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I have had the pleasure of the company of several TS providers. I can say with assurance that each and every one was feminine inside and out. Yes, there are some physical differences and yes those differences vary from person to person. I also find women attractive. In fact, I consider myself pan-sexual with a strong preference for women. If the OP's intention is to pursue a strictly sexual relationship, then by (bi) all means indulge. We live in incredible times. Twenty or thirty years ago, it would have been difficult or impossible to live out a TS fantasy. Today, opportunities abound and with sites like Cerb, research is possible. If the intent is to follow a personal and emotional relationship, then do so with your eyes wide open. As previous posters have said, TS/TG face numerous daily challenges ranging from prejudice to health issues. It is important to both parties if you enter into an emotional relationship, you do so with honest intent. TS/TG members of our society deserve no less respect and care as any other member.

Eh, depends on who you ask. Some people use transgender and transsexual interchangably. Others see a conceptual difference, though may not all agree on that difference. In my experience, there's often a generational gap in how the language gets used, with older trans people identifying as transsexual and younger trans people identifying more as transgender, regardless of surgical status. People who are not interested in surgery or hormones or who identify outside the gender binary (something other than a man or a woman) often prefer transgender over transsexual. Language is a complicated and nuanced topic that's always under debate and shifting within trans communities. I would always say, don't make any assumptions about a person's body or surgeries based on how their identify, and always respect a person's self identity. Best is to ask what pronouns are appropriate to use with a person, but as a general rule, you should never call a trans woman "he" or "it", and if you're not able to ask, "she" is probably the most respectful assumption to make. This depends on so many different factors, such as your perceptiveness, what type of surgery she's had, how her healing process went, what you might believe is the normal range of variation for vulvas... Surgical techniques for constructing a vagina and vulva are very, very good these days. Often you would never be able to tell that there had been any surgery. You really can't know, unless the people you've been with have told you. A lot of people have an idea in their head of what a trans person looks like, but like with cis people, trans people run the gamut from very feminine to very masculine, and aligning very closely or not at all with mainstream standards of beauty. I know trans women who look like magazine models and I know cis women who naturally grow beards. We get a lot of narrow messages about what makes a person a woman or a man, but in reality, we are all so diverse that there is no one set of defining features that can externally define a person. (Cis just means not trans. So if when you were born they said, "It's a boy!" and you now identify as a man, you're cis. Same deal for baby girls who are now women. It's more respectful to say cis than natural born or real. :))

Since you mention pursuing a relationship, it sounds like you are interested in maybe dating this woman, and that she's not a sex worker (or at least you're not meeting her as a sex worker, and maybe you don't know what she does for a living)? So, my comments are based on that assumption - my apologies if it's incorrect, though this should be mostly relevant either way. First, I think it's really important to remember that trans women are women. They may have different bits than you're used to on women, but that doesn't make them any less real women. Like having sex with cis women (cis means not trans), sex with trans women is going to be a unique encounter each time - sex is a dynamic that's created by two people together. It's okay to feel unsure - the important thing is to communicate a lot. Ask her how she likes to be touched and what language she likes when talking about her body. Some trans people have a lot of dysphoria that can be triggered by certain words or being touched in certain ways, so just use your words. If she has a penis, it may or may not get hard. A lot of trans women who have been on estrogen for a while don't get erections any more, without the aid of Viagra or other meds. She also may or may not ejaculate still. She may be a top or a bottom or versatile - definitely something to talk about. Roles may not be quite as easy to assume as they would be with a cis woman. A lot of straight sex between two cis people often defaults to penis in vagina sex without a lot of discussion. You should expect to talk a little bit more about what kinds of sex you two will have, and maybe you'll need to have a broader idea of what counts as sex, beyond putting your cock in a hole (or maybe you won't.) I think it's also really important to think about the experiences trans women have. Like all women, there's a real risk of violence at the hands of men, but in addition to male violence against women, they also have to content with transphobic violence. Recognize that she's taking a big risk with her safety by meeting a stranger off the internet, honour any safety measures she decides to take and be extremely respectful of her boundaries. Trans women are murdered all the time simply because people are uncomfortable with their attraction to them or because people can't see them as human beings. Call her by the name she gives you and use the pronouns she uses for herself (most likely she & her). I'd recommend reading this guide and checking out some other resources, so that when you meet, you can just focus on being your best self: http://www.autostraddle.com/getting-with-girls-like-us-a-radical-guide-to-dating-trans-women-for-cis-women-160269/ Be awesome, be kind and be okay with not knowing everything (but be willing to listen and learn!) Absolutely. Trans women are women, and no matter what she has between her legs now, or in the future, doesn't change that. Dating or having sex with a trans person doesn't change your sexual orientation in any way - if you're a straight guy who's attracted to women, and you find a trans woman hot, well hey, you just met another woman that you find attractive. :)

