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[A1B2C3D4E5 1120]

I just realized how my last question may come off, and I apologize for that.

 

The reasoning behind my question is cause one of the girls I've seen told me she doesn't like french kissing but is able to tolerate it (regular kissing though she enjoys) and when I asked her why offer it she said it's cause she finds that it's expected in a gfe experience and she also likes to please so she doesn't hate it. So I was wondering if other girls had things like that.

[Midnite-Energies 110563]

The question I really dislike is "how's business?". How do you even answer that? I'm an honest upfront person and that one throws me off every time. Each answer has it's own downfall.

 

As for a short notice evening booking, just be polite and respectful. IE: Hi "so and so" I know it's short notice but I was wondering if you might be available this evening for an hour at 11pm. The rest would depend on whether she knew you and specific things she would want to know. Know what she requests and have it ready. IE: do you want GFE, PSE or something else. Just don't try the "hey, are you available" routine.

 

I would never offer something I didn't enjoy. This is about shared pleasure which means we should also share the enjoyment. There are many things I like or would explore that aren't listed on my site due to lack of equipment, being limited to someone I trust or something I haven't explored enough to be able to offer it as something I offer. Most responses from gentlemen state they want a lady to control the flow so my thought is I need to be well versed. If someone brings it up that I'm seeing and we explore together, that's different.

 

PS...I like dick pics, at least after the initial meeting and that had a little effort put in to taking them.

[gc1968 2033]

Whew, just got finished reading this entire thread! Lots of good questions and answers, really informative. Thank you Summer for starting this, and thanks to all who have participated.

 

This is a very timely thread for me as well, as last night I had a conversation with a friend of mine and he brought up the subject of escorts and a question, so I figured I would ask it here so I could give him an answer from some of the ladies here. (and got me a little curious as to the answer as well)

 

OK, first some background before the question. A few years ago this friend and I took a vacation and got roped into buying a 'membership' to a resort chain. Not exactly a time share, as we can choose from any of this company's resorts in about 110 different countries, pay reduced rates and get added perks. We both bought one, we don't share one, which would have made more sense, but we were really drunk, and the girls selling them were incredibly hot, so.....) ;)

 

Anyway, since we bought these we have both gone on a couple trips per year, but have only been able to go together once, as with our work schedules we haven't been able to be off at the same times. The rest of the times we have gone alone.

 

He just got back from a trip to Mexico which he went alone, and he said that he is feeling more and more self concious about travelling alone the more he goes. I have felt that more than once on my trips as well, so I understand how he feels. It's mostly the excursions, not so bad if it's something like going to see same ancient ruins or something, but going on a harbour cruise or something that's supposed to be romantic can kind of make you feel weird.

 

Anyway, he asked me if I thought he would be able to find an escort to go with him next time. Jokingly at first, but then more seriously the more he thought about it. I said he could for sure, as long as he paid whatever they were asking. He said he didn't mean for sex, just companionship, and someone to go on excursions with, etc. He figured it should be enough if he was paying for everything, why would they need to be paid on top of that? I tried to explain to him that it didn't really work that way, and brought up the chemistry issue. (if they aren't really compatible then he'd be stuck with that person for a week or so) He just kept saying things along the lines of "but it's not for sex, and they get a free vacation and don't have to do anything except hang out with me" (I did say I thought sometimes he should pay ME to hang out with him, why would he think a woman would want to hang out with him for free. He then tried to hit me in the junk with the beer he was throwing me at the time :) But I digress...)

 

Anyway, to put the matter to rest I thought I would just ask his question point blank so I can show him the responses.

 

So Ladies, would you ever consider going on an all expense paid vacation to some exotic location, with no sex on the table, just as a companion for no other compensation? If for whatever reason he wanted to have sex would it be something he could just pay for at the time? (sorry, that last question sounds kind of...harsh I guess, not sure how to word it differently)

 

(I apologize for the length of this post, and thank you for taking the time to read it)

[roamingguy 300291]

Whew, just got finished reading this entire thread! Lots of good questions and answers, really informative. Thank you Summer for starting this, and thanks to all who have participated.

