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As so many others are saying, be careful how you position your relationships with SPs in your life. SPs offer awesome times, but it's paid companionship for a specific duration. I don't think SPs should really be expected to maintain that relationship outside your sessions. Not only would that be impractical to keep up with every client; it also erodes the boundaries that keep sex work healthy and sensible for both parties. One of the big hazards as a client is getting confused about the nature of your relationship with an SP. It's cool and awesome but it's at heart a professional relationship -- not personal. Also, maybe think about the way you're interacting with the SPs when you contact them casually: If you just want to let her know that you're thinking about her or wish her well, send her a quick message and leave it at that. It's one-way, and you aren't expecting anything back or measuring the outcome by her response. This kind of message is thoughtful and generous. But... if you're sending an SP a message in order to get a reply, and to start a conversation... well, that's different. Now you're asking her to give YOU something -- her time and attention -- and that's not really being generous any more. In fact, it's kind of the opposite. Last thing: you mention that you've been seeing SPs for five years, since you turned 18. I don't know you, but that kind of worries me a little. I hope you're also making time in your life to develop personal relationships with "civilian" women in your everyday life. Time spent with SPs is awesome, but that experience is just a very tiny subset of a full relationship. It takes work and meeting responsibilities to earn an ongoing place in someone's thoughts and life. More time and energy on that stuff for a while, maybe? Just a thought.

I have not seen this thread recently and I am sure there are lots of people who could use a hug today. So if that's you, take this and savor it. :) Have a great day!

I would love to donate blood. Never been able to though due to frequent tattoos and my promiscuous lifestyle. Most people on this site wouldn't be accepted due to the second reason (unless you're dishonest at blood services).

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First, let me say that I agree with almost everything that has been said so far. Second, many SP/client professional relationships are successful, in part, due to understanding and respect for the unwritten NSA rule... NO Strings Attached once the rendez-vous has come to an end; a concept that some will gladly embrace while others will always choose to push the boundaries of. The latter will most likely affect your chances at a second (third, fourth...) rendez-vous or will unfortunately ruin what you've already established with the lady/ladies in question. Coming across as too needy, high maintenance and entitled to xyz, with expectations on top of that after a rendez-vous is, let's be honest, a real turn off for the ladies.

One point to make. In other threads (the negotiating thread comes to mind) ladies were pretty much across the board and most gentlemen too that this lifestyle is unlike any other business and shouldn't be compared to other businesses. In fairness it shouldn't now be compared to other businesses. This business is a very unique, very intimate and very special lifestyle lifestyle with really no other comparisons. To compare it to other businesses now seems a tad unfair. And I do believe the OP asks a valid question. One function of this board and community is to learn. There is a unique intimacy in this lifestyle. But the intimate nature of this lifestyle notwithstanding, friendship is something that is special and may happen, but more than likely won't happen in this lifestyle. But sending emails in the hopes of making a friend isn't going to happen. When you see someone regularly, it might happen. But friendship is something that unfolds naturally. Hopefully he received the answer he is looking for. Good Luck RG

So do you expect the same thing with your dentist? The clerk at your local beer store? The tow truck driver that roadside assistance sent out that time you needed a boost? It's not uncommon for SPs and customers to become friends. But we aren't automatically your friend because we saw you and were nice to you, or even enjoyed ourselves with you, while being paid for our time. There's more to friendship than that. I hope you aren't holding it against them as professionals that they aren't jumping through these hoops you're setting out for them. Isn't the only thing they're really responsible for is providing a great service during the time you pay for, and protecting your privacy?

It's great to be committed to what you want to do and to be serious about it, having strong ethics is important especially in a career such as that. Still sometimes it's important to also consider the spirit of the rule and not just what they are saying. I mean some people are incredibly safe in this industry, see people only a couple times a year and would be low risk. Then some people that are in a committed relationship will have unprotected sex with their partner who maybe isn't as committed to the relationship, so their risk factor is much higher. There are no absolutes but you try to be careful and understand if you are genuinely at risk or not. Oh and trust me if everyone in the health profession avoided seeing companions we'd be in trouble. I suspect there are a few Surgeons, Radiologists, Oncologists, Anesthesiologists, Dentists, Dermatologists, Pathologists, Cardiologists, etc. that are keeping some of your favourite ladies in business... just a hunch though. :tongue:

