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I LOVE THE STRIPCLUB. I went to Barb's last night for my birthday celebrations and I had a blast. The place was pretty busy, and it was hard getting girls attention sometimes (only three girls came to our table all night), but it was still fucking amazing. I got private dances from a really hot French girl named Jenna. I ran into the famous Cat and she treated me to a number of dances from Jenna. Then, I had dances with this REALLY REALLY HOT dirty blonde. I can't remember her name unfortunately. But she was amazing. And so sweet. I got private dances from her and then later my partner sprung for a couples dance from her and SHE WENT DOWN ON ME. It was nuts. I was in heaven. Boob heaven. God I love boobs.

There is one analogy that I often use for being in the adult industry. Being an SP is like being in the Mafia. Once you are initiated in you can never go back. Yes, you can always leave but it will always be a part of you. Please don't take offense to this as I am not necessarily trying to put a negative spin on the industry here or comparing it directly to organized crime only how it has its parallels or similarities where and how we present ourselves to the regular world and mainly because of the secrets we often have to keep. To the outside world the adult industry is mainly considered underground as is the Mafia. Both are considered seedy, dangerous, illegal to society. Everything is done secretly, quietly and when you do hear about the mafia or prostitution, it is sensationalized to appeal to the public. Many women are often constantly denying what they are doing or living a double life for fear of the stigma that will be attached to them, fear of being arrested where prostitution is illegal, etc. Seperates lives, seperate friends, many have cover jobs, etc. Being in this business does not come without its consequences and sacrifices that SPs often have to endure and it does affect your day-to-day life or where relationships are concerned which is why I use the analogy above. On a positive note, it does have it's advantages (aside from the lucrative aspect) which is what keeps me here. I have also met a lot of great people contrary to how the media portrays customers of escorts and vice versa.

I started this thread because of a reply I made on another thread that got me thinking about how my life as an SP has changed the way I socialize. For me in a small city, I find that I have to be very careful of who I let in on my secret. As an example: If I meet you, and you become an acquaintance frequenting the same neighborhood pub. As time goes on, we would get to know each other a bit more. Eventually the question is asked"what do you do?" Well, I will use my cover story. Not that I am ashamed but, I feel if they knew, then my personal safety my be at jeopardy, reputation can be damaged, and God forbid if I offend anyone! They will use that info for extortion. It has happened once before. Someone found out what I did, they had a "hate on" for me. They had the same landlord, and managed to get me kicked out of my apartment! But there does come a point, that I do have to be honest about my work. Say I get to know these people at my local pub. And now, they want to hang out with me. Say either come to my place for eats and drinks. The phone starts to ring, so I try to make excuses of why I run out of the room every time. Or, why I have to ask them all to leave suddenly. Eventually I will run out of excuses. I will have to risk it and tell them. Then the ball is their court to decide to continue the acquaintance/ friendship. But now they know, those who do not approve go back to my pub and spills the beans! OH OH, now all eyes are on me as I enter! So now those people know what I do and where I live!! So now, If you are a mere acquaintance. And you know what I do....I will not let you know where I live! Or if you know where I live....you will not know what I do! Dating......well don't need to. But there is always someone in the background asking me out. "would you like to go dancing Friday night? or Want to hangout? I want to say sure, but that means I need them to know that if I am hanging out with you, and my phone rings, you may have to leave. This can get very messy! Then there are the girlfriends of my male friends who think I am going to put the moves on there man cause I am a w***e! For me I would never never never do that! Business is business, I don't bring it to the bar! So then I am in mess of...The girls want to kill me, the guy's want to f*** me! So for these reasons, I need to protect myself. I tend to only have 1 GF who knows, and a guy friend( usually someone who is hoping to land me as GF) and that is it! It can get lonely and difficult to maintain meaningful friendships. I am so thankful that here on CERB I do not have to worry about all of that. I have made meaningful friendships without risking it all! It is also hard on those that travel a lot. Being on the road must be difficult! If there any SP's that come here to my town, and feel bored or lonely. Don't hesitate to PM me. We can have supper, have a drink and gossip! I would like to hear how our profession has changed your social life? If at all? How do you handle awkward moments when with your friends?

Not to get in the great debate about politics and failed Leaders, OR WHO to vote for, lets look at this picture that really burns my ass.... 4 elections in 2004,2006,2008 and 2011... last election cost..... What was the cost of the 2008 general election? The total estimated cost of the 2008 general election is just under $290 million, as stated in the Report of the Chief Electoral Officer of Canada on the 40th General Election. NOW DO YA THINK we could of done something a lot better with that KIND OF COIN??? 4 TIMES 290 MILLION..Like feed homeless,house homeless,hire more nurses,get more beds in hospitals the list goes on and on......NO we get to pay for these A-holes flying and driving around the country... My bad,my rant about it all.

