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I am glad you have that type of relationship with your Mother, Isabella.I and many others I am sure have not been so fortunate,I lost my Mother and Sister 3 years ago in a terrible incident.From that day forward my life has been different...I have vowed to always be their for my children..no matter what...they always know I am there.Unfortunately with my Mother I did not have that support but that was just the way she was,,,I think it was just difficult for her as I was adopted at an older age.Somtimes just knowing someone is "there" is all that is needed....such a comfort.alexo

Regulars are now definitely my bread and butter. It only seems to get better the more times I see these ladies, gents and couples. There is always THAT understanding that this is a relationship based on sex and friendship. Thats all. My favourite new clients are outcalls to hotels when they are in town on business. I love upscale hotels and enjoy the amenities they sometimes have to spice things up a bit. One can also be pleasantly surprised by the lengths some of these folks go to, to have the most enjoyable evening. But like a bartender you sometimes engage in personal chit chat as clients relax and understand that I am, above all, discrete. One gent sees only me as I am conveniently located and I satisfy his non-vanilla needs. He has no time nor inclination to see anyone else. I am very flattered by that. He is a Snowbird so I may be losing him for a while, but he has vaguely suggested that he might fly me down for a week and put me up in a hotel. We'll see. I value my regulars very much and rarely see new clients. It happens of course, and my respect for them is as high as my regulars unless they prove otherwise. Everyone is human, everyone is special and deserves to be treated as such in my opinion. Just don't cross me. I have a backbone that can make you wish you never had genitals! ;)

http://www.facebook.com/l.php?u=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.youtube.com%2Fwatch%3Fv%3DSXh7JR9oKVE&h=4f2f4 An unexpected gift that lifts your heart... It has lifted mine. To begin this merry season the right way.

So after a tough week I was feeling kind of frustrated and a little sad today so decided to call home to listen to a friendly voice but my sister picked up and instead of encouragement gave me a lecture ... ugh! Everything changed when she asked if I wanted to talk to mom. I told her what was going on and she told me what I needed to hear so ... How is it moms do to always know what their kids need and how to provide it? Maternal instinct I guess? Whatever it is even though I have my good friends and other important people in my life she is the only one capable of really make me feel better with her words or a hug. Of course we have our disagreements and she does make mistakes but what counts is that she has always been there for me and always forgiven me for when I have failed as a daughter. So you may be wondering why I'm posting this. Well, there's two reasons: - To remind all here who have a great mom to show her appreciation and love. - As a tribute to all the good mothers out there for making such a good job so here goes the super mom logo :)

To all the ladies (and gents) who provided a perspective on this let me extend my appreciation. For the ladies I've seen I think it is safe to say I've become a regular when I feel we've both enjoyed ourselves. But I must admit with that comes a little bit more of an emotional bond which I wondered if was just something us guys are prone to. I know for everyone it will be different but it is nice to know that both sides value the connection that can come with regular meetings. It is also nice to know that these 'regular' relationships are often spawned by yes a good physical experience but also when both parties are treating each with respect and truly appreciate and value each other. Reminds me that this shall be the way I'll continue to interact with those ladies who are kind enough to consider me a 'regular'. Thanks.

I both agree and disagree, asking on initial contact can often make someone very uncomfortable and can be very offensive but it is often how you ask as well. I have had people ask me in an opening email by saying "Are you clean?" "How do I know you don't have a disease?" to which I usually respond with a link for the mens health clinic so they can get themselves tested (though I do giggle when the odd person replies "wait you're a man?"). I've also had others approach the subject by saying "I'm very new to this, I've never seen a lady and have several concerns do you mind if I ask you a few questions?" They will then ask about booking procedures, incall vs. outcall, health information (both testing for themselves - where, is it needed, etc. and for myself) and basic etiquette. In that context I do not mind at all and in fact appreciate that they are taking the time not only to inform themselves but to ask the questions they need to feel comfortable. I also had one very wonderful date that have made it clear that the only concern he had was the STI risks but it was how he asked it that mattered, rather than accusing me he approached it much like he would asking anyone for relationship advice. It was something like this, 'I have often thought about seeing a lady but have always been nervous, I am in a committed relationship and I do not wish to lose that. I know that I can get away for a few hours and see a lady but I've always had this nagging fear that if I see someone (not you specifically) I am opening up our relationship to the risk of disease. I can't really ask my Dr. about this but what types of activities are 'safe' and what are not?" Again I was not offended at all and I doubt many ladies would be, he was not accusing me of having a disease rather expressing a real concern that he would have seeing anyone outside of his relationship. I was happy to answer his question and provide him with whatever information I could, which also included how to get safe anonymous testing. I have also had the conversation with people I have visited over a number of times, it often just comes up and I think just like in any relationship it's good to have a conversation about it. We are all taking some level of risk and just by starting that conversation you are opening up the lines of communication. I want my dates to feel comfortable talking to me about their sexual health, it's important that they have someone to go to should they have a concern and if it may involve me or they have a concern about me I'd prefer they came to me. I understand they do not always have someone at home they can speak to so I think keeping that line of communication open is as valuable to my client as it is to myself. Now as to the fact that you never really have proof, it's true you don't but it's important that you trust your instincts as well. When someone contacts me I look at both what they say and how they say it and go from there. If I get the feeling that someone is being open, honest and is interested in a conversation then I am generally comfortable with their answer as well. In this specific situation having gone through the testing procedure I would ask open questions and start a dialogue, again you can never be too sure but at least I would know if they were knowledgeable and that in itself would provide me with some level of comfort. I have always preferred to deal with those that know their risks and make informed decisions rather than those that move forward blindly.

