Spanking

[omehgosh 736]

NOTE: the pole is anonymous - no one will see how you voted.

 

Recently I saw an image (can't remember if it was a video clip, or a picture) of a woman's bottom with a huge red hand print on one of her buttocks and was reminded of something I'm curious about.

 

I've often wondered about spanking.

 

For starters, I want to make it perfectly clear, than I'm not against it or anything, I'm not making any judgements (well, not against others - obviously I have to make judgements to form an opinion). I'm all for the "everybody's different" thing - to each his/her own (as long as all participants are willing and in agreement).

 

I'm the guy who has a fantasy about growing a nice beautiful set of ladies' breasts for a day so I could spend 24 hours fondling them and masturbating! - LOL - Seriously, who am to judge?!? (Mmm, breasts...)

 

I'm just curious, that's all... because I don't understand it and like to learn things. Even if I don't end up sharing someone's point of view in the end, perhaps I can at least see where she/he is coming from...

 

I don't understand spanking. I believe that in order for a woman to end up with a honkin' red hand print on her butt, someone must have smacked her really hard, and it must have hurt like a son-of-a-bitch :shock:.

 

1. I personally don't enjoy pain - at all. I try my best to avoid pain actually.

 

2. It really bothers me to cause others pain (an empathy thing I think). I really don't like hurting others, especially if it's someone I'm making love with.

 

1 & 2 = spanking isn't for me, and I don't understand why others enjoy it.

 

That being said, greek isn't for me either, but I completely get it - the potential pleasure for both parties doesn't escape me at all (I poo just like everybody else!) - It's not my thing, but I "get it".

 

That's about it, I thought it'd be interesting to hear what others think and maybe I could learn a little more about some stuff...

:smile:

[NotchJohnson 214076]

What a great idea for a poll omehgosh, I voted that I enjoy spanking but not to hard, mind you that if the lady enjoys hard spanking ( I know some of you do ) I will oblige and satisfy her. On the other hand I do enjoy a light spanking myself so if you ladies like to spank the gentleman I'm all for it. But remember the same thing goes for neck sucking, never leave marks.:butt:

[Guest W***ledi*Time]

... I'm a guy and I like to be spanked hard. (A lady once broke a wooden ruler over my butt.) Pain releases endorphins. Endorphins are good!

 

As a giver, I neither like nor dislike spanking, I'm indifferent. It's whatever the lady prefers; if she asks, I will attempt to oblige.

[Guest S**a*Q]

I chose that I like it a little, but it totally depends on the situation. I love being spanked hard when I"m playing the sub. :) I went to supbspace in Toronto and was spanked and paddled black and blue.. Which I loved, but wouldn't necessarily do everyday...

 

It totally depends on the situation... Sometimes I wanna be the one lightly spanking and sometimes...

Your ass is mine... Hehe

 

Depends how I feel and who I'm with :)

[antlerman 17064]

I have a hard problem spanking any one.

I was brought up to respect and treat women like they are on a Godesses

 

I have been with some women who want it..or enjoy it...but I can not bring myself to do it.....to lay a hand on a woman other than soft and gentle is against my basic programming.

The old "who's your daddy" porn slap....can't do it

"spank me pleeease" from a vixen.........can't do it

 

in fact I will loose total sexual enjoyment if requested.......

[omehgosh 736]

I'm already seeing more guys who like to spank than don't, and wondering, at least a little, if I'm missing out!

 

T'storm, WIT and Sara - Great point about ladies giving and guys receiving too - The fact that some ladies like to spank and some guys like to be spanked hadn't escaped me, but I was worried the poll might be too cumbersome if I put in the role reversals...

 

It's too bad I can't go back and add that into the poll now... I should've included those too... :sad:

 

Hopefully others will follow your lead and mention their preferences regardless of the options in the poll...

[2tontony 657]

spank a little not too hard but only when women wants/likes. not be able to spank hard or anything like that. not into the rough stuff

[Meg O'Ryan 266444]

A little but not too hard but of course depends on the situation!

[stevecurious 42059]

I basically have to have the lady ask me to spank her in order for me to do it. I have and never will just haul off and start smackin' her bottom as spanking is something I do for her enjoyment and not mine. I just do not find administering a spanking to be that sexually arousing but I understand that others do and I am more than willing to accomodate that request. Additionally, to just start spanking without talking about it prior is very inappropriate...at least in my opinion.

[Newton 714]

Sometime a lady asks and I do it. Enjoy it but not too hard.

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[Megan'sTouch 23875]

I sometimes enjoy giving and receiving spanks, but it's important to ASK FIRST! I've had a few clients both dancing and doing massage who will randomly spank me out of the blue. Spanking is hitting and it's not okay to hit a person without asking if they're comfortable with it!

We position pain and pleasure as polar opposites, but really the sensations are pretty close. Spanking doesn't particularly turn me on, but during a passionate affair, a little pain seems to make things even more intense and passionate.

 

By the way, why in your poll are the men the spankers and the women the spankies? I enjoy spanking as much as I enjoy being spanked.

[Ilovegirls 588]

I have a hard problem spanking any one.

I was brought up to respect and treat women like they are on a Godesses

 

I have been with some women who want it..or enjoy it...but I can not bring myself to do it.....to lay a hand on a woman other than soft and gentle is against my basic programming.

