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Where to begin? What to say and how do I go about saying it correctly? I have always been one to get to the point so I might as well hurry up and get there. I am leaving Cerb and I just wanted to say thank you and goodbye. The reasons for my departure are not even entirely clear to me but I just know that it is time to go (at least for now). I am not the same man that I was when I first logged and chose my handle almost three years ago. I thought I needed time away in the past and I took it but to no avail. So today I have finally come to the decision to walk away and give (hobby) retirement a go. Some of you may have noticed that I hardly post anymore, I haven't written a reco. in months and I have gone into virtual hiding...almost lurking. This is not the person I actually am and if I can not enjoy something that is by its very nature fun and exciting then what is the point? I have met some wonderful ladies, had some amazing conversations and unfortunately had an argument or two but such is life. One can't experience the highs without having experienced the lows to contrast them to. So, once this thread is created and posted I will have some last minute housekeeping to do on my profile, copying of email addresses, messages to be sent and things of that sort. Followed by my resignation from Cerbs Town Council...yes I was on council since its inception AND I enjoyed my time there. Sadly I believe that is one reason why I must say goodbye. I found myself being less and less concerned with hobbying and more worried about "Council" stuff. Guess I forgot the main reason I was here was to make friends and "shag." Ha ha. Please don't get me wrong Mod and the other councilors are fantastic and I was honored that Mod chose me but...well...it's no longer for me. As I said the remaining Council all have the best interests of the board at heart so you should all be secure in that! Well as I said all good things must come to an end and so too does my message. Thank you one and all for making my Cerb life happy and enjoyable. To those of you who I have met thank you for allowing me to bask in your company. To those who I didn't meet, for whatever reason, all I can say is "guess it is my loss." To Katherine, Isabella and Penelope a special thanks for...well just being the ladies who you are. I have enjoyed our friendship and who knows possibly our paths will cross again if I pick up my hobby again in the future (which is always possible). Thank you all and take care of yourselves and each other. One last goodbye from Fenway Park...

Be on time, be polite, be fresh and be engaged. It takes two to tango and I really dont know if i've had a ymmv encounter. Obviously each is different but certainly being conversational, friendly and interested helps everyone relax and that can't hurt. Peace MG

Maybe the quality of encounters men have vary because of what Emily said. You quoted her, but maybe you should re-read what she said. And she said If someone is concerned about YMMV, they need to take a good hard look at themself and as its already been said be polite, well groomed, considerate and show respect to the lady they are visiting with and they should have NOTHING to worry about. My guess is that the guys complaining about the quality of their encounters are not polite, grooming not good, inconsiderate and/or disrespectful You say men would love to know what they can do to increase the probability of a positive encounter, try being polite, well groomed, considerate and show respect for the lady...in short, be a gentleman and treat the SP/MA like a lady RG

Oh...Just be yourself !!!! The extra "ummphh" will be there if it is meant to be. YMMV !

I'm a sad panda today and really need a hug.

READ!!!! Don't book an appt and THEN ask for donation requirements, restrictions etc... I would say that most ladies either post their info in their ads and if not they include links to their websites. Some of us utilize the "about me" tab to explain as much as we can. Don't be lazy...get your ducks in a row and everyone will have a much more satisfying time!

