Surf_Nazis_Must_Die 8958 Report post Posted August 5, 2011 Sorry for your loss Samantha, and thank you for sharing with us. People have a funny way of becoming special given enough time. Sounds like the 2 of you shared something really nice. *hug* Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Meg O'Ryan 266444 Report post Posted August 5, 2011 So very sorry for your loss! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Tiffany Amber 7031 Report post Posted August 5, 2011 Very sorry for your loss Samantha. I too, have a gent whom I've been seeing since I first started 6 years ago. He is getting up there in age and that is something I think about often. I do consider him a friend, but still maintaining the Sp/Client boundaries. When they day comes, it will be a sad one, I will miss him. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Studio 110 by Sophia 150333 Report post Posted August 5, 2011 I am awful sorry for your lost. Strange I had a thought a few days ago, about this very same thing. I have clients that have become so dear to me as well, and for whatever reason the thought came to my head, how would something like this effect me? Would I feel strange that I could not go to the funneral, being so close and all? Hope you find peace with his passing. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest W***ledi*Time Report post Posted August 5, 2011 Sincerest condolences, Samantha. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wellie 652 Report post Posted August 5, 2011 I am sorry for your loss, Samantha. Thanks for sharing a very moving story with us. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Chanel Reign 28097 Report post Posted August 5, 2011 I so understand what you are saying. You have said it much more eloquently that I ever could hope to achieve. Thank you for sharing and I know you will miss him. Soft soul hugs Chanel Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ottawaadventurer 5114 Report post Posted August 5, 2011 Samantha, As I read you post, all I can say is that I only hope that when I pass, someone out there shares the same feelings as you have. I'm sorry for our loss. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bcguy42 38594 Report post Posted August 5, 2011 Samantha, My condolences to you for the loss of your friend. I hope you can take some comfort knowing you added so much to his life. Would that we all could be so lucky to have someone care for us that way when we get there. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
roamingguy 300291 Report post Posted August 5, 2011 Samantha Condolences on your loss. Take care RG Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Winnipegcub 21293 Report post Posted August 5, 2011 Samantha, I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you so much for sharing your private story. It is clear you would have meant a great deal to him. I know that these kind of relationships are highly valued by both parties. XO Cub 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JuliasUndies 7288 Report post Posted August 5, 2011 May your strength prevail to help you through this difficult time. Our deepest sympathies are with your in your time of need. We hope you know we will always be there for you. May there be comfort in knowing that someone so special will never be forgotten. Additional Comments: Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Icebreaker 3938 Report post Posted August 6, 2011 My deepest sympathies to you on the passing of this special person. Posted via Mobile Device Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Kubrickfan 12836 Report post Posted August 6, 2011 Samantha -- I am very sorry to hear of your loss, but you should take a great deal of solace from the fact that you provded a tremendously important element to his life at a time when he undoubtably needed that. It sounds like he cared for you as well. As a client, its hard not to have feelings for the ladies that I have seen and had the good fortune to get to know a bit. News like that would affect me tremendously, and I hope something like that, in fact, is a bit hard to handle as it demonstrates that you are good person. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SamanthaEvans 166766 Report post Posted August 6, 2011 Thank you, everyone. I really never expected so many replies, yet here they are, not to mention the private messages. I'm grateful for your care and attention. It seems that we've been going through a hard time on the board, here, for the last couple of weeks. I'm sorry about that. Conflict is unpleasant. But I take heart in knowing that, much as we may get annoyed or upset with one another at times, the men and women here are good people navigating a way through a shadowy world that only we understand. Our conversations sometimes become intense because our demi-monde matters so much to us and we all want to feel respected, valued and accepted even when we don't agree. I say this because, as I tried to point out, above, the death of a client is something that only we understand. I'm not grief-stricken. L's death doesn't threaten or frighten me and I had no vested interest in his life despite the fact that he was a very regular client. I liked him. I enjoyed his company. I know he enjoyed mine. With most clients, when we part company, I never expect to see them again. I need to feel that our interaction is complete. If it happens again, it's a gift. But there are a few whom I've seen so often that this kind of firm separation seems absurd to me, after awhile. I will miss L. Life is always shorter than we think, friends. Take nothing for granted. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
AndyofHalifax 15339 Report post Posted August 6, 2011 That's a beautiful sentiment Samantha. Sorry for your loss. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest J******aA***l Report post Posted August 6, 2011 I appreciate your candid openness here Samantha....your words are so honest, open and tender....I truly am sorry for the loss you have felt over this beautiful friend.... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NotchJohnson 214069 Report post Posted August 6, 2011 What a nice story Samantha, I had tears in my eyes reading it. My condolences for your loss. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
castle 38816 Report post Posted August 6, 2011 My heart goes out to you Samantha...yes, this is a "business" but considering the nature of the business we do form connections with SP's and they with their clients....connections within the boundaries of what is appropriate in the lifestyle to be sure...but connections never the less. Were I to find out one of my favorite SP's passed away suddenly I would be quite devastated, it would feel like I lost a close friend, which for all intents and purposes, I did. Would I feel strange that I could not go to the funneral, being so close and all? Personally, and this is just my opinion and I completely understand why some would disagree, but I would hope that if I pass away and one of my regular SP's finds out about it in time that they would feel that they can come to the funeral, at least under the guise of friend or former coworker. SP's are people too and should be allowed to pay their respects. I only see SP's when I'm single, and I'm the type who is not really into the whole "cruising the bars for chicks" scene, so while I'm single SP's are my only outlet for physical intimacy, or intimacy of any kind really. So the SP's I see regularly are a very large and important part of my life. As such I feel they would have just as much right to be there as anyone else. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
silverado17 12689 Report post Posted August 6, 2011 sorry for your loss heart touching story it's not nice when you have lost a good friend Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
etasman2000 15994 Report post Posted August 6, 2011 (edited) So the SP's I see regularly are a very large and important part of my life. As such I feel they would have just as much right to be there as anyone else. I agree. I would want my Friends to feel free to attend, grief is for the living. [Purposely left out the word SP for a reason, it doesn't even come into play] Edited August 6, 2011 by etasman2000 Missing context Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nicolette Vaughn 294340 Report post Posted August 6, 2011 Sorry for your loss Samantha. Even though we are providing a service and an intimate one at that, there is often a chemistry and a bond between an SP and a good regular client. Take comfort in the fact that you provided this man with a lot of happiness and pleasure at a time in his life when he needed it. I have known of a few clients of mine who have passsed away some were regulars others I had seen here and there but not too often. I had a client pass away last November and while I had only seen him 4 or 5 times, it was those appts where they were multiple hours or overnights and I got to know him better. So when i found out they passed away, I was shocked and sad because I don't think anyone saw it coming. He always said he wanted to have a good sex life and he fulfilled his dream and enjoyed the company of many SPs. I have always enjoyed my time with him and the other ladies who joined us and vice versa. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Lowdark 5613 Report post Posted August 6, 2011 Sincerest condolences. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