 

This is a very timely thread for me as well, as last night I had a conversation with a friend of mine and he brought up the subject of escorts and a question, so I figured I would ask it here so I could give him an answer from some of the ladies here. (and got me a little curious as to the answer as well)

 

OK, first some background before the question. A few years ago this friend and I took a vacation and got roped into buying a 'membership' to a resort chain. Not exactly a time share, as we can choose from any of this company's resorts in about 110 different countries, pay reduced rates and get added perks. We both bought one, we don't share one, which would have made more sense, but we were really drunk, and the girls selling them were incredibly hot, so.....) ;)

 

Anyway, since we bought these we have both gone on a couple trips per year, but have only been able to go together once, as with our work schedules we haven't been able to be off at the same times. The rest of the times we have gone alone.

 

He just got back from a trip to Mexico which he went alone, and he said that he is feeling more and more self concious about travelling alone the more he goes. I have felt that more than once on my trips as well, so I understand how he feels. It's mostly the excursions, not so bad if it's something like going to see same ancient ruins or something, but going on a harbour cruise or something that's supposed to be romantic can kind of make you feel weird.

 

Anyway, he asked me if I thought he would be able to find an escort to go with him next time. Jokingly at first, but then more seriously the more he thought about it. I said he could for sure, as long as he paid whatever they were asking. He said he didn't mean for sex, just companionship, and someone to go on excursions with, etc. He figured it should be enough if he was paying for everything, why would they need to be paid on top of that? I tried to explain to him that it didn't really work that way, and brought up the chemistry issue. (if they aren't really compatible then he'd be stuck with that person for a week or so) He just kept saying things along the lines of "but it's not for sex, and they get a free vacation and don't have to do anything except hang out with me" (I did say I thought sometimes he should pay ME to hang out with him, why would he think a woman would want to hang out with him for free. He then tried to hit me in the junk with the beer he was throwing me at the time :) But I digress...)

 

Anyway, to put the matter to rest I thought I would just ask his question point blank so I can show him the responses.

 

So Ladies, would you ever consider going on an all expense paid vacation to some exotic location, with no sex on the table, just as a companion for no other compensation? If for whatever reason he wanted to have sex would it be something he could just pay for at the time? (sorry, that last question sounds kind of...harsh I guess, not sure how to word it differently)

 

(I apologize for the length of this post, and thank you for taking the time to read it)

 

Well although I'm not an SP it has to be remembered first and foremost you are paying for a lady's time and companionship, which can include sex, but isn't always just about sex.

A week away on an all expense paid vacation means she is spending time away from her livelihood where she earns an income. Yes to us men this is an escape, for the ladies, their livelihood. She may not be able to afford to be away on this guy's vacation, it'll cost her too much money in lost income.

Anyhow my guess an all expense paid "vacation" for a lady where she doesn't get compensated for her time will cost her too much money in real terms...be cheaper for her to pay for her own vacation without the man coming along

A rambling

 

RG

[Miss Jessica Lee 43328]

Whew, just got finished reading this entire thread! Lots of good questions and answers, really informative. Thank you Summer for starting this, and thanks to all who have participated.

 

This is a very timely thread for me as well, as last night I had a conversation with a friend of mine and he brought up the subject of escorts and a question, so I figured I would ask it here so I could give him an answer from some of the ladies here. (and got me a little curious as to the answer as well)

......

So Ladies, would you ever consider going on an all expense paid vacation to some exotic location, with no sex on the table, just as a companion for no other compensation? If for whatever reason he wanted to have sex would it be something he could just pay for at the time? (sorry, that last question sounds kind of...harsh I guess, not sure how to word it differently)

 

(I apologize for the length of this post, and thank you for taking the time to read it)

 

 

this question has come up on every "ask a provider" thread I've ever seen, and the answer is invariably the same gc1968.

 

 

If you expect a lady to go on an extended vacation you need to expect to pay her for the week, as well as all expenses incurred. Why would I go on vacation with a stranger when I could go on vacation with friends or family?

 

I am not able to relax completely when with someone I don't know. I'm not able to enjoy the activities I choose, when I choose them, as I would if I were on my own vacation.

 

Especially if as you suggest, you intend to have me on call for sex, compensated on a "per-service" basis.

 

With all due respect, the concept is bizarre and I'm just surprised anyone would expect that.

[Brad 49548]

 

With all due respect, the concept is bizarre and I'm just surprised anyone would expect that.

 

Not to sidetrack this thread, but I'd like to take a guess at that.

 

I suspect the rationalization that goes through a gent's head is that whatever travel destination and activities he has planned will be so enjoyable that simply getting those expenses covered will be enough to satisfy the donation amount. If a fellow feels like the experience and vacation itself are going to be fun, they assume the lady will as well (and yes, she might) and that this enjoyment will be sufficient compensation for her time. The thought is likely that she'll enjoy the experience just as much as if she was paying--and controlling--her own vacation.

