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When writing a pm, email or texting, please do not send one liners! Many times, it come across as being rude. Ive been on the recieving end of this threw txting, hence the reason why I do not text anymore to make a 1st appointment! WE can not hear your tone of voice, so when you send something like this: "WHEN CAN I SEE YOU?" It just sounds rude. First off, INTRODUCE yourself! Say hello, how are you, I am Mr.XXX. The reason why you are emailing or pm'ing: I am interested in meeting with you on this date and time for this long. A little about yourself, if your comfortable saying anything, some ladies actually request that you do, some don't. Then sign off... Looking forward to hearing from you, Until we meet, or what ever. When you write an actual pm or email, we WILL respond! When I see something that is not like the above described, I dont even want to put in the effort to respond, since you did not take the effort to say more than 3 or 4 words to me! And I am sure I am not the only lady that feels like that! And most importantly!! Read her Ads, website and profile!! They are very imformative. Hence the reason why we put so much effort into them! The effort your going to put in by pm'ing "Whats your rates?", "What time do you start?", or the big question, "What do you look like?" will be alot less than clicking your mouse on the link to her website/profile! You just look very lazy and disrespectful! We are not asking you to write an autobiography about yourself or a novel! 5-6 lines is not asking for much! I know some men are men of very few words, but if you cant take a few minutes to learn about us and say more then a few words, then imagin how we think the encounter will go with you?! Starting an email/pm politely can and will get you a better or if any encounter with your choosen SP/MA! ****************** I've searched and could not find a thread about etiquette on pm'ing, but found this thread, which only shows you how to START a pm: http://cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=15861 If I missed it someone let me know and Ill ask the Mod to add this post to it! Thanks, Tiffany Amber xoxo

hey folks Just a quick note to all who happen to know me, some more intimately that others!!! Was diagnosed this week with bone cancer in the jaw, where they thought it was just a bad bone graft after trying to install a post for a bridge. Now on the list at the General for this new "laser knife", just not sure when (welcome to Ontario Health care), then probably some chemo or radiation. So I may be out of commission soon for a while, but will try and keep connected. If I have not reached out to you ladies, not because I did not want to!!! So in the meantime, play safe, play hard and of course.......lots of licks!!

I offer a basic GFE/PSE type of encounter which is all inclusive. No upselling or disappointing surprises from me. I do include a list (or menu as you may put it) on my website, but that acts more for the clients' convenience so they know what may or may not be offered before contacting me and perhaps wasting both our times. For example, CIM (which I do not offer) is not the same as COF or COB (which I do offer). The same for Greek or bum play on me (which I do not offer) but if may offer for the gent. I feel I need to specify that in my advertising because I don't ever want anyone visiting me and leaving disappointed because they assume wrong. I prefer the encounter to just flow, rather than having to worry about whether certain toppings that could have been ordered, were delivered. I believe this is why menu-based approach can take the sizzle out of an encounter before it starts. Bottom line in my case is, use the menu as a guide, but not to script the call by.

There's a brand new social group devoted to the pleasures of wine and whiskey, for those who enjoy them or want to learn more. All are welcome. http://cerb.ca/vbulletin/group.php?groupid=71

I actually much prefer texts to calls, I have difficulty hearing on the phone. That being said I HATE one liners or asking about sexual acts. When I receive a text I would hope its fitting for the person I am. Which is why I prefer emails initially. Also I don't like when someone seems to think I operate a jack off texting buinsess. If you want to know If I provide a service I will be more then happy to tell you... Please ask questions so we can have a great session. Don't text me at all hours of the day and night. This is a buinsess line and as such respect my buinsess. I don't really want to spend the entire day talking to you. Keep it short and sweet. Posted via Mobile Device

questions, unless irrelevant, require empathy. jopyc

I have a feeling the guy was drunk.. and is used to pointing out girls he's banged with his buddies in a bar if and when he gets laid that way.. and then realized his blunder right after spouting off about his conquest.. that she wasn't some hottie he picked up in a bar. He paid! Which is why he then had to qualify how he met you. He will likely be too embarassed now to call you if he realized you heard him. But if he does.. I too will be waiting to hear how you handle it :)

I have been at this off and on for quite a few years now (yes maybe too many) and I do recall starting off being very menu/specific service driven. Very crude I know but aside from simple youth and lack of experience in the hobby, there was also a degree of inexperience as a lover. The manual says slip peg "A" into slot "B" but like instructions from ikea there is not much more to go on. Time passes and you simply get better, (in this regard sex is like hockey, if you practice you get better at it) to the point where you are enjoying the company of a lady (or 2 ) not for what they do but for who they are. The things that they are up to doing is secondary. That being said I feel the demand for that menu will remain front and center in the minds of many a hobbiest as the search for value for money continues. PIO

The guy is a jerk and was totally out of line! It's no way for a guy to talk about a lady, ever! Maybe some day (in a galaxy far far away...) it will be just as socially acceptable to say "that's my SP" as it is today to say "that's my barber" but until then discretion is a must for both client and SP. As a general rule, if you meet in public just pretend you don't know each other. You never know who either person may be with (friend, coworker, significant other, family, etc). Even just saying hi could put the other in an uncomfortable situation of explaining "who was that?"

