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This thread follows a question asked in another one in the general forum (http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=48326&page=3). SP ONLY AREA is ours to communicate the most confidentially possible. It is not for you guys to follow up our observations about some of you. It is ours and ours only. No need to ask, and as for myself, if you ask me, I will consider it as a breach to my intimacy, and into our safety. Please, do respect this and not bring it up. It's rude and unsafe. Oh, and please, if an SP talks to you about it, please report her immediatly, since she may do it with the wrong person. ThXxX!

I started this thread because of a reply I made on another thread that got me thinking about how my life as an SP has changed the way I socialize. For me in a small city, I find that I have to be very careful of who I let in on my secret. As an example: If I meet you, and you become an acquaintance frequenting the same neighborhood pub. As time goes on, we would get to know each other a bit more. Eventually the question is asked"what do you do?" Well, I will use my cover story. Not that I am ashamed but, I feel if they knew, then my personal safety my be at jeopardy, reputation can be damaged, and God forbid if I offend anyone! They will use that info for extortion. It has happened once before. Someone found out what I did, they had a "hate on" for me. They had the same landlord, and managed to get me kicked out of my apartment! But there does come a point, that I do have to be honest about my work. Say I get to know these people at my local pub. And now, they want to hang out with me. Say either come to my place for eats and drinks. The phone starts to ring, so I try to make excuses of why I run out of the room every time. Or, why I have to ask them all to leave suddenly. Eventually I will run out of excuses. I will have to risk it and tell them. Then the ball is their court to decide to continue the acquaintance/ friendship. But now they know, those who do not approve go back to my pub and spills the beans! OH OH, now all eyes are on me as I enter! So now those people know what I do and where I live!! So now, If you are a mere acquaintance. And you know what I do....I will not let you know where I live! Or if you know where I live....you will not know what I do! Dating......well don't need to. But there is always someone in the background asking me out. "would you like to go dancing Friday night? or Want to hangout? I want to say sure, but that means I need them to know that if I am hanging out with you, and my phone rings, you may have to leave. This can get very messy! Then there are the girlfriends of my male friends who think I am going to put the moves on there man cause I am a w***e! For me I would never never never do that! Business is business, I don't bring it to the bar! So then I am in mess of...The girls want to kill me, the guy's want to f*** me! So for these reasons, I need to protect myself. I tend to only have 1 GF who knows, and a guy friend( usually someone who is hoping to land me as GF) and that is it! It can get lonely and difficult to maintain meaningful friendships. I am so thankful that here on CERB I do not have to worry about all of that. I have made meaningful friendships without risking it all! It is also hard on those that travel a lot. Being on the road must be difficult! If there any SP's that come here to my town, and feel bored or lonely. Don't hesitate to PM me. We can have supper, have a drink and gossip! I would like to hear how our profession has changed your social life? If at all? How do you handle awkward moments when with your friends?

DO NOT USE PERFUME ON OR AROUND YOUR GENITALS, this is a no no. Just saying.

Three people know that I'm a paid companion. All of them are very close friends. None of them lives in B.C. My friends in Vancouver don't know anything about what really pays the rent and I intend to keep it that way. I have two sons. The entire time I've worked as a companion, first one was, and now the other is, a teenager. I think that teens have enough to do when it comes to figuring out sex and relationships that they shouldn't have to deal with their parents' sex lives. My younger son is very open with me about what goes on in his life, his interest in girls, what he's doing in the hope that this one might pay attention to him, or that one might think of him as potential boyfriend material. He also says, very clearly, that as far as he's concerned, I'm not a woman; I was never a girl; I don't have sex, never have had sex and have no interest in or plans for having sex in the future. I'm his Mom. Period. That works for me, particularly since he came up with it on his own. I date, a bit, now and then--nice men who are usually between relationships. I tell them a lot of true things about myself: I make a great transitional girlfriend, but my primary focus is my children and after that, my painting or my writing. I'm not easy to be with. I need a lot of solitude. I'm moody, sometimes. I'm frequently preoccupied with things I can't express in words. I'm a great listener when I'm ready to listen; the rest of the time, not so much. I don't think I want to be a wife, or facsimile, anytime soon. This works, too. I just tell the truth but I leave out the part about being other men's paid companion. I'm not ashamed of what I do but, in addition to wanting to keep this out of my sons' lives, I do notice that most men don't share very well. I have a lot of friends, I do volunteer work in the community and I'm on the board of a charitable organization. I have no trouble filling up my time in meaningful ways. Sometimes I chafe a bit about compartmentalizing my life, but I continue to feel that it's the right thing for me. If I were to "out" myself to other people, not only would I have to spend a lot of time dealing with their uninformed thoughts, prejudices and feelings, but I would also have to be concerned about what they might do with the information. That's not something I want to deal with. This reminds me of a great blog post I read a couple of years ago, Born Whore's It's You I'm Afraid Of.