 

Such gents may have the best of intentions, but what I think they don't realize is that this is a form of bartering. In the end, how is offering a trip for a lady's time instead of her donation amount any different than offering a dinner out, fixing her computer, bringing her some good books, or anything else other than her requested donation amount.

 

It is true, the trip itself may be enjoyable. But then, most of us gents hope that a lady enjoys the time she spends with us! This doesn't mean we then get to request a discount because she had fun. :)

[roamingguy 300291]

One thing I forgot to add. An extended time together with a lady, be it an overnight, a weekend sleepover or longer, would be IMHO better with a lady you know and she knows you. Any time beyond a couple hours, well what if you and the lady have no chemistry, she doesn't click with you, you don't click with her. Just on that basis alone, a extended "vacation" could be the trip from hell for both of you, and she more than deserves her time compensated for. Longer encounters, like overnights or longer should be done with a lady you know. I highly doubt a lady will "vacation" with a stranger

BTW as for sex, I have had a couple memorable encounters, where there was no sex, but physically intimate in that we held on another, kissed, cuddled. And every bit as satisfying (in some ways more, a real connection was made) as encounters where there was sex. There is no way these encounters should be discounted because of lack of sex, these ladies provided an even more intimate encounter. In the same vein, whether there is sex or no sex on this "vacation" is immaterial, you are compensating her for her time.

A rambling

 

RG

[Miss S. Lane 67128]

So Ladies, would you ever consider going on an all expense paid vacation to some exotic location, with no sex on the table, just as a companion for no other compensation? If for whatever reason he wanted to have sex would it be something he could just pay for at the time? (sorry, that last question sounds kind of...harsh I guess, not sure how to word it differently)

 

 

Absolutely and without hesitation... NO. I have extended times on my website, including a week, and might I remind you that upscale escorts, the likes of which you'll find here on CERB, don't charge for "services". We charge for our time which is valuable. It's time we are taking away from our family, our friends, OUR lives and that comes at a price.

 

For myself, I have a set price for extended amounts of time. This is purely for my time only. I also require that ALL of my travel expenses are covered (meals, flight, accommodations). In addition, I ALWAYS negotiate an agreed upon amount of alone time for extended dates. I need time to myself as does the person I'm traveling with.

 

Regarding chemistry, I wouldn't consider a weeks vacation with a client I hadn't established some connection with already. That means we've talked, we've had dates already, we've gotten to know each other and established ahead of time that we enjoy each other's company, sexual or otherwise.

 

Hope this helps your friend :) xo

[MightyPen 67414]

So Ladies, would you ever consider going on an all expense paid vacation to some exotic location, with no sex on the table, just as a companion for no other compensation?

I'm not an SP, and don't meant to break the intent of the thread; but to offer some perspective... just being around a stranger for an extended time is WORK. Imagine the question was "hey, can my friend come live in your house for a week? There'd be no sex, promise! He'd just be around you ALL THE TIME."

 

The locale, food, and shelter are not sufficient compensation for the service he's looking for; and frankly if the lady wanted those things, she could just buy them herself thanks very much. Your buddy is asking for someone to be around him and be a pleasant companion, 24/7. His companionship in a strange place is not as enticing an offer as he thinks. (Plus, he sounds like a bit of a dick and kind of clueless.) He needs to pay the companion to be there and "on the clock" for the duration of the trip.

[Guest S****r]

I have spent a week "on vacation" with a client before, and had a wonderful time. He paid all expenses. (It was an all-inclusive resort package.) We even had separate rooms just so we could have private time away from each other for part of each day, too, which he fully respected. (although we had such a good time, I must confess we didn't spend a LOT of time apart. )

 

However, as all have said, as pleasant as a time as it was, it meant a week of lost wages for me. Therefore, that was the compensation that he paid me. Not an hourly rate. One week of lost wages. We both agreed it a fair exchange.

 

We both had a great time. He just recently contacted me about doing it again, in fact.

 

Perhaps your friend would find that more reasonable. Also, suggest he visit an SP enough times to see if they really want to spend a whole week together.

[MightyPen 67414]

Phew! For the benefit of others who don't especially want to read through 30 pages to see what questions have been asked, I've done the work and here's the list so far. ;)

 

Some of these are verbatim; others I've edited down to something brief. The originals may contain additional nuances.

 

I thought this might help get some buried or missed questions answered anew, and possibly prevent duplicate questions going forward.

