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Sometimes one can have a tendency to find yourself in a period of down time, when you have the blahs, when you are just out of sorts and nothing just seems quite right or quite good enough or quite satisfying enough. For some it may be pretty easy to go to that place, others go there rarely and the fortunate few perhaps never go there at all. For me of late I seem to go there more frequently than I wish to or certainly need to, and luckily for me I recognize it and take steps to alleviate it. One of my steps is to look at whatever it is, and then pull out the good from it, because there are always bright sides when one wishes to take that perspective. For example, I recently broke my leg, and that certainly hampers my mobility, and everything that I do takes way longer than it used to. But then, if it were the other leg that I broke I would not be driving at all for six weeks. If I had not had the experience in previous times in my life when I learned how to use crutches and my wheelchair extensively, then this would not be as easy as it is. And a neighbour brought me biscuits and banana bread last night because of it. I am a fortunate man. For the first Christmas ever, one of my kids will not be home for the holidays. But I am retired, and I can travel, and I am going to go see her for a few days at her home in December and we will have our own little personal Christmas. I am a fortunate man My wife passed away totally unexpectedly a little over a year ago, and yes, it is hateful. But I look at her things and I smile and I look at pictures from my mind and I smile. I recall our times of being together for forty years, and I smile. I am a fortunate man. I have an amazing family and amazing friends all of whom support me and help me, no matter what. I am a fortunate man. What is truly amazing is that I have Cerb friends. Friends that in some cases, I have never even met. I have people that I could write a personal email to who would give of their time to reply with their wisdom and compassion and humour and best wishes. I am a fortunate man. Perspective is everything. We just need to remember it sometimes. We are all fortunate if we decide to choose that point of view. I am now smiling as I write this. So what is your perspective?

Hey Gents, My opinion is that the majority of women in this industry choose to enter the profession of their own free will. That being said, we also know that there is a dark side of this industry in which women are coerced to work, and in which they may be economically exploited by a "pimp" who keeps the money she earns. Although I hardly ever encounter these situations with escorts/MA's, I got to know many women when I was stripping who were coerced into the industry. I won't go into all the details, but I will give one example. I was in the dressing room and another dancer was on the phone. She said on the phone: "Please can I leave? I've been here for 6 hours and I've only made $200. I really don't think I can make anymore. The club is dead." She hung up and said to her friend: "He says I can't leave until I make $300." I'm not saying these things to make anyone feel bad, or because the majority of strippers are in this situation (that is absolutely not true). But what I will ask is, what do you as a hobbiest do to mitigate the risk that you are participating in the exploitation of another human being? Do you only see reputable indies/agencies? Do you think you can "tell" when you meet her? Have you ever been in a situation where you suspected the lady was not there by her own free will? I hope no one is upset at me for bringing up such a dark topic, but I think it's important to talk about these things once in a while :) Megan

Okay, Isabella busted me.....next time I'll check the rules first :) o couldn't help myself - Malika had me all warm and fuzzy :) I hope you'll all forgive me ..... here's my "make up I like list" :) I like Cato because he helps everyone. I like Angela of Ottawa because she organizes all those great events. I like Mrgump because he's making the trip to the social. I like Old Dog because he's everywhere. I like Lee Richards because mystery texting is so kewl. I like Katherine even though I've never met her (yet). I like Alexandra Sky because she has such a cool avatar, and I've never met her (yet). I like Jake because he liked Isabella for forgiving me. I like Isabella for busting me in a very nice way :). I like RG because he's everywhere and helps everyone. I like Ottawa adventurer for all the positive posts. Whew! That wasn't easy typing all that on my phone! I like all of you, hoping for your forgiveness :) ... or at least a pleasant punishment ;) Sent from my Nexus S using Tapatalk

