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I would like to have a conversation about being open minded. Not necessarily about specific things, but over all - are you open minded? I am not looking for the politically correct answer. Anyone can say xxx, but can you back up your words with your actions? We all have our likes and dislikes. Some things we tolerate and others we will never tolerate. However, if someone has a belief that is different then ours, are we correct or are they? I am not talking about abusive or dangerous things here - just consensual stuff between 2 (or more) consenting adults. I grew up in a multi cultural environment. My school friends were from all areas of the world - as a child I didn't realize how blessed I was to experience this. I also grew up with others that had disabilities (myself included), so learning how to accommodate their needs became normal for me. So, I've had some conversations with others recently, seen some questions online, and I've been thinking - what is your tolerance for someone who is different then you? Comments like: My son is queer, and my other kid is a faggot who dresses up in girls shit You know the chick has a dick? She is a heffer - must be at least 400 lbs She is so skinny, has no tits or ass Wow, she is so kinky, she would fuck a horse Shit she won't even fuck anything - I think she is stuck up on herself Yes I want to fuck a women with another women there, but don't want another guy there cause I don't want no sword fighting. That's sick. So, at what point do you agree with the comments others make? When do you challenge them? Or do you challenge them? I'm always amazed and sometimes have to stop myself before freaking out. No one is going to change or grow if I'm yelling at them. So, I take a breath, and try to have a conversation to find out where its coming from. There are times it works - other times I just walk away and realize that others didn't have the same experience I have had so will not understand. On this site, I would like to see more acceptance to others that have an experience they would like to explore. Just because you are not interested in that experience, please don't make that person feel like they are weird for wanting to explore this. This is a site, that if you have nothing nice to say, JUST don't SAY it. If you don't like it, just stay out of it. It's like someone who once said "I don't like the wham bam thank you mam" - but what if someone wants that? Is it wrong? Not really. As long as both parties understand, then it should be ok. Yes, you might like to take your time and that is really great too. Just don't judge someone else because they want an experience that is different then yours. Or, someone who is asking about a TG gurl in the area and wants to know what she is like. He already understand she is TG, so you don't have to point out that she has a dick. And, FYI, she is referred to as a girl - not a guy with boobs. How about a threeway? This time, not two women and a man, but two men and a women - maybe the two guys get it on with each other? Is that ok with you, or do you go, "fuck that shit, they are faggots". Don't forget Funky Cold Medina: But when she got undressed, it was a big old mess, Sheena was a man So, I threw him out, I don't fool around with no Oscar Meyer wiener You must be sure that the girl is pure for the Funky Cold Medina For all those that want to experience something that is different from the vanilla mainstream says is ok - please, let them be who they want to be. Don't judge them and remember, sometimes when we have a strong reaction, it usually means that we are somehow connected and need that, just not ready to explore it yet. I am interested in other peoples opinions and experiences.

[quote name=roamingguy;583431 we shouldn't be judging each other. Now by open minded that doesn't mean I'll do anything and everything. I still will do what is in my comfort zone. But I respect other's comfort zones' date=' choices and boundaries. RG[/quote] Thank you everyone. You have each pointed out something that is unique and specific to you. I appreciate it. Your honesty is remarkable and this is why I love CERB so much. xoxo

Mightypen, you brought up something that's definitely important. There has been a slant against "just sex" sessions in favor of a more GFE, intimate sort of session. As you said, both have a place because sex is such a varied, colorful and amazing thing and we are all individuals with changing and varying moods and needs. Just because we might want a slow sensual encounter one day doesn't mean that another we are not ravenous for raw powerful lust. One is not better than the other, they are just different and people should not be disparaged because they want one or the other of something completely different.