 

This is now one of my favourite threads by the way!

 

1. Why did you get into escorting in the first place? (Bmoc68 )

 

2. What is the best thing about being an SP? (PisaqLove)

 

3. How do you react when a client says he loves you? (jafo105)

 

4. What do you like least about being an escort? (Ice4fun)

 

5. How do you shield yourself from emotional attachments? (curiousm7)

 

6. Do you ever want to take a client relationship further? (muncher459)

 

7. How did you feel after y our fist time as an SP? (PisaqLove)

 

8. After a while seeing the same person, do you prefer not to see that same person and move on? (frank97500)

 

9. Has it been important to have friends, confidants, mentors in the business? (Winnipegcub)

 

10. What would you say to a guy that would love to visit an SP but feels very intimidated and doesn't think he is good enough? (frank97500)

 

11. Have you ever had a "date" that was so hot that it eclipsed your best experience in your civilian life? (PisaqLove)

 

12. What do SP's do to mentally prepare themselves for a session? (Jay67)

 

13. Why have I been asked if I was a former male SP? (frenchbrute)

 

14. What advice would you give a lady just starting out? What's one thing you wish you had known. (Cute0aza0Button)

 

15. What can a gentlemen do to make an encounter an enjoyable time for both him and her? (roamingguy)

 

16. How do you deal with a client you don't want to see again? (jg24)

 

17. If a potential client is interested in knowing if you enjoy/offer a given activity, is there a "best" way to ask? (Brad)

 

18. Have you even been recognized on the street? (ottawascout)

 

19. Do your line of work mean that lack health or dental insurance? Have you no income without work? How do you handle this? (Ice4fun)

 

20. How long do you plan on being an SP/MA/Dancer? (PisaqLove)

 

21. How do you determine which of your bedroom activities are YMMV? (curiousm7)

 

22. How are (some of) you able to make a guy feel you truly desire him every time you see him? (nlwoodchuck)

 

23. Do you all go to sexual skills university? Or are you all just naturally gifted? Does practice truly make perfect or do you need to study and learn specific techniques? Do you have a sexual move or technique that you tend to go with as your finishing move (emiafish)

 

24. How do I find out what really pleases a lady and what she actually likes or dislikes? How do I find out what I'm doing right, and more importantly, wrong? (qwertyaccount)

 

25. Have you ever had a bad encounter that made you question your occupation? (PisaqLove)

 

26. Has a client ever used a heretofore unknown technique that has rocked your world, and if so then can you share it with the rest of us? (emiafish)

 

27. How do you treat no-shows? (curiousm7)

 

28. How do you deal with a bad review? (nlwoodchuck)

 

29. Do you prefer a man's junk shaved or hairy? (defensedave)

 

30. Have you ever been turned off by a hobbyist look, attitude, and behaviour? And if so, how did you pull through the time with that person? (frank97500)

 

31. If you offer duos is it because you like them and are a little bi, or is it just part of the job? (Ice4fun)

 

32. What do you think has made you different that you can sustain a longer career in what can be a very tough business? (OutForFun)

 

33. How often do you get requests for costumes or roleplaying? (emiafish)

 

34. What has been the most surprising thing you've learned or done after being an SP? (piano8950)

 

35. How common is it, after a client leaves, to think "wow, that was someone I could see myself going out to dinner with."? (curiousm7)

 

36. What makes a pleasant review for you? (Magician)

 

37. What does it mean when after a session an SP asks "Can I put your number in my phone"? (qwertyaccount)

 

38. Is assuring a lady that I've just come out of the shower as good as actually taking a shower right there? (Gentleman11)

 

39. What is your preference in call, out call client hotel. Are client residences out-of-bounds? (Gentleman11)

 

40. What advice would you give to a client who is a virgin? And If you meet a client who is a virgin, how would you go about relaxing him? (Jay67)

 

41. For a paid encounter would you be open to going out to dinner or a movie, holding hands, or walking arm in arm? OR do you prefer keeping things completely private? (jafo105)

 

42. How important are recommendations to a lady's business? (roamingguy)

 

43. Is it fun when a man cums on your face? Do you have any private pictures with your face covered in cum? (Ice4fun)

 

44. Why do most ladies ads list all their physical stats (height, age, weight, measurements, eye color, etc.) but others are silent on most or all of this? (qwertyaccount)

 

45. What types of gifts do you normally receive and what would you like to receive? (Ice4fun)

 

