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I do not think is appropriate to ask a gentleman to write a recommendation after a visit. Yes, as the ladies who already responded said it of course feels nice to read that someone who visited you was satisfied with the encounter and appreciated the time with you enough to write about it but the decision should be 100% his. I have actually noticed how some of the ladies (and of course including myself) go wondering why a gentleman that has enjoyed his time with a lady and even becomes a regular guest does not write a reco on her and have done it for other ladies. It has crossed my mind that perhaps he was asked to do so? Which as I said not something I would do but respect it as long as it stops with the provider asking and not conditioning the gent or offering extras in return (Yes, I've heard it happens.) In my opinion recos are of course help for both parts, exposure for the ladies and guidance for the gents but is more the lady's personality and pictures that should help make the choice on who to meet as a lady that clicked with the person that wrote the recommendation may not be a match with the one reading.

With all the talk of democracy, who the hell made the media consortium the ones who can decide who gets to debate or not I'm referring to the media banning the Greens from the debate, arguing they have no one in Parliament Well first, at least they are running candidates ACROSS CANADA unlike the Bloc which only runs in one province and gives a rat's a$$ about the rest of Canada (unless it suits their own political agenda) Second, democracy is about ideas, and when a corporate enterprise (the media) answerable to shareholders, not taxpayers, can shut those ideas down by barring their discussion, then democracy is doomed Third, now, justifiably so, the Greens are taking this to court. And that bill is going to be footed by...yup, the taxpayers Even though I'm not voting Green, maybe a question can be asked in the debates by Elizabeth May which requires accountability on the part of the PM, Opposition Leader etc etc etc. RG

I have recently seen a lady for a service, and after the service she had asked me to post a review here for her. It is not the first time. It shows poor class and puts me in an uncomfortable position. Although the service was fantastic, I will not give this person a review now. I will never try to negotiate your rates, so please don't ask me to post a review. I will never see that person again!

Interesting thread, I'd also be curious to hear people's responses. Although I'm not in a committed long-term relationship at the moment, dating is definitely something I'm open about and I tell me partners I'm an SP. Sometimes I wonder whether it's the wisest thing to be telling clients I'm dating and/or have a relationship... I feel it might be negatively perceived? (I'm glad to be reading otherwise!) If my partner(s) aren't supportive I generally don't date them, so those that stick around know of the work I do, they also know it doesn't define who I am as a person.

I think Reviews are a touchy subject, EVERY lady wants them but knows she shouldn't and can't ask for them. Reviews to me are a sign of appreciation and that you truly enjoyed your encounter with the lady you just spent time with. I do agree with Apex, it is tacky to ask for a recco. But.... WE should not have to ask! If you cas review one lady, why cant you do the same for another? Unless she did some B&S, her pictures are not of her, she lied about the services she offers, walk away and dont review her! But if you enjoyed your time with the lady, why is it so difficult to say something nice about her? We try our best to give YOU the best services, mutual respect goes a long way!

I've been reading this thread and as others already explained those who have reputation points have earned them through their posts which other members here agreed on enough to either nominate their post or give them reputation points, which as previously mentioned can be good or bad. This however in my opinion does not make a member trustworthy, as Roamingguy said trust is earned and at least in my case I do not label/consider a member here trustworthy based in their reputation points. Reputation is 'the general estimation in which a person is held by the public.' Trust on the other hand is 'a firm reliance on the integrity, ability, or character of a person.' I consider a member trustworthy or not based on how he carries himself in here, the kind of posts made by him, how he interacts with people and yes, the reputation influences in the opinion made on someone but is not the only factor. Bottom line of what I'm trying to express here is reputation points most times represent our agreement or disagreement with what one has said or that's the way I see it. If you guys don't agree then I guess I'll get a few bad rep points but that won't make me untrustworthy, will it? ;)

There is nothing wrong with your personal views, as long as you don't impose them on others. For me, emotional commitment is of the upmost importance, but I don't see why being sexually monogamous is necessary for a genuine relationship/marriage. Of course, both partners need to consent to the arragement. If a client wants me to be single and has a problem with me having a partner, we're probably not a good match!

SA I think you might be looking at my post incorrectly (and I know what you are stating) I was just pointing out the aspects that do happen outside of the bubble/world? I respect your views on it, so it is not that you are unpopular on here as you might think, and its not a matter of belonging or not belonging or in that fact believing or not believing. You are also entitled to your opinion as well.

