variety, and the fact that I can not feel guilty about my aversion to any kind of commitment. Worst? The stigma which means I can't (OK, won't) talk about it, and my continued failure to win the lottery. The latter. I like to have a chance to chat to whoever I'm with. I try really hard not to post anything like this for precisely this reason. I don't want to be one of those guys who doesn't follow through, and I also don't want to be in a position where I feel I ought to go and see someone - that takes all the fun out of it! Yes. Everyone has bad days. Now if she started to make a habit of having bad days then I'd re-evaluate things, but a one-off is entirely forgivable. Probably the latter, but that's because I'm really horribly bad at asking for things. I don't see that you have any option than to charge for social time, or you'll fall prey to guys who will just never book for a "real" appointment and give you all kinds of crap when you turn them down. Quite a few ladies make it clear in their rates that longer dates are expected to be mixed social and private time. Also: if there's someone you've met and like, you could always ask him if he wants to go out off the clock. I've done this in the past with one or two CERB ladies... although it's ALWAYS been at her instigation. I work on the basis that it's fine for her to ask me if I want to go for a drink off the clock, but if I ask her then I'm either paying her social rate or just another douchebag looking for free stuff. And, of course, they've always been purely social dates; the rest of it is for paid appointments. It helps everyone to keep the boundaries clear. No idea. Sorry! Can't help you on most of that. On last minute vs booking ahead: for me, it depends how busy I am and how predictable life is being. Sometimes I can schedule well in advance and be confident of keeping the appointment, but quite a bit of the time the risk of having to cancel - possibly at short notice - is unacceptably high. Even if I cancel a day or two in advance, I don't want to be that guy who books and then cancels all the time. When I can't commit, I'll do last-minute stuff as and when I have the opportunity.

It puts them... somewhere on the continuum of human sexuality, and not quite into a convenient bucket. I honestly don't see much value in trying to attach a label that doesn't really fit. It's better to simply let people be whatever they are.

So, to pile up a bunch of stuff... A simple desire for sexytime with sexy people, and an aversion to... complications. A bit of everything, but I tend not to look at ads much until I've already decided to see someone. But pics, web presence and recos have all sent me to see people. Pics are the least reliable, but... I've just seen a truly irresistible smile... All the time! That's half the point of this - I can think that, and book anyway! Mind you, I've seen some eye-watering rates, and those people are truly beyond me. Yes. You just accept it and have fun some other way. I've been surprised by how normal everybody is, how strong the community hereabouts is, and how much the ladies look out for each other (mostly). No. I wish I'd started long before I did. My younger self needs a good smack with a clue-bat. Once I'd started, I was OK, mostly because I'd done quite a bit of reading here first. There was a huge amount of good advice then, too. This is what the scam/warning threads and CK's diary are for. In the case of theft, I'd certainly consider getting the law involved. But I've never actually experienced either (this is a useful site :) ), and I honestly won't know until it happens... which, with luck, will be never. Yes. One of the great things about this, for me, is the ability to see people I'd never normally even meet, much less get into bed with. It matters. Some peoples' comments matter more than others.

Spiderman fail

Forever Bicycles Next: Hans Holbein

Does anyone know if this actually works? It strikes me that it would make sense to discount duplicate submissions from the same IP address, especially if they're close together (you could perhaps just hit submit/back in your browser a lot... I don't know if this works). They may also discount responses that are identical. I bet many organizations are providing "sample" responses for their foot-soldiers...

...in four-part harmony.

Happy birthday! Have a good one!

Congratulations, Summer!

Hope you had a fantastic birthday, Cato!

Congratulations! Keep 'em coming!

Happy birthday, Emily! Hope you have an awesome day!

Okay, this thread really pisses me off. Yes, Ottawa has a horrible reputation for cancellations. And here, again, we have a SP who's wondering what she's doing wrong, and may well be considering joining the ranks of those who simply don't bother coming any more. There are plenty of other cities. There are many other clients who don't fuck the ladies around. So, I have a question for the assholes who habitually book and then cancel at short notice: are you too fucking stupid to understand how much you screw things up for the rest of us by getting providers to avoid Ottawa? Or are you just so fucking selfish that you don't care?

And what's so special about that? It's the oldest known star in the universe, that's what.

I'd like to see expenditure on SPs become tax-deductible. Hey, you asked for what I'd like, not what I thought was likely... :)

Well, this thread wouldn't be complete with a mention of Jackie Chamoun. She's a Lebanese skier who has caused a scandal because she...er... posed topless three years ago. Vid: http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=2ex6Y-QELHo Not to be outdone, the Russians... original page, and Google's translated version.

First thing to say... right now, I have no idea what I'll do, and no plans to acquire one. Entertaining though all the speculation may be, none of us really know what legislation - if any - will eventually become law. The fine details are likely to matter more than the broad direction of it, and the attitude of local LE will certainly matter more than either. Unless things change really drastically - which I doubt - I don't think seeing a well-established independent provider will be any riskier than it is today.

Because, as everyone knows, there are no female clients. Oh no. Definitely not. Why does the law have to be made by people who are so self-evidently ignorant?

Guys? Feelings?