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No offense.. but this is a part of doing business.. any business. It's frustrating yes.. but it is not exclusive to men or hobbiests. I have worked in several other industries over the years where it also happens. The best way to deal with it.. is not to rearrange your plans to meet someone you've never met before.. so you're not as put out when it happens.. but this is tricky I realize for most. I myself have had 2 no shows this morning alone.. but I've also had super busy days.. I just look at the bright side that they probably would have been too much trouble had they shown up.. next!!!

I am a pretty laid back person, as it takes a lot to ruffle my feathers. Because of the large number of NEEDLESS cancellations and pointless inquiries of late I am posting this, some may find it to be a rant, but I'll call it a reminder as to what isn't appropriate behavior for grown men! When you take the time to message a provider, multiple times after what you say is careful thought, research her (looking at reviews, reco's, posts, ect) then you book, A WEEK ahead, then cancel with a non-important reason, that's just thoughtless! If you are going to book multiple ladies , then follow through, we aren't cabs, first come first served! Of course a gentleman has the right to see who he chooses but not the right to cancel just on a whim, sorry, that's my opinion! You correspond asking availability, services provided , message back and forth, request a time for a date, you are given a time, then you don't respond with a no thanks, or that doesn't work, nothing! NOT APPROPRIATE! We are not entertainment for the bored, if we take time to message you back with details concerning ourselves and our business details at least give the same consideration back. Our time is our business, when we put any aside we are taking time out from other things, children, other jobs, volunteering, or just relaxation time, this is something anyone needs especially when involved in physically demanding jobs. So when you book and, unless you have taken ill, or your work schedule changes or your so shows up, something out of your control and important please don't waste our time, or book us without serious intent of seeing us or message just because you can. This for many is a lively hood and messing with that is immature, thoughtless and just WRONG!

For me, basic respect is an issue. If you schedule an appointment and can't make it, let me know especially before I go through all my prep and then sit and wait for that inevitable NCNS. An apology 24 hours later is nice but more a slap to say "sorry, I didn't deem you important enough to inform". If you wouldn't do that to your best friend, partner, parent or colleague, please don't do it to me. I deserve respect just as I give it.

To be quite honest, in my experiences as an SP, I have encountered many women "haters" and am a firm believer that at least 50% of NCNS are quite probably another SP trying to pose as a gentleman in order to waste your time. Many of the lovely ladies here are exquisite companions and definitely demand respect, but let's be honest ladies...You've met at least one woman in your life whom you deem capable of this behavior. Not saying the men here don't also play games, just saying we can't always blame them.

Every lady I have been with is a gem. To compare them to each other is impossible and unfair to all of them. Research, explore, choose and enjoy the company of the one you're with.

There are many reasons why some of us ask for a reference(s) and one of them is to verify that the person contacting you actually "exists" and that it's not some random person (female or male) behind an anonymous email address just having fun, pretending to want a rendez-vous and wasting our time in the process.

Thank you and you are right, the gentlemen who are serious, thoughtful and considerate do become affected when a few select men play games, fool around or just thoughtlessly cancel. I am lucky, as I don't rely on this as my day to day income but my "play" money so if I loose a client I'll be fine but my time is something I do take seriously, I do volunteer so when I set aside time to visit with gentlemen I am taking time away form that or other activities I deem important. Time is a valuable commodity and an irreplaceable one, it shouldn't be toyed with and, shame on those who do.

It depend on your preference (age, background, looks, services, budget..) You may should take a look to the recommendation section for the girls who kept your attention! Good luck!

To echo Carrie I agree, it happens in most customer service/sales businesses. I prefer a cancellation over a no show any day!

Before this thread gets highjacked for good, here's a REAL eye candy for woman:

Sorry to hear about this recurring problem, Cristy. Seems to me the thoughtless, self-centred guys who do this won't change until there are some consequences for their actions. Maybe SPs and MAs could maintain a "gray list" of known time-wasters. That way you all could, say, require guys on the list pay a booking fee up front due to their known history of cancellations. Once the guys realize there's some kind of coordination among SPs and a penalty for their thoughtlessness, maybe they'll finally think twice about wasting everyone's time?

