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This is a great question. In going to be honest here so no judgments lol I was scared. I was a dancer for a long time and SPs are often looked down on by them. When I made the leap I was expecting to hate it. I wanted to be disgusted, I wanted to be ashamed. But guess what? I wasn't and that scared me. It's been an awakening for me in many ways. I an finally able to admit to people that I enjoy being sexually empowered. I can finally be proud of it and be able to have a venue to express it. It's scary to go against societal norms but it can be so freeing too.

I would tell "your friend" that most every man who's ever come to see an SP has felt the same pangs of anxiety and the same worries have crossed their mind. I would suggest that he take the time to look for a woman who speaks to him... One who stands out as someone who has similar thoughts and interests. One who he just likes the look of, the sound of, etc. Next, I would encourage him to feel the fear and do it anyway (one of my favourite mottos in life!!). IF he has chosen the right SP for him, she will pick up on his nerves, and be ready to make him feel comfortable and at ease. She won't apply pressure or have any expectations for their time together, and be willing to move at his pace. Tell your friend life is too short. Book that appointment. There is no such thing as being not worthy of desire and attention!!! :)

The act of forgiving oneself is not as simple as what one might think it might be, and perhaps forgiving oneself is not even the proper term. Acceptance of self? Inner peace? It would be the rare person who has not taken an action that has hurt someone else. On those occasions when I have done so, and I can think of examples with my wife and my family and friends, I am confident that it was never done with intent to "hurt" or to cause pain, however intent is not an issue at a time when you are the cause of that pain. My primary examples of this occurred with words. Words that were spoken in honesty, without the realization or understanding that those words would hurt. Initially I experienced anger - directed at myself. A wish that I had withheld words or told one of those infamous, "little white lies." My upset is with the fact that I have hurt someone else. With time I always spend a LOT of time questioning myself, wondering what I might have or maybe should have done or said instead, and with time I virtually always come to the same conclusion, that I was true to myself. I always wish that the other party was not hurt but acceptance that I am living to the best of my ability MY truth brings me to a sense of contentment. I am quick to apologize in situations and would never give that apology without it being sincere. I do not try to "explain," or justify words. It's a funny thing about words. Once words are spoken, they cannot be taken back. Forgive myself - yes. Regret - yes. Forget - no. I learn a lot about myself with self analysis and am not one to pretend that something did not happen or put it in a box and set it aside. I only hope that others can accept me as I try to accept myself. We are products of our decisions and choices, and when we make a bad decision or choice then that is always a part of you. That is called life experience and eventually, wisdom.

For me - absolutely not!!! Again, because connection improves things for me, I find the more time we spend together the more intense things become. But again, this is just my opinion! :)

Having to lie about what I do and where I am to members of my family and other people in my life and community, and the fact that the ones who DO know have to uphold that lie also :( I guess this goes back to judgements that are placed on other people, as that's the whole reason for the lies... Sigh.

What a wonderful thread, I've enjoyed reading all the responses. For me, I got tired of always giving my best to companies that didn't deserve it. I love sex, sensuality and intimacy and had a couple people tell me that I would do well doing this. My first few encounters were definite learners and I really enjoyed that aspect and the thrill during preparations, still do. I started out mostly as massage but found that while I loved it, I also loved more so now I do a free for all. I love pleasing and experiencing and meeting new people. I especially love connecting with them and as Savannah has said, it's those connections forged over time that make things better and better. I don't shy away from emotions, you can care for someone with no strings or expectations, as long as everyone is honest about boundaries. I love communicating and exploring with someone over a longer period of time. Finding new sensations and interests and sexual/sensual pleasure. There are so many amazing people in this industry and I've enjoyed getting to know them and learning from them. It is rough when it seems like there is back stabbing or undermining going on especially if you're not completely aware of the depths of it. There is so much stigma in the industry you want to believe that everyone watches everyone else's back. Thankfully I've been blessed with a couple friends who fully support me and think it's great. One of the hardest parts for me is when people just fade away. If they have been a connection especially and then nothing, you're left wondering. this isn't an industry where there is feedback on improvement or cheat sheets on market. lol. I have had amazing experiences, ones that I continue to think about and that make me smile. Not only experiences but people. I think anyone thinking about trying things out as a hobbyist should just do some research to find someone they are drawn to and then jump in and enjoy. We're all just people and out of all the women in the world, SP's understand and support the need, fear, desire, longing, anxiety etc. and make you feel alright.