Well a couple questions then. Do you not post reco's at all on CERB?...or just reco's of ladies who meet 100 percent to your standards. Second question, if the other board, whatever board that is, is so great, why are you on CERB if you don't like it's policy regarding recos And Meg is right, you can't on one hand complain about lack of reco's here for ladies and use that as a negative for the lady but on the other hand not post any reco's yourself. My two cents RG

This chart should give you a pretty good idea: http://healthnurse.wordpress.com/faq-about-sexual-health/sti-risks-chart/

Every once and a while I love looking up inspirational quotes of any sort. I find them uplifting and sometimes just what someone needs to make them smile! I thought we could use this thread as a good spirit thread! I will start it off with one of my favorites. "What you thought before has led to every choice you have made, and this adds up to you at this moment. If you want to change who you are physically, mentally, and spiritually, you will have to change what you think." Dr. Patrick Gentempo Wishing you and yours a wonderful day ;) xox

I have been on cerb since June of this year and I have posted on my page that all recommendations are welcome. I have seen many people in the cerb community and several of them have been repeated visitors but I dont seem to be getting recommendations. A client of mine who referred me to this site said that he tried to post a recommendation for me but mod wouldnt allow him to do so? I am just putting it out there to find out if there is a certain thing I need to do on this site to receive the recommendations. And to all previous clients , if u enjoyed urself , please feel free to write a recommendation!

One that I like and have always remembered : Courage does not always Roar.....sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying.....I will try again tomorrow :)

I am doing it....and I think I do have that 70's porn star look.....:)

Gotta like that Lee Richards guy... great sense of humour and he mystery texts people just for a laugh!!!!

I like Lee because he's generous, fun, witty, and most of all complimentary -real appreciates and respects the ladies. And he's open to challenges. We'll see how he fares when he finally gets to Ottawa for a visit in the new year. Better eat your wheaties, Lee!!

The glass is neither half full, nor half empty: it merely is. How you deal with its contents is what matters. Dark events or days will always be challenging, but a post like that mrnice is one of the lights to brighten those darker times. Thanks CB

I like Alexanda because she is very cool, I am lovin the new avatar ...and she is a Leopard -ess ;) prrrrrrrrrrrr

I like Jake for two reasons: 1. his very adorable avatar 2. his reference to woman as a masterpiece! xoxo

I like Isabella's forgiving attitude toward peoples little faux pas and that she always looks for the positives.

I have to concur with Ottawaadventurer. Part of the excitement is the thrill of meeting someone new as every beautiful lady on this board has their own personality, their own twists (in more ways than one), and their own unique perspective. Over the years I have been amazed at how sensual the art of massage can be. How simply the art of touch and tease, or the whisper in ones ear, or the hint of something more can arouse the senses. There are so many lovely MAs in Ottawa (Michelle_MA (sadly retired), Emily, Gina, Megan, Bethany, and many many more) that at times it is hard to choose because they are all so lovely and genuinely nice people! So go forth young man and enjoy!

I love this John Prine song almost as much as I Love Norah Jones...!!! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sqSHPsY2bY4&feature=related "It's a half an inch of water (or a happy enchilada) and you think you're gonna drown" Or check out another of Prine's classics: Dear Abby! lol Yes, perspective is everything and Mr. Nice2 has it pegged.

Perspective. The greatest irony in terms of perspective is that it takes years to gain enough experience to understand what was so blatantly obvious when we were children: Good things are good. Bad things are bad. You should love your family and friends. You should like the people who make you feel happy, not because liking them gives you advantage. Any day can be Christmas. Telling a friend that you love them is special. You chose them to be a part of your life, they deserve to know that they make your life, a better life. A kiss on the lips is better than a kiss on the cheek. When you understand the big picture, the little things that go wrong just don't matter. No one cares that the socks don't match or that the quarter rolled into the sewer. It's far more ingratiating to make someone smile with another smile than to write them a tome of love. It's quicker too. Say what you mean. Mean what you say. Don't try to seek deeper meaning in the simple wonders of life. You only have one chance at life. Enjoy every day. Inside each of us is a person that is absolutely wonderful. Share that person with the world. Tomorrow is a promise, today is reality, yesterday is done. It's so much easier if you can keep all that in order. If you finish the stuff you don't like to do quickly, you have more time to spend on the stuff you do like to do. That's what I have... and I embrace the inner kid in me.....