I agree 100 % , Everybody should be courteous especially since time is always money and we all have only so much of it . It is too bad that this happens , Someday it will come down to deposits for everything , FOR THOSE WHO DO THIS < STOP you are screwing up a good thing for the rest of us .

There is not one lady that I have seen that I can say I did not enjoy myself with. I would recommend them all.

The g spot is stimulated by the cock if it's only a few inches long.. depending of course on how hard the dick is.. and where her gspot is located. I do enjoy this a lot when fucking.. sometimes it's a matter of positioning.. bringing the legs up in missionary.. or going to doggie. If it's too long then I prefer my legs bent lying down on my back and not up straight. If it's too big I need a lot of pre-stimulation to accomodate and even then I have trouble. If it's too small I can squeeze it somewhat.. but if it's soft.. yet still hard enough to penetrate then.. the pounding needs to be harder. The deeper part of the vagina is not sensitive to touch but it sure as hell is to pounding pressure!!! yahoo! fuck me deep and hard.

As with many things, disrespect is not about gender. It's not about what's between the legs but about what's between the ears ( and in the heart...if there is one).

Not trying to sound smart, but to answer your question on which SP's I've had the best experience with, use the search feature, look for my recommendations (for Ottawa, Kingston and Toronto) Those are the ladies I have had the best experience with. I'm sure the same holds true for many other gentlemen here too. I'm not going to compare one lady to another, each and every lady is an individual and a unique person. What they each offer in an encounter is because they are unique and the client they see, he is unique too, which is why no two encounters are ever the same. And seeing as this is a recommendation site, not a review board, I'm not going to mention those very few ladies who I have had poor or bad encounters with Don't know if that answers your question or not, and if that makes any sense or not A rambling RG

I do agree with you on this, but one added thought that sets this industry apart from most, is the risk and safety issue. It frightens a lady each time someone jumps threw the booking barrier, then has location and other details, and doesn't make it to the door after. It puts our "spidy" sense's on over drive, thus making it harder and harder to book, thus some fine gent's get turned down. But yes, we do get messed with occasionally, as in any business, and that why we need to have plan B in place , lol...

The lovely Cleo Catra does as well as Berlin. You should definitely check out their ads for more info on this.

Not all of us have access however:( If you are in agency or an agent, we do not have access to post about or read bad dates. Never understood why, I am sure there must be a good reason. So for me I depend largely on references and "habits" of emailing from the inquirer. No blocked number etc... But this has it's own set of holes in it. Sometimes ppl do slip threw the procedure, and end up finding location or other details. This is when I become alarmed, then make even tougher to book, but then some gent's don't want to jump threw the hoops. They just don't get booked. and if they do pass the tests, then I say " ohh well, cant depend on anything till they walk through the door!" I do my best to make it easy enough for the client, but also not making it easier for the time wasters etc.. Always have a back up plan lol

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I wonder how hard it would be to ask the mod to start an SP only area ; similar to the bad date one that I think exists so that there is an area where these numbers , people , etc can be tracked ? Thoughts?

Wow! Didn't expect to read this. I don't want to tell people what to do in their business, but I've only had a pre-screen call once, and a reference check once. I'm wondering if that reduces the NCNS. And funny enough, I just opened this thread as I was calling to confirm an appointment for today, and it got cancelled. But the poor girl was waiting till now (agreed call time) to tell me because of a bit of a snafu. No harm no foul, she was extremely apologetic. It's the second time it's happened to me, but in both instances, the SP had the decency to call me and let me know it advance. I'm need to find a "Finding your soul-mate" thread next time I make a call.