Not only should you not apologize but it's important for everyone to remember there are actually plenty of board members that might qualify, we see lots of threads each year from people that post "Still haven't taken the plunge, long time lurker but thinking about it..." The fact is it's a good reminder for people and yes though Canadian Blood Services does rule out a large number of us for multiple reasons there are still others on here that can donate and more importantly friends, family and loved ones that also can and it's good to keep it top of mind as you never know who in our lives might also need a blood donation. I too fall in the category of cannot donate, not just for the obvious reason but like a few others on here the extensive questionnaire rules me out in more than one place however I've had loved ones that have needed blood before and I am truly grateful to those that donate. I also have a pet that is a blood donor, not everyone realizes this but sometimes our little furry friends need blood too and mine have donated in the past to help save the lives of a few shelter animals and other pets that came into my Vets office, little ones that needed a helping hand (and a cooperative universal donor). It's good to give back when and where you can. Oh and my furry one was rewarded with a ton of treats and snuggles... well when I was forgiven. ;)

Jafo don't feel bad and I am sure most here agree you don't have to apologize, you didn't know about the ridiculous rules to be able to donate blood and you also mentioned volunteering and organ donation. Besides, any post to encourage people to help others is a good post :)

I completely agree. Jafo, you don't need to apologize at all - you have all the good intentions. I have been a blood-donor for over 10 years. I have to stop donating after starting to partake in this hobby. I really wish one day the rules could change and we all could continue to contribute to the society. To be honest, it does cross my mind sometimes to lie on the form. I feel like I am taking all the precautions, safe measures and get myself tested regularly, and yet my blood could not be used to save someone's life.

Cleo is right...any of us on CERB fill out that form honestly are precluded from donating just because we partake in this lifestyle Not to mention some have certain health issues that also preclude them from donating Here's the questionnaire...see who is eligible http://www.blood.ca/centreapps/internet/uw_v502_mainengine.nsf/page/ROD%20Questionnaire But it's a nice sentiment...too bad Canadian Blood Services isn't enlightened RG

As Cleo pointed out we are not allowed to donate blood, not sure what the policies to donate organs are. Even for volunteering you have to go through paper work like police check that may not be ready on time. Is sad how they make helping others so difficult. I understand safety is important but a real criminal will find his way to do harm and not apply knowing he will get screened same as like it was mentioned already one can lie to donate blood.

I am so sorry to hear that, Cleo. I hope I have not offended anyone or touched on a delicate subject. If I have, please accept my sincerest apologies.

WOW! Some strong words on you "gottarocker" Please remember everyone has their own personal opinions wants and needs and can find true beauty in even the most disgusting of women. I am sure you could have been a little gentler with your the way you expressed your feelings. May I suggest private messaging or an idea- You could say something like - Yes I have met her she was not to my liking however you may enjoy her company. Then you could invite anyone interested to p.m you for more information. That is when you can express any and all concerns. That way you are giving the sp a fighting chance and the gentleman the opportunity to make his own decision. Cerb is a "friendly" recommendation bored. Not for nasty reviews. I am not one to stick my nose where it does not belong but I do believe outing someone on a public form is un called for. Note To All- All persons have feelings Xox Selena

I understand this must be rather frustrating for you. When we have an intimate connection with someone, and spend a couple or a few hours intertwined with someone both physically and emotionally, it's hard to not have expectations or desire something more. (More is vague, but I think everyone knows what I mean). It's true that everyone is busy, but people (in general) are usually selective about who they are friends with. This happens both in the industry, and outside of it. I'm certain you don't talk to every friend on your Facebook, just the ones you really care about, right? I'm not suggesting these SPs don't care about you, but I can only imagine how frustrating it gets to receive these sorts of PMs, texts, and e-mails continuously from every client, when most of those clients never book an appointment with them again. We all learn from experience, and there are a lot of people in this industry who will see a girl once and then never see her again, but expect texts, e-mails, and friendly PMs. I don't think that's a fair expectation to have. Once you've established a regular connection with an SP or MA, that's a different story, but when you've only seen someone once? That's a bit more complicated to navigate, and will definitely be dependent on how busy the worker is (both personally and professionally). I know it sucks, but that's the way it is =( You're definitely not the only one that feels that way, but we all learn with experience. I really hope you find what you're looking for, Nat xox

