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I just got accepted to York University's Master's program in Women, Feminist and Gender Studies for September 2013!!!! Highlight of the day? More like highlight of the year! I AM SO EXCITED I COULD BURST. When I called my parents to tell them, I was crying with joy. I kid you not. My mom was like, why are you crying and I was like, BECAUSE I'M SO HAPPY!

It's something I've never understood and I've learned that asking "Why do people ________?" questions is a waste of my time and energy. I leave answering the unanswerable for those who must have a better understanding than I about the workings of the human mind. The only thing I allow myself to get frustrated about is when I DROP THE BALL. It's the only thing I truly have control over. As for the homeless owning dogs, I feel very differently than Emily. The most balanced and stable dogs I've ever met belonged to the homeless. Dogs don't need fancy coats or fancy food. They are not status symbols or a child. They need a pack, they need to move, they need to know what their leader expects of them and they need to know their leader will provide. Hunger isn't a prevailing concern for dogs, instinctively they need to be hungry for most of the day. I've seen homeless people feed their dogs before they eat which is a level of committment that most pet owners don't have. They don't need a consistently warm environment, they are designed to live outside. They don't need a sterile environment, they have an admirable immunity built in. They don't need store bought toys unless they are bored which homeless dogs never are. Compared to the city dog owners I have met, I would give a dog to a homeless person before the typical pet owner, myself included... cat

Would you agree that we all have a responsibility to take care of ourselves, our children, our pets, our planet. I mean without it where would we live? Well then why do some feel it's not their resposibility to support themselves-educating themselves or working so they can be independent. You know those who think the welfare and unemployment systems were set up to provide them with a supplemental income or a break because they find it to hard to bust their asses working everyday like everyone else. Those who think they deserve it or are owed it. These systems were set up for those who through no fault of their own fall on dire straights/hard times and need a temporary helping hand until they get back on their feet. I mean why as a taxpayer should I pay to heat someones home, pay their rent, feed their children when they are as capable and have as many opportunities as I? THINK- If you are going to have unprotected sex and you have no education/no income, there is a possibility that you may become pregnant. This means you need the means to raise YOUR child or children. It shouldn't mean because you've been irresponsible others should have to pay a price. I'm not talking about mistakes, horrible situations like rape,ect. I'm talking about those who are simply and intentionally irresponsible.THINK-and when you milk the systems-working/supplementing your income with unemployment/welfare while making a decent living, thats stealing and it affects all of us and isn't fair to those who are truly in need. No one is owed a living! Why do some search for a free pet then when they get it think it isn't their responsibilty to spay and neuter it, allow it to roam freely and populate irresponsibilty. Adding to the already exploding pet population. In the USA alone more than 8 million strays come into shelters yearly. More then half of them are euthanized simply because there is no place for them-WHY? Owning a pet is not a right it's a privilge so when you get one take care of it! For it's life! Why do some feel it's their neighbours, teachers, everyone elses responsibilty but their own to rear and raise their children. Yes parenting is hard but it's your job! Help is available but the responsibilty lies with you to make sure your child is happy, healthy,well behaved, educated and provided with food and shelter. Why are some not bothering to recycle and compost. This I will never understand. It angers me even more when those with kids neglect doing this as they should have a more vested interest in the health of the planet. They have someone to leave it to! Yes life is busy but it only takes a minute to separate food waste, plastics, glass, papers. Come on!! Why do some who suck on cigarettes, eat bad food, drink excessivley-just live an unhealhty lifestyle think it's not their fault they became sick. In Canada we are lucky your hospital visit or doctor visit will not directly come out of your pocket but our system is strained so why not do our part to make sure we don't needlessly burden it. We all make mistakes from time to time and possibly may need help too. But to have the attitude that you don't care because you are or have been irresponsible I just don't understand. I mean WHY?