Whichever experience you choose (and Madison offers a number of them!) it always works out cheaper with an SP!!

I'm really glad this thread has was written. I can say from my experience in this industry, nothing says thank you better than a well deserved Recommendation. It encourages ladies as it isnt always the easiest business to be in. I have read posts in the past about some members not posting reviews because they "wanted to keep her a secret", the problem is so many members wait for reviews before seeing a lady. If everyone had that mentality there would be no reviews and the board would suck. Thank goodness this isnt the case. So I can see the ladies side to sometimes nudge clients to review them when they have given really good service. By giving them a Reco, it is best tip you can ever give a lady. It keeps them current and relivant on the board and lets other members know she is great. Sometimes this can be the difference between some great lady being discovered and thrive in the industry or getting discouraged and fizzling out because of a slow start. I know many ladies that come into the industry and its on their last dime and its a do or die situation, and I have seen countless amazing ladies that could have been the next big superstar leave based on discouragement. So really when you think about it; it's in you the clients best interest to recommend to keep the selection of ladies higher, and to keep the ladies in the industry morale higher.. Happy SPs + Happy clients = Stronger industry, better overall environment

I'm ambivalent about reviews and have never asked for them. Most of my clients are older men and the few who have mentioned reviews have also apologized in advance, saying that they don't want to write about what has happened between us. It's very personal, and intimate--not something they want to broadcast to the world. I have no problem with this, at all. That said, there are not a lot of reviews about me out there, and most of those that do exist are on American boards. Ageism is rife. There are not a lot of women over 40 in this business and most of us are rarely reviewed. I think that some men enjoy being able to say that they were with so-and-so, a companion they imagine wouldn't spend time with them if they'd met her in other circumstances and tried to date her. They don't think it's much of an accomplishment to meet with an older companion and they're extremely likely to try to haggle about rates and restrictions when they do contact us. Whether there are a lot of reviews about someone or not, it's a pretty good bet that if she's has been around for awhile and has a good presence on the boards and forums, she's doing a lot of things very well, indeed. Ultimately, while good reviews may encourage clients to visit a companion, whether they'll continue to see her has to do with the quality of their interaction, not what anonymous posters have written.

This is interesting. I know a few want to see our reviews before they book for reference but do not write them? Instead a thank you note that the experience was great is sent by PM? This generally does not bother me but it's a point. I agree with Sara as well. If we maintain our presence and contribute to the board we become multi faceted women, not just a kiss and tell experience. Contributions and smarts are very sexy traits too. If a girl has just started out and "both" know it was a great experience, why not take a few moments to just write a kind word? The experience or "details" do not need to be mentioned. This is business for the ladies so I don't think it's unreasonable to ask, especially if she took the time to answer any concerns or questions outside of the actual session time. It goes both ways and these things do become forgotten and some don't realize the "total" amount of effort the ladies make as well.

There always been girls asking for Reco..i think that guys have to stand up for themselves and do what they want to do. I've been ask severals time why i don't have many reco on this board compare to others boards and couldn't not find any other words than maybe because i don't ask lol There is something on the other side that bug me too..if you decide to write a recommendations on a lady..Please don't contradict yourself.. .I have more than few guys complaining to me about service of certaines ladies...And to my surprise i found that they reviewed her highly..I'm not sure the purpose of them whinning about it then beside gossiping which i see poorly VJ

Personally, I don't think it's a big deal. If Cerb came up in conversation during our meeting or if we communicated via Cerb PM to arrange a visit, I think it's a reasonable request. And if it feels too artificial, I'll probably politely say I'll see what I can do and then forget to post anything.

Naive maybe, but I could never even imagine having anyone, male or female, controlling ANY part of my life. I realize it happens but the thought is so foreign to me and still boggles the mind!

I only want to correspond with the lady that I am interested in. The more people that are involved(managers,pimps,BF,husband,handlers etc) then I think the discretion factor dwindles down too much. At least this is my perception. I guess this is why I have ever only contacted indy ladies, and not agencies...but perhaps that is a topic for a new thread as well. Posted via Mobile Device

Perhaps pimp isn't the right word. Now parasite . . .

Not to hijack the thread, but I'm curious why you wouldn't feel right seeing a married woman, if her husband was aware and ok with her chosen profession.