OMG I have been absolutely astounded by the incredibly supportive group of women who work in this industry. Regardless of "where" we work, or what we do (MP, SP, Dancer, etc), we all reach out to each other and support each other through good times and bad. We all stand united in our efforts to help street workers be safe. We all do what we can to keep young girls from being forced into this. And I for one have met some of the most amazing and incredible women through this very industry. I would be fine from a business standpoint without those friendships, but I don't want to be without them. I love these ladies!!!! Xo

Some of my most valued friendships are with other providers. Partly it is due to the stigma of being a sex worker -- very few of my civilian friends know what I do, so it has been invaluable to have those friendships where I can vent about frustrating situations and ask for opinions from others in the industry. And, it's not a secret that I offer duos with one of my best friends. It makes the chemistry that much better, that we connect on a level where we are comfortable with each other (and, lesbihonest ;) I think she's hot) and I think it shows in our sessions together.

First I would share this thread....lol but for me I tend to meet a lot of "intimated" gent's who feel unworthy etc. My business is massage, so I find this is a great way to learn to be touched and to touch another. It is a scary idea for some, when another women has not even touched your leg in a sensual way in a decade! Just cause your booking an SP or MA, doesn't mean you HAVE to go all the way, maybe just some female attention is what you need to start with?

LDBF123, I'm going to direct you to a thread I wrote a while back. While I do know that SP's and clients sometimes do transcend the boundaries and develop successful relationships, I would hope you explore the idea behind this other thread, and keep the lines of communication with the sp you speak of WIDE open :) Good luck! http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showpost.php?p=462048&postcount=14

LDBF123-my words describe only me-everyone is different. The only person who knows how your girl feels is your girl. If you've asked her if she loves you and she hasn't replied, perhaps she is still undecided, if she answers no well then time to move on. But ask, and accept her answer. Love is wonderful, it can happen with anyone in any vocation. If you have to move on fear not it will happen when and where it's supposed to, most likely when you're not looking. Hugs

Thanks for the thread Joy:) I always try to rectify or make the best of my mistake. I try to make it right. If not to that person(s) then to someone else that may need the gesture. For me I had to forgive myself for being an addict, for what it had done to my loving family, my body and mind. As a recovered addict now, I lend a helping hand in those that are in recovering or their families. Often times a lady who works with will fall into a mess, I will insist that they come to an early recovery meeting ( designed meeting for those who have not yet accepted their illness) before they book on again. I will not enable a user, but will offer them a way out. If they do not go, then I will not book. Sadly, many choose not to go and just work elsewhere:( For my family, I help to financially support them, as now I do not have the need to waste money on drugs, I will pass Mom and Dad some cash to help them out:) I think it is important to find redemption when forgiveness is needed. Make things right any way you can!

The Sex Professionals of Canada has a public bad date client list here: http://www.spoc.ca/bad.html. And SPOC public "undesirables" list": http://www.spoc.ca/undesirable.html All providers are welcome to view those lists, and all providers can report a bad/undesirable date to SPOC, if they have something to share, and feel comfortable doing so. Providers can also report issues they have with CERB members directly to mod, and he can take action with the member's account if he deems it necessary. But if someone is really "dangerous", they should be reported to the police above and before anything else. Otherwise, I think it's obvious why we have private areas for trusted & vetted independent providers to share dicey info about lesser offences like no-shows, time-wasters, rudeness, bad hygiene, hagglers, bbfs requests, etc. It's sensitive information and public knowledge of it is potentially problematic on many levels. I do understand what you're saying, but there is so many things to take into consideration, and it's a delicate issue.