Responsibility both to self and to society is not a simple subject and certainly not one with a clear black and white to it. I believe in full personal responsibility for ones actions. That however is easy for me to do because of my circumstances. It can be argued that I worked to put myself in this position that allows me to assume full responsibility. It helped to have come from an upbringing where responsibility was taught, education was valued, moral beliefs were ingrained and personal values were instilled. Not everyone has had that opportunity. Does that give carte blanche for people to milk the system? No, but it does mean that many people do require and should have access to a system that will help them get back on their feet, train them as necessary, and yes, feed and clothe them when it is required. We have a social network in this country that is critical, valued and important. I would argue that it does not go far enough. I live in Canada's smallest province where the vast majority of people, outside of government employment, work in seasonal employment. Fishing, farming and tourism are the staples. There is no stable industry, there are no major manufacturers, there are few places where a sustainable wage is available. Fact of life for PEI. I played on many a ball team and hockey team with guys where I was the only person who knew with certainty that I would have a pay check and what the amount would be. The provinces solution is to create and fund short term minimum wage twenty week jobs for which the sole purpose is to get the employee enough weeks to qualify them for federal government EI. The EI kicks in, and when expired the province gives another twenty week work experience. The governments are creating the cycle rather than investing in meaningful solutions. I believe with all of my heart that most people want to work and when given opportunity will do so. My last year of work before retiring from the education system a full twenty percent of the families in my school had a parent that commuted to Alberta to work. Twenty percent, so it really irks me when I hear about Islanders and Maritimers in general seeking out the dole. I suspect that I am in the minority with these opinions however it is clear that what is happening now in this country is not a solution but merely a temporary band aid solution that will keep people from starving to death. We have a government that encourages free trade agreements with countries that do not pay workers a fair wage so that the multinationals can make obscene profits for the 1% and therefore not employ Canadians at a wage that will provide an income that allows one to support themselves and a family. EI and social assistance payments do NOT provide adequate funds for living at anything other than below the poverty line. Yes it is government money from you and I but it is not an extravagance or an expenditure that I begrudge. There but for the grace of God go I. My rant for the day!

Breaking news today... http://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/ottawa/story/2013/02/06/ottawa-pamela-kosmack-homicide-suspect-arrest.html Ottawa police link serial predator to 2008 slaying Pamela Kosmack was found dead near a bike path close to Britannia Park on June 4, 2008. Ottawa police have a man in custody they believe is linked to the murders of two Ottawa women found dead in 2008 and 2011. The man was arrested at the Ottawa-Carleton Detention Centre on Wednesday in connection to the deaths of Pamela Kosmack, 39, and Leanne Lawson, 23. Kosmack was found beaten to death in June 2008 on a bike path near Lincoln Fields transit station. Police recently offered up to $50,000 for information that would help solve the three-year-old homicide of the woman who struggled with addictions. Lawson was found dead in a Lowertown parking lot in September 2011. Police told CBC News more than a year ago they believed a suspect who killed multiple sex workers may be linked to the unsolved homicide of Kosmack. Police first alerted Ottawa sex workers in December 2011 about a man who might be preying on the city's prostitutes. More to come

There's of course no one blanket answer to the whole problem of people dependent upon assistance. Let's at least start by recognizing that there are many groups here: a) Yeah sure, those who are dependent on social assistance and wouldn't change even if they could. These are the folks that people talk about 'til their head bursts and who give the system a bad name. Then again -- capitalism, baby! Make the minimum investment for maximum possible return and screw everyone else and any sense of a larger duty to the society around you. Aren't these people doing exactly what our greed-based economy teaches them to do, and what we reward corporations for doing all the time? b) A set of people who are dependent and would like to escape, but don't know how and have no examples to follow; also, those who don't have the personal, internal intellectual or emotional resources to change. We need programs to reach out to these people and offer a path to better themselves. I personally think this accounts for a very large segment indeed. We who function in society forget how intimidating it is, and how insurmountable its minimum demands can seem when they've been outside your reach your entire life. c) The set of people who are capable of change, but whose circumstances prevent it. As an example: divorced single parents now struggling to care for kids they had in better times, and for whom jobs are unmanageable because they would cost more than they would bring in (daycare costs, transportation, a long series of things impossible to manage when you're isolated). There are people who manage to rise out of these circumstances despite the difficulties, and that's awesome. My own family worked hard to overcome humble beginnings. But let's not be too quick to judge those who are still struggling with the challenge. And when we're tempted to ask "gawd, how can they continue to live such tragic and unfulfilled lives?", maybe we should also ask: how do some people linger so long in sexless or loveless marriages? Financial self-neglect; emotional self-neglect. See, sometimes change is too terrifying, or the expected financial or social cost of change just seems too high. People get paralyzed in bad circumstances all the time. I try not to judge either case. As black and white as it looks from the outside, we just don't know all the circumstances. Who'll cast the first stone?

