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The fact that it is cheaper than dating!!!!

Safe sex can never happen (unless the above comical suggestions are taken to heart hehe); we can only practice safer sex by reducing the risks involved in this very (very) lovely activity. I do CBJs only, but allow for DATY, digits, and DFK. I would say my services are 'safe' according to my standards. The risk of transmission to me is considerably low for these activities, but the risk of transmission to one of my partners, if they aren't using a dental dam, is higher (but still comparatively low to unprotected sex). Safer sex is an odd game of statistics. I would say an SP who sees multiple clients a day is at a lower risk of STIs than one girl who goes to a bar, picks up, and gives the guy a BBBJ and fucks him without a condom...

Well I just recently hit my one year anniversary mark of getting involved with this lifestyle (or hobbying if you prefer) and some reflections. The very first time (which was bad), had one positive. It got me over the hump of seeing ladies. Once I gave the text message with the room number, it was too late to turn back. LOL And because of that first encounter, it made seeing ladies easier. When I decided to see escorts, and give this lifestyle a try, I thought it was merely sex for money. And boy was I wrong. Yes there is a sexual side to it, but it is much more than that. It is companionship, it is the ultimate blind date, and the social/interpersonal interactions are as important as the physical. And yes, it can lead to friendships, or if others are more comfortable with a term, special relationships. I also discovered that unbeknownst to me, I had a, for lack of a better phrase, a bucket list of things to try sexually. I had my first ever erotic massage, something I intend to repeat. When I started in July 2010, it never even crossed my mind And I'm about to have my first duo ever. Something else I never thought of doing, but reading CERB, it became something I want to try. I have one other thing I'm kinda intrigued, yet apprehensive to try. Probably will, but need more time to get comfortable with the idea. Beauty is more than skin deep. Beautiful women come in all shapes sizes and ages. And intelligence (and I don't mean book smarts) is attractive in a woman and heightens an encounter. And a surprise for me, (well growing up tattoos were something only men who were in the military or criminals had btw not a judgement here, just the way is was way back when) is to find tattoos can be very sexy on a lady. I entered this lifestyle thinking it was only going to be anonymous sexual encounters, nothing more. Had someone suggested to me back then that I should provide personal information to a lady to be verified, my instinctive response would be no, it's a matter of my privacy. Well thought processes took over from instinct, and now, if requested, I'm very comfortable being verified. Besides allowing for a lady to ensure as best she can her safety, it leads to a trusting SP/Client relationship. Besides, there is no lady that I see that I'm embarrassed or ashamed if I "got caught", nor worried that she knows my real name. I'm a man seeing a lady, what's wrong with that? Character is most important in this lifestyle. It's more important to be a gentleman than anything else, at least this is what my experience has been. And I approach this as a mutually beneficial activity. The ladies and the gentlemen are on opposite sides of the same coin. And we are all part of the same community. This is not SP's vs Hobbiests. And I hope it doesn't become that way. Thank goodness for CERB, which strives to keep a co-operative atmosphere, compared to other sites. Well these are some ramblings and reflections of my first year Take them for whatever they are worth RG

W is for 'wrong' putting the A before the 'W'..lol, But W is Wildly Wicked, Womanly bodies...

To be perfectly honest; no. My two lives are completely separate and that is how I intend them to remain. Meg is a persona that exists during certain hours of the day. While the real me has some of the same characteristics, I am not fully the person I portray while entertaining. I don't want to sound harsh but I am not seeking nor would I even attempt a relationship with a client. Meg does enjoy friendship and sexy fun but that is where it needs to end.

It would be a very useful screening tool, when you see someone viewing your profile and the SP can read a bit about them and also prior to booking if that person contacts you. There are some member who don't post or are new and have no references so this can be a positive thing when screening.

I would hope in this day and age there would be no BBFS, in my opinion. I would run like hell too if it was being offered RG. I have to say I've been asked and was like hell no and then kind of lectured the person asking. It was never mentioned during the booking process but during the deed, right before the POP. I was freaked the hell out and offended that someone would even ask and not value or respect my life or me as a person and I ended the encounter. "Finish yourself off" I said and please don't contact me again.

From a strictly work point of view, I love my job because I answer to no one, I work when I want to work, and I charge what I feel I'm worth! But I also love this job because it allows me to meet people I'd normally never come across in my day-to-day. I enjoy hearing other people's perspectives on things, which is partly why I spend so much time on CERB as well! I'm a bit of an anthropologist at heart--I like learning what makes people tick and what gets them off, and why. I also love my job because I'm doing something to help other people. Pleasure in and of itself is a worthwhile endeavour and I wish more people realized this. Not everyone falls within the margins of the erotically entitled, and for some, it is almost impossible for them to get themselves off without help(e.g. people with disabilities, various illnesses, etc). Just being able to be close to someone is a much needed service. We're social creatures! And of course, I really like sex!