Please join me in bidding Carrie Moon farewell as she is leaving Ottawa this week to move to the Niagara region. Carrie was one of the first escorts I met back in 2002 when I decided to get back into the business as an indy. She has been a source of inspiration and generosity. She has often gone beyond the call of duty to help me and other ladies in this industry. I will miss her. (Thank goodness for technology). Note: Some people were asking me if Carrie is retiring. Just to be perfectly clear - NO Carrie is NOT retiring, simply moving!

Hi everyone, I see many ladies here who post their traveling dates weeks, even a month to a month and a half in advance....and sometimes, only few days in advance. Personally, I like to advertise within 2 weeks or 1 week prior to my arrival. I'd like to inquire for myself and other ladies, gentlemen, how much advance notice you need when someone visits your city ? Would you prefer to be notified way in advance (to mark up your calendar and be prepared) or a short notice is enough ? Is there an ideal time for you ? Please do let me know. Thanks in advance! :) Eva

Traveling Wilburys

You'll just have to go fishing instead of golfing Pete !!! This would be a good catch ? ;)

Today's weather in Ottawa.....f-ing rain!!!!!

you know what's super awesome? there is finally a subsection for "fun" threads that are completely not industry related ... I get that some of you love them but they were really clogging up the discussion section and some of us only come here to the "general discussions" area for discussions (go figure lol) ... and they were becoming increasingly difficult to find!! Thanks to whoever thought of that!! :D

I did :icon_razz: The only thing I can conclude from the single, much smaller data-point was given as a comparison is that the author wants the reader to believe the response to this one was very large. This may or may not bear any relation to where it actually stands in comparison to consultations in general... which was why I asked.

Can we please stop with the insults and assumptions? As fortunateone pointed out, stating "420 friendly" does not necessarily mean that the provider herself partakes. Personally, I find it inappropriate that one provider is commenting on another provider's ad. Whether you agree with this woman's choice or not, publicly deriding another worker on a public forum is in bad taste and comes across as trying to cut out competition. Focus on yourself, and stop with the judgmental comments.

Hello everyone, I am new to the site, but not to the industry. I live in the US and have been an avid traveler around the States. I'm now starting to expand my wings outside of the country; I was last week in Saskatchewan. I find this board to be very helpful and wish we have something like it at home; where positive reinforcement and kindness are emphasized. I am happy to be here and I hope to learn more. Thank you!

This grey wet weather is getting to me and I needed a laugh, post your funny picture to give us all a good laugh, come on:) there are lots of them out there, :) Sent this one out to some of the guys as one of my new titty pics, lol, thought that was funny:)

http://newbrunswick.backpage.com/FemaleEscorts/girl-next-doordynamic-encounter-24/1726374 She defiantly does not match the pictures posted in her add.

