Discreet On Arrival

[Sensual Erin 33898]

Here's another. I had a client booked for his second visit. He buzzed up through the intercom where I clearly gave him my apt number. He seemed to forget it when he got to my floor and asked the neighbors what apt Erin lives in. They replied with who? These are neighbors right across the hall and I'm friendly with them enough that we know each others names. He came knocking but I didn't answer. I never saw him again after the indiscretion and let him know after he went home to ask me why I didn't answer my door.

[neebleton 2940]

Nuff said:

 

Reminds me of

 

Hehehe :)

[Annalise Lane 662]

From all my time in this business I've learned a few things. The one that stands out the most is: Men really only have enough blood to think with one head, so when pending play is just on the other side of the door they forget their manners. Its like a switch turns off in their brain.

[Tallguy007 4172]

A question which might be related:

In the case of an hotel in-call, is it considered indiscreet to ask the front desk for help in finding a specific room, or would it be preferable to call the lady for instructions?

 

Further comment:

It would appear I am navigationaly impaired, and ended up walking the full length of the floor until I realized the rooms were further down, after a dozen non-room doors in that direction. Still, I'm glad I asked the question so that I know what to do if I'm ever in a similar situation again.

[Nicolette Vaughn 294340]

A question which might be related:

In the case of an hotel in-call, is it considered indiscreet to ask the front desk for help in finding a specific room, or would it be preferable to call the lady for instructions?

 

Call the SP for instructions for discretion purposes for both her and the client. If you go to the front desk, you might as well be outting the SP if you tell the front desk the room number and then ask for her by her escort name. A big no no.

[PistolPete 61421]

I'm reading along with this thread, and I have no problems with it at all. However, perhaps it should be put in the "New to this area" as a sticky.

 

I find that the more piling on about indiscretions leaves all the clients that DO behave correctly with a very sour taste while reading through this ( it comes across pretty harsh for those that abide by rules,behaviors).

 

I'm not looking for an argument, I'm simply saying the "Client stories" really don't come across rather politely to others that DO follow the ordeal when booking,showing up,texting,calling,emailing by the rules.

 

But if you wish to continue telling stories, than by all means please do so. I will not read anymore of this post.

 

Thanks for your usual cooperation in this matter. ;)

[Meg O'Ryan 266444]

Whether it be in the sticky section or in the general section, it's unfortunate, but some people DO need reminding. I submit this as a gentle admonition not requiring any negative feedback :)

[cometman 35115]

I was in a city far, far away this summer and could not stand the strain any longer so booked a visit with a lady. Strange town, no map, got lost, found the place, rang the bell, no answer, looked at my watch.........OMFG.......I was ten minutes early! LOL.....I was mortified..... I am NEVER early. I stammered my apologies into the intercom, went back out and smoked a cigarette by my bike while waiting for the blush to subside. She was understanding and we got by it, but it made me up my vigilance level, lol.

[Athos 108589]

For me personally, I don't find these threads souring. I do find them fascinating, and very helpful reminders of what ladies sometimes have to put up with.

 

It's also useful to rethink one's own practices. I have, for example, sat in my car outside of a lady's in-call location. Now it was a high-rise building, and I wasn't sneaking around to peek in anyone's windows. But nevertheless, it's helpful to sometimes hear the perspective from the other side, and then take that into account in terms of one's own behaviour and practices. I tend to be habitually early, or at least try to be. And then I wait. I find it too stressful to try to time arrival perfectly with the appointment time. But, I never ring the doorbell, buzz, text, or buzz until it is the agreed upon time.

 

Porthos

[roamingguy 300291]

From all my time in this business I've learned a few things. The one that stands out the most is: Men really only have enough blood to think with one head, so when pending play is just on the other side of the door they forget their manners. Its like a switch turns off in their brain.

 

Sorry, but as a gentleman who exercises discretion and treats SP's like ladies, because they are ladies, I find your statement off putting.

I don't forget my manners, I don't, in the case of incalls, arrive early. I respect all boundaries.

Just because some men don't behave like gentlemen don't lump us all together. I don't characterize all SP's the same because of some encounters with bad SP's

RG

[MisterMike 1873]

From all my time in this business I've learned a few things. The one that stands out the most is: Men really only have enough blood to think with one head, so when pending play is just on the other side of the door they forget their manners. Its like a switch turns off in their brain.

I disagree. It has nothing to do with the big head or the little head.

 

It's all about stupid, ignorance, thoughtlessness and lack of respect. And these attributes are not gender specific.