So...apparently Gerald Butler can crack a walnut with his butt:

Ever watched a Japanese porn? Ever wanted to see what it was like to experience it? Hiroko has completely renewed my faith in Asian agencies, and is by far the best Asian SP experience I have ever had. Perhaps in my top 3 ever for all service providers. When I opened that door to her room, the girl in front of me actually resembled the girl in the picture (with some masterful photoshopping). She is young, has a tight body, and a nice rack to play with. Although she is not as pretty as the girl in the photoshopped picture, she is still very pretty with a nice slim body. From start to finish, this girl treats you like royalty, and gives 110%. DFK right off the bat, followed by a nice shower where she washes you thoroughly, cleaning every nook and cranny. She gives a quick bbbj in the shower to get things started. Once we hit the bed, more dfk followed by some very slow and sensual body kissing. She made her way down there and slowly did some BLS. Much like what you would see in a Japanese porn, she made her way down there and gave me a nice, long, and passionate rimjob. She alternated between deepthroating, BLS, and rimming for a good 10 minutes or so. On came the hat and he started in missionary. She managed to lick my my nipples while I was pounding her from the top. As I moved my head down towards her, she kissed my ear and started to stick her tounge in there. That was so hot I almost lost it. Flipped her over in front of the mirror for some doggie. The view was magnificent, as there were mirrors on both sides. After that, she got on top of me and did some amazing cowgirl. She somehow managed to suck on my nipples why riding me. It tickled a bit so I reached my fingers there to stop her, and to my surprised she started sucking on my fingers. I spent the next couple minutes with my fingers in her mouth gagging her. Truly a Japanese porn! It was almost time for the finish, so off came the cover and I was treated to some more passionate BBBJ. I wanted to finish with her rimming me, so I got in position and pushed her head down a bit. She happily obliged. With her face pressed firmly against my asshole, and her tounge stroking up and down, I completely lost it and exploded. She saw it happen and rimmed me even more vigorously. Eventually it came to a stop, and she cleaned me all up. She then gave me another short BBBJ to make sure that every last drop was gone. What an amazing experience. After all that, we hit the shower again where she diligently cleaned me up, making sure once again to clean everything thoroughly. I gladly gave her an extra tip, and she was genuinely thankful and surprised. This girl is amazing, and treats you like complete royalty every second that you are there. She takes off all your clothes for you at the start, and puts them back on for you when you leave. She will even clean you, and towl you off from head to toe. Even your clothes are folded neatly, and treated with respect. She is a definite star, and the best Asian SP that I have ever had.

...is this the wrong kind of eye candy?

Let it Be by the Beatles.... This song has given me my general approach to most everything I do.... Just do what feels right and look for the most positive outcome! Life has a way of working out the way it was meant to be! Kisses all xox

Recommendation on his first post about a new spa... Full of compliments. Where is this spa? Has anyone heard of this spa yet? From the names, I get some Asian vibrations... But this smells a bit funny. . . Maybe someone ought to become a paid advertiser and put messages like this in the other section. BTW, I don't have a clue about what 'gental' is. Should we go by sound and assume he meant 'gentle' or was this a typo where he missed typing an 'i' somewhere in the middle of the word?

Be aware of what? "Throat cancer is considered to be uncommon and a small percentage of people with HPV develop cancer because of the virus. The finding does not suggest abstaining from oral or vaginal sex." Pretty sensationalist headline for something that we don't really need to worry about don't you think? Ladies, just so you know, for every pussy onesquared doesn't eat, I'm going to eat two! :-D

It's only reasonable that a SP could fall for a client. SPs are, after all, human. If the SP puts a stop to seeing you as a client, the reason may well be because the relationship between the two of you has grown to a point where it is putting at risk that element of self-control and self-discipline your SP must have in order to make a livelihood. And that, as everyone should understand, needs to come first. Be grateful that you had the privilege of having shared some great moments with this person, and be graceful. Accept that she is not ready to take it to the next level and that for now at least, your relationship with her, such as it was, has ended. Consent is EVERYTHING. If this person wants you back in her life, she'll let you know.

Hi all...have had a few requests lately for pregnant or lactating SPs....is there really a market for this?? JW because I know of a couple of former SPs that would be willing to do this that are currently expecting....PM me or respond to the thread....just wanna know what you are into.... ;)

Shame on me, I haven't written in my blog since November but I'm back at it and have made three entries today. I'm just getting back in to the swing of things so be gentle and kind. http://lexygrace.com/blog.phtml?module_id=303913#303913 Kisses, Lexy

A couple fishing ads http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JDIBmTtT3Ro RG Additional Comments: Here's a funny one, no not fishing related but involves a rod LOL (ok I know a bad joke, stop groaning) RG

Yup. Of course, Cleo's also being far too modest on her own account... ;)

The Big Ripoff: TER, The Texas Murder Aquittal, and the Myth of the Vulnerable Client By Charlotte Shane http://titsandsass.com/the-big-ripoff-ter-the-texas-murder-aquittal-and-the-myth-of-the-vulnerable-client/ Very interesting article brought to my attention by another SP. Hobbyists, please share your thoughts. :)

Congrats Dear!! Your input is always a highlight of my CERB reading!!! 2000 posts down.... and on your way to many many more!! Kisses!! xoxo

No Sir! Ty for your conributions and precesence in this fantastic community!