And I'd love to be in the middle with Soleil and Gabriella :-) RG :-)

What a moving post. I share your perspective. I spent much of my life self-medicating... trying to kill the "pain". Then I realized that pain is relative, and that perspective is what matters. When "bad" things happen to me, it is usually simply a case of me not understanding "it"... usually, after some reflection, I can see what good can come from bad situations. Sometimes they turn out to not be bad at all. Sometimes, they're just bad. Shit happens. What I have come to see is that I have a choice - to swell on the sadness, or do what you describe, and try to focus on the positives. Thanks for posting this - it's always helpful to be reminded. And, as an aside, I always laugh at threads like this because if I ever tried to explain the depth of some of the threads on this board, and the mutual support we often get here, "outsiders" would never believe it. Peace, to all.

While I totally understand the spirit and origin of the OP's question, I would also add that eliminating the mystery can also fundamentally chance the experience. One of my absolute favorite things is seeing an MP for the first time. While I have a general sense of what will transpire, it's the unknown that keeps my heart racing and my stomach fluttering... knowing what will happen, as if from a playbook, significantly diminishes the experience for me. No two MPs are the same, no two experiences are the same. Know that the MPs here that have been recommended are all amazing... trust them, and enjoy the mystery!

Ahhhh, Penelope.... As I posted previously, your post here prompted me to do the same thing as you... last night I celebrated 2 months of sobriety... My intention here is NOT to hijack the thread - this one's all about you.... but I did want to say that not only did your courage get YOU to start living the life you were meant to live, it also helped me and, I am sure, others. Know that you are not alone.... yes, the "rooms"are full of people who can (and will) support you... but there are also countless people here who are there for you when you need it. Be well, and thanks for my sobriety!

I think the honorable thing to do,is to write rec for the lady, that what this board is all about is to 'recommend a MA or SP' to other gents. Personally I was really pissed off back in the summer when a statement was made in a thread, a gent thought the rec's were 'shit'. It took me a long time to get over that comment. The best thing I think a guy can do is share his experience to others,in a format that can be short and sweet to the point or if you like lots of details and great reading material either way it is more beneficial to the ladies that are here on this board.If a gent did not enjoy his time, then he simply does not write a rec. I understand that other gents may not take my advise or others that write rec's on ladies, but then what would you have left here on this board? Just a lot threads on other discussions and ad's.....right? And I simply write recommendations for the ladies I see, NOT always for the other guys but I don't mind sharing...I do it because it is my way of saying thank-you in a long version of a compliment. Then again I know when I do write rec's I always get a dozen of pm's asking for further info on a lady, so I think the section is a excellent tool for all concerned, I just hope those that are on this board,and have been here for a while, or those that have just started, consider writing the recommendation,the ladies are always flattered and like I said it is good for business all around for everyone. My two pennies on the subject.

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Thanks to all the comments over the last page or 2 or 3 or whatever it is up to now. Very encouraging. Although this is very late (after all this thread started months ago, and my comments were related to events before it started), I did post the recommendation. Winnipegcub, it was very thoughtful of you to point out how an SP may feel if one asks her about posting a recommendation, and it got me thinking, but it turns it is rule #3 under the posting rules for the recommendation section. You have to ask. Well, I did, and she said she would like me to do so, I did. 12 views the first day. 200 the second. :-) The real point of this follow up post so late is to express thanks to everyone who changed my perception of CERB to being much more encouraging.