I think I quoted the wrong thread someone earlier had said that Michael Ignatti (sic) lost the last election. But Dion lost the last election. I must have been extremely tired after work. Didn't mean to shout hit caps by accident. sorry. Leanne was a good member on cerb and I would love to see this thread closed and we leave the young lady alone.

We are all different, but for me, I would not be able to do this if I had a boyfriend or s/o. I have been single for over a whole decade, and unfortunately will probably be single for a while longer!!! Although I have had many 9-5 jobs through out the past decade, in between, I would still see 2 regular clients. The type of man I would choose to be with in a relationship would not be ok with this. I may be open sexually (while I am single) but actually very "old fashioned" in the sense when it comes to "commitment". Being single allows me do to this, otherwise I would not. FOR ME personally, I have no desire to be in a relationship with a man who has no issues with me performing sexual services for men...like I said, I am old fashioned.

In my experience as an SP, I have always found it good to have other employment and other interests outside of this to live a more balanced lifestyle. I have regular friends and I have friends who are SPs. Both are great but I have always kept it separate.

I find that some women in the hobby can be isolated and maybe even a bit lonely. Most can't share their experiences with folks outside the game much like most hobbyists can't either. I've always been some one people feel very comfortable talking to as I'm a very open person, like people a lot, take an interest, am a good listener, experienced and non judgemental. Subsequently the more I see some one the more they seem to want to talk and I'm cool with that as I'm not there to pound away for an hour any way. Sp's often report that some clients see them because they're looking for a sympathetic ear or some one to talk to and I've found at times the opposite to be true. Sort of funny that I can end up being the one monitoring the time. This can be a very tough gig and the participants should never lose sight of that and be good to each other. We're in this together after all. Peace MG

Only problem with politics is the choices, do you really think we'd get better with Iggy, Jack Layton or Gilles Ducieppe. Not one of the leaders or parties really gives a rat's a$$ about Joe and Jane Q Public. RG

The desires of parents for their children has to be difficult. One poster previously wrote that when they were a little girl the choice of a career as an SP was not on the list. Based on the society in which we live, I would doubt that it would be on the list for too many parents for their kids as well. That I believe is probably a reality. The opposing reality is that many women, for whatever reason, have chosen to do this, either in the short term or the long. And THAT puts parents in a spot. For some I expect the ability to support their child in whatever endeavor is just built in. For others, based on who knows what factors, that ability may not be be there initially, or maybe even permanently. We do not know the answer to that. The idea of being rejected by my parents would have been devastating, and the idea of rejecting any of my children is totally foreign to me. All that I can think to say is that for a person who finds themselves in this position and who feels a sense of hurt or loss because of it, then that hurt or loss demonstrates a love and desire for those very same parents. To walk away from them and close the door makes it I would think far harder to open it again in the future. So don't walk away, don't slam the door, and try to maintain even to a minimal degree some level of contact that will be there for a time when peoples opinions change, peoples needs change, and for when people realize that the family is the most important unit of all.

This question has been one that has been in my mind since my initial foray into the world of SP's and hobbyists. As I have said before, I would not want to be taking advantage of another person for any reason. By the mere reality of having two people meet, a personna is portrayed for each of the participants. This personna we must remember is a two way street. The SP and the client each present their own versions of who they are. The reality and honest portrayal is up to each individual to present, or to mask, whatever the case may be. Speaking for myself all that I can do is meet each person and treat them as an individual and give them the same respect that I would like to have myself. If one person at a time, be they SP or hobbyist did that then we all would be better off for it.