Congratulations on 2000 great posts! Keep them coming!

My personal preference is for longer dates. A short date for me is two hours. Usually I have three hour encounters. With some ladies I repeat with, or develop a connection with through pm/posts/email, I'd have a four hour encounter The reason for longer encounters. It allows time to get to know one another over drinks and conversation. I find sex more enjoyable with a lady you have spent time getting to know and vice versa than having an anonymous quick sexual encounter and nothing else. RG

I know that you've posted this with all good intentions, but here are a few problems with what you're providing. You're somewhat new here, and from the posts that I've read, you seem like an ordinary, helpful guy, but there are evil, vile, and dangerous men out there that can act the same way. Offering to take someone's pictures in an industry that revolves around privacy is sketchy at best. You've admitted that you're an amateur photographer. Being a good photographer is not about taking pretty pictures. Its an entire experience, and if you're taking one of the boudoir nature, then it matters so much more that you are well trained in providing a service that makes the model comfortable. Men have a disadvantage in the boudoir photography industry for obvious reasons, but word spreads if a certain individual is exceptional at his work, and has a completely professional approach that is completely opposite from giving off a creeper "I just want to see you naked" vibe. I'm not sure of what your level of experience is (so sorry if I've sounded presumptuous), but assuming you're giving this service for free, and like you said, you're doing this for practice, you're better off starting elsewhere. ModelMayhem.com is a valuable resource for instances like this, but keep in mind that models there will charge you for modeling if you don't already have a decent portfolio. It took me years of experience before I found myself comfortable with the idea of boudoir photography, and more time since then to actually charge for it. I'd recommend easing into it with people that are in front of a camera for a living before moving onto civilians (for lack of a better word)

My retard dog eating my favourite hat while I sat beside her. I had no clue she was doing it. Headphones in watching YouTube videos. I swear she's a secret member of the Taliban. Damn thing.

Not that I want to indulge your arrogance, again, but this post is completely unnecessary. Okay, so maybe she is not completely technologically inclined, and doesn't know all this stuff like you do, but do you think that it's okay for you to out her Facebook here like that? What you just described is not everyday common knowledge. Ladies try very hard to keep their identities separate, and I find it very inappropriate and even disrespectful for you to publicly post this, and then call this woman ignorant. The only ignorance I see here is you. I'm sure ladies are just jumping over each other now to take your virginity, knowing how you carelessly use the information of other SPs. Most ladies wouldn't have seen you anyways, given the nature of all your previous posts, and now, highly unlikely. This is a website and community of SPs and hobbyists who support each other. Different opinions and variety is welcome, but your approach and attitude is completely out of whack.

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While I realize I may be in the minority in this thread, I want to thank Al From Quebec for starting a great discussion. This is something that has always been discussed among women but I don't ever really think it's been discussed so frankly between men and women. It's been great reading all the varying opinons. Thanks Al et al for your contributions! lol.xo

I want to thank all you for sharing some of your stories and experiences. This message board has been a god send for me over the last several months. This thread in particular has opened my eyes and helped me realize that I'm not the fucked up nut job I thought I was. Yes, we are all human, and we can be complex creatures at times. Thanks again.

Usually I do not allow address's posted (i ask that that info be PM'd) but in this case I think it may be best to keep it up as they obviously are using fake photos and fake names it's easy to change a phone number but at least this gives you all a better heads up. I hate bait and switch and crappy scams like this.

And Kellyxo has these pictures that are very sexy: Nice Landscape picture. Can you see the flowers behind the body :) And her newest post, Nice colours in this portrait :)