46. If you show your face in your pictues here, why did you decide to 'out' your face? Did it result in any change? (piano8950)

 

47. What jobs/careers that guys have do you find turn-ons and turn-offs? (qwertyaccount)

 

48. Do you have clients that you are more excited to see than others? (PisaqLove)

 

49. If a client gives you a gift, is cash a good alternative to a gift card? (Luckyme)

 

50. What's the craziest gift you have received as an SP? (PisaqLove)

 

51. Do you ever get tired of dealing with people? (frank97500)

 

52. Have you ever wanted to meet a particular cerb member in person, and get really nervous due to certain perception or expectation you have of them? (Empty83)

 

53. Is there a kind of sex work you haven't done but would like to try? (dancer, Domme, escort, massage)? If so, why haven't you?

 

54. What's the strangest outfit/costume you've been asked to wear? (qwertyaccount)

 

55. What's the weirdest role-play you've been asked to do? (qwertyaccount)

 

56. Would it be fun to arrive at a date and be confronted with buckets of oysters? No, c'mon, seriously! (LeeRichards)

 

57. Do certain times of day attract certain type of clientele? Is there a particular time that is more popular? What part of day or night is your preference? (Empty83)

 

58. If I were to book a 4 hour session with a SP, the first hours being dinner and the next two hours being an incall, what would the rates be? Would I have to pay for a 4 hour incall rate? (Jay67)

 

59. At what point in a new relationship do you let a guy know your line of work and how do you deal with the worry that he may judge you? (curiousm7)

 

60. If a new guy in your life tells you he likes to see escorts, what is your reaction? (roamingguy)

 

61. Is it okay to contact you on days you don't advertise? (Empty83)

 

62. Do you prefer the first contact be discrete, or straight to the point? (Empty83)

 

63. Are sincere compliments on appearance acceptable? What such comments are unacceptable? (igab)

 

64. Are the apt descriptors "prostitue" and "john" inherently shameful? (mrgreen760)

 

65. Is writing a recommendation the ultimate compliment you can give a lady? (roamingguy)

 

66. What would be the circumstances of your retirement from this business? (OutForFun)

 

67. If a regular client and a CERB menber you've never seen both want to book you at the same time, who gets preference? (Luckyme)

 

68. What is the most memorable thing a client has done for/with you? (PisaqLove)

 

69. Have you ever had a client do something sweet/kind/nice that it made you cry? (PisaqLove)

 

70. What questions can I ask to get a sense of how affectionate an SP is likely to be during an encounter? (Rob360)

 

71. Would you have any issues with your own parner seeing an MA/SP? (JohnnyCanuck)

 

72. How many times have you fallen for a client? (Daniel Boone)

 

73 a, b, c, d.... How do I become the ideal kind of client? Do you generally like regulars more or new clients? What's your definition of a regular client? How long a session do you prefer? Is it cool for clients to contact you to say happy birthdays/merry Christmas etc.? How do you feel about a client sending you a brief thank you note after the appointment? If you contact a client between bookings, is that an open invitation to keep in touch between appointments? (A1B2C3D4E5)

 

74. What are some of the funniest or strangest text messages you've received? (qwertyaccount)

 

75. If there's something you offer as stated on your ads and/or website does it necessarily mean that you like to offer that service? Or does it only mean that you're able to tolerate it? If it's the later, why offer something you don't particularly like doing? (A1B2C3D4E5)

 

76. What unwelcome questions do clients commonly ask? (Darr)

 

77. Is there a good texting format for same evening booking request? (Darr)

 

78. Would you ever consider going on an all expense paid vacation to some exotic location, with no sex on the table, just as a companion for no other compensation? (gc1968 )

[Studio 110 by Sophia 150333]

Whew, just got finished reading this entire thread! Lots of good questions and answers, really informative. Thank you Summer for starting this, and thanks to all who have participated.

 

This is a very timely thread for me as well, as last night I had a conversation with a friend of mine and he brought up the subject of escorts and a question, so I figured I would ask it here so I could give him an answer from some of the ladies here. (and got me a little curious as to the answer as well)

 

OK, first some background before the question. A few years ago this friend and I took a vacation and got roped into buying a 'membership' to a resort chain. Not exactly a time share, as we can choose from any of this company's resorts in about 110 different countries, pay reduced rates and get added perks. We both bought one, we don't share one, which would have made more sense, but we were really drunk, and the girls selling them were incredibly hot, so.....) ;)

 

Anyway, since we bought these we have both gone on a couple trips per year, but have only been able to go together once, as with our work schedules we haven't been able to be off at the same times. The rest of the times we have gone alone.