There are people who are chronically unhappy no matter what they are doing and those that are happy no matter what they have to do in all walks of life. An unhappy person says "I'll be happy when...." but when that blank gets filled in they are still unhappy. Being happy is a personal decision that comes with acceptance of what is. There is abuse in this industry and most SPs are bent in some way or another as are we all. As I have said before; little girls don't decide to be an SP when they grow up. Life happens and they find themselves in it. What they decide to make of it determines whether or not they are successful. cat

I find the abuse and exploitation is only from society and the media. Am I happy with my choice? That is a tricky one. I started too young, long before we had a community like this! My life would be different I am sure had I not taken this path. The biggest part that I face now is that there is no pension plan for me, no health benefits. So for that reason, I wish I had been older when I got into this industry. I would have been wiser to these facts. However, I love my life! I find myself asking what else is there that I want to do now? Honestly,no, I love my work. If that lady was a member here, then she must have not spent time getting to know the great people we conduct business with!

This morning I realized something I already knew but as many things in life, we appreciate them but tend to forget. I know it has been discussed here how us service or massage providers sometimes have to deal with certain difficult issues when having to meet a person we know very little about and get intimate with him : lack of respect or hygiene, overstaying, etc . But hey! What about the truly gentlemen we get to meet? Those who show up on time, follow our requests, in other words, treat us with respect. I as many ladies here don't ask/expect any gifts from my guests however they often surprise us with a bottle of wine, chocolates, gift certificates, etc . Which of course are very much appreciated. And what about when they go out of their way to do something nice for us? Yes, it happens. Just yesterday this great guy fixed my door lock for me (something I had a hard time with for months). If could I would write a recommendation on those gentlemen I probably would but since that is not possible here which makes complete sense since they would be receiving PM's like crazy lol. I really want to thank them, even the ones I have not had the pleasure to meet on behalf of all the other ladies here :) xx Isabella Gia

Disclaimer: I realize that the majority of you are paying for a sexual service and that your needs should be met within the boundaries of the escort in question. That is the service I am providing. However, that being said, I would like to call attention to what I like to refer to as "jack-hammering." This is basically extended penetrative sex and nothing else. You may be convinced that good sex requires only penetration and stamina--as well all know, women want a man who can last (I hope you can sense the sarcasm there), or perhaps it is purely selfish on your part, you do want to get your money's worth after all. So you pound your paid sex partner, over and over, squeezing in every possible available second. In which case, I am not a blow-up doll. I am not an object solely for your use. Keep in mind, I do not think it is a problem, for example, if you would like to simply pay to receive a blowjob, provided you realize the skill and time involved in administering a good blowjob. And I do not think penetrative sex itself is bad. But if you are interested in engaging in a full range of sexual behaviour, please realize that "sex" does not simply equal penetration for as long as humanly possible. After awhile it is painful, un-stimulating and rather boring. If a woman is not turned on, she doesn't create those delicious lubricating fluids that can make penetrative sex so wonderful. So take the time to pay attention to things like kissing and groping and licking and nibbling and so on. If the first thing you're going for is penetration, you have skipped so many amazing, naughty fun things to do to one another. While we are providing a very intimate service, aimed at generating your pleasure and satisfaction, we have emotions, and physical limits. So keep that in mind the next time you're with your favourite lady. Happy pooning!