The old "who's your daddy" porn slap....can't do it

"spank me pleeease" from a vixen.........can't do it

 

in fact I will loose total sexual enjoyment if requested.......

 

I feel exactly the same way.

No hitting, just can't do it.

Maybe it has something to do with being spanked as a kid.

[NotchJohnson 214076]

I sometimes enjoy giving and receiving spanks' date=' but it's important to [b']ASK FIRST![/b] I've had a few clients both dancing and doing massage who will randomly spank me out of the blue. Spanking is hitting and it's not okay to hit a person without asking if they're comfortable with it!

We position pain and pleasure as polar opposites, but really the sensations are pretty close. Spanking doesn't particularly turn me on, but during a passionate affair, a little pain seems to make things even more intense and passionate.

 

By the way, why in your poll are the men the spankers and the women the spankies? I enjoy spanking as much as I enjoy being spanked.

I enjoy being spanked cause I'm a bad boy and I deserve it.

 

Spank you very much.

[omehgosh 736]

I'm really sorry about that Megan... I really should have included those options in the poll.

 

Originally I was thinking there were would be too many choices, so I left them out... almost as soon as I finished posting the thread I wished I had included the other choices, but it was too late. :sad:

 

Sorry - my bad :oops:

 

I'm really hoping that the lack of choices in the poll itself won't stop everyone from going ahead and sharing in the thread anyhow (like you! thanks!) :smile:

 

By the way' date=' why in your poll are the men the spankers and the women the spankies? I enjoy spanking as much as I enjoy being spanked.[/quote']

[Capital Hunter 18263]

I prefer kissing and hugging to spanking. No spanking by me on anyone.

[roamingguy 300292]

I just couldn't bring myself to hit a woman, spanking or otherwise. If I ever did spank a woman I'd probably be bawling like a baby after the first strike...just raised to respect woman

And to receive a spanking (or hit) don't see the pleasure in it

RG

[Lexy Grace 103696]

I like to be gently spanked while in doggie style but just a nice little tap. I like to say "tap that ass". To me it's like saying 'work it girl"! I make this an option and never a demand.

[Andee 220524]

You should start another poll. The questions are "uneven" so to speak. You are assuming that men just like to administer and women receive? No so, my friend. But with this poll, you can't tell.

 

I know lots of men who love to be spanked.

 

I don't like being spanked, but I'll permit the odd little tap here and there, if the gent asks first.

 

I'd say, start over and see the new results.

 

I am a lady who likes to be spanked

I am a lady who does not like to spanked

I am a lady who likes to spank

I am a man who likes to be spanked

I am a man who does not like to be spanked

I am a man who likes to spank

 

Also, When I say I like to spank, that could be a male or female, not just necessarily male clients, but ladies I do duos with.

[Katherine of Halifax 113932]

I like a little playful spanking both giving and receiving. I have received a spank here and there and as long as the energy around it is fun that is what counts to me.

 

If requested I can deliver a wonderful spanking to any bad boys out there!!

[40ishsxaddict 203]

I enjoy gentle butt play, but I can't say I enjoy spanking or being spanked per se... as well for me its kind of an aggressive act, that i cant seem to wrap my head around to enjoy, but i'll do it if asked and tend to hear " harder" when ive attepted it cause im just to darn gentle... I know its all in fun, yet i still have a mental block about hitting or anything thats too physically aggressive...

[2tontony 657]

there are nerves in our butts (men and women) that get heightened during sex and a light spank can really enlighten those sensations. that's one of the reasons why a spanking can feel good especially during sex play. After that it becomes personal preference?:butt:

[chavez 641]

your indulgence please. I have a couple of short stories.

I am by nature a gentle person, like Antlerman, I find stikeing a woman against my nature. The very first experiece I had with a sp was with a lady aws from an agency in Winnipeg. ( need I say more). This young lady had so many restrictions that after 1/2 hour of talking I finally said ' what do you like to do?' She replied that she sort of liked to be spanked. I was so not into this lady and so not into the spanking thing that although I had really few other options , I wouldn't do it. It is a small miracle that I didn't give up pooning that night. Things improved after I learned not to use an agency in Wpg.

Fast forward about a year and a half and numberous sucessful meetings later. I did swat a lady on the butt. It was a single swatt and I would say not hard but more than a tap. The situation here was quite different. I was meeting with an independent lady that had a reputation as a bit of a dom, but not exclusively.

This was the first time since my first SP that I was not getting where I wanted to go. Finally I gave her a swatt on the ass . As she protested ' no one has ever...' I moved her into the position that would move things along. We ended having a mutually very enjoyable time and to this day we remain good friends.

At the time I could see no alternative and I think it was my way of showing I had no intention of being dominated.

Since then I don't think I have given a lady more than a tap on the butt.

I have met a few ladies that say they also enjoy a bit of hair pulling. I can't say that is my thing either but who knows, given a certain situation I might do it, once.

[NotchJohnson 214076]

If and when spanking is taking place in a sexual playground it should be taken carefully. The spanking given here is not like the spanking we (30 years old and older folks) got when we were kids doing mischief. There is a method of giving the spanking so to release the endorphins for a pleasurable sex experience.

 

Exception to the rules are bondage and domination, I never really got into this before, I only got my hands tied once by emma and she took advantage of me in a very pleasurable way.:bowdown:

[Loralee Reach 245]

Antler, you got it!!!!

LoraLee

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