I have been in contact, connecting and networking with other sps (and courteous client members) on forums like this since 2007. I have no idea what i would do without this connection. There are very few people that i am on an email alone basis, well basically one or two. Majority of people I stay connected with in sp lounges and discussion areas on sites like this (and sites that are not like this one lol). Some of the people I have known the longest I connected with by contacting them thru their ad like on CL or if they were on a more trashy site, to suggest a different one that would allow them access to sp areas. I've been doing less of this in recent years, but some people i talk to today online I've known since 2007 or 2008 on one site or another. Male and female, btw. I am not sure what people do without that kind of link, and feel sorry for the ones who may use it in a one sided way, as in only connecting or supporting one group often at the expense of the other group. For example, some rare sps will pile on the bandwagon to attack other sps, as tho they are their competition they want to eliminate (or discredit). I feel sorry for them because they will soon discover, if they haven't already, the kind of guy that seems to be their friend today, will quickly abandon them and throw them to the wolves when it suits them. in the meantime, they've alienated the ones who would have had their back from day one.

That's a good question. I believe in order to forgive oneself you have to love yourself 100%, although I'm learning to I still have a ways to go. I've made many mistakes and in this world there are some who are right there waiting for them to happen, who will sometimes cause them, who take great pleasure in watching you err, fall or fail and they will make the most of those situations. To come out of that, to forgive yourself, a person needs support. I've not always had that. But I do now know some wonderful, intelligent people who are teaching me, guiding me and showing me how to . So, it hasn't been easy but perhaps in time I will forgive and love myself completely, because I know I'm worth it;)

A few things for me...guys that don't come showered and sparkling clean. People that play games with us..example: booking and no showing. People that think we are all on drugs...AND last but not least ..dick pics...lol

Fireside, Salty's, Economy Shoe Shop, Estia -- and those are just the ones I've had the chance to eat at! LOL there's sooooo many more!

Have you ever had to? (Me, more than once.) I'm not asking anyone to confess what it was that they had to forgive themselves for. That's personal. I'm asking about the process? Was it easy? Were there conditions? How did it change things for you?

I think it's best to be honest. I never ignore anyone if they're polite and I answer all inquiries from those who again have been polite and haven't caused any issues. I'm not great at being diplomatic so however I'd word it I'd let them know we aren't a good match and perhaps suggest another lady who they might be better suited for.

I always think it is like getting ready for a performance, on stage lol. But it is more like when i taught fitness classes. It starts at a certain time, which is coming up soon, everything prepped and ready to go, and people who are counting on you to not disappoint them lol.

It is not completely unimaginable for a client to truly love an SP. It has happened with me, I am now 3 years into a loving relationship. BUT I made him "earn" me with trust and patients for a good year before accepting our first real date:) For me, I had to know he did not expect me to let go of my career as a provider. MY financial freedom was paramount. I was lucky to find a man who trusted my judgment about my career. Very rare is this!! As most want you to stop the industry, something I was not willing to do.

I've made Big Mistakes that I've later had to forgive myself for. And I'm really, really bad at the actual forgiving part. What I'm better at, though, is being honest with myself about why the thing happened; figuring out (as best I can) exactly what contributions I made to the mistake and why; and then trying hard to correct those things about myself so I won't make the same mistake again. I can settle for that much. I'm not sure the result is really "forgiving". Neither is it forgetting. It's really just trying to learn from the experience and fixing myself for the future. And that all by itself helps me stop obsessing over the event; it knocks it off its pedestal and stops it from defining me. Sometimes those mistakes have involved other people and sometimes those people have been lost from my life as a result of the mistake. Other times I remove them from my life as part of the solution. Other times we find a way, after a while, to pick up what's not broken and agree to move forward and rebuild from there. Depends on the mistake, and the person involved.