No matter what our kids and the new generation think about us, WE ARE AWESOME !!! OUR Lives are LIVING PROOF !!! To Those of Us Born 1925 - 1970 : ''''''''' TO ALL THE KIDS WHO SURVIVED THE 1930s, '40s, '50s, '60s and '70s!! First, we survived being born to mothers who may have smoked and/or drank while they were pregnant. They took aspirin, ate blue cheese dressing, tuna from a can, and didn't get tested for diabetes.. Then, after that trauma, we were put to sleep on our tummies in baby cribs covered with bright colored lead-based paints. We had no childproof lids on medicine bottles, locks on doors or cabinets, and, when we rode our bikes, we had baseball caps, not helmets, on our heads. As infants and children, we would ride in cars with no car seats, no booster seats, no seat belts, no air bags, bald tires and sometimes no brakes.. Riding in the back of a pick- up truck on a warm day was always a special treat. We drank water from the garden hose and not from a bottle. We shared one soft drink with four friends, from one bottle, and no one actually died from this. We ate cupcakes, white bread, real butter, and bacon. We drank Kool-Aid made with real white sugar. And we weren't overweight. WHY? Because we were always outside playing...that's why! We would leave home in the morning and play all day, as long as we were back when the streetlights came on. No one was able to reach us all day. --And, we were OKAY.. We would spend hours building our go-carts out of scraps and then ride them down the hill, only to find out we forgot the brakes.. After running into the bushes a few times, we learned to solve the problem. We did not have Play Stations, Nintendos and X-boxes. There were no video games, no 150 channels on cable, no video movies or DVDs, no surround-sound or CDs, no cell phones, no personal computers, no Internet and no chat rooms. WE HAD FRIENDS and we went outside and found them! We fell out of trees, got cut, broke bones and teeth, and there were no lawsuits from those accidents.. We would get spankings with wooden spoons, switches, ping-pong paddles, or just a bare hand, and no one would call child services to report abuse. We ate worms, and mud pies made from dirt, and the worms did not live in us forever. We were given BB guns for our 10th birthdays, made up games with sticks and tennis balls, and We rode bikes or walked to a friend's house and knocked on the door or rang the bell, or just walked in and talked to them. Little League had tryouts and not everyone made the team. Those who didn't had to learn to deal with disappointment. Imagine that!! The idea of a parent bailing us out if we broke the law was unheard of. They actually sided with the law! These generations have produced some of the best risk-takers, problem solvers, and inventors ever. The past 50 to 85 years have seen an explosion of innovation and new ideas.. We had freedom, failure, success and responsibility, and we learned how to deal with it all. If YOU are one of those born between 1925-1970, CONGRATULATIONS! You might want to share this with others who have had the luck to grow up as kids before the lawyers and the government regulated so much of our lives for our own good. While you are at it, forward it to your kids, so they will know how brave and lucky their parents were. Kind of makes you want to run through the house with scissors, doesn't it ? '''''''

I don't think that people you hang out with casually at a bar are necessarily friends. I also don't think that you necessarily should feel compelled to invite everyone over to your place to hang out either lol. I don't see anything wrong with you going to the pub, hangout and socialize just like any other working stiff, and go home on your own. Maybe you get invited to someone else's place, but I don't think you should overly worry about having people at your place if the phone rings. Just don't invite them!! And if you are out and want to be out for a rest from work, don't answer your phone when you are around people! Just leave a message on there that asks someone to call you back tomorrow, and give yourself a night off. If however you are trying to work and go out and socialize and do it all at once, then you will have to leave the (noisy) room to answer the phone. If you then come back to the bar and say you have to leave, I doubt if anyone is going to think twice about it since they know you just had a phone call. I don't see any good reason to tell anyone at this level of "friendship" anything about yourself. But also, it is always a danger of running into a client now and then, wherever you might end up. The trouble if you encounter them in a bar, where you might seem to be into having fun and hanging out, is they will want to go beyond client/sp status and be your BFF. And that could lead to trouble if you don't handle it right, and they get a little drunk into them then decide to tell everyone. Always best to hang out at a place you are unlikely to run into someone you know from "work" lol. I've run into someone I know at a flea market that is literally a 40 minute drive from my place, which is located about 8 blocks from that client's home. I have never run into him here, but managed to run into him there. What's the odds of that?