Great thread. I have a wide array of personal kinks and fetishes I like to pursue with SPs. Since I grew up with them, I feel pretty understanding of others whose unique psychology leads them to seek out stuff that might not make sense to me. My basic philosophy: if you're all adults, consent makes it cool. I haven't seen a lot of hostility to alternate lifestyles here on CERB, but maybe I haven't been reading all the threads closely enough. I DO want to acknowledge one particular thing you raised though, Meghan: that "wham-bam-thank you ma'am" is actually okay. We spend a lot of time on this site extolling the virtues of respecting SPs as human beings and finding the value in the human connection that's available within sex work. Not just "we" -- I spend a lot of time on that subject here. Maybe we dwell on that part of sex work disproportionately on CERB because so few other sex-work communities do. But it's important to acknowledge that just as romantic soft-focus "lovemaking" isn't the only or even the "highest" form of sex for a couple, neither is there only one "best and moral" way to see a sex worker. Entirely healthy people sometimes hunger for an anonymous but sweaty fuck. If that's the thing a client is after, that's entirely cool. For my part, time spent with SPs has allowed me explore stuff that I know has been a challenge to play with in my conventional relationships. I can only cheer for others who have the same experience, even if their particular kinks don't happen to push my personal buttons.

To me, being open minded means that whatever you think, believe, know etc. you keep your mind open to being wrong, to learning, you changing your perspective and while you're at it, you work to not judge others. Everyone is an individual and unique and has had their own challenges, lessons and experiences. They also have their own wants, needs, beliefs, thoughts etc. I would never want someone to judge me based on the choices I make or the things I want, need, desire or am interested in. I make a conscious effort to not do that to others. Just because something doesn't interest me or turn me on doesn't mean I look down on those it does. Open minded to me is keeping your mind open to all potentials and possibilities, to all people, to life.

Wow...really interesting topic thanks for posting it. I used to think I was pretty open minded... always said... to each their own but more recently I think I have come to see that perhaps I was not as open minded as I thought... i still think to each their own but the reality of that is more that I have tended to really only be around people who were very similar to me... lol it easy to be open minded to people you agree with. Since becoming involved in this hobby I have met a number of people who have shown me what it is like to truly be open minded they are people who approach life with a willingness to accept anyone who accepts them. They are less likely to judge someone because of how they look or talk or because they have a different sexual orientation.... i have to tell you it was unexpected but very refreshing. As a result of my interaction with these individual I find my self interested in learning more about things I previously thought were in the margins and am willing to try things that I never would have before. Now that said... i would suggest that while I am way more open than I was... i think I am still probably a product of my upbringing....so lots of room yet to grow. Just my opinion

First of all, great post Meaghan. You articulate a great philosophy to adopt, especially for this site. As for your question, I'm having trouble saying how open minded I am myself. "Open minded" is one of those terms that everyone defines differently. Does it mean you believe everything or are just willing to hear others out? Does it mean you'll try anything or just that you won't judge someone who does? And where's the balance? Someone once told me it's good to be open minded but not sooo open-minded your brains fall out. :redface: I try very hard not to be fundamental in my beliefs, but always open to change, and willing to accept a new position if someone makes better arguments supporting it or it has the best evidence available. But all of us have our blind spots, and it can be difficult not just to pay attention to those things which bolster your pre-existing views, while turning a blind eye to anything that challenges your beliefs. Our beliefs are, after all, who we are. Is it any wonder we struggle so much to admit something we think may be wrong? As for specific examples, when it comes to sex and sexuality I'd say I'm very open-minded. A person's sexual orientation doesn't phase me, nor which gender they self-identify as. As for sex, well, there's many things I'm not interested in, but what turns a person on is often out of their control, so my attitude is whatever goes on between consenting adults is up to them. I'll enjoy my kinds, wish you well with yours, and let's each have fun, fun, fun however we define it. If I ever have a threesome, it's true I'd prefer it to involve two ladies, but I see that as personal preference along the same lines as I like chocolate milkshakes more than strawberry. And I've no judgement for those who prefer a different flavour. In other areas though I struggle to being open-minded. I've friends that believe every conspiracy theory out there, and I have trouble being patient with them or even hearing them out after a while. And I'll admit if I find out someone is of a certain political party, I'll sometimes make assumptions about them. At the end of the day, I try--imperfectly--to assume the best of people, and act and think under the idea that each person can be who they want to be and act how they want to act, as long as doing so isn't causing another person any harm or limiting their freedom to do the same.

The best lady for you may not be the best lady for another person. Your question is sort of like asking what is the best food? There is no best food which suits everyone.