Now before I open my mouth I want to say that I love Montreal and the Quebecquois and that this isn't a put down but a sincere question and observation and that there are exceptions, but in general it's my experience independently and when I was involved with services, that Quebec men, especially Montreal men never want to pay "the going rate" for an encounter, they seem to expect more for less when here.... why? A typical response I've always gotten was I can get it in Montreal for $$ so... But if that were the only reason then I'd think that the many other well travelled gents that call and can get it for $$ in Thailand, Germany, N.B or where ever would be saying the same thing?

Over the last few months I have noticed that there are fewer and fewer discussion threads, and even fewer recommendations being written on our nb page. I know there are quite a few of us not comfortable in posting publicly on here, but if we all don't do our part this discussion board will loose trafic with the lack of content. I promise from this point forward to do my part, and encourage you all to post questions in the discussion board, and even more so recomendations for any of these lovely ladies. The more reco's we have the fewer questions people will post about if they are legit or not. I will give credit where credit is due and thank Sophia from Suite escapes for Megan McLeod for posting regularly and answering any questions people might have. Let's all give a little time to this site. It's a valuable tool for everyone if we all do our part.

I know what you mean, I was kinda in a friends with benefits relationship not long ago, and I have no clue what happened, but we no longer contact each other. ive been told many times that im a nice guy, and I try to be, and this is the thanks I get???

Like e-cards, but with more sass. Check it out: http://snarkecards.com Here are some of my favs. Feel free to post yours.

The lawyer who did the Bedford challenge mentioned somewhere that the Nordic model as it is a ban of purchase legal services, would not hold up to an SCC challenge. I can't remember much other than that, the opinion of others seem to be similar. It is because this is Canada, that sex work is legal, and that the challenge regarding criminalization of the legal prostitution, all these things add up to a scene where the Nordic model as it is presented in Sweden for example wouldn't be able to be used here in the same format. Whether that actually stopped them from doing it anyway is another story. i think where the charter of rights etc would fail is that someone can easily challenge any laws that force sex workers to see all clients, rather than have a choice. now the coercian thing prevents that.

My great grandmother's life seemed to embarrass my grandmother to the point that we don't know much about it. I'd be more interested to find out more about what she went thru: left husband and family, moved to Canada. returned to pick up her youngest, my grandmother, left the rest with the Dad. Those kids and their kids barely knew who she was, and that includes my grandmother. Discrepancy over the marriage certificate date and the birth certificate of her youngest children (as in they thought they were 2 years younger than they really were lol), and then what happened to that guy, their Dad? And who was the last husband, not their Dad, and where did he go?

That sound like it could be Fibromyalgia. http://www.nhs.uk/Conditions/Fibromyalgia/Pages/Symptoms.aspx I know what you mean about waking up to a migraine. I have been having them for a few decades now. The ones that start later in the day are a little easier to deal with and treat. than the one you wake up with. Ugh... I think I speak for most of us when I say, Your online family is here for you when you need us, RG.

I was awakened last night by a severe calf cramp. White hot pain lancing up ones leg is a great way to break the sleep cycle. When the alarm roused me from sleep's embrace this morning, I still had the echo of last night's agony pulsing up my leg. Short of waking up with a migraine, this is my least favourite way to start the day. Additional Comments: Aww RG, we will always be here for you. I realize this may be a weak substitute, but I like to think there are men & women in this community who truly care about each other. Not a bad definition of a family, even if it is a virtual family.

I'm not arguing the point of SP's not wishing recommendations. I have had encounters with some ladies who wish to keep encounters private and I too respect their wishes if they choose not to have a recommendation (not a review) written. Recommendations after all are written for the lady's business and if she prefers nothing written that has to be respected. That is why each and every recommendation I have written from the very first one I wrote first was seen by the lady for her yay or nay. I never post, nor never have posted a recommendation without the lady's OK. BTW that doesn't mean I post false recommendations, they are all true accurate reflections of my dates with the ladies, just they get OK'd by the lady before posting But I am talking about those guys who don't write recommendations because they think somehow keeping the lady they saw their little secret is a good thing. Why keep a lady a secret? That is counter-productive for this lifestyle Anyhow, a morning rambling RG

Unfortunately I see the whole thing as a means for the Harper Government To do the political spin before introducing the new law. Previously on CERB I have been encouraged by others to wait and see what the new law is before condemning the government but i can only say nothing about this feels like it will be positive... Just my opinion

Well, I have a Habs tshirt....perhaps some selfies are imminent!