close to hotel i hope ha ha ha

No matter what our kids and the new generation think about us, WE ARE AWESOME !!! OUR Lives are LIVING PROOF !!! To Those of Us Born 1925 - 1970 : ''''''''' TO ALL THE KIDS WHO SURVIVED THE 1930s, '40s, '50s, '60s and '70s!! First, we survived being born to mothers who may have smoked and/or drank while they were pregnant. They took aspirin, ate blue cheese dressing, tuna from a can, and didn't get tested for diabetes.. Then, after that trauma, we were put to sleep on our tummies in baby cribs covered with bright colored lead-based paints. We had no childproof lids on medicine bottles, locks on doors or cabinets, and, when we rode our bikes, we had baseball caps, not helmets, on our heads. As infants and children, we would ride in cars with no car seats, no booster seats, no seat belts, no air bags, bald tires and sometimes no brakes.. Riding in the back of a pick- up truck on a warm day was always a special treat. We drank water from the garden hose and not from a bottle. We shared one soft drink with four friends, from one bottle, and no one actually died from this. We ate cupcakes, white bread, real butter, and bacon. We drank Kool-Aid made with real white sugar. And we weren't overweight. WHY? Because we were always outside playing...that's why! We would leave home in the morning and play all day, as long as we were back when the streetlights came on. No one was able to reach us all day. --And, we were OKAY.. We would spend hours building our go-carts out of scraps and then ride them down the hill, only to find out we forgot the brakes.. After running into the bushes a few times, we learned to solve the problem. We did not have Play Stations, Nintendos and X-boxes. There were no video games, no 150 channels on cable, no video movies or DVDs, no surround-sound or CDs, no cell phones, no personal computers, no Internet and no chat rooms. WE HAD FRIENDS and we went outside and found them! We fell out of trees, got cut, broke bones and teeth, and there were no lawsuits from those accidents.. We would get spankings with wooden spoons, switches, ping-pong paddles, or just a bare hand, and no one would call child services to report abuse. We ate worms, and mud pies made from dirt, and the worms did not live in us forever. We were given BB guns for our 10th birthdays, made up games with sticks and tennis balls, and We rode bikes or walked to a friend's house and knocked on the door or rang the bell, or just walked in and talked to them. Little League had tryouts and not everyone made the team. Those who didn't had to learn to deal with disappointment. Imagine that!! The idea of a parent bailing us out if we broke the law was unheard of. They actually sided with the law! These generations have produced some of the best risk-takers, problem solvers, and inventors ever. The past 50 to 85 years have seen an explosion of innovation and new ideas.. We had freedom, failure, success and responsibility, and we learned how to deal with it all. If YOU are one of those born between 1925-1970, CONGRATULATIONS! You might want to share this with others who have had the luck to grow up as kids before the lawyers and the government regulated so much of our lives for our own good. While you are at it, forward it to your kids, so they will know how brave and lucky their parents were. Kind of makes you want to run through the house with scissors, doesn't it ? '''''''

Good lord, saying 'poor girl' here is a complete oxymoron. And regardless of whether or not there was anything illegal going on, the fact that she was an escort is integral to how all of this came to be in the first place. Do you think this couple met at a mixer for affluent, influential, retirement-aged men and barely out of their teens Paris Hilton wannabe's? If she wasn't an escort, most here reading this story would be whispering 'golddigger' under their breath. But no, instead it's a tragedy about the media outing a girl who was once a popular SP here. And she's been tied to this man for a least a few months as a fiancee, as a homeowner, with a Mercedes - yet when did her website with pictures clearly showing her face go down? How monumentally stupid are these people? Poor girl my ass. This story has more than a few similarities to the recent Macklem drama. The blatantly callous and malicious aspect is missing, but the age old fable of foolish men with money and a simple young girl using sex to get into that life of luxury is all there.

I totally agree with this. I'm genuinely not trying to ruffle any SP feathers with what I'm about to say, but I think questions about business should be kept in the SP-only section. Why? Because these men are not here to help our business! Reminding them that we are 'working' or are not busy are not the ways to change that. We are part of a fantasy for them, and reminding them of the business aspect ruins that in many ways. I've heard from many hobbiests that they've been messaged on chat or PM, by girls saying things like 'I've just had a cancellation so I'm all alone, come visit me!', or 'I've been alone all day, waiting for someone, want to come over'. These attempts at receving a visitor have NOT been successful, and I can see why - this is just tacky. Our ads, photos, and reviews are what are here to entice these gentlemen, but if they do not make the choice to contact you, sorry, no matter how busy or not busy you are, you shouldn't be making the choice to contact them. The choice to see or not see a lady is up to the hobbiest - it's a big part of why they choose SPs instead of going to a bar! Slow business sucks, I've encountered this in many jobs in my life, but it's something everyone has to deal with. Also - every hobbiest knows that you should NEVER ask a lady 'how's business', 'how many clients have you seen today?' and the like. So I don't see why we should be asking them why business is slow. It's the opposite side of the same coin. I'm in no way trying to single anyone out, especially not the OP here, just giving my two cents. And I'm sure things WILL be getting better for everyone soon, as MOD points out above it's a busy time of year for family men!!