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I do chat quite a bit in the time preceding a meeting, I enjoy the virtual foreplay and that sort of communication makes for a successful session ... for me. I do have a problem when people take advantage of that, or assume that because that's my style before a meeting that I have time to text them continuously over the next several weeks or months.. even years...after the meeting. I met a gentleman for an hour once, over a year ago. He texts me frequently and says he wants to book, maybe for "next week" which of course never comes. It's extremely frustrating. He dangles an appointment like a carrot ..almost like he wants me to ask him for a meeting, which is so not my style. I told him recently that I was tired of it, that his $250 bucks ran out a long time ago and that my service didn't include constant texting over months & years. Understand that first, not every lady appreciates frequent or lengthy communication, and second, some gents take complete advantage and that spoils it for everyone.

Several years ago a close family member was on life support and was pronounced brain dead. With no chance of recovery, and after a few days coming to our sense we made the decision of taking her off life support but not before signing the release to donate any viable organs.a couple years ago a memorial was held for the families of people who donated their organs. We received a memento with listed the organs that were successfully donated, which ultimately changed 6 peoples lives. 1 life saving 6, I only hope that I can do the same if I were to pass away.

Thanks Jafo105 for the thoughtful thread:) I've been volunteering for quite sometime now, different animal charities. If I can't give my time I give my money, one or the other or both. But since my dogs surgery and for my personal well being, I had to cut back. I've been spending some time visiting an aged home lately. But both these things take a toll. Today the senior I was sitting with started crying because she was tired of just sitting in her room. When it gets warmer I'll take her out, but she's quite frail, it was so sad. Situations like that and seeing dogs penned up wanting out, coming in from bad situations has drained me. Life is so good for some and so sad for others. I guess volunteering is good but for me right now, I can only do it here and there. We all should try though, a little is better than none. Sadly as it's been said giving blood is off the list and to my understanding so is organ donation.

Please don't be sorry , this is all information we all need to be reminded of . No mater how much we know it , its never redundant. Love to all.

There should be no backlash, you are asking a legitimate question and stating an experience. My answer-When we are with you we are your friend and lover, you are paying us to be, sorry to be blunt, but that's the way it is and when we leave it's done-you are paying for that as well:) But I do think it's only polite to respond to a pm, especially a quick hi, hello or nice to hear from you, etc. I respond to all my pm's, even phone conversations from past clients and send out greetings on holidays, although my friend list has grown so much sometimes I'll make a post to wish all happy holidays,etc:) Sometimes expecting someone to chat may be to much for some though. Imagine if every client we saw wanted to have a conversation? I feel bad that you're feeling blown off, none of us should want a one time or repeat client to have those feelings. Perhaps there were or are unknown reasons for the no replies, or short ones, since I don't know anything about your exchanges I can't make an opinion. You shouldn't take it personally though, hugs:) Something I've learned-never expect anything from anyone and you'll never be disappointed:) but always stay true to yourself. If it makes you feel better to reach out to someone then do so, just don't be disappointed with their response, that's on them:)

Had a duo tonight with Melodie and Daisy. My practice when visiting is to engage ladies on chat and if the online chemistry seems to be there, take the next step. It was Melodie who proposed the duo with Daisy and a few hours later it was reality. What to say? 2 hrs with two university educated bright ladies who seemed authentic, could engage in a wide range of conversation but also take things to another level once the intimacy temperatures began to rise.

There will be a current and former sex-worker only social from 7:30 p.m. - 9:30 p.m. on Wednesday April 2nd. It is open to sex-workers from any sector of the industry including erotic massage, escorts, cam workers, erotic dancers, people who offer BDSM services, phone workers, agency workers, and independents, etc. It is also open to any person of any gender and sexual orientation. There will be vegan, vegetarian, and gluten-free snacks available. Please feel free to drop by for 15 minutes and then leave, or stay for the entirety of the two hours. Please PM me for the location (same location as usual). Again, this is for workers only (current and former). Thanks, Nat xox

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The sunshine:) having a great workout invited to dinner by a sexy client:)

Le sigh I knew I was going to get at least 1 back lash from this post.