Dorinda Bloom ! A hidden treasure that took me far far too long to find !! I have had the pleasure of meeting with her three times now and Wow !! every visit just gets more and more amazing as you get to know this wonderful lady :) I hadn't posted a review prior because she took a hiatus, but now she is BACK !! D is very very genuine and has a remarkable, fun and bubbly personality. She can very much hold her own with the boys in the witty humor category too ;) Booking with her was nothing less than top notch, on my first visit and after becoming a regular client/friend. She is very pleasant, with prompt and friendly replies and is just classy ! I am greeted at the door by a sexy, gorgeous lady with some oh so yummy curves, a big smile and a big hug and a kiss ! She puts you at ease immediately, the clothes come off, to the bed we go where it is much much more comfortable. :makeout:Dorinda loves to play, and believe me it is nothing less than extraordinary, then cuddle under the covers and chat and laugh and have fun, some more good times in the steam shower perhaps, then back to the bed for once again some more fun and some cuddling. You really never wanna leave :) I don't think you will really ever know what to expect from her because it will always be different and most definately fun and exciting ;) YMMV will definately apply with D so treat her like she deserves and Good Times guys !!

WrinkledInTime recently posted an article in the "News" section of this board about Melissa Farley's recent so-called research, published as "The John Next Door" in the latest edition of Newsweek magazine. Berlin pointed us to an article at the Good Vibrations Magazine site, "Melissa Farley and the US Government Want You to Stop Buying Sex" written by Laura Agustin. This article centers on the idea promoted by Farley and others that the best way to end human trafficking is to end the demand for prostitution. Of course the "End the Demand" group never mentions, let alone comes to terms with, the fact that most human trafficking has nothing to do with the sex trade but has lots to do with domestic labour, industrial labour, farm labour and construction. The "End the Demand" folks really want everyone to stop having non-marital sex. The thing I find striking is that Farley and the US government think that society needs to deliver a much stronger message to men--young men, in particular, for some reason--that it's just wrong to pay for sex. Period. Gosh. I thought that society was already pretty clear about that. Most of the clients I've discussed this with have told me that it was one of the hurdles they had to get over: the idea that there's something wrong with paying for sex. I sure grew up thinking that there was something wrong with selling it! Is there anyone here who was raised to think that it isn't wrong to pay for sex? That is, that you get sex by marrying someone, or maybe by having committed relationship that includes sex, or maybe by being lucky enough to be offered sex in some other way, but not by paying for it? My impression has been that many men have been encouraged to believe that only "losers" (defined in various ways) pay for sex and that no one else should. Thoughts?

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You know you're old when, you realize you were still a kid when this movie came out: I actually had a doll like this and matching hot pants of my own:

This didnt happen to me, but to my sister. She was at work, one of those kiosks in the malls, I guess having a bad day and business was slow. This man I guess had been watching her from the food court, walked over to her and said "Could you smile just for a second?" She did, and he handed her a $100 bill and walked away. She never saw him again!! But he made her day and she was smiling for the rest of the week!!

For me it is the long warm embrace at the beginning and end of the date. As well as the anticipation of seeing her beauty once again. This is a bit side tracked but I really enjoy the acts of affection in public. (walking arm-in-arm or holding hands) Cheers, Jafo

Especially the long lingering ones all the way to the door and you turn around and she is still peeking thru the gap looking at you!! SNS724

Me too!! Sounds like we have a lot of things in common Lexy.....well...the naughty things anyway ;)

I've met men who see nothing wrong with paying me for sex, except they have made it quite clear they wouldn't want their wife, sister or daughter doing it. (To which I laugh, because they "don't get" that perhaps they just hurled a slur at me). My dad is 78 and reminds us he's "old school". When discussing a sibling who was (is) still a virgin now in his 40s, I quite shocked to hear my father say, "When I was young growing up in Montreal, the father would bring the son to the "cat house" and get it over with" (expression followed by some French expletives). I asked him if my grandfather did that for him to which he replied of course not, that he was working at 14 and managed quite well with the ladies. This I believe because my grandmother confirmed that because he had a paycheck, the taverns would serve alcohol to him even at that age. He didn't come right out and admit visiting prostitutes when he was single and in the Air Force and stationed overseas in the 1950s. However, I did hear a conversation about the military boys being issued condoms and how they were as thick as kitchen catchers. He also told me when he was in France he had different girlfriends he would actually "live with" for weeks at time (rather than go home to the barracks on the base). He described how beautiful they were and how they would cook for him, do his laundry, pressed his uniforms. I presume for a fee of course. There were many young women after the war who had no other way of supporting themselves but to offer to be a soldier's "girlfriend". This is how some of them met their spouses, but I'm sure those stories are never told openly at a dinner party. This was happening all over Europe, in France, Germany, Holland, etc. We have never spoken of my involvement in prostitution. It has never come up and I doubt it will because we are like two ships passing in the night. I'm sure my dad would have to look up my home phone before. I think me might have suspected I have done it, but has never called me out on it. I am not sure what his reaction would be, but like everything, some people will justify why it's okay to do something at certain time of their life. I know my father did not cheat on my mother once they got married, but I know he sure had a good time before that, and not without paying for it sometimes along the way. I don't think he'd have any qualms now about admitting his visiting prostitutes, but he downplayed when mom was alive, I believe out of respect for her.