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Thank you Fred. This is a discussion not an argument so all points of view are welcome. So we should be able to openly and in a friendly manner discuss without calling out posts or statements as ridiculous, wrong or misguided. I am speaking from experience and yes, about those who are supplementing their income. That is perfectly clear in the initial post. Wether or not you believe it is your choice. I am also very well aware of what one gets when on welfare and what they pay for their public housing. It is maddening especiaslly when some of these mothers move in there employed bf's and work a job under the table to support their 1,2,and 3 kids.Yes this to may be ridiculous in your mind but it happpens alot and often. Please inform us also how you know Emily's if statistics are wrong. I will also add I don't think Lee's statement was a blanket one he was speaking of those-remember-those- who take advantage of the systems. Welfare and unemployment-these are the systems that are spoken of in this thread. I don't remember anyone saying the whole system or all it's recipients. I mean we all can elaborate and include other systems, sectors and occupations. But that is not the point of this thread nor was it for me to judge. When I ask someone why it's is because I want to know or want an explanation-to understand. But if you see it as judging so be it. You are as we all are entitled to your opinion.

I am not spreading misfortune, but the sole reality of what I have noticed on a day to day basis when I am home. As well as from talking to the local government agency on how I can help work towards any small thing I can do to help work with this problem. It is easy to turn a blind eye when you dont live next to it. When you visit a place you are blinded by vacation mode and not reality, once it is part of day to day life you embrace it. The Teen pregnancy rates in NB jumped 40% since 2005, (the rest of the maritimes, excluding PEI is not far behind) local studies show majority of these girls have no where to go, so where do you think they are getting the means to live? Add this to the already high rate of people already on assistance, and this mess keeps getting bigger. 1 in 10 children in NB are living below the poverty line, those are the ones that deserve the assistance. Unless you live in the GTA or another LARGE city - you would be surprised of the lifestyle that others live off of it. I love where I live, just dont really enjoy some of the walks of life on my street (lots of people feel this way about their neighbours) I moved for a more peaceful way of life, as living in the GTA makes one crazy. I am a firm believer of turning lemons into lemonade and while I disagree with the ease that one can get Government money to live on, I wont let that bring me down. I am fortunate to live in one of the most historical and architecturally beautiful cities in canada, and I plan to fully make the most of it. I am all for bettering the community and fully plan to help in some way, no matter how small. If your parents are on welfare and raise you to know no different better, you more than likely will be on it as well.. If you have a child and see that you get more money for more babies as well as subsidized housing and free childcare you would probably take it too. At the end of the day, you can then afford to live a VERY extravagant lifestyle all on the government. If you have money for booze and expensive clothing while on government assistance, the guidelines into which one needs to qualify in order to get it, is too low.

I believe it's a mistake to conflate socialism and communism. We enjoy many forms of socialism in this country. "Any society, any nation, is judged on the basis of how it treats its weakest members ; the last, the least, the littlest." -Cardinal Roger Mahony Broken states like Somalia are examples of places where power and money rule and all are left to their own devices. We are a rich society. I don't begrudge anyone the basics of life. Providing essentials to prevent those less fortunate from starving or dying of easily curable diseases doesn't disincent the majority of people from working hard. It's just basic human decency to want to take care of those in need. I have pity for the homeless and sick. I don't want to see anyone suffer. I recognize that some 'take advantage' of my good will but it's a price I'm willing to pay to live in a society where all have a chance. If you're successful in our society it's because you took advantage of many forms of public infrastructure like roads, schools, hospitals, water and electricity. As Obama said, "You didn't build this." So why would you then turn and begrudge others the same advantages that you had? Seems selfish.