Can't say which girls are the best, can say the best place to look is here

Wow Meaghan. What an amazing thread. It raises so many things that I don't know where to start. I generally am very politically correct in what I say or present to others. That does not mean that I feel that way in my heart in many circumstances. There have been a couple of very recent threads on Cerb that I have not replied to because I would present a point of view that is quite different from what is "expected." If I can get my words together I may do so yet. Being open to new experiences for oneself is one thing and respecting others and their choices can be an altogether different thing. I am very confident that over these many years when I heard of, "this or that," I thought to myself, "Nope, that's not for me," I don't think I would ever have judged others or felt that what someone else did was any of my concern. That is said of course with the understanding that the obvious no no's are not included in that statement - violence, pedophilia, etc. For things of that nature I have no tolerance. With regards to the sample comments that Meagan made I know that I would respond or try to educate whomever said them in whatever minimal way I could if it were a private conversation with someone that I know. If it were in a group situation then I would do the easy thing and say nothing and walk away. Probably not right, but that would be me. For the vast majority of my life I would certainly be called vanilla. As I have written about here several years ago, I was one of the lucky ones, with an amazing wife, having a true best friend in her and with her being my one and only soul mate. We talked, and we fantasized but beyond that it never went anywhere with others or outside the very traditional norms and social boundaries, primarily because she was concerned that it would mess things up between she and I. Who knows as she may have very well been correct. She was a really intelligent woman. Following her death I discovered escorts through Cerb and again as I have written about previously, the myths and the stereotypes were very quickly blown out of the water. I have used this previously unavailable opportunity (by choice) to, "explore," and still on a very basic level I have had amazing involvements with various women, of all ages, sizes, shapes and most interestingly, of such varied opinions and experiences. I have learned about, through conversation, lesbianism, bisexuality, polyamourous relationships, open relationships, sex workers rights, and many other things that I knew little or nothing about. I have consciously sought out some women that are in many ways the exact opposite of me and certainly of my experience over the years. Tattoos have even become a drawing card! I have had several MFF encounters which were amazing. I have had a date where I chose to be totally submissive. That is not one that I would choose to repeat, but, I absolutely am glad that I tried it. I have been told that I am open minded, and even though I never really thought that I was, perhaps that is correct. My boundaries have been expanded and there are several more areas that I still wish to explore. I will at some point book time with a T-Girl, and I am quite looking forward to it. There is no doubt in my mind at all that I am way into women more than men, so when this happens it will be with a person with very feminine features. Maybe that is not being open minded? On the topic of open mindedness, one of the things that I am most pleased about is that my daughters know about my occasional involvement with sex workers and it's pretty awesome that they are not only OK with it for me, but also are not judgmental of me at all. Needless to say there has been an teaching opportunity for me to enlighten them as they also had all the same stereotypes that I used to have. Great thread Meaghan.

I like to think I'm open minded. And hopefully people in this community likewise are open minded. We are judged by the "civilian" world, we shouldn't be judging each other. Now by open minded that doesn't mean I'll do anything and everything. I still will do what is in my comfort zone. But I respect other's comfort zones, choices and boundaries. But I might...emphasis might be open to having my boundaries expanded, depending on what that boundary might be. And those who have different interests or orientations (hope those are the right words) that don't appeal to me at all, well instead of judging and name calling, I'll respect. As long as people are happy and respect one another who is anyone to judge? Don't know if that answers your question A rambling RG

Don't discount the independent ladies. There are many great ladies here on Cerb.

If you could change something about your appearance would you? Yes we're all beautiful and we should love what we have been blessed with, but if you could, what would you improve? I'd like to have a permanent tan, as a blonde with a European heritage I freckle:( so the sun is not my friend and self tanners are to high maintenance. Bigger boobs, of course, even bigger, never to much boobage imo:) Chicklet teeth:) I love teeth that are so white and perfect they are almost blinding and yes they look artificial. My dentist always shakes his head when he sees me as I'm always asking him for them, but he won't relent. He feels my teeth are white enough and how they should be:(

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Hey guys, the "Lisa and Destiny ebony twins" advertising on Back page recently are not the Lisa and Mina ebony twins that are CERB members.

Id have a cock instead of a pussy...

Well, if I were really fussy I'd have to say I'd change my 'downward curve'. It works fine mostly but it makes erections not look as impressive, I would guess. But I don't usually try to show it off or anything so it hasn't been a big problem so far.