Hmmm... that describes my last relationship perfectly.

I would personally stay out of it.

I am too, its only polite to say hello, even if we are complete strangers, it is a great ice breaker as well.

not true! you can send a virus throught email!:P so it isn`t safe:P

Good morning My name is John Smith. I am a candy cane seller of 42 years old... I am looking for a women between 18 and 60, between 90 lbs to 300lbs. From 4ft11 to 6ft. I promise: I will be on time I will be freshly shower and if not I will take one with great pleasure I will not rape your mouth when kissing you, nor try to performe a throat surgery I will nice and gentle to start, and listen to your input I will leave the donation in a plain envelope right at the beginning of the time in full view, I wont make you ask for it I will pre-book in advance so you can plan your life and not wait for me i will always respect you I promise I wont ask for discount or bargain or a quick blow job I will be silly if you are! i will be myself (except if yourself is being a serial killer) i will swear all my life to love all the boobies on earht ok its a bit silly...but eh:P

anywhere outdoors is great ... it has been too long for me on that score I think underneath the stage at a rock concert would be exciting ... it would have been very nice in Toronto on Saturday evening at the John Fogerty concert (which was beyond excellent)

There is no question the first few years was all about the new "high" from meeting up with a new beautiful lady. But I have found I am far more excited to see amy favorite lady. After more than 5 years, I still walk away feeling like a teenager. We keep in touch regularily through PM's and I find that only builds on a great time when I can finally get to see her again. So I guess familiarity for me is a huge turn-on. Her knowing me better, me knowing her better. Good chemistry. I have been a very lucky guy!

Additional Comments: Perhaps we could rename this thread "Beautiful Kissable Bums"?

I love those rare occasions when I get to make a complete and total stranger's day. I've only had the opportunity to do this particular thing once, but I was walking by a strip mall....was an incredibly hot, humid day. No hint of a breeze whatsoever....just really miserably hot. There was this really cute girl stuck outside selling roses....she looked absolutely miserable and down on her luck. Everyone in just too much of a rush to get to an air conditioned environment to even think about buying flowers...me included. On a whim I said to myself "what the hell" and bought a dozen roses....took a nice long smell of them....then handed her the bouquet, said "these are for you" and walked away (had a gf at the time :p ). Now whether she kept the bouquet or just put them back on the rack to be sold I couldn't tell you. But the gesture clearly made her day....which in turn made mine. I prefer to believe she kept them :) Posted via Mobile Device

I love it when one gets a beautiful evening, the bonfire is going, the smoke is rising straight up and there is good company to share it with.

I love it when you take an airplane to a tropical destination from Canadian winter and that first feel of heat and humidity as you step off the plane.

I love watching a rain storm. Sitting on my veranda with the large and furious drops only inches away is very relaxing...at least for me.

How about this decorating scheme? Seriously though, if it isn't your residence, then it should look lived in and comfortable. Enough furnature and a few pictures on the walls. Relatively clean. For the most part though I'm sure his eyes will be on you Lexy!

This is very good news! Thanks to all. Just to get us relaunched, and with her permission, JessicaMassage

This hobby (like all other activities you choose) has inherit risks. You weigh the risks vs. benefits and choose accordingly. Hornet, based on our PMs and what you have posted in the last few days I know STI is a very real fear you have. Although I don't think its impossible to find an SP that only offers truly safe sex, get tested regularly, makes no exceptions *and* can turn you on at the same time in a small market like Ottawa, I think your criteria to give you peace of mind is a long shot. Even if the SP offer bbbj, daty and dfk but can respect your need to be fully covered for all sessions and offers that, I think that is enough. She might have something, she might not, but as long as the activity is covered for your own sessions you should be OK. If that's not good enough for you, best to just walk away from the hobby before you get too enthused :)