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Sorry if I sound all academic-y... It's a way of restructuring language to reduce stigma. The word "disability" implies a norm about people's ability, and suggests there's a standard for having "normal" abilities. But when you think about it, we're all sitting on a spectrum of abilities. You have Olympic athletes at one end of the scale, people with severe physical impediments at the other, and most of us are somewhere in the middle. Some of us are in better or worse shape than others, some people need glasses or hearing aids or pacemakers or whatever, so when you think about it, there's no set standard for "ability" - which makes its opposite ("disability") impossible to define. But there's still a stigma around "disabled" because it implies a notable difference from the norm - rather than just a different point on the same spectrum. Activists use dis/ability to remind us that the problems are primarily social, rather than personal. People of all abilities can contribute to society in meaningful ways (Steven Hawking being a prime example) but there are social barriers that make it hard for some people to access certain parts of society. Anyways, there are probably others who can give you a better answer, but that's how I understand it... if anyone has anything to add, please do! :)

I'm just running through all the typical responses I'd expect from other, less-tolerant boards, and I'm starting to realize how this one is very different than the rest... I remember when I was dancing in a strip club, and a guy with a badly-disfigured arm came in and sat down. He was a trucker who had read about tgirls, but just hadn't had the opportunity to meet one. The other girls avoided him like the plague, but I went over, chatted with him for a few minutes, and took him for a few dances in the back. He was so sweet, so shy, and so respectful - the polar opposite of some of the jerks who used to visit that place. After the dances, he asked me if he could buy my panties from me! It was an unusual request, but I had a few extra pairs in my bag, so I gave him a pair to keep in his rig. The other girls were grossed out when I told them, but I thought it was a wonderful compliment; he wanted something to remember the experience, and all it cost me was a $6 pair of La Senza panties - a small price to give someone a few moments of happiness. Once in a while, I'll picture him driving in his truck, occasionally glancing at the glove box, knowing what's inside - and I can't help but smile. :) Enjoying sex is a human desire. It exists independent of age, gender, tastes, dis/ability, or partner of choice; at the end of the day, all we really want is to enjoy that feeling of connection with another human being. That's all that really matters; the rest is just a matter of details. :)

I have been thinking about doing a bit of specialization and focusing on the needs of dis/abled clients. A close friend of mine from high school has cerebral palsy and has a severe walking impairment. He was a virgin until he was 27. The unfortunate truth is that most people see the dis/abled as sexless, but they have needs like everyone else. So I'd like to be that open-minded individual who can help them reconnect with intimicy and learn to be sexual. Plus, I slept with my friend and it was some damn good sexin'. Also, I feel that for me, this would be a way to reconnect to sex in different ways. Consider someone who is deaf/blind: you talk using the Deafblind Manual Alphabet, using touch to communicate. I found this brilliant page on the subject: http://www.tlc-trust.org.uk/advice/page6.html I'm wondering if anyone knows of any forums relating to sex workers and dis/abled clients? Where might one advertise? Any ideas or suggestions appreciated! xx Erin

Hey.. I often get excited playing with my own boobs! They are delightful after all :boobies:

I really need some kind of conversation and basic connection if I'm going to enjoy the session at all. It just starts simply -- how are you? how long have you lived here? how do you like Ottawa? -- and goes from there, unfolding naturally for as long as we're both comfortable. On average, maybe the first 15-20 minutes of a two-hour appointment. I have no illusions about the depth of my relationship with an SP, but at least some friendly conversation and a little laughter lets me feel I've spent some time with a person, and not just someone's body.

I actually drove 8 hours to see a 24 year old virgin with Cerebral Palsy a couple of months ago. He had emailed many other SPs, but apparently I was the only one who responded. We exchanged emails for months beforehand, due to his excitement and inexperience. When I finally got there, I met one of the sweetest, kindest and warmest people I have ever had the pleasure of meeting. I mean this guy was an inspiration to me. He had nothing, (couldn't move his hands properly, couldn't walk and was wheelchair-bound for life). Yet, he rarely stopped smiling, he was generous and thoughtful and most importantly of all, I made a dear and special friend. It didn't occur to me, when I received his email, to say no. Just because he got a shitty hand dealt to him, in my mind, doesn't exclude him from needing to be held, caressed and cared for. I say do it Erin! Remember that each one has special needs, and one of those is to be touched. The disabled, I found, need it more than most.