Don't take offense to the phrase "haven't proven trustworthy yet" First, all new members are welcomed to Lyla But trust per se is earned, and not proven trustworthy yet is different than saying you are untrustworthy And keep in mind no member has just got rep points and proven trustworthy...everyone had to prove their trustworthiness RG

its absolutly awful! My ex boyfiend used to be a pimp before we met, and after a few months, his "old ways" came back, i put up with his shit for 5 years, i was beaten every once and a while (got worse toward the end) I wasnt allowed to do certain things, see certian people, so, it really affcted my business, as well as my personal life. Thank god ive smartened up, and i am doing so much better without it. its just a huge stress on your life, and its not worth it.

Duh! Damn, I just used up today's blond moment!!!!

I found myself having an unsually crappy week at work and decided I needed some well deserved stress relief. Michaella had caught my eye so I requested an appointment. She was quick at responding to my email and we set a time. I must admit that I was a bit nervous as this was my first time using an in-call MP. My heart skipped a beat when the door opened and I was greeted with a warm hug by the beautiful Michaella wearing some very sexy lingerie. Her soft kisses quickly melted away my nervousness and despite just meeting her I soon felt we had known each other for years. A shower together followed by a great massage with a great finish. The body slides were definetely the highlight of the visit. Michealla is really a sweet girl, intelligent and very easy to talk to. I have a feeling I will be seeing her again soon...

I think pricing has more to do with wherever you start in the business. When I started 20 plus years ago I got paid 240/hr from the agency I was working with..then of course had to give a cut to the agent and the driver. When I became an independent I charged the same rates as they had.. BUT there were also girls in the paper charging 70 bucks for shorter sessions even back then. I finally met a couple of girls at an incall who charged those rates.. and you know what? they were totally capable of charging more but didn't. And here's the rub.. they weren't any busier than myself. That blew my mind. I fully expected them to have way more responses to their ad at that price but they didn't. I'm betting they had no idea they could charge more. It's what they ''knew''. This was in Toronto btw.. not a small town and as far as I know they weren't major drug users. They smoked pot but that's all I saw. In my experience charging a more moderate rate will get me more business for sure.. but a rock bottom rate will not. There is something to the ''undervalue'' of a rock bottom price that screams desperate even though it may not be.. that's just the business model I see.. if it's too cheap.. it must not be worth it. As a consumer I love to get a bargain but am always suspicious if a price is too low. This is not to say that lower rate = drug user. I have met plenty of escorts who charged high rates that were severe drug users.. and girls who charged low rates who weren't. There are no hard and fast rules here.

I just realized the other day, that men and women probably look at pricing from a completely different standpoint. Women think "this is how much I am worth" Men think: "this is how much I am willing to spend on myself"

i`ll probably get some heat for my point of view but here goes. you wanna know if you should or not? how would you feel if your wife was hooking up with guys behind your back? weather it be a male provider or some random stranger? if it bothers you then why would you do it to her? you want to hook up with beautiful women? who doesnt. but you made a commitment so you should honor it. I enjoy seeing providers but when im a single guy and when im in a relationship i dont do it. show some respect your your woman man. you obviously married cause you loved her. maybe you just need to spice things up like roll play or something. or if shes open minded maybe a 3some would work. that way at least shes a part of it and you could still be with someone new and have no feelings of guilt.

The issue about being married, no one but you can answer that. Only you know your relationship and whether seeing an escort will destroy or damage it, or have no impact whatsoever. But that only you know, and no one here can be your moral compass, what is right for some, is wrong for others As for number two, being scared to call. I'm single, and one of the scariest things I did was my first email an escort, setting up an encounter...my stomach was turning over, heart pounding, nervous, thinking everyone knew what I was doing (this was the initial email). When the day came, I booked into my room...then the phone call, letting her know place and room number. Then right after the call, all I thought, omg, what the hell did I just do, no turning back now. Now I'm no longer nervous about setting up a rendevous. I still get the pre-date jitters, but it's the nervous excitement akin to the nervousness you get just before going out on a date (and it's a good thing btw). And a little secret, when I'm sending the final confirmation text message, my hand is just shaking in nervousness and excitement while typing the text message. But if your not going to be able to relax and enjoy the time with a lady, don't see one...at least until you can resolve your conflict with being married and seeing an escort. And whatever you decide, do it because it's right for you. Good luck RG

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