[JoyfulC 132299]

I'm sorry if some find this sort of post souring or offputting, but I do realize that there are those who are firmly in the camp of "The Customer Is Always Right." Fortunately, I don't think CERB has ever been that sort of board. It seems to be more of a place where hobbiests and SPs can discuss and learn from one another. And I think even the most experience among us still has much to learn. (Or at least I hope so! This life will become rather dull when there's nothing left to learn.)

 

I agree about this applying just as much to outcalls at the customers' places. it's always important to be discreet, and showing up when expected is part of that.

[Annalise Lane 662]

Sorry, but as a gentleman who exercises discretion and treats SP's like ladies, because they are ladies, I find your statement off putting.

I don't forget my manners, I don't, in the case of incalls, arrive early. I respect all boundaries.

Just because some men don't behave like gentlemen don't lump us all together. I don't characterize all SP's the same because of some encounters with bad SP's

RG

 

I disagree. It has nothing to do with the big head or the little head.

 

It's all about stupid, ignorance, thoughtlessness and lack of respect. And these attributes are not gender specific.

 

I'm sorry you are offended by my comments. Lumping all men into a group wasn't my intent. However, it has been my experience that the many do forget their manners. For me it was to align their behaviors with thinking with the wrong head is a checky way of making fun. Just like when people say "she's blonde so .... (insert as you see fit)" Or no different then saying our young today are lazy and less engaged in the real world because of communication on computers. Neither statements are true for the whole, but truth none the less for many.

 

This whole thread was to show men that don't understand discretion is a two way street and to bring to light how some act inappropriately. I was merely being checky and giving a reason why some (many) dont understand how to behave.

[mod 135639]

People with no common-sense or good judgement usually meet me sooner rather than later.

Are you trying to creep people out?

[cat 262460]

I found GR's post to be funny and my initial reaction was "not soon enough! Darwinism is dead!" As I've been following the thread, I was thinking about Darwin and the lack of natural selection now a days but wasn't going to comment as it can't be said nicely. I think I have an invisible tattoo on my forehead and my ass that reads...

 

"Are you stupid? If so, I'm your girl!"

 

They seem to coming at me from all directions lately...

 

cat

[Phaedrus 209521]

I had a bad experience this morning when I discovered someone had shown up more than half an hour early for our appointment. First he sat in the car out front for a while, then he eventually got out and was wandering around the front yard, looking like he was peering in the windows, hoping to catch my eye.

 

I can't help but think that you should have arranged to have your other half walk out the front door just as the client was arriving, while pretending to be the last guy who was just leaving. No, it wouldn't have helped, but it would sure as hell have been amusing :)

 

I have, for example, sat in my car outside of a lady's in-call location. Now it was a high-rise building, and I wasn't sneaking around to peek in anyone's windows.

 

Which raises a serious question, actually. I've done the same. Obviously, I don't want to be late if I've arranged to meet at a particular time, and so it's good to aim to turn up a bit before time... but neither do I wish to be indiscreet.

 

So, what to do? My usual approach is to drive to somewhere a little bit away, stop there and kill time, and then drive back to where I'm supposed to be at the time I'm supposed to be there. But I'd be interested to know what others feel is the best way to play this.

[JoyfulC 132299]

I can't help but think that you should have arranged to have your other half walk out the front door just as the client was arriving, while pretending to be the last guy who was just leaving. No, it wouldn't have helped, but it would sure as hell have been amusing :)

 

Actually, he was so early that my husband was still home. I was half-dressed and fit to be tied, so Fred offered to go out and handle the situation. The guy didn't seem at all freaked out by this. Rather he said, "You must be Fred! I've heard a lot about your pizza." Fred suggested that he leave and come back on time.

 

Which raises a serious question, actually. I've done the same. Obviously, I don't want to be late if I've arranged to meet at a particular time, and so it's good to aim to turn up a bit before time... but neither do I wish to be indiscreet.

 

So, what to do? My usual approach is to drive to somewhere a little bit away, stop there and kill time, and then drive back to where I'm supposed to be at the time I'm supposed to be there. But I'd be interested to know what others feel is the best way to play this.

 

I do note on my FAQ that people should phone ahead if they're going to be early, because it does happen sometimes. I live outside of Ottawa, and if it's someone's first time here, they might overestimate how long it will take them to get here.

 

I suggest, if you're going to be early by more than 5 minutes, phone or text ahead to make sure she's ready and the coast is clear. If she can't receive you right away, go cool your jets at a local coffee shop and come back on time.

 

Similarly, if you're going to be more than, say, 10-15 minutes late, you should probably phone or text to let her know and see if she can manage that, or if she needs to reschedule.

 

I don't know if it's true because I didn't see it with my own eyes, but I heard that back in the 90s, there was an escort service in Kingston that used to drive its escorts around in a car marked with the agency's name. Can you imagine that pulling up out front!