It is a very fine line and one that must always be re-defined and re-established. For myself personally, I prefer to get to know my clients on a deeper level. I encourage conversation and sharing prior to appointments and continued communication after the fact. For me, this deeper connection improves the time we spend together for me as much as for them. As humans, we have emotions. And I have learned over the years that human connection and emotions are something that I require. I have also learned not to let emotions control me. I feel what I feel, but I always keep things in perspective. This is just what works for me :)

I love these thought provoking posts. For me it was when I lost my mum. I had always felt like I had disappointed her with many of my choices in life and even though I think she forgave me, it took me several years, many self destructive nights and bottles of vodka and rye, but I have finally been able to move on. I know she would never want me to destroy myself - she loved me too much.

This is a topic very near and dear to me and one I hope you all won't mind if I ramble about for a few :) As the subject of my post suggests, I firmly believe in there being a difference between lust and love, as well as arousal and attraction. And it is VERY easy for us, as human beings, to blur the lines between the two. I speak from experience when I say that... as I have blurred them in my past. LOVE is a choice. It is something that we CHOOSE when we commit ourselves to one other person for the rest of our lives. It is born out of history, respect, unconditional admiration and acceptance. Out of knowing things about the other that no one else knows. About seeing them at their worst, their most vulnerable, and believing that is when they they look their most beautiful or most handsome; Their most attractive. It comes from complete openness, complete honesty and complete trust. With it comes a desire to be a better person - for yourself so that you can be better for THEM. It comes a complete freedom to be yourself, no matter WHAT that entails - because you know that no matter what you say, or do; no matter how grumpy you get, or how crazy or silly, at the end of the day you are welcomed into the loving arms of your CHOSEN partner. LUST is a feeling. An intense, passionate feeling. It is born from newness, from sexual desire, from excitement, anticipation, anxiousness, intimacy and arousal. It is all encompassing, it is amazing, it is FUN. The reality of this is though, lust fades. Even in a relationship with someone you plan to spend the rest of your life with (because you've made that CHOICE to do so), lust fades. This is why marriages ebb and flow, have their ups and downs, and often fail. Too many people believe that if the lust is gone, then the relationship is over. What they FAIL to see, is that if you make a CHOICE to love someone, and ride the rollercoaster through the next down, the next CLIMB is better than anything lust could ever allow you to experience. The CHOICE to love someone is a conscious choice that requires great effort, great committment and great amounts of work. The FEELING of lust is involuntary. It just happens. It is beautiful and natural and wonderful. But it just is. Let's face it: Being with someone we've CHOSEN to love, vs an SP/client that we LUST for is very different. Even the SEX is different. Sex with someone we lust for is fun, yes. It may even be intense, or passionate. It may leave you reeling, thinking about that person and longing to see them again. It envokes all kinds of strange thoughts in your mind that you are left trying to make sense of. But really, it IS just sex. It is erotic, enjoyable and wonderful -- as is the connection that precedes it. But it does nothing for the soul in the long term. On the flip side, SEX with someone you've CHOSEN to love, and have a history and committment with is the kind of sex that relaxes you and makes you feel all warm and loved inside. The kind of sex that makes you want to stay in bed all day naked. The kind of sex that can make you cry because its as much of an emotional release as it is a physical one. The kind of sex that makes you want to crawl inside them and you still wouldn't be close enough to them. NO SP or client could ever replace that very thing with someone you've CHOSEN to love. And that is why although the client/SP relationship may be good... no, GREAT experiences, nobody will ever be better, or replace the ONE person you've chosen to let in your heart. No matter how good the physical connection between SP and client, they will never replace that very same thing in your bed.

I am the type of person that will give a person a few chances to make an impression ( obviously to a degree ) But if it is so uncomfortable, then I will either just " not be available" Or suggest that maybe another lady is better suited for him. If he is a super nice guy, then would let a GF know that maybe they should meet, but if he was disgusting and rude, then would just be straight up and so " no thanks"

K everyone, I do not mean to answer every question, I am un- braiding my hair, and is loooooong process, so here I am ...lol for me, I need to have a salt bath to wash unwanted energy that may lingers on me. I will put the music on that makes me feel sexy and happy, then lotion up. This is a ritual I keep for every single session. If I can not do this, I feel " not ready" so many last min appts tend to not get booked. I need the time and space to re-vive my energy! I think on my client ( if I already know him) and try to have anything he likes on hand, water, pop, wine, specific music etc...

