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6 years ago this March, 4 US Marshalls escorted me shackled on a flight to Canada. I had a jailhouse uniform of gray track pants, a wife beater and a sweatshirt. I had a box with books, my comb, a toothbrush and a pair of running shoes. $26 in my pocket, No ID, no contacts but some estranged distant family here in Canada. I spent $13 on a shuttle from Pearson to Union Station to put a fellow deportee on a train to Montreal so they could get to their family. I walked across the street to the Royal York, put my box down, sat on it and marveled at how thin Canadians are and realized how cold it was without a coat here. Made it to Ottawa after a couple weeks of bouncing around Toronto streets and a friend brought Vivian (my Volvo) from the US. I lived in Vivian for the next 5 months working for every agency here in town at the same time and starved. I was lucky to do an appointment a week because I was "too old". I lived off of dinners from guys on Quest and washing up in the Tim Hortons around the city. I slept in the Kettleman's parking lot and down at the Byward Museum watching the city at night. Hurricane Katrina had pushed gas up to $1.35. I was being sent to Rockland and Almont for $90 after agency fees. A guest talked me into going independent but I didn't understand the online business here and didn't have a computer. I used Quest aquaintences computers for the first couple of months. I literally lived on carrots, yogurt and a couple of hot meals a week from Quest guys. Sometimes I would order way too much food so I could have some for later and I would make it last for days. The poor guys must have thought I was a greedy cow! If you are reading this...I apologize! I didn't realize how traumatized I was then, I just toodled around and smiled doing my thing. A Quest dinner date handed me keys to his place and told me to come over if I needed a shower or a safe place to lie down. We have become life long friends. I have started over a couple of times in my life, but this time was by far the financially poorest ever. It has been a bit of a roller coaster but I don't fear being dispossessed anymore. I know I could lose everything I have and I would be fine. I was happy altho a little stressed. I am still amazed at the patience and kindness so many people showed me. Not a day goes by that I don't look around and give thanks to what I have. Life is still a little hectic but I get by and that's really all I need... cat

Why does having multiple sexual partners without protection make a lady a slut??? vs, I assume by extension, having multiple sexual partners with protectiondoes not make a lady a slut And why the double standard anyway, in this day and age?...when sexual intercourse takes place, it is between partners...why the stigmatization and labeling of the woman, while the man, no such labels And really, in this day and age why moral laden labels around sex and sexuality. Labels (which to me are offensive) such as slut and whore, while found in the dictionary are used in a derogatory and hateful way, from individuals who believe they are morally superior...well no one is superior to anyone else, and be careful who you judge, because there are others who may feel morally superior to you and judge you to RG

You know when you sing that song and look at Cindy's avatar, I swear you can see the Golden Arches ... with nipples!

Why would you want a bunch of strangers knowing where you are? To me, this just seems like it has huge potential to attract stalkers. I never really understood doing it on Facebook either. I mean, if I'm not actually physically hanging out with you, why do I give a shit where you are? Sometimes technology gives us shit we don't need.

If I only knew then... 1. Forget about the focus on a career...it never materialized (don't get me wrong, I have a good paying job, but I've been stuck in it for 26 years) 2. Don't have alot of friends, but the ones I have are good true friends, the rest aquaintances/co-workers. 3. If I had known how my dating/relationship life was going to turn out, I would have started hobbying much much much sooner in life...and from my experience, the ladies I've met hobbying have been much better than the ones I dated 4. No matter what, family is important. 5. Generally speaking (some exceptions to this) nobody is better than somebody else, we all have our strengths and weaknesses. Yes, someone may be down one day...help them up, because tomorrow you may be the person that is down Some ramblings RG

First of all, the sexism is uncalled for. Second, do you think ANYONE's personal preference is to get an STD? Thirdly, the safest way to have sex is to use protection, whether in the sex industry or not. And for the record, I erroneously gave you rep points when I meant to take them away. As I said in my comment, your distaste for women who are sexually active is particularly offensive considering we sell sex for a living.

TWO CHANGES 1) The ladies are now permitted to respond in any general discussion area to threads if they can accommodate a specific request. For instance if a guy is looking for a lady who visits couples the ladies can respond telling the guys that they offer that service. Blatant advertising outside the announcement area is still not permitted to please DO NOT abuse this new rule. 2) The ladies are now permitted to also PM the guys if they publicly ask for a specific service. A PM in reply to a public thread asking for specific info will no longer be considered UNSOLICITED advertising as long as a thread was made asking for info. Blatant advertising by PM is still not permitted so please DO NOT abuse this new rule either. BULK advertising on the PM SYSTEM will get you in BIG trouble still. Rules have been updated to reflect this new change

IMHO.....Nope (as long as it's done the way that particular lady likes it)

I'm afraid I have to question your logic here. If age ain't nothing but a number, why is not knowing it reason for you to move on? :???: I'm with you on the second bit... but not having an age or a date of birth on a profile is no reason not to investigate further, IMHO.

I would beg to differ on this age thing. Having 25 years in this industry it can hurt more than help to put ones exact age out there. I am someone that doesn't have my profile filled out. I may do it, but it isn't something I feel inclined to do. I do not need to have my "information" out there for anyone to peruse at their leisure. If someone is curious about me, they can simply ask me. I've never been a supporter of the "wide open" methods of promotion, it undermines the dance of seduction for me personally. I don't enjoy seeing every little detail either in photograph or word, I prefer to allow the imagination to tantilize my thoughts of someone. It's the communication between two people that is key and reading a persons stats on a page is a one dimensional view. I understand it is a good jump off point for some but it doesn't ensure that you won't miss a great connection or have an experience that falls short. cat