Since many STDs are easier to transmit from male to female than from female to male, it would make more sense to have mandatory STD testing for hobbyists than for SPs. If there's some reason mandatory testing for hobbyists isn't being considered, perhaps it's worth asking why people show so little reluctance to suggest it for SPs.

Rather than looking for outcall/incall/residence/hotel or whatever, I would focus on the lady. Find a lady who has been around for awhile and who is very positively reviewed. If you choose the right lady, the location shouldn't matter too much.

Regular clients make up for 50% of my business and my income. And when I say regulars, it could be those who see me every week, every 2 weeks or once a month. Then I have other clients that see me a few times a year. They are all important and I try to keep them happy and make the experience interesting every time I see them. It is always nice to be meet with someone you are already familiar with. Yes and I think this works both ways as well. Many clients like variery and often see many other ladies but they always come back. However, I have had experiences where I have been seeing clients for a long time and sometimes things can become mundane or other things happen ( good or bad) and I've decided to stop seeing them. I don't believe in meeting with someone when it becomes a chore or causes me anxiety.It shouldn't be that way so I won't put myself through that as it is also unfair to the client. On rare ocassions, I've been blindsided by a few longtime regulars who have done things that were unacceptable where I ended it immediately and in another case I tried to overlook it but I no longer can and have decided to stop seeing them for good. The financial aspect of it doesn't matter either as my philosophy is I won't put myself in a situation where it will make me upset or uncomfortable for the sake of the almighty dollar. This business can be stressful at times so limiting this sort of thing is always in an SP's best interest.

I can see where both sides are coming from here and I have also been a victim of endless penetrative sex. Don't get me wrong I enjoy it but to a point. I get very frustrated when a client wants nothing other then to get inside of me, just to pound away as hard as they can for the remainder of the hour doing nothing to switch it up or keep me involved. It then seems that they themselves become clock watchers waiting and making sure they get that last thrust and then finishing with not even a minute to spare. There isn't a climax or anything just the same thing over and over and it does get very painful. I never want to sound like the person who wants to leave early or just get it done. It gets to the point though when it becomes very obvious that this person is simply pounding away on you and intentionally taking forever just to get their moneys worth, with no intention of making sure you are turned on in the slightest way. Those are the calls that I do not return.

Absolutely. One should never work less hard to ensure a repeat of the 40th visit than of the 1st. And I'm glad you brought up the part about the gentlemen not taking things for granted. Over the years, I have had to take a break from seeing some regulars who were once my favourite because of precisely that. I give them some time and, in most cases, they come to realize that they value the relationship enough to do right by it -- and me. I hope you don't mind, but I may have quoted you on that a few times over the years. ;) That's actually a sign on the wall at some Transport Canada aviation inspection offices.