You have to understand that for advertising purposes, all the girls will say that they are happy. It's not written in a thread and nobody will come out of the closet saying they get beaten up for not brigning the money in... Your article is quite interesting in a self-examination point. When I read it, I discovered that: -I'm a seductive (now) mature woman; -My skills have me known in some places I never heard of; -I met people (ladies and gents) I would never have otherwise; -I had rich and amazing experience either with the clients or escorts; -I've met friends that are very important to me, still and forever; -... -I had huge problems with money; -I had stalkers; -I met discusting people (in acting or being); -I neglected myself as a person (lack of sleep, bad alimentation, family...) -... The good list is, for me, way longer then the bad one, so yes, I'm happy with what I'm doing, but there's some change I had to make to live it better, to the foolest!

I agree with all of you regarding the information in the SP area being exclusive for the ladies that have access to it but I don't think the gentleman in the thread mentioned by the OP was asking for any information there. From my point of view he simply said he would be concerned that for not following up a date with a lady who did not use accurate pictures he could be considered a bad date and this would create bad reputation with other ladies.

I am very klutzy, and have had many "fail moments", but there are 2 that stand out in my mind the most! 1. This one happened just after I became an SP. I was renting a room from a friend, and only had a hand me down pull out couch. The client and I had met a couple times before that and he decided this time he wanted to do missionary. We just got going and the frame decided it did not want to be out, and the bed proceeded to go back up into the couch. My client was thrown over the back of the couch, and I was sucked up in the couch. The guy could not stop laughing, he said all he could see was my legs sticking out of the couch. 2. I was thinking about doing duo's with one of the girls around here, and we decided to meet and get to know one another. Well she was attractive, and she thought I was too so we decided to do pictures together. During the photo shoot she decided to joke around and lunge at me, she sent me flying off the end of the bed, and I hit the floor with a loud thunk! HAHA Needless to say we both laughed so hard the photo shoot ended.

For Shortcake. I know what you are sayin' Hun! I also do not use the word friend easily! And yes, I too found my true friends are here on cerb as well, I often say to myself" why does it matter to them how I pay my rent?!" LOL..

She's here on cerb http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/member.php?u=16414

Although single, a week before my once a month encounter I cut out beef, onion and garlic. And 3-4 days before the encounter I eat fresh pineapple every day, and drink pineapple juice. RG

I think April is on the right track...make it an adventure, something fun, be inventive! If you make it seem like a chore she will perceive it as such. Make it about slow sensual erotic mutual pleasure. Soft lighting, sexy music, porn in the background, wine, sensuous foods....take it slow and let it build. I know that I am not turned on by "I want you to suck my c*&k" Make it part of an experience not a 5 minute interlude. Don't forget...romance goes a long way to a woman!

My food for thought....heaven for bid someone having to much to drink and then on his way home after an appointment with you....harms himself or others in a MVA....no disrespect to everyone's opinions on this thread but I wouldn't want this on my conscious. I do not support drinking alcohol during a session....keep it professional....drinking at work don't mix well! Sorry friends this is my take on it! Too avoid a situation don't put yourself in it! Stick to non-alcoholic beverages.

I am allergic to alcohol, and do not appreciate drinking of any kind during our meetings. I will offer a variety of non alcoholic beverages, but will never have alcohol available. If a client wishes to bring alcohol I will advise him of my allergy and if he is still persistent I will refuse the appointment. I have also had some show up and did not think I could smell the alcohol on them. Because I do not drink I am highly sensitive to the smell of it. I can smell any alcohol a mile away. Even if you try to cover it up with gum or mouthwash. If a client wishes to drink on his time that is none of my business, but during my time, it is a sign of respect not to drink. This is just my 2 cents and not meant to offend anyone!

I call for a lady every Saturday, but OUTCALLS:lovers:. That way rain or shine won't impact me. Today, however, I gave the young lady a ride back to her hotel which meant driving in pouring rain, however, a young blondie sitting right next to me, I didn't notice the whether lol:icon_smile:.