When I was growing up, Christmas was such a magical time. Setting up the Christmas tree with family, tobogganing in the snow in the park across the street, cuddling with my brothers and my dog by the roaring fire in the fireplace... It certainly was a wonderful time to be a child. Plus, we would always get a few cool gifts that we could share with our friends. Things started to change for me a little later in life, sometime in my teens, when the "Christmas Spirit" started to wane. I t wasn't so much about seeing friends and family, and more about struggling through the season, fighting our way around the mall, and somehow trying to find a gift for my parents, even though my budget meant I could never get them anything worthwhile. I began to resent the idea of having to "buy" something for someone, even knowing full well they'd never use it, just so I could meet my social obligation of buying someone something they really didn't need. With my brothers, I practically gave up - we would agree on a dollar amount beforehand, and exchange cards with the exact same amount of money inside, just so we wouldn't have to deal with the holiday hassle. I started to dread the onset of the holiday season because of it, and any magical feelings that Christmas invoked in me had long since disappeared. After all those years of stressing over gift-giving, I finally decided to give up on it this year. Instead of trying to find the perfect knick-knack for my Dad to put in his garage, or the perfect DVD that I knew my brother would love, or trying to figure out what I wanted them to give me, I just told everyone not to give gifts to me this year, and to use the money for something more important - I asked them to donate it to a charity of my choice, and I would do the same for their gifts as well. Christmas is supposed to be about the spirit of giving, but it's turned into the spirit of getting instead. Kids go back to school in January, and the first thing they ask each other is, "What did you GET for Christmas?" when they really should be asking, "What did you GIVE for Christmas?" In terms of our psychological and emotional health, it truly is better to give than to receive - those who help and give to others are considerably more happy than those who don't. So why don't we try to instill that feeling amongst our young relatives from an early age, and help them live happier lives as a result? The main reason I'm sharing this is because I want to promote a particular charity to those who might feel the same way. The Nature Conservancy of Canada is a wonderful organization dedicated to the preservation of Canada's natural beauty, and the wildlife that helps make our country so amazing. They do a lot of great work in protecting the environment that our wildlife depends on, ensuring that future generations will be able to marvel at and appreciate the same natural beauty that we sometimes take for granted. If there's someone special in your life and you can't think of a good gift to give them, then I highly recommend donating to the Nature Conservancy in their honour. It's the kind of gift that both the giver and receiver can feel good about, and at least you know the gift won't end up in the bottom drawer of someone's dresser, collecting dust with all the other pointless "gifts" we've given each other over the years. Trust me, you'll both feel really good because of it. :)

Keep it alive folks! I totally cried

It takes two to tango very well with one another. Is there a guide to YMMV? nope, never will be one neither as far as I'm concerned. As Emily states above it has to do a lot with chemistry, as In my own experience, there have been ladies I have seen, and repeated with any place from 15-20 times and the 'chemistry' was/is excellent. There has been other times where I might of met a lady once or twice, and it just did not happen for either of us,but that is the nature of the beast, because people are not going to change their personalities, regardless of services provided by the lady. I'm certainly not going change my personality one hour before a appointment,nor do I expect a lady to change as well. Some people just really mesh with one another in this business, while some do not. I always carry myself in the same manner every time for every appointment, respectful,honest,clean,and expecting that yes YMMV with any encounter. I do not expect more from her, but once we have established rapport with each other, and the chemistry is there ;) the sex always gets better with each visit after the first one, its all about chemistry in boudoir together, that is my take on it.

Big bear hug buddy. Next salmon are on me! Bearcub. Posted via Mobile Device

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Thanks Pete, I'm glad you feel the same way! I don't think your post was undercutting mine in the least, and I'm really happy you also have a preferred charity that you support. I absolutely agree that giving to any charity is a good thing at this time of year (except the Salvation Army, but that's another post in itself) so I'm glad to hear that others take this approach as well. In fact, why don't we make this thread into a "post your preferred charity here" thread, so anyone who wants to recommend a charity can do so? That way, anyone who feels inspired to give to charity in someone else's honour will have a nice list of worthy charities to choose from? :)

Great post Nikki! I agree with you about the "Christmas Spirit" where you should be lifting others spirits by giving not receiving all the time. I spend my time helping out during this time of year with the The Snowsuit Fund of Ottawa. The Snowsuit Fund distributes snowsuits to needy children, 15 years and under,it is a social organization working to deal with the consequences of poverty in our region. In the past 2010/2011 season, we distributed over 15,000 new snowsuits. That in itself, is generous and very giving. When we can put a smile on a kids face, that itself is priceless. The Snowsuit Fund Of Ottawa is operating in its 30th year! Link for those like to assist, (and by all means Nikki my post was not to under mine your charity chose at all), donating to any charity at this time of year is beneficial for all those involved. http://www.snowsuitfund.com/