Heehee! "I demand." Great strategy there. Do you think that's ever actually worked for him? Dick: "Where are you?" Jane: *silence* Dick: "I DEMAND an explanation!" Jane: "Oh, well in that case, since you're demanding... the answer is..." I doubt it. I certainly hope not. What was I saying before? People are weird. (Also kinda reminds me of " " from A Few Good Men.)

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Hi Diver, welcome to CERB. As Meghan said, most of us are open to and good with first timers, it's more dependent on who might turn your crank or connect with you through their posts or website. If you take a look through the Nova Scotia section you'll see many providers, both locally and visiting. Check out their profiles and websites and look at their posts and see if anyone attracts you. Then take a look at their website and see what they expect for contact and what restrictions they have. I mention this as some ladies will only see clients over a certain age. Then contact your chosen lady and ask any questions you have and see if there is a connection. From there, hopefully you'll have an amazing first experience and will be off an running. You can also search on providers in Halifax and if you have any questions, there is a lot of good information in the "new to this" section.

Discovered this a few weeks ago and it's an AMAZING way to kill time. Best of all, it's absolutely free!!! The game is simple. Take a subject. ANY subject. Ummmmmmm... hmmmmm. Dildos. Using ONLY the hyperlinks on the page, see if you can navigate to the end result... and that end result is either Adolph Hitler or Jesus Christ. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dildo Look on the page for ANY link that might get you to either Hitler or Jesus in as few clicks as possible. For DILDO, it's fairly easy. There is the following link about conservative Christians and the ban of the sale of dildos because of what is perceived to be read in the Bible. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Bible The Bible link is easy... you KNOW that somewhere in there, there's bound to be a mention of Jesus. So you find Jesus and click on the link. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jesus There you have it.... you have successfully linked dildos to Jesus in TWO clicks. Let's try another. Justin Bieber. The Biebmeister. Bieberama. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Justin_Beiber Easy enough. In the article there's a link to the fact that he is of partial German heritage. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Canadians_of_German_ethnicity And further in the Canadians of German ethnicity article there's a link to why they came to Canada... to escape the Third Reich. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Third_Reich And that's where we find Hitler. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Adolf_Hitler You have done Bieber to Hitler in 3 clicks. So here's the challenge: CRUMPETS. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Crumpets Showing your work, find a good link on the CRUMPET page and follow links from the following pages to link crumpets to either Jesus or Hitler in as few clicks as possible. Then.... when you are successful, find a subject and post it with the Wikipedia link as a challenge to the next competitor. Good Luck!!

Love that song, and love watching the video clips too! I wasn't a fan of Christina before, but I just love the way she sings her part in this wonderful song.

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This is something I have played around with before. There are a few free software packages that will do what you need, try broadcam. It's commercial, but free to use if you add a link to their site. Otherwise google is your best friend to find other options. I am a little confused by your network assessment. I am not sure of any residential provider offering a 100mbs upstream connection. Double check to see what your upstream connection actually is (go to speedtest.net). You should also run your server locally on your network to get a sample of what the traffic will look like before you max out your connection. Hope that helps a little Kelly Xo

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Being woken up early (07:45) on a Sunday morning by the sound of snow blowers. This is supposed to be spring.... We are supposed to be woken up by the sounds of birds ...- NOT snow blowers....

Oh, but your pussy is so lovely! Besides, I don't think a cook would go as well with your nice boobs and long shiny black hair...

If she is not a member you should send her the link to Cerb and get her to join. 3 times nice!! You should write her a proper recommendation, I'm sure she would appreciate it. Kisses, Lexy

Micro-sculptures made within the eye of a needle

Not sure that a Question that asks about "best escorts" can be even answered "best" is so subjective.

Had a wonderful encounter with the Raven last night. Great mature lady. Good conversion over a glass of wine and a great evening. Very genuine person and it was well worth the drive from the valley :)

Unfortunately my last purchase was an almost $3,000.00 car repair.... All I could thing was how many hours if fun that could have been turned into with a wonderful lady from CERB.