 

He just got back from a trip to Mexico which he went alone, and he said that he is feeling more and more self concious about travelling alone the more he goes. I have felt that more than once on my trips as well, so I understand how he feels. It's mostly the excursions, not so bad if it's something like going to see same ancient ruins or something, but going on a harbour cruise or something that's supposed to be romantic can kind of make you feel weird.

 

Anyway, he asked me if I thought he would be able to find an escort to go with him next time. Jokingly at first, but then more seriously the more he thought about it. I said he could for sure, as long as he paid whatever they were asking. He said he didn't mean for sex, just companionship, and someone to go on excursions with, etc. He figured it should be enough if he was paying for everything, why would they need to be paid on top of that? I tried to explain to him that it didn't really work that way, and brought up the chemistry issue. (if they aren't really compatible then he'd be stuck with that person for a week or so) He just kept saying things along the lines of "but it's not for sex, and they get a free vacation and don't have to do anything except hang out with me" (I did say I thought sometimes he should pay ME to hang out with him, why would he think a woman would want to hang out with him for free. He then tried to hit me in the junk with the beer he was throwing me at the time :) But I digress...)

 

Anyway, to put the matter to rest I thought I would just ask his question point blank so I can show him the responses.

 

So Ladies, would you ever consider going on an all expense paid vacation to some exotic location, with no sex on the table, just as a companion for no other compensation? If for whatever reason he wanted to have sex would it be something he could just pay for at the time? (sorry, that last question sounds kind of...harsh I guess, not sure how to word it differently)

 

(I apologize for the length of this post, and thank you for taking the time to read it)

 

This is a great question! I am not sure if others have answered yet, but here is what I think...

 

Like if you are going to spend even an hour with a playmate, you should do some homework on whether or not you are a good match, unless the end is all you are looking for. Hehe...

 

So in this case, Make sure you have a good relations and have had some time together first.

 

THEN....remember, even if you pay for the trip, doesn't give you the rights to it IF she does not get on the plane! Most flights or trips are only credited to the name on the actual flight and itinerary!

 

So if you and her have already met, been established a good match, then I would suggest to ask her to pay her half first, under her name, then add the extra donation once you go threw security and boarded on the plane!!!! You should have her donation and expenses ready for her in an envelope for her to tuck away. Once you sit on the plane, the pass her donation for expenses!

 

If she is saying, well how do I know you will pay? THEN I say, if you spent time together she should have already decided to trust you with screening, You need to offer up real information, like your work place, your number real name and whatever else she may ask. REMEMBER....she is leaving the country with you, spending perhaps her rent money, trusting YOU will look after her in everyway. THIS IS NOT VISITING AT A HOTEL ROOM OR LIVING ROOM!

 

I personally now 2 hobbyist who were taken for a large sum over this issue. I asked them on their input for this question, and both agree this is the safest way to do it.

 

If you are booking an established lady with a good rep, then this should not be a problem for them. And if you have established communication and met, then you should have an indication on her sincerity.

 

 

Happy Travels !!!

[Katherine of Halifax 113931]

This is a great question! I am not sure if others have answered yet, but here is what I think...

 

Like if you are going to spend even an hour with a playmate, you should do some homework on whether or not you are a good match, unless the end is all you are looking for. Hehe...

 

So in this case, Make sure you have a good relations and have had some time together first.

 

THEN....remember, even if you pay for the trip, doesn't give you the rights to it IF she does not get on the plane! Most flights or trips are only credited to the name on the actual flight and itinerary!

 

So if you and her have already met, been established a good match, then I would suggest to ask her to pay her half first, under her name, then add the extra donation once you go threw security and boarded on the plane!!!! You should have her donation and expenses ready for her in an envelope for her to tuck away. Once you sit on the plane, the pass her donation for expenses!

 

If she is saying, well how do I know you will pay? THEN I say, if you spent time together she should have already decided to trust you with screening, You need to offer up real information, like your work place, your number real name and whatever else she may ask. REMEMBER....she is leaving the country with you, spending perhaps her rent money, trusting YOU will look after her in everyway. THIS IS NOT VISITING AT A HOTEL ROOM OR LIVING ROOM!

 

I personally now 2 hobbyist who were taken for a large sum over this issue. I asked them on their input for this question, and both agree this is the safest way to do it.