There's a never ending supply of first timers in any business and should be treated with respect. They all need to be treated as if they would like to come back and use your services regularly unless of course there's a problem. Repeat customers ( regulars) are extremely important and can provide the majority of income to any legitimate business. The scammers and fly by nighters are only around to rip you off and don't care if you come back or not. I'm a loyal regular of a few ladies which provide me with the variety that I crave and also the familiarity of knowing the ladies I visit. I like to try new girls to see if we click, (OMG there's just too many) but ussually go back to my regulars whom I love. I'm a business man and regular repeat business is where it's at. It's a no brainer. They get treated with priority for sure. So Ladies, if you're serious about treating this as a business, regulars is definately the way to go. :motion::motion::motion:

"Regulars" are what I call the bread and butter clients. Sometimes you never know when they're going to call but you know that within the month you can "probably" count on them. There have been other threads on here about "regulars". As I stated before, some are every couple of weeks, once a month, once every few months. Some will see me twice in one week for two weeks and disappear for a couple of months. I just never know when they're going to call. I think it's different for every lady. I have an SP friend who has a regular Sunday night standing appointment with a gentleman who she says "pays her rent". I know some other ladies who have clients on "retainer". I would think every SP hopes for those types of arrangements. But yes, regulars are the guys you count on when times are slow. I knew after the long Easter weekend, my phone would ring on Tuesday for sure. Some things can be counted on. I normally only see 2 gentlemen a day. I stretched it to 3 and could have easily done 5 appointments. Two of them were regulars. Today was quiet. Who knows what tomorrow brings.

Ahhh, the ?tipping? debate! I noticed there was a decided void in SP response so I will take a minute to share my thoughts? From an agency girl perspective, tipping is often a way to generate extra income because after they pay the agency and the driver, they usually end up on the short end of the stick. 10 years ago, I ran for an agency, we collected $260 for an hour, with $110 going to the house, $40-$100 to the driver depending on where the visit was located, which left me maximum of $110 with as little as $10 in my pocket. With a $15 book on fee and mandatory car cell phone fees of $25 per night, I needed 3 full fees per night to make working worthwhile, God forbid I get credit card calls, which somehow always worked out us getting nothing. We were not allowed to refuse a call so we had to find creative ways to ensure we were paid. Tipping for extra service was the only way to keep our heads above water. The nice thing was that we had a shift, we worked, and we went home and had a life. That said, it was unfair to the guest who would end up with less than what he expected because he was not prepared for the extra fees. Independents are in a slightly different boat. We usually have a higher upfront fee, but we also assume ALL the costs incurred, which is far more than many realize. If we charged what we feel we should to get our ROI, the protests would be heard long and loud. Many Indies have a smaller bottom line than an ambitious girl at a well run agency. So when it comes to tips, many things need to be considered. In the south, SP's are tipped much in the same manner as a restaurant. Anyone walking a restaurant wouldn?t consider walking out without leaving a tip if everything was satisfactory. I tip everyone in the service industry, from the girl who washes my hair, to the man at Suny?s who pumps my gas because a little bit from many adds up at the end of the day. Flowers and trinkets are lovely in thought, but a girl can?t deposit wilted stems into an RRSP, and my bank doesn?t seem to take dildos, massage oil, garter belts or silk stockings on deposit -go figure! As Joyful C has so wisely stated, most SP?s live a fragile existence financially. We provide an illusion of playful luxury for our guests benefit, but rest assured, 90% of the time it is smoke and mirrors. Behind the scenes we struggle to pay our bills, put diapers on our babies and try to take care of those we love, all the while working on a way to get to a normal existence if that does in fact even exist. An extra $20 from each client equals a full appointment by the end of the week, and at the end of the month that pays the cell phone, buys the groceries and lets us take the little ones away for the weekend after we have paid both rents (home and incall), all our advertising, babysitters, hydro, car repairs, personal maintenance and the same expenses everyone else has. Not to mention the monthly payments on augmentation, lifts, tucks and anything else to keep us up to the exceptionally high standards expected if we want to continue making money in this arena. There are few SP?s who can keep up the daily client service to ensure long term financial viability in this business because of the emotional and physical toll this business extracts which sometimes means extended time offs to get our heads, hearts and bodies back in order. We have no paid holidays, benefits or paid personal days. If there is a crisis that forces us to take time off, we lose money and clients which often means we work regardless of illness, pain or any other of lifes challenges. Each SP has her own reasons for working, but the universal element is that we all are trying to achieve some sort of financial stability. I never expect tips, and I can count on one hand how many I have received since my arrival in Canada because of the nature of the business here. Hate to tell you guys, but Canadian men are not known for their generous nature, they rank a close second to Germans in this realm (I think the outlandishly high taxes inflicted in both countries has something to do with it!). I would never expect a tip from guests that have me on retainer, I see them weekly. But unless you are going to be a bankable commodity in a SP?s life, a tip relative to the quality of service is a sure way to say thank you and have her know you mean it... Catherine