What kind of business etiquette is this?

[Guest D***el B***e]

OMG ... Have I got a good one for you. I think this is a classic example of a really bad business approach from a provider.

 

Something happened to me last night that takes the cake.

 

I got busted by my SO!

 

An unexpected and unannounced spam text, 15-lines long, came from a provider who is active here on Cerb. The text detailed how she is available this weekend for discreete work, that I can call to book my time with her for a good time, and then she makes references to all the good men on CERB. Obviously this provider sent a mass text to all her 'male' contacts ... as a way to drum up business.

 

What kind of bad business is this? Who in his right mind would do this?

 

I was so furious I flamed her back. I know she will read this thread because I sent her the link. I apologize for being so rude today but, honey, you were just asking for it. How inconsiderate of you.

 

What infuriates me more is how she went about doing this. She sent this text at 7:00pm, and I'm sure many of you may have received it. For me I happened not to be close to my phone but my SO was .... duhhhh!!!! She walks into the room where I was, my phone in her hands and she says "What's this text?"...

 

You can only guess what happened next .... but what an inconsiderate providers. Who would dare send such an unannounced text at 7:00pm without even saying "Hello?" first and waiting for an answer back.

 

In as much as I despise her, she will remain nameless and I won't even give you her name through a PM.

 

I just want to know what you think of the approach.

[cometman 35115]

Ouch. Not cool. I have received a couple of unsolicited texts from providers in the past that were way after the fact of the date. However, my phone is locked (I know........yes, I have secrets) and no harm was done. The vast majority of communications between myself and SP's have been "by the book" and a pleasure to receive.

[Katherine of Halifax 113931]

I am so sorry this happened to you . I work very hard and I know most other ladies do as well to protect our male friends on Cerb.

 

This is a good reminder to all of us to be extra careful. I know there have been times that I have wanted to send a text to some people I am close to, however the voice always says no, no. Best to wait until we hear from you and make sure we are alone in the room.

 

I hope you have been able to recover from this unfortunate incident and can carry on!

 

xo

[Meaghan McLeod 179664]

Not cool at all. I am sorry to hear this. Some just don't seem to understand the idea of discretion. This is a total LACK of it, and the result you experienced is why no one should ever send out a text or phone call without invitation first.

 

Sorry to hear - hope nothing serious happens as a result of this big mistake.

[Guest K***e D****ls]

In my opinion, part of the joy of this world is that you don't hear from us ladies until YOU contact us. It's a no-strings-attached situation and you should absolutely never hear from a lady unless you initiated the contact and she responds.

 

The only exception to this would be a Happy Birthday or Happy Holidays email (given they have a play email) to a couple of very regular suitors at those times. Nothing more, nothing less.

 

I hope you were quick on your toes and smoothed over the situation with your SO.

[Guest c**io**m7]

Wow!! Unfortunate for certain. My issue with that was certain agencies, rarely a single provider.

Hopefully never happens again.

[CristyCurves 169032]

I have been told this from other clients, girls soliciting business by text or phone call- so wrong. If a client wants a companion it is for them to contact the sp not vice versa. This shouldn't happen. I don't text and will only return phone calls or emails that instruct me to. So sorry you've had this added stress, absolutely unnecessary!

[CODY 223]

Another reason to be very selective in who you call in the first place

Many wonderful ladies with great reps would never do this

Just my opinion

 

Cody

[roamingguy 300291]

Not at all acceptable. Unwanted solicitation is a major faux pas in this lifestyle. Ladies will be contacted by potential clients if the guy wants to see her, ladies don't directly contact men hoping to get business.

Not only is soliciting business this way show no etiquette, it is also indiscrete. Companions are supposed to be discrete, just so something like a SO finding out won't happen.

This lifestyle is supposed to be about an escape, an enjoyment. No strings attached. It's why it's so much better than an affair. Not something where you should have to worry about unwanted phone calls, or texts or whatever

Sorry this happened to you DB. Hope everything works out with you and your SO

RG

[Eric Northman 16522]

I had this happen to me as well, minus the 'getting caught' part. Someone I saw once started texting me every time she was visiting from Montreal. - She was probably was sending a bulk SMS because I asked her politely to stop a few times and she didn't. Finally I sent a VERY strongly worded text back calling her unprofessional and saying that her texts have ensured that I will never see her again.

 

As far as getting caught, just play the spam card. I get random advertising texts periodically so I would probably just deny, deny, deny that I had any knowledge of the number. Good luck friend...you're gonna need it.

[Boomer 33202]

Totally unacceptable, but shit happens in this industry. It does illustrate the need to take personal steps to protect yourself. There are numerous threads here on using a burner phone and other step to hide your activities from prying eyes. Good luck in dealing with the SO.

[stand on guard 1186]

I used to receive emails from previous ladies I had seen. These ladies were the type who toured a significant amount of the time and would send me reminders that they were coming to Ottawa and how much they would love to see me. The emails were always part of thread that I had started when I originally saw this person. Some were 3-4 years old! I politely asked that the threads be deleted and that any contact should be initiated from my end. In one case, the unsolicited emails continued for quite some time, until finally a rude and to the point email was sent.

 

I also received one once which was a reply all. Thank god my email address was non descript. There were many that had first and last names and places of employment, I was mortified for those gentlemen.

[Guest]

Just a side note. A mailing list is a great tool for escorts. It allows you to send surprise messages discreetly. Only the clients who want these messages will subcribe to the mailing list and clients can always choose to unsubscribe at anytime.

[Guest D***el B***e]

Another reason to be very selective in who you call in the first place

Many wonderful ladies with great reps would never do this

Just my opinion

 

Cody

 

I'm not sure it has anything to do with the lady and how good the reps are. I think it's a case of bad judgement and really not thinking about the delicate consequences that may develop.