There are 3 junior teams in Otown...Jr Riders, Cumberland Panthers and the Ottawa Sooners....all a good bet for great football!

It is there for what ever meaning you attach to it.

I suppose, but do you want to be going down on a lady that needs a breath mint down there??!

I am the guy that Soleil drove 8 hours in a 24 hour span, to see. she was the most amazing woman I have ever met. I have CP and have been confined to a wheelchair all my life. being 24, I was getting very concerned that I was always going to be a virgin. Having the chance to be with a person like Soleil, was the best expreince of my life. Just to have a woman who wants to spend time with me in an intimite was Unforgettable. I really feel that we have a conection I have never had a girlfriend but, I was made to feel very special. disabled people have urges just like anyone else, and people need to know this. Masterbation is very hard for me, as well. I always have had lots of love to give, but have never had the chance to show it. during Our night. i did Not feel disabled al all. IT WAS AMAZING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Naked Truth's Exotic Dancers for Cancer Event, April 28 at the Cecil, Vancouver VANCOUVER, BC: It has been seven years since that first dark day when local strippers began their depraved campaign of seduction to raise funds for the private parts of women. This abomination continues on Wednesday, April 28th, when the den of evil called the Cecil Hotel will host the Seventh Annual Exotic Dancers for Cancer from 7 p.m. till 2 a.m. Unsuspecting revellers will be lured and seduced into attending this festival of the flesh by a mere $20 donation at the door. Told they will receive ?bags of porn? for arriving early and tempted by promises of swaying, naked bodies, ordinary men and women will find themselves compelled through bewitchery to witness sexual exhibitionism as if it was a form of entertainment. Indeed, the harlots call themselves artists. But they paint with a brush dipped in lust. They will raise more than just funds with their nudity, merchandise sales, and silent auction. They will flaunt themselves in the audience. Make no mistake. They will tempt you. They will tease you. They will overpower your senses. Please join us as we observe the witches perform their ritual. But beware. If you decide to join in the fun, you may become sexually liberated forever. Proceeds to Rethink Breast Cancer. More info at http://www.nakedtruth.ca. Ways you can help: - Donate old/new promotional materials for our bags of porn: posters, magnets, lighters, stickers, keychains, etc. This is a great way to promote yourself too! You can put your website info or where you are performing, or whatever, to help promote yourself. We will be handing out 100 - 150 bags of porn. - Donate products or services to the silent auction, raffle, door prizes. In return, we will include your company info in a thank you that is sent out in every gift bag. Your company name will also be posted beside your donation (for silent auction gifts), and we will announce a thank you during the night. - Donate a show. Get naked for charity! Actually, clothing removal is optional. The Cecil is donating the cost of dancer?s shows to the fundraising efforts. Burlesque dancers and other performers (if appropriate to the theme) are invited to participate. - Volunteer. We need help with setup, takedown, front door, t-shirt sales, promoting the event, and more. Please let us know if you?re willing to help out! Thanks! - Invite your friends! Even if you can?t come, please tell your friends about it. Thanks for all your help! Xoxxxox Annie [email protected] (I do not claim to be Annie Temple, I just promised I would spread the word about the event!)

Since I don't own a BB, I didn't realize you could look at an ad and click on the number and it would dial. So do I understand this correctly that you can dial from the following, standard presentation of writing phone numbers? (613) 315-2210 Sorry to sound stupid, but what about the brackets around the area code and the dash the phone number? Someone enlighten please.

I think sometimes men are just nervous. They read the site, then call you. They are on the phone, thinking oh god, I have to say something, she's on the phone, :) They, then say whatever pops into their head, which will probably be something that was on your site, because you and what they just read is what they have on their mind. If they write the question in an email, I have no idea, lol

One of the main reasons I chose to stop watching television almost 10 years ago. The commercials were driving me insane, I hated being told what to think, I don't trust the News because the stations are owned by corporations and finally, even with a satellite, there was rarely anything good on! True, I'm on my computer a lot more often, but no T.V. helps me get things done and live life. It is a struggle in the winter though, especially here in Winnie!

All of her rec's are making me wish I could see her, so much work at the moment and not enough time. Thanks to PistolPete, OutForFun and Cato for the great rec's and thanks to Alannah for visiting our fair city, hope to see you next time.