Communicating with an SP is in its basic form a pretty simple thing.... one would think it would be pretty hard to fool up. In most of the cases you have an interested client trying to connect an interested service provider.... seems like a match made in heaven... what could possibly go wrong... lololol. Well in my experience it more closely resembles a mind field overgrown with beautiful flowers.... in our eagerness to run and pick the flowers clients tend to run right in without stopping to read the signs or get a map. Making it worse... us guys are pretty self centered so we don't stop to think that maybe just maybe we are not the only guy trying to contact the wonderful lady.... what do you mean she has a life outside of her profession.... you mean she is not just sitting by the phone waiting for my call... lolol... yea no doubt about it... we could do a better job of respecting the needs of the wonderful ladies that we want to meet. We need to remember to stop and think before we send that second text.... we need to relax and not get mad because she did not reply... lol... in most cases it just means she is not available... it's not a personal statement... she's not being mean or blowing you off. Remember she is running a business why the fuck would she want to piss off a client :). This should go without saying guys but I will say it anyway.... when we are drinking we don't always make the best decisions or communicate effectively. General rules for us clients: - Send a message if you don't get a reply don't take it personal just move along. -Read the ladies ad and website to see how she likes to be contacted and what her availability is. Follow the instructions... it is your map through the mind field. - Read her posts and website for clues about her personal interests related to ongoing contact with clients... some like it and encourage it others have no interest. -Don't be a asshole....be polite... and just to be clear I can tell you with 100% certainty that sending her a picture of your cock will not enhance the communication process. - Keep your expectations realistic... for the ladies this is their business and you are one of their many clients. Yes most of them are passionate about and enjoy what they do... yes they enjoy the company of the men they meet and connections they make... they will make you feel like you are the Centre of their world for the time you are with them but THIS IS THEIR JOB not their whole life. Now all that said.... for the wonderful SP's: - Remember we are just mere men lol... we love your attention and are infatuated by your sexy beauty.... you impact our judgment and cause us to do things that we should know better to have done.... not making an excuse here just stating a fact. - Help us by being as clear as possible about what your expectations are around ongoing contact...Yes we should know enough to not expect you to be at our beck and call.. but every SP is unique and the more you make it clear what your expectations are the better we will be in walking that mind field. Just my opinion

True. However, even a board like Cerb, in a more active section like "Winnipeg", is plagued by the common malaise of "the lurker".. Such a tendency for 100 members to lurk, while only a dozen or so "full patch" members post any information of value or merit. I scroll down a thread, and dismiss the 'low count' posters. Why? Because many of them are shill accounts that are hyping a given provider, or are simply unreliable in their assessment of a provider in question. Harsh comment? Sure. But prove me otherwise.. When I started out on the boards a few years ago, I got shot down from time to time for my taste or opinion about a given provider. That did not deter me from sharing my experience, however. I kept posting my opinions, as I saw them and called them.. And after a while, people will recognize what a given poster says, and can base their judgement on their knowledge of that posters' established track record. Which means that lurkers need to leave the shadows and start to post their opinions and thoughts about the providers they have seen. Eventually, each one that does so will establish their own "street cred" here and will actually make a contribution to the information pool. Now that I've groused that out of my system, time to shuffle off to bed.. good night CERB.

Font...choose wisely. The origin of the term "giving head"?

OK, not an awesome pic... but an awesome vid. For those of you who have 17 minutes to spare, and like bikes (or speed): a trip around the Snaefell Mountain course at the Isle of Man TT. Edit: OK, I lied. Bonus pic: Aurora Borealis from the International Space Station.

With the exception of losing some weight I am not sure I would look to change too much about my appearance I am generally OK with me. I too have a medical issues that while it does not impact my appearance it has had and will continue to have significant impact on my life... so rather than alter my appearance if I had the power I would change my health.

First I have a medical condition I wish I didn't have. It's the reason why I don't drink. Very few here know what it is, but it affects my life daily. Could stop taking meds and although few notice, my day to day life appears normal. But there are things I have to do to deal with this medical condition on a daily basis I also wish I could lose this gut. No, not looking for washboard abs or anything like that, but I wish I could lose this gut and once off keep it off Quick response from everyone, diet...well easier said than done Funny how there's support and sympathy for a smoker trying to quit...that to me should be easy...to quit smoking you just don't smoke anymore...simple, it's just stopping a habit But to lose weight, diet...you can't stop eating, you need to change your habit from eating wrong to eating right Plus exercise, which for me is walking, but with this sh*tty winter, it's been too treacherous to walk Not an excuse, ice and snow covered sidewalks have been too treacherous to walk on One other thing, and not so much because of appearance, but I wish I didn't need glasses, and had 20/20 vision without glasses My baldness, I've learned to accept it...it stays RG

I get what you mean Daniel. Is almost as bad as reading the same post twice in different threads, especially when is a negative one.

