frenchbrute 1090 Report post Posted September 30, 2012 I find it interesting this subjetc was broached as I have been wondering what is normal when it comes to arousal for different women. Admitted I was a bit late to the party`but as of late I have had a few comments from ladies which have kind of caught me off guard. One `said: `You must have been popular in high school`and a while ago another said...theres no way your single if your that good at that`. I found these remarks to be positive of course, but it also made me wonder if these ladies truly felt this way or if they made these types of remarks all the time. I pride myself in being a man`s man and part of that involves the complete and total satisfaction of ANY lady whom I choose to spend time with. If I am mentally stimulated by the lady then she will reap the mental and physical benefits to the maximum. Admittedly, I do not discuss with other guys what they do, rather, I listen to women and ask what they prefer, I find it much easier that way. Much to my surprise, when I have asked this question of a lady, I have been informed that a majority of guys do not prefer pleasuring the lady as I do. I have been very happy to see a smile when I have suggested what I prefer, boy would that be fun if it was always the case.I guess to each his or her own. 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
u*der*** 100 Report post Posted September 30, 2012 I tend to be a people pleaser so the mood of who I am with is usually important to me. In regards to being turned on by a client, I`m wondering if it`s the client themselves or is it the experience, act, or situation that might be the turn on for the SP? And yes, I know it can be both. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Royalfun 55448 Report post Posted September 30, 2012 For me, this hobby is everything except the mechanical and the wham-boom-boom thing that will only take me off. Au contraire, IMHO, the fun of this hobby is to have a certain level of connection where something happens between two persons, and pleasure is the key. Physical pleasure or personal pleasure, but pleasure for sure. Hopefully, I hope that the lady will experience some pleasure with me, in a true fashion. This cannot be "all for me", it has to be a mutual something. I do not expect that all the time the SP will be turned on and loose control, no, I'm not that good (lol) but if it's only a mechanical encounter, I wont repeat. Some SPs evaluate the success of the encounter on how many times we cum; I value more the connection, the complicity and sexiness of the encounter, and for sure, the mutual pleasure we had. Really, if I feel that the person(a Sp or anybody) I am with has no pleasure of any kind with me, why I would repeat? 5 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Novicenova 106 Report post Posted October 1, 2012 Two additional thoughts, questions: I wonder how many hobbyists are hobbying precisely because the reaction of pleasure from the lady is lacking elsewhere? I'd like the opinion of the SPs on this: do you find there's an age difference? Does one age group look more for mutual pleasure or your pleasure, does a different age group focus more on themselves? (A loaded Q I admit, but based on an observation once made by an SP). Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
roamingguy 300291 Report post Posted October 1, 2012 Two additional thoughts, questions: I wonder how many hobbyists are hobbying precisely because the reaction of pleasure from the lady is lacking elsewhere? I'd like the opinion of the SPs on this: do you find there's an age difference? Does one age group look more for mutual pleasure or your pleasure, does a different age group focus more on themselves? (A loaded Q I admit, but based on an observation once made by an SP). Well I'll throw my two cents worth in here. First, and this is just me, but I don't view this as a hobby or hobbying. I know it's an accepted term, so not a bash at anyone, but for me, how can human intimate interpersonal relations be viewed as a hobby. Collecting stamps is a hobby. This to me is a lifestyle. I participate in this lifestyle for one reason. After a real bad breakup back in 2007 (involved me being stalked of all things) I gave up on dating and relationships. But you need (not want, you need) human intimate companionship. After much thinking I knew I didn't want to go back to dating, but I thought I would try and see escorts, see if that filled a void. This lifestyle allows for the intimacy I desire without the strings attached of a conventional relationship. And I enjoy the intimate companionship the ladies provide, intimacy in the broadest sense of the word. Not just in the bedroom, but socially too. And surprisingly, something I didn't expect when I embarked on this lifestyle, but I have met a few ladies (within the confines of this lifestyle) that I would consider friends. And yes, I do like the reaction of pleasure from the ladies. Am I naive, no, I'm sure in some cases it's faked, but not in all cases. But even if faked, the ladies, (and yes they are first and foremost professional companions) do it because they want me to be happy with the encounter Don't know if that answers your question A rambling RG 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Andee 220524 Report post Posted October 1, 2012 i feel bad for getting turned on sometimes by one of my clients during sessions because its suppose to all about you and making you feel good. Wherever did you get the impression that it's supposed to be all about the client? You can still provide top notch service to your client while still enjoying yourself. In fact you will find many men who love to please their partner and it turns them on when you are turned on. You have absolutely NOTHING to feel bad about. 7 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
stand on guard 1186 Report post Posted October 1, 2012 Echoing what many have said, the best sexual encounters occur when both parties are aroused and excited. When both partners sense each others arousal, it only serves to heighten the experience and for me leads to a mind blowing conclusion. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