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Thank you all for the warm welcome!....errr.... Warm and wet welcome ;) Either way, the boards in the States could learn From your instant hospitality. New to the board, not the hobby, but a nice welcome Indeed! May the GFEs be with you! Safe and Satisfying Hobbying to all! Real G.

I suggest Jordan Munroe, she is playful and offers what you are looking for. She does have a classified ad here, a profile but does not logon often. Also on BP her name is in the tittle. Miss Manda also visits Moncton often, defiantly a "must see" as well.

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I haven't been on here that long and have had nothing but positive interactions, but I guess this forum is the same as society as a whole, overall good people, but a few a$$es who are intent on bringing others down. Don't let it get you down, the good will always outnumber the bad.

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I can tell you what I think or would want to do in such situation but truthfully, its impossible to say. During the heat of the moment with adrenaline and other emotions running wild its difficult. I can say I'm sorry for your SO, and I know how she must of felt at that moment. I come from an abusive house hold as well and can say even through the abuse was done a long time ago the pain can still be with us. I bet her body reacted the same way at the restaurant as it did when she was young. The anxiety and the sickness in the stomach the sudden urge to leave and escape. It's almost as if reliving the experience all over. You can't help but feel the pain these kids must feel. This does remind me of a similar situation I had recently. I was at a restaurant eating and a mother was eating with her grown up daughter. I don't know the context or even know what was the reasoning, but the mother was saying some absolutely horrible things to her daughter and was laying down a huge guilt trip. Despite the daughter tears and please to stop she continued until the daughter left crying. When the food arrived the mother had told the waitress that her daughter left her again. So when I left I stopped by the mothers table and said if she treats her daughter that way, one day she will stop seeing you and will be left alone. When I was a kid I use to think I deserved the abuse and that it was my fault. So for those of you who would stand up to and say something I thank you it give me validation that I did not deserve that. It may have effected me in negative ways but I am a stronger person today.

Zoro, I hope this doesn't count as backlash, but in this my sympathies are with the lady. Now, I too will sometimes send a hello or good wish to a lady I have seen, but if they have the time and interest to reply back I consider that a bonus, not an expectation. You ask "is it so hard to reply back with a hi"....well, yes, for some maybe it is. You point out that you are busy but still have time to chat with friends on Facebook. But surely you must see for the that the relationship the ladies have with us gents here is not in any way the same as your buddies on Facebook? Now, I'm not saying some don't become friends in a way, and it's not like there aren't conversations that happen. But again, that's a bonus when it does! It seems to me that a lot of grief and hurt that happens is when people have expectations that don't get met. You asked an honest question, but the answer I think is that, in this case, the expectation may be unrealistic. To be frank, when a lady shares her time with us we are not buying the right to her friendship. And if a lady doesn't have time to carry on pleasantries with every past client that is her right. And consider this, if they do give a quick hello back, does that not just encourage future messages? If there is no time or interest in such, isn't it better just to make that clear early? Again, I'm not saying you're wrong to offer the occasional hello or see if someone wants to have a conversation. But they are not wrong or even rude if they don't want to take you up on it. Best.

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Of course not being a man I don't have any final word . However I think the best blow job is the one you are presently enjoying . I had great fun last night entertaining a lovely man with my duo partner . Clearly this gentleman was so happy I'm not sure if he noticed when we moved and changed positions . I personally believe a man receives the best blow job when he looks dazed and totally confused and is not even aware exactly where he is . This is what I saw last night and again I'm not sure if he knew exactly what was going on where !

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Just like Claire said... Love it all or dont do it! Is about an entire moment.. from the anticipation.., the hello Kiss and Hug.. the getting acquainted. .. learning one from each other..., what we enjoy.. The discovery of each others bodies to the touch... sliding up and down with the rhythm of the music playing in the back ground... the laughs... The deep conversation or just small talk... the euphoria and the quiet moments.... the fun and playful soapy showers... the goodbye kiss.. The look in each others eyes until we meet next... the smile after spending a great time... and even those messages exchanged after the encounter....

My favorite moment is when I receive that text saying 'Hey, I've arrived.....AND I'm chewing gum ;)' lol. Seriously- It's the anticipation before any encounter that starts the adrenaline process. and then add a few orgasms...and one or two for you too- haha and it makes it really hard to pick a favourite. My favourite moments today might be considered boring tomorrow. Go with the flow. LOVE it all.... or don't do it.