It has always been the British tradition to consider sex as being a part of a soldier, sailor or airman's well being. For generations we have accepted that our soldiers need to enjoy themselves so as not to allow the constant stress of combat destroy their mental health and sex is a great way to keep soldiers very happy! During my first tour of Iraq, we were given 10 days leave after 4 months of constant stress. As my little gang of trouble makers and I had pretty much gone straight from Afganistan to the invasion of Iraq, we were a bit over tired. So when I asked them where they wanted to go for a break, they resoundingly said "Ukraine"! They obviously had put some thought in to this!!! Let me tell you what being around gorgeous women for 10 days can do to a soldier's mental health. I personally was on the verge of a complete breakdown just before we went on leave, and went back to Iraq so relaxed...it saved my life!

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The first reco is always the hardest, and then others will follow. For whatever reason, very few of my good regulars (CERB members) have posted recommendations. Most of the people who've recommended me have seen me once or twice. I'm not really sure why this is but I don't spend too much time contemplating it. It's nothing personal. Some guys just don't do the reco thing.

This hobby (like all other activities you choose) has inherit risks. You weigh the risks vs. benefits and choose accordingly. Hornet, based on our PMs and what you have posted in the last few days I know STI is a very real fear you have. Although I don't think its impossible to find an SP that only offers truly safe sex, get tested regularly, makes no exceptions *and* can turn you on at the same time in a small market like Ottawa, I think your criteria to give you peace of mind is a long shot. Even if the SP offer bbbj, daty and dfk but can respect your need to be fully covered for all sessions and offers that, I think that is enough. She might have something, she might not, but as long as the activity is covered for your own sessions you should be OK. If that's not good enough for you, best to just walk away from the hobby before you get too enthused :)

I think this thread is good. Good because of the relations that was started between choices of a woman and her body and how it relates to the sex industry. Personally, I will do whatever I want to my body, in turn do whatever you wish with yours. No, I would not have an abortion, I believe in taking responsibilities for my actions. I will say that, being in this industry, girls get very personal and share very personal information, because, we know and understand each other more so than someone who is not in this industry. I have never herd of a woman getting pregnant with a clients baby. I also know many girls that are not in the industry that are complete flat out sluts, that will have sex with many men, protection or not. From my experience, These woman have a much higher rate for abortions. I hear time and again that they were drunk..and..blah blah blah. Then running to the clinic for an abortion a few weeks later. But really, how many times can you get drunk, get pregnant, get an abortion before you realize you need an IUD, that is given free, at the abortion clinic. Woman should really learn to close their legs. I don t think abortions should be confidential-if they are. There should be like a one time only abort-o-clinic. Woman that have multi partners without protection, the sluts..have a lot more to worry about than getting pregnant. I have slept with 5 men in my lifetime. I didn t use protection for every man and I contracted Chlamydia, then gave it to my fiance. I am lucky because medication cleared up my sloppy-sex-disease with two weeks of meds. What if i contracted HIV or herpes or gonorrhea or warts or something like that? Pregnant? Nah, that s the last thing I would be worried about. Additional Comments: Megan, I NEVER would insinuate something like you claim. You should respect my decisions I make with my body. I didn t say any holy-ring about sexual partners. I was stating that I slept with 5 men, and didn t protect myself and contracted a disease..that easy. I hardly doubt bragging about getting a disease is holy-ring about anything. 1 in 5, that s all it took to get a disease. So the last thing I am worried about is getting pregnant, more worried about getting a disease considering I slept with 5 men.(that s a 20% chance) It took me 1000 times to have unprotected sex to get pregnant. I am being honest here. It doesn t matter what anyone else does with their body and no one should care how little or many partners ive had. Not to mention, because you totally read my post wrong, you dropped my reputation points from 27 to 9. that s a tad bit uncalled for, Maybe if I had said something like I ONLY slept with..geesh.. this is my body and I am pro-choice to do whatever you want with yours, don t judge me about my decisions, I thought this post was all about respecting one s decisions and thoughts on them..not for you to "not like" my thoughts, heck, you asked for them..NOT COOL