michaelB 100 Report post Posted October 2, 2012 I feel bad if YOU don't get any satisfaction. That is how I feel! Additional Comments: You have a great body and real nice breasts...I just want to let you know :D Additional Comments: You have a great body and real nice breasts...I just want to let you know :D Additional Comments: You have a great body and real nice breasts...I just want to let you know :D Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest **n****er Report post Posted October 3, 2012 Interesting discussion. So how is it looked upon by the sp if the partner is there for the explicit purpose of being pleasured? Is this viewed as a negative thing? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Meg O'Ryan 266444 Report post Posted October 3, 2012 Interesting discussion. So how is it looked upon by the sp if the partner is there for the explicit purpose of being pleasured? Is this viewed as a negative thing? Not at all. Each and every encouter is as unique as the individual partaking in our service. The goal is first and foremost to provide you pleasure; if I derive pleasure from it as well, that is an awesome bonus! 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest S**a*Q Report post Posted October 3, 2012 I have orgasms with all clients. (Well the ones who brave possible drowning and go down on me) :D WOO ME! If I didn't I don't think I would want this job. I also think it turns them on way more to know she's into it... :D Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest ****ven Report post Posted October 3, 2012 Well I hope it's not a crime cause dam, I'm in trouble!!! I enjoy providning a mutually sexually satisfying experience.... I mean there is no way I would do this if I wasn't such a sex fiend lol. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest *ig*a** Report post Posted October 3, 2012 I have orgasms with all clients. (Well the ones who brave possible drowning and go down on me) :D WOO ME! If I didn't I don't think I would want this job. I also think it turns them on way more to know she's into it... :D Wow sounds like I would have to bring my snorkle gear. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LeeRichards 177238 Report post Posted October 3, 2012 I have orgasms with all clients. (Well the ones who brave possible drowning and go down on me) :D WOO ME! If I didn't I don't think I would want this job. I also think it turns them on way more to know she's into it... :D I will brave it in a heartbeat Sara even if I can't swim very well !!!.... or plan B would be for you to sit on my face :D I love it and will go UP on you so to speak....I can do the backstroke much better.... pehaps I will just wear a very large bib to keep my austin powers chest from getting too sticky ?? ;) ha ha Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest **n****er Report post Posted October 3, 2012 That's actually very reassuring. I know this sounds quite bizarre but there would be reasons (1 of them being lack of skills in that department) why I may not partake in trying to please a pretty lady. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nicolette Vaughn 294340 Report post Posted October 3, 2012 The way I see it is that it should be mutual. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Athos 108589 Report post Posted October 4, 2012 That's actually very reassuring. I know this sounds quite bizarre but there would be reasons (1 of them being lack of skills in that department) why I may not partake in trying to please a pretty lady. Tell her you're unsure and you want to learn!!! You'll be in for the time of your life!!! 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
backrubman 64800 Report post Posted October 4, 2012 Tell her you're unsure and you want to learn!!! You'll be in for the time of your life!!! Most excellent advice porthos and practice makes perfect. I found all the responses here on this thread interesting. I thought about it a little more and then to help turned it around and inside out and imagined what it would be like to have no interest in pleasing the lady and it just being about me. Morally I guess I could accept that as she is being compensated in other ways but it very quickly goes down hill from there. While I admit there have been encounters were I wasn't really capable of being enthusiastic (16 hours on an aircraft or pushing yourself too hard for weeks can do that to you) and I just wanted to be tucked in for the night or distracted those are clearly very rare and exceptional circumstances. If this was my standard (when well rested and focused), it really starts to feel so very very wrong to me on so many levels. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
roamingguy 300291 Report post Posted October 4, 2012 Something to keep in mind. This is, or should be, mutually beneficial lifestyle. Mutually beneficial in that for the ladies, the encounters provide income for them...being companions is their livelihood. And for the gentlemen, encounters provide the pleasure and intimacy of female companionship without the complications of a relationship. And for both the lady and gentleman, hopefully the encounter is pleasant for both of them. This lifestyle shouldn't be a zero sum game, that what the gentleman gets comes at a lady's expense. If both the lady and gentleman have a positive pleasant encounter, well isn't that a good thing, and if there are more happy people in the world, would this be a better place (I know, sounds sacchrine and sickingly sweet LOL) RG :-) 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
contraman 5480 Report post Posted October 4, 2012 In honor of Lee Richards: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P2Rjti-yGng Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Chanel Reign 28097 Report post Posted October 4, 2012 Well I must have been doing it wrong the whole time. I guess I missed that day at Ms Angela's Finishing School. :) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
hank1364 576 Report post Posted October 4, 2012 Need a mop and bucket when your done! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest *ig*a** Report post Posted October 4, 2012 Most guys want to please the woman their with if they are not morons, if you and a sp connect and theirs mutual passion then be thankful and enjoy. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Smallguy 110 Report post Posted October 4, 2012 I like the lady i'm with get off, as long as it looks real.:) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Millwall10 130 Report post Posted October 5, 2012 I would enjoy it even more if I knew the lady was getting turned on Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