Gladly, I will define. I advertise an experience not a service. When I receive emails asking How much for a bj? ,what will $100 get me, or the best one is the local ladies charge $140 and do it all (seriously I was not born yesterday) it really puts me off. You can't pick and choose what happens in a encounter, it is not a pizza where you pick your toppings. If you want just a BJ look for a lady who offers just that in her sessions, if it is too expensive, save up (I do not wish to be high volume, therefore my donations reflect that, do not insult me by telling me I should charge less so you can be my regular) Don't ask ladies to tour if you don't plan on supporting them, 90% of us have fully detailed websites and the information applies to all cities so why play stupid with the "O I did not know your donation applied to my city or I did not know you were visiting" if you've been looking at the site for months, reading the ads and have been directed to the website for details, it is pretty plain and simple what is offered,what the donation is and when I will be in your city. It really sucks that nice and amazing gentlemen have to suffer because of the stupidity of others. We already played the naivety card in another thread and in this day and age, if you can sign up on CERB you can read the newbies section. There really is no excuse.

RG, I was in NO WAY justifying what he did. "Vanessa, this in NO WAY supports what he said/did. I think the guy was disrepectful, classless, and an asshole." Simply trying to offer a perspective of what might have been going on in his head. But I think you missed that sentiment in my post. I hope others don't. However, if you do LET ME BE CLEAR. I IN NO WAY SUPPORT WHAT HE DID. At minimum, Vanessa I hope you understand the perspective I offered. Cub

Unbelievable that someone could be so juvenile. It's unfortunate that he felt the need to brag to his friend at your expense. He actually said, you are "one of those girls". Well he is "one of those guys. An uncouth asshole. It was very rude and uncalled for, but look at it this way. His friend doesn't know you, they don't know anyone else you know and you are likely never going to run into them again in public. And you will certainly never see this jerk again, so you should never have to worry about them again. You are way to classy to let that loser get you down.

Common courtesy works both ways. Examples of problems could go on and on. Touring would make it more of a factor with the ladies. Impulse does play a major role. Best to think of yourself as the other person. How would you like to be treated in that specific situation? Hard argument to win no matter what side of it you are on. So many factors to think about. Common courtesy

I have accepted credit cards in the past from clients coming from Europe who were paying deposits for extended meetings, sometimes weeks or months away. I have four or five of these bookings a year, on average. I've handled these through PayPal, which charges a 3% handling fee. I haven't had any trouble with these, but PayPal has restrictions against processing payments for erotic companionship and will close an account if they find that's what it's being used for. Electronic bank transfers work nicely in Canada. For clients outside the country, transfers are still possible but, in those cases, they need to have the complete and real name, address, bank address and account information of the person into whose account the money is being sent. I'm not willing to disclose so much personal information to someone I don't know. My friends, I have to say that I'm becoming irritated by the endless, fear-laden discussion about men's privacy. I think it's not only over-exaggerated, it's also a way to accuse paid companions of having a propensity to defraud clients and to violate their confidentiality. Such cases are exceedingly rare and, I would venture to say, will not occur if one is dealing with an established, well-respected paid companion or escort agency. In fact, I can't think of any recent cases involving this kind of thing. While men may have things to worry about, they will generally be because they have not taken proper precautions to avoid discovery by their wives or partners, not because of something that their paid companion has deliberately done to expose or defraud them. Companions, on the other hand, are always at risk of injury, theft, public exposure, exposure to law enforcement, or worse, even when we think we know our clients very well. The unfortunate, but simple reality is this: we have many obvious and legitimate things to fear from our clientele, while our clients have little to fear from us.

I only call back or text clients who have given me permission to do so. Even when someone leaves me a message to call them back, if I am unable to return the call within a few hours, I do not call back. I think we can agree that this SP behaved totally unprofessional and disrespectful. It's not like we're your dentist's office where they call you to remind you you're due for a cleaning...c'mon. The words "don't call me, I'll call you" always apply when it comes to this business. That is what we are are trusted to be discrete. When she starts losing clients, hopefully someone like you will tell her why.

WOW!!!! I can't believe the class of some ladies. I am sorry if I have offended any ladies but seriously, how can you be so stupid. It takes ALOT to build up client trust and assure them of discretion then someone goes and does this. Is it that hard to send an email? I have one question WHY, WHY, WHY would you do this? Do you want a client calling you on your personl phone when you are with famly? Respecting the fact that everyone has a private life outside this is truly one of the most IMPORTANT things in the industry. One stupid move like this affects the rest of the community in one way or another. Sorry to hear this happened to you Steve.