Sure... Recycling is not only good for the environment but it is economical both personally and for your municipality and oh so easy to do. As for pets...if you can't afford to treat them as well as you treat yourself then you shouldn't have one. As for kids, unless you are financially and mentally stable enough to commit for a life time then buy a doll. Yeah, in a mood lol.

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Great post...and topic.... I agree wholeheartedly with what you have to say. i relocated almost 2 years ago to a city where 65% of people are on social assistance and they live for cheque day. There is a newspaper full of decent jobs (I know as I have looked). I dont understand it no matter how I try to process the train of thought that these people have. One of the main reasons this is such a trend, is that they are 2nd or 3rd generation social assistance receivers. They figure if they were raised ok on it, why not keep it up. Plus they see $$$ when they find out they get more money a month for each child they have. Goverment assistance is there for a short term fix, not as a lifestyle. It REALLY sickens me. In my building I am the ONLY person not on assistance, yet some of the other tenants live a more extravagant lifestyle than I do.....How is that possible? I was in the bank at home last week, I was the ONLY person in line not cashing a government cheque. I was raised to always want better for myself and my family, and I just could not subject myself to ever take a handout from the government day in and day out for the remainder of my life. After seeing how the other half lives for the last almost 2 years it sickens me. The fact that people are content with just getting by and not wanting better for themselves is a big part of the downward spiral. Better yet, how about the homeless people with pets? WTF you cant care for yourself so you decide to make an animals life miserable too?

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This thread was a very interesting read. I don't have an opinion one way or the other because I have never received social assistance nor really know anyone who has. I do have thoughts on the issue but will keep them to myself. Keep up the great debate tho!

Let me rephrase this (As I mistyped what I meant to phrase), as I am a downtown dweller and not a suburban type of person, 65% of the people in the area of the city in which I live in, which can be referred to as downtown is on welfare or some form of social assistance (this does not take in effect, east , west, north, south or out lying areas). This sounds high, but if one took a poll on how many were on assistance in the projects in Toronto (or similar cities), it would be higher. Im not judging the entire community on welfare, (there are people who need it and have no other option) these people use welfare as a last resort not as a means to a lifestyle. It takes a bigger person to admit they need help. It may not look like a lot of money, and in fact is not to those who DO NEED it, but there are FAR too many milking the system.

So...anyone who has received assistance care to share? V Not someone who gamed the system, but used the assistance to pull themselves out of difficult times and no longer on it

Cristy, I do not want to start an argument or fight with you but I have to say a a few things. As far as your comment regarding welfare recipients driving escalades, that is so ridiculous. I'm not saying that the statement is false because whoever is driving that escalade is either supplementing their income from some other illegal activity or it is someone who was doing very well in life and has fell hard and fast. To suggest that someone can afford an escalade on social assistance is just so ridiculous I can't find words for it. My guess is that you heard a story about someone who's probably getting welfare illegally and you blanket the whole community with the story of this person (or people) who scam the welfare system, it is not the majority I assure you. You're sadly misinformed, do some research and see what a single person or mother of 1,2,3 make on welfare, it's not a lot. Don't waste your time being angry at or envying the people on welfare. Couple other things, I agree we are all judgemental but I also believe your post was judgmental, it was like the first post that followed said, a rant. You're entitled to your opinion but just call it what it was. Additional Comments: RIGHT!!! But....you're blanketing the entire community with the actions of some criminals. In my opinion that is wrong. There are bad cops, bad lawyers, bad doctors. There are scumbags in every part of society, I just think it's wrong to judge the entire welfare community by the actions of these criminals. So are you saying that 65%(not a chance) of the community Emily lives in are living extravagantly? People who legally and legitimately live on welfare live below the poverty line. That is a fact!

I would like to know: 1.) Where do you get your statistics? 2.) What made you move to a community you clearly have disdain for? You CANNOT live an etravagant lifestyle on social assistance. I don't know where you are getting your information but you are not being responsible by spreading so much misinformation in your post.

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