 

If you are booking an established lady with a good rep, then this should not be a problem for them. And if you have established communication and met, then you should have an indication on her sincerity.

 

 

 

Happy Travels !!!

 

 

Great question and I have heard this exact type of logic your friend is talking about.

 

I would not do this. I can afford to travel on my own when the time is right for me .

 

The time I would be away on my paid vacation I would be losing money here at home of wherever I may choose to visit that week.

[Studio 110 by Sophia 150333]

Great question and I have heard this exact type of logic your friend is talking about.

 

I would not do this. I can afford to travel on my own when the time is right for me .

 

The time I would be away on my paid vacation I would be losing money here at home of wherever I may choose to visit that week.

 

 

YES, and in my experience,

when I have been offered this, the gent's say..." what?? even though I am paying???"

 

BUT...I can save 1500 for a trip, but can I afford the loss of a week, or the loss of a possible regular that will see me week after week? As I am thinking about tomorrow too!

[gc1968 2033]

Thanks to all who replied to my question. I had brought up pretty much all the answers to my friend, about the lost wages, paying for the SP's time, chemistry, getting to know the SP first, etc, but he wouldn't listen to me. The more he thought about it the more he was convinced that every SP in the world would just jump at the chance to have that 'free' vacation as he thinks of it. Keep in mind he has never seen an SP (I think he may have gone to a massage parlour once), nor does he frequent any sites like this.

 

Listening to him last night it started to sound like his idea of an SP is what he has seen on tv and movies. He looked shocked when I told him that not all SP's are those poor little abused streetwalkers from some lame cop show that would just love a chance to be taken away from all the low-lifes and spend a relaxing week or two away from them in the company of a 'gentleman'. (yes, I put it to him like that almost verbatim) I was trying to tell him the truth before he embarrassed himself by contacting any SP's with his proposed arrangement, but he was having none of what I had to say.

 

Thank you all for the responses. I now have something to show him so maybe now he will see his idea was not as good as he thought.

 

Additional Comments:

I suspect the rationalization that goes through a gent's head is that whatever travel destination and activities he has planned will be so enjoyable that simply getting those expenses covered will be enough to satisfy the donation amount. If a fellow feels like the experience and vacation itself are going to be fun, they assume the lady will as well (and yes, she might) and that this enjoyment will be sufficient compensation for her time.

 

This is exactly what he was thinking, as he was saying this almost to the word, and more than once.

 

Such gents may have the best of intentions, but what I think they don't realize is that this is a form of bartering. In the end, how is offering a trip for a lady's time instead of her donation amount any different than offering a dinner out, fixing her computer, bringing her some good books, or anything else other than her requested donation amount.

 

He does have the best intentions, but since he has never seen an SP and doesn't know how things work I know he wouldn't think of it as bartering, even though you are exactly right.

[fortunateone 156618]

The best rebuttal for a guy like this is to ask him that if his work sent him to Vegas to one of the big tradeshows there, would he consider it a fun filled vacation with lots to see and do with agreeable company, or would he consider it work, since he'd be staffing the show booth from 8am to 7pm daily for 5 consecutive days, with one day before setting it up and one day after breaking it down. He'd have a few hours, in the evening, to himself for that fun filled time.

 

still having fun? Because for an escort accompanying a CLIENT for a 7 day trip to Vegas, instead of going off the clock a t 7pm daily, she's on the clock except for sleep time.

 

and maybe not even then.

[Katherine of Halifax 113931]

YES, and in my experience,

when I have been offered this, the gent's say..." what?? even though I am paying???"

 

BUT...I can save 1500 for a trip, but can I afford the loss of a week, or the loss of a possible regular that will see me wek after week? As I am thinking about tomorrow too!

 

Exactly and in this business thinking of tomorrow, next week and so on is very important.

[MightyPen 67414]

Has a Russian client ever asked to "invade" your "Crimean peninsula"?

 

How did you respond?

 

Possible responses:

a) "Yes, but he assured me he was simply cumming to the aid of his countrymen!"

b) "Yes, and soon the navy's port at Sevastopol was full of seamen!"

 

EDIT:

c) "Yes, but in truth it was less an invasion, and more of an "uncontested arrival"!

(Thanks for the best punchline, U.S. officials!)

 

(etc. etc.)

 

[Right now this seems to me like the very pinnacle of world-aware humour, but it could just be a mood and I may feel differently in the morning. If so, I apologize in advance. ;) ]

[Guest K***e D****ls]

In regards to the 'free trip', my answer would be a solid no. This is a business and I treat it very much like that- it's black and white and the rules are already laid out, there are boundaries, and a lot of fun can be had within the clearly defined boundaries.