I stay out of the rain....I am so sweet I melt....hehehehehe..ya right!

I suck at giving massages, but I give great head. End of story. Haha.

Seeing as it's my last supper, in keeping with original traditions, instead of with 12 disciples, I would have supper with 12 favorite ladies, and on a Friday Since I haven't got to 12 favorite ladies (but I do have a couple)...yet, I have time before the last supper takes place But back to the supper Start off with a breakfast, coffee, juice, buffet of pancakes, french toast, waffles, eggs benedict, sausages, bacon, and back bacon (plus whatever the ladies would like added to the buffet) Then we begin saying goodbyes properly Then we have oysters on the half shell, steamed mussels followed by a lobster dinner (served for lunch) The lunch menu would include any special requests from the ladies Then continue to spend the afternoon relaxing, saying goodbyes properly Then at supper we have a menu so the ladies can get what they want, but for me, a greek salad to start, porterhouse steak, fried mushrooms and baked potato We finish dinner, go back to saying goodbyes. Then a late night desert and coffee/tea...black forest cake sounds good to me Then it's over But on the Sunday, the rock is rolled away from my tomb...I'll peer out, and if I see my shadow, in 6 weeks I'll be back and hobbying RG

A large donair and a bottle of diet coke.

I love the chat room. My goal is to meet as many members as possible and get to know what makes them tic! You will never see me solicit, you will never see me harass, you will never see me go outside the boundaries. I have no problem answering questions about myself, my services etc... but... I expect in return.... Do not ask me to show my face nor any nudity on cam and if my cam is not on, it's for a reason. Do not request a private chat in order to get online sex talk. Do not try to negotiate with me based on what you believe to be a lesser service. Do not ask me for more pics...I do have albums, don't be so lazy. Sorry if anyone feels that I have disrespected them. In the open chat we all have a fab time but there are limits. I love private chat until it becomes apparent that someone is just using me for jerk off material. Please keep chat the fun place that it is! Today at lunch time it was an absolute blast!!!!

I always like to pleasure my lady first,by sensual kissing,erotic touching,exploring her body from head to yes toes too!, giving her long lasting oral (which I thoroughly enjoy and getting most excellent at with age and experience ;) ) In a particular hour appointment I like to explore her first so she can orgasm and enjoy herself. It actually really turns me on when she grabs my hair on my head,and pulls or pushes my head deeper between her legs. It is a known fact is most men really don't last a real long time penetrating, therefore personally I like mutual satisfaction. I normally enjoy the ride at the end of the date, and stop and use multiple positions. Eroticism and sensuality go hand in hand, pleasure each other and it will leave you breathless and sore muscles after,if done correctly by both parties.Both of you will enjoy it more,at least that is what I find.

I am so happy beautiful Berlin is discussing this issue! I wish some of you knew this: The female body it is made for multiple orgasmic experiences thus if you care to make us come and have an eletric session with you. All you have to do is ask us: How do you prefer? Where and how can i pleasure your body, breasts, thights? How can i perform date on you, to arouse you? We are in the age of the Godess, thus most sexually confident female knows what she likes and dislikes in bed. Some of you even get mad at me when i try to give you tips on my sexual likes and dislikes. And some of you are all about been generous and sensual according to my personal sexual preferences in order to make the best of our encounter and the result it is hot sex mmmmmmmmmmmmmm! Some guy even told me it is "natural to penetrate a lady hard". I would say the word natural it is a dangerous word to use in sexuality and aesthetics. It is natural to allow gas to flow freely, should i fart on your face during sex because it is natural? No right? I prefer gentle and slow sex, but once i am more warm up i will ask for more action. I think desire and lust should lead in bed, not the strength of your male hips. I would prefer that you touch my arms, my legs and my back and my waist and my back before you touch any sexual part of my body, and please be gentle and please warm up your hands before touching us. The beauty is: Some of you already aim to please, but you are rare and you know who you are;). When you penetrate us hard without any care to increase our pleasure we just want to make you come asap, because it hurts.