Having my new corset! I fit in a size 22 and I am able to close it...:D having a waist of 22 inches is kinda neat:D

kubrickfan, while I am a huge admirer of your posts I have to disagree with you on this one. The poster in question has started a few threads that have pushed the wrong buttons with a few people (one post which he deleted and re-wrote so it looked like he wrote nothing offensive) Secondly his wording of the following "How about what would inspire you to give your regularly listed services with that added "UMMPHH"(for lack of better terms)" could have been said a lot better to to not to offend people. Who is the poster and what right does he assume that WE do not provide 110% all of the time, as well what is he getting at. If you really read his post, it can be taken as how it was interpreted by quite a few people "what do I have to do to get more than what you offer" If someone is concerned about YMMV, they need to take a good hard look at themself and as its already been said be polite, well groomed, considerate and show respect to the lady they are visiting with and they should have NOTHING to worry about.

A great big pita filled with shawarma, fresh cut salad and tahini sauce.

I could use a hug too...my $2.00 truck broke today and has right now about $1000.00 in repairs done, and they haven't fixed everything yet RG

I like RG because even though he knows that I travel, he has never attempted to try and book a date with me.

I should cry more often!!! heheheeheheh

I think this is a great topic and even though I tour full time, the policy of a cancellation fee would still apply even if I was solely based in 1 city full time. I feel that if you want to charge a cancellation fee, you need to state it either on your website and/or in your confirmation email. That gives ample opportunity for the gentleman or couple to understand your policy's. This is something you need to be upfront about so there is no misunderstanding later. I dont think anyone would lose business because of implementing such a fee. We run a business like any other person and time is money. Like anything else, if you don't like a lady's policy or screening look elsewhere. I understand things come up last minute, but lets be honest here, how many car accidents really happen in one day? Your doctor charges $50 for an appointment cancelled within 24hrs, does he lose your business? Chances are no, do you bitch about it, No you don't you accept as his policy for an appointment that was cancelled on short notice. What I think some people do not understand is, most of us do not sit around all day waiting for our phone to ring and take any call we get. For those of us who screen and book ahead, all we want is our time respected. Implementing a fee for cancellation is a way of ensuring that our time does not get abused buy chronic cancellers or people with no respect to our time. I have only ever had to use the rebooking/cancellation fee 4 times in the last year, id say pretty good considering it only needed to be enforced in one city. Don't get me wrong, I understand life happens and people do have to cancel, but be respectful in the manner you do so.

Come on men, 18, seriously. This is way too young for this business. Maybe if you are in your 20's-30's you might consider it, but us more mature gentlemen should/would think otherwise. At least, I would hope. This young gal needs some protection/guidance. I don't care if 18 is the so called legal age. We need to use some common sense here. RD

...I think you're missing the point of porn for couples. The good stuff, used at the right time and under the right conditions. I agree that porn is usually option C (when the fabulously attractive partner is not available, and a lack of funds prevent me from visiting a fabulously attractive SP). But as a shared experience, it can be great. Not as background to sex. But as foreplay. At my place, we call it "pants optional" nights. Curled up on the couch in undies, watching some good porn and drinking copious amounts of wine, lots of mutual touching. The best for my partner is a long, gentle massage of her pussy through her panties. Once they're soaked through, they come off and more touching. All while watching some porn. Honestly, my partner likes seeing attractive woman being pleasured - not something she'd get to see without some female POV porn. Either way, its incredibly satisfying to see how long we can last before someone has to put their mouth on some part of the other's person's anatomy. I can assure you, while we've watched the beginning of many good porn movies, we've never seen the endings! For those of us too shy or inhibited to go to a Swinger's club, good porn is a great foreplay enhancer. You've got to do your research and look for productions that have the kind of actors you find attractive. We like natural bodies and don't like anything that's too abusive or rough. When we find the right one, bingo! It really amplifies the pleasure. The defense rests.