 

If I want to take a vacation, I'll go with friends, family or alone and do things my way: not wear make-up during the daytime, wake up when I please, do what I want, sleep when I want. Regardless of if there is no physical intimacy, mentally she has to be 'on' all day while she's with that client and for no compensation for her time. That to me isn't a vacation. That's the job.

 

I'm fortunate to travel a lot with gents and thankfully I've had very few trips that felt like I was truly earning each dollar I made. haha The travel is for sure a great perk to this business and a perk that I love. But would I go away with a client just for a free trip? No. To each their own, but that doesn't make sense to me personally.

[roamingguy 300291]

Just to put a spin on it that maybe some gentlemen can appreciate. Would you guys consider going on a business trip, where your employer pays all the expenses a holiday, and if so, would you forgo your salary while on the business trip as long as expenses are covered. I think not, your salary, your income, pays your bills.

It does seem forgotten by some, but that while both ladies and gentlemen are opposite sides of the same coin in this lifestyle, it is for the gentlemen an escape, for the ladies their livelihood. A livelihood that pays the lady's bills

A lady that is at an encounter providing us with an escape, she is not having an escape, she is working...this is her job. Whether at a outcall hotel room on a Saturday night, being taken for dinner out, spending the night with a gentleman or a "vacation" in the sunny south, it is all her livelihood.

A rambling

 

RG

[MightyPen 67414]

Just to put a spin on it that maybe some gentlemen can appreciate. Would you guys consider going on a business trip, where your employer pays all the expenses a holiday, and if so, would you forgo your salary while on the business trip as long as expenses are covered. I think not, your salary, your income, pays your bills.

Plus, your boss who paid for the trip insists on hanging out with you all the time, and keeps insisting you go everywhere he wants to go and do the things that interest him because after all, he's the one paying.

 

I think the guys in question just assume that their own company is at worst a neutral factor for the SP, and more likely in their minds a positive one ("because look at me, I'm awesome!"), when in fact the perpetual, enforced company of a stranger quickly becomes tedious.

 

But the kind of person most likely to miss this point, is also the one least likely to ever understand it even if it's explained to them.

[roamingguy 300291]

One more thought well a couple, sort of related to the topic at hand.

When doing a sleepover, weekend escape, week holiday etc well first and foremost it should be with a lady you know and she knows you. Not something to be done with a lady and gentleman who have never met before...btw not a better start to the day than waking up with a special lady you know and really like lying beside you. It's not about sex, it's about companionship.

But when you want to do such an escape, discuss together your plans for the escape. What both of you want to do. An overnight/weekend/week etc is not 24/7 sex/time in the bedroom. Maybe the lady has some ideas, and maybe you do too, and between the two of you, both of you can find something that you want to do together...it's about sharing your time together

And, especially in longer escapes, make sure there is alone time. A lady may want time to herself. Maybe an hour or two by herself, or more, or less. She probably will let you know that when you are planning your escape. And it's not an unreasonable request for a lady to make

A rambling

 

RG

[emiafish 30979]

While reading another thread a question occurred to me. Why ask for the donation in an envelope? I understand wanting to complete the transaction early in the encounter, quickly and without requiring a prompt, but why the envelope? :confused0024:

[Kimberly-Shea 28280]

I've never been a fan of the envelope system. I sometimes wonder "Is it just full of Canadian Tire money?" and take a peek, just to be safe..lol

 

I guess some people find it less, crass and feel it's classier? I don't know. As long as you don't show up with a ziploc full of loonies, or whip out your wallet and count it out into my hand (that's a mood killer), I'm fine with no envelope.

 

Kim

[Miss S. Lane 67128]

While reading another thread a question occurred to me. Why ask for the donation in an envelope? I understand wanting to complete the transaction early in the encounter, quickly and without requiring a prompt, but why the envelope? :confused0024:

 

 

It has nothing to do with a desire to be "classy" and everything to do with safety and discretion for both the client and the SP. If ever there was a situation whereby law enforcement became involved, it would not be possible to deny payment for what was going on if there is a pile of bills laying on the dresser. However it is possible when in a card, an envelope or a gift bag. This way, you are simply two consenting adults and you - the SP - can claim ignorance as to knowing what was inside, which protects BOTH parties.

 

Using a card, envelope or gift bag just makes sense.