Yeah 100 percent legit. Though I'd be lying if I didn't say I haven't dreamed of the ladies rigging me whole getting a legit massage. On masseuse consistently allows my hand to rib along her chest when she is moving my arms around :) Posted via Mobile Device

Yeah, really. The fact that some men need a reminder of this is a head scratcher! Heck, I had my first encounter last week and I: 1) Showered 2) Shaved 3) Trimmed my nails, made sure clean 4) plenty of deodorant 6) Brushed teeth 7) Mouth wash. 8 ) And, I'm a smoker (so gotta fix that), so I chewed 2-3 pieces of strong gum shortly before I showed up. The lady actually commented on my nice breath, lol. Moto for the Hobbyist: Hygiene is Sexy!

Long overdue but finally got around to watching The Notebook with Ryan Gosling and Rachel McAdams.

It happens a lot! I get the impression that when a gentleman tells another they do think they are doing the sp a favor, not a malicious deed or spreading gossip. BUT like others have said ask first, our information is only for US-the owners- to share and to share where and with whom WE choose. Because a gent is a cerb member doesn't make him more trustworthy, reliable, discreet or more likely to follow the rules. There are good and bad clients on all sites:( Nor does an online friendship allow you to truly know anyone. So as i'ts been said ONLY pass on information AFTER you have been given permission to or simply write a reco, then everyone can see that this is a lady you think highly of and think others should experience:)

This is my thought as well. If the buddy gave my number out (my # is in my ads, it isn't a secret), then the buddy shouldn't care that he gave the # to his friend and the friend is telling me who gave him my #. When the new caller won't tell me, it just lets me know that he is either lying or being pranked. I tell them they shouldn't rely on referrals, but choose an sp who is right for them, and that means looking at the ads and making the calls based on who suits them. I tell them their 'buddy' might be pranking them, because I am obviously not a younger or less restrictive sp, nor do I have really low rates, so he might be in for a surprise to find out more about me. It is always my opinion that the 'friend' is giving a number telling the guy its a hot young chick up for anything, and he finds out that I am not. pranked. The others have seen the ad but they don't want to admit which ad site they saw, so they come up with the 'friend' excuse. Also they want you to sit there and tell them everything that was in the ad. They may be prank calling me, as well, again I think this because I am older and more massage oriented, so they can feign surprise at the age, or tell me that i sound 'hot'. yah, ok. This not wanting to let me know what ad they saw is a common one, even for the guys not saying their buddy gave them my number. I have actually told many guys that I can't see them thru the computer, meaning that knowing what ad they saw won't tell me who they are or where they are or what they look like.

When I ask where did you see my ad? and I get the "my buddy gave me your info" I ask who is your buddy? 99% of the time they never reply back. While I do appreciate of word of mouth, I don't do secret agent BS. If Ive met your Buddy so to speak and he told you contact me - I don't think he really cares that I know he sent you to me, however just cause I may or may not have met your buddy - the same booking policies apply to any new contacting me - so buddy or not Im still going to screen you.

There's much more to an encounter than an orgasm. Take time to have conversation over drinks. Spend time getting to know one another. Then go to the bedroom. Being intimate with a lady, and just my opinion, is much more enjoyable with someone you spent time getting to know a little. After sex, and you orgasm, continue to lie in bed with the lady, kiss, cuddle, conversation. Ladies are much more than providers of sex, they are providers of companionship. And companionship is special My two cents RG

Of course it is for real and it feels great! ;) To answer your other questions, yes, the amount varies depending on a few factors like hydration and yes, the velocity also varies... It's never the same for me. As far as taste is concerned, it doesn't taste like anything but sometimes it can have a sweet light taste to it (I am guessing it depends on the "diet" of the lady).

hi, my option isn't listed ... I prefer BBBJ, and will usually steer that way when I am looking at ads ... but it is not a deal breaker