As Joy says...ask away! Yes, my first orgasm was with a client! I had a very very hard time to get there in my personal life, and yet here a client did it for me! I was shocked, and it took me till 5 years later when for the first time it is my BF that get's me there rather then a client. This is somewhat normal, as with a client we do not have the baggage of our day, life etc...so relaxing to have the big O I think is the key!

Is it the norm? No There is no norm. Sexuality is so unique it is ridiculous. I understand where you're coming from. When I was dancing I was always the aggressor so when I was with my ex it was nice to be submissive. Now I get to so whatever I feel lol When I get asked if I am sub or dom I hate answering. It depends totally on my mood abd can change daily lol

With some it's exciting every time, others it's time to move on. Chemistry doesn't happen with every guy. Nor does excitement. In saying this though, there have been some men I love to be with for more than just the sex, they are just fun to talk to, comforting and their aura is enjoyable. I get excited to see them. Others its excitement of what they're going to do with me sexually, some it's all of the above and then there are those who are probably better matches for others ;) If it's exciting the first time, it's bound to be the next....

By sharing this story, you have already helped other's! Finding your redemption through teaching and sharing words of your wisdom! Thanks for that!

I'm guessing you mean after the first "date" as an SP?! For me, it was exhilarating!!! There was so much excitement and nerves leading up to it. It was such a relief to have the first time under my belt. I felt incredibly confident and surprisingly relaxed :) I thought to myself... What's next? Bring it on!

From my perspective forgiving yourself is way harder than forgiving someone else especially when it relates to your action or inactions having caused pain and suffering for people you care deeply about. For me personally I have caused my family unbelievable pain because of something I neglected to do...i carry that burden with me every day... on good days I cut myself some slack and on bad days I beat myself up worse than anyone else could. I don't think I will ever forgive myself because that for me would be disrespectful to the people I hurt. I am however finding ways to move forward which for a long time I did not even think that was possible. Just my opinion.

I agree that to truly forgive yourself you do need to love yourself - I struggle with this as I have always suffered from low self esteem and never feeling worthy of being happy or being good enough. I am looking to get support as I think I'm a good person but I just need to remember this and really believe it. Life can be sooo complicated even without self loathing and guilt. I've been told by a wise woman that guilt is a wasted emotion

I love this thread:) I don't need to shield myself from emotional attachment as it just isn't possible. I'm not sure why or how, it's just the way it is. I do this because I love having sex with strange men, lol, men that I don't know well I mean;) If I became emotionally attached that would stop and so would my desire. I guess that's why I can honestly do this without acting, being unscripted. I have had men that I prefer over others, that have been very hot encounters but the excitement of meeting a "new" man is just as hot.

For me is the stigma that surrounds it. Although I have become rather outspoken about my profession, it is difficult to make new friends. I am fortunate now, as I have an incredible relationship, but before he came along I really did not like to date, was too tricky to have a double life, or to be honest to my date in fear he would use it against me if we fought, etc...so lack of intimacy tends to be there.

For me is the freedom I have. I have had other jobs, been self-employed in other facets, but this one I excel in:) I am able to be creative, be the " sensual giver" I am naturally. I care about my business, the industry and my clients! I have had a great day when I know I have boosted someone's self esteem, confidence and they leave feeling happy!

Who loves my boobies more? Probably me. You see my boobs and I have known each other longer. Our love has matured from innocent flirtation ("oh? Is that a breast I see?") to full on gropeage. Luckily I'm not big on monogamy as my blog readers know. I encourage everyone to play with them. Touch em, squeeze em and love em - I know I do. It's a wonder I get anything done.