[Guest S*rca****sid]

I guess this will go under the "Lessons Learned" category in how you deal with providers in the future. There has been much "talk" on the board about how not to get caught.

As discussed, it's probably best to have a "burner" cellphone and email address. Cellphones are pretty cheap these days and easy to set up as pay-as-you-go, and emails are free! I'm sure you can find a place to keep the phone somewhere your SO doesn't snoop around. Although, after this incident, she might be more suspicious!

Unless she works for NSA, you should be safe.

[Ice4fun 78396]

I can't imagine how anyone would think this is a good idea...

 

In my case i have set up the notifications on my phone for service providers who have my number to not provide any notification. That way there is little or no chance my wife will answer a random call or text.

[EmilyOsgoode 1534]

Indeed, I try to keep everything on an email basis only, mailing list to subscribers who've consented to be on said list.

 

However, technology can be fickle and anyone knows that with a touch of a button, she could have accidentally mass texted everyone, forget to bcc ect.

 

Painful lesson, however, everyone's made mistakes before. (some a little less grave than this) I'm glad you're a gentleman and didn't disclose names as something like this might ruin someone's livelihood.

[LeeRichards 177238]

In my opinion, part of the joy of this world is that you don't hear from us ladies until YOU contact us. It's a no-strings-attached situation and you should absolutely never hear from a lady unless you initiated the contact and she responds.

 

The only exception to this would be a Happy Birthday or Happy Holidays email (given they have a play email) to a couple of very regular suitors at those times. Nothing more, nothing less.

 

I hope you were quick on your toes and smoothed over the situation with your SO.

 

Part of the joy for me Kylie is that I do want to hear from the wonderful ladies I see :) and Many I do ...Still no strings attached. Random and fun is good.....I get enough birthday wishes. but must be understood between the parties. If it is by email I will get it in a month.

 

Regardless of the way of contact, un-written rules and exceptions. I have always looked at it as if I get caught....I get caught. I made my choices in this lifestyle, and chose whom I wanted to see, how we were in contact, and if I made a bad choice and shit hits the fan . Look in the mirror Lee. Start there.

[Studio 110 by Sophia 150333]

HOLY CRAP!! Wow, so sorry that someone put you in this situation!!!Geez...wow! Hope you had a good cover story? OMG

hope no one else got in trouble as well!

[Malibu-Jack 848]

Sorry that happened.

 

You have a couple of options that might help to mitigate risk.

 

1) If you have an Iphone IOs 6 you can turn on the Do Not disturb function

2) Always use and Email address you can through away if need be.

3) keep you phone locked all the time.

4) You can block phone numbers as well if it becomes an issue

 

the key is to keep your personal information separated as much as possible

 

I'm sure there are other things you can do as well.

 

Cheers

[muncher459 1040]

I would think that the sending of a mass text or email, giving a lot details of upcoming visits would fall into the bad taste category, that is the purpose and one of the functions of boards like this.....advertising that is meant to reach a wide market.

 

I do also agree that a quick text or email is ok on occasion.....but....I really think those types of communications would also be more discreet and safe send by PM. I have had extended text conversations, upon request through a PM.....seems much more of an appropriate way to deal with privacy/discretion

[fortunateone 156618]

Rule of thumb for texters is to pass the "Would this be OK if it was a phone call instead of a text?"

 

If the answer is NO or HELL NO, then don't do it.

 

There is no reason why traveling sps can't update previous clients or contacts by pm or email, there are ten dozen reasons why they shouldn't do it by phone or texting. Why people treat texts differently from phone calls is beyond me. The phone rings or beeps. The messsage comes in. It is completely readable to anyone in view of the phone. A phone call comes in. The phone rings. Receiver answers the call. The conversation, on only one side, is open to anyone within earshot.

 

If people can understand what happens in that second case, why don't they understand the reality of sending out texts? Especially blatant and graphic and revealing ones.

 

The sp texting would have been better off with a very basic and generic message, that aren't so obviously sex worker talk.

[Studio 110 by Sophia 150333]

Rule of thumb for texters is to pass the "Would this be OK if it was a phone call instead of a text?"

 

If the answer is NO or HELL NO, then don't do it.

 

There is no reason why traveling sps can't update previous clients or contacts by pm or email, there are ten dozen reasons why they shouldn't do it by phone or texting. Why people treat texts differently from phone calls is beyond me. The phone rings or beeps. The messsage comes in. It is completely readable to anyone in view of the phone. A phone call comes in. The phone rings. Receiver answers the call. The conversation, on only one side, is open to anyone within earshot.

 

If people can understand what happens in that second case, why don't they understand the reality of sending out texts? Especially blatant and graphic and revealing ones.

 

The sp texting would have been better off with a very basic and generic message, that aren't so obviously sex worker talk.

 

PERFECTLY SAID!

I have many who say can you txt me to let me know when you are in town next....SIMPLY NO...

I will not risk all the TOM'S...BILL'S...and JOHN'S on my list. If you want to know when I am in town, look for my ads or website!

It is not hard to let everyone know when your in town. If they are looking for you...then I presume you are advertising it.

 

Only a very few, whom have stated to me...and I have met with often. Will tell me to shoot them a txt anytime, even then, I play safe with a "hello, hope your well?" txt. That way if they were single when we met, then now involved, no harm done:)

[mrgreen760 37785]

Even after 25 plus years I never go in my SO's purse or wallet and if she wants something out of either I'll hand it to her. She never looks at my phone and I never look at hers.

 

Peace

MG

[roamingguy 300291]

And password protect your phone, I'm single and I have passwords on my phone and computer.

RG