The fireside and upstairs at Saltys are two I love as well. I love the atmosphere at the fireside and the wait staff are great:) Dining at night upstairs at Saltys is very romantic, great view, good food and wonderful service.

The Radisson on Hollis is a great place to stay, I have directed a number of my colleagues to this hotel. It is centrally located, relatively close to the water and a good number of restaurants and bars. I have been going there since they completed the renovations. The staff is friendly, the customer service manager Lynne genuinely concerned about her customer's experience at the hotel. The restaurant in the hotel is adequate, however like most hotel restaurants it is overpriced for what you get. The newly renovated rooms are nice, well laid out and well priced although in no way cheap. I usually get the junior suite and have paid anywhere between 145$ and 178$ per night. When booking take advantage of your CAA/AAA membership as it can give you a decent discount. Second piece of advice, book early and tag an extra day after your planned departure. As the day approaches, usually 1 or 2 days before your arrival change the stay length to the actual stay duration. This trick with their online booking portal will occasionally provide you with a lower price when the hotel is booked below a certain capacity. This trick has saved me as much as 30$ per day. If you are planning to visit Halifax and it is your first time. I can recommend a cab drive that not only will provide you with excellent service but also offers personalized tours at a reasonable price. Enjoy your stay!

Alanna Johnson, Sinful Sarah, Katherine, Eva Pearl, Nikki Doll, Lyka, and Nadia have all visited recently. That's not enough for you? You asked this question before, just back in December; did you try all of these ladies' fine services while they were here and are now looking to move on to others already?

Yep, this made me cry as well. Especially number 3 and 15. My little loves are both rescues, the first was surrendered at age ten because his family had a baby; the second was completely abandoned at age 10. I'll do anything for these dogs, they're both snoozing beside me right meow and I love them so much my heart could explode.

That made the two of us - or three if we include Cristy. My little dog has passed a few years ago, but after reading this article and when I remember her, my eyes still tear up...she was such a beautiful dog!

Tanith Belbin: Ice Dancing Allison Baver: Speed Skating Anni Friesinger: Speed Skating Anna Sidorova: Curling Hannah Teter: Snowboarding Kristi Leskinen: Skiing

I was in town all week and her pics intrigued me - especially after visiting a different SP each night. Tara shows her face and bod readily in her ads, so there's no hiding anything but I couldn't believe she was real. On my last night, I finally got the nerve to call her and it turns out she was stay in a hotel nearby on Queens street. Yep! She was the same girl behind the door as in the pics. Whew!! Huge sigh of relief. She's definitely the proverbial sexy french gal that we've all heard about, AND she's a spinner :-) Before we jumped in, I asked for a massage and to my surprise, she was pretty good! We chit-chatted small talk for 20 mins or so while she kneaded out some knots in my back and shoulders. Finally, she asked me to turn around which I happily compiled. The bbbj was SUPERB. Another pooner mentioned that she does a nice wet bbbj - boy, did she ever. Lots of spit as she gobbled my member for several mins. Lots of eye contact as she went up and down my shaft. I asked to go 69, which was no problem. I must have spent another 10-15 mins DATY. Finally, she put a glove on, and rode me cowgirl for awhile, moved to mish for another while, and finally finished doggie. I blew my load as she turned her turn to stare right at me with a devilish grin as I pounded her doggie. Wow...what a girl!!! Won't go into the LAS, except to say that I fully recommend her services and will repeat when she/I am in Ottawa again or when I'm in Montreal (her home town). Best 220 I've ever spent in an hour ;-)

That reply is an incredible relief to all of us guys who certainly want to see you more than once :)

Many thanks to you all, and to those who pm;ed or posted on my page, for your greetings and good wishes! I'll be thanking you all individually, but for now, just let me say that I'm grateful!!

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I'm so happy and blessed to have my niece back home from another hospital stay, Jan. 21st-Feb.14th. Cold and flu season is horrible for diabetics and this last sickness hit my baby niece like a tone of bricks but she is 97% well and doing great. It's good to be home and back for some more erotic encounters/adventures.!;)