Let's work backwards with what you wrote. You don't want to come across as completely ignorant. Treat her with the grace and respect you would any other woman and you're good there. Is the relationship worth pursuing? Like you said, you won't know for sure until you meet her so let's put that question on par with your chances when you meet anyone new to you. You're straight and attracted to women. Well, to put it delicately, work with what you know. And you already know what to do with a lot of her. And a lot of the experience will be just like being with another woman. Okay, enough with dancing around the elephant in the discussion. Yup, she comes with a difference (no pun intended). You can, within reason, make of that difference what you will. You may go into the evening thinking you won't really be up for dealing too much with that. As things progress, things will get hard. I mean, you might find it hard not to play there a little bit. Or a lotta bit. In my experience no woman is going to force you out of your comfort level. And in my experience, I've found the boundaries of my comfort level in this situation greatly expand as the evening progresses. All of which is a long way of saying this. You have an interest in this as demonstrated by you posing the question. Explore that interest. You might find that you actually don't have an interest worth pursuing. You might have an excellent mind blowing experience that you will thank yourself for in the morning. But most of all, you will have the satisfaction of knowing you gave it a try. There are no points awarded for that which you meant to do but never did. Good luck and enjoy!

I do agree 100 percent with this post. Even though this is not always the case, it seems to be the majority. In these situations I often receive the same response that you have, or I get "well I will only be 10 miniutes" after clearly quoting my donation rates. (10 min session was not one I offered?) It's like going to a store to buy $100 pair of jeans. then telling the store clerk that you only want to pay $50 because you only plan on wearing them once.

If I was a SP (which I am not) this would be my friendly Canadian response: Enjoy your drive back to where ever it is you came from. Have a nice day [CLICK] Welcome to {insert city/province here}! Regulars get the extra perks. Out of towners pay full price! Your not in {insert city/province here} any more. I am sorry, you must have me confused with {inset political leader name here} Sorry! Sorry! Eh! Good day, Eh! Don't get me wrong I like the province of Quebec and all their great contributions to this awesome country -- CANADA. Montreal City was founded in May 17, 1642. Quebec City was founded in 1608. Province of Quebec was founded in 1763. Earliest french explores to Acadia in Canada was around 1604 {?} Many, many other great contributions through out history

True, true and we all should :) but it happens so much that it's hard not to generalize and so much that I expect to hear it as soon as I hear a French accent, even though I know that a French accent doesn't necessarily mean they are from Quebec. It's a shame, but again, when something happens more often than not it becomes an expectation and I suppose a judgement:(

All forms of electronic payment are the trend for the future and which type of payment a person will choose will always depend on a whole range of personal reasons. For me my number one concern is privacy.... i partake in this industry without the knowledge of my wife and kinda want to make sure she does not find out. Sure I can take a whole bunch of steps to reduce the likelihood of getting caught but any payment method that that has a paper trail (even an electronic one) dramatically increases my risk. I get most of my bill electronically so i don't run the risk of a paper bill being opened and causing a problem but I am also a bit pragmatic and have thought about what happens if I get hit by a car tomorrow.... my will and power of attorney documents give full access to my wife as the person I trust most in the world to make decisions for me... do I really want to leave a record that will implicate me if I am in a coma or dead. Yes of course I want the privacy issue covered to "protect" myself.... but it us also so that I don't hurt my wife now or in the future. So for me Credit cards are way to much detail that has a permanent record. I like Email money transfer and use it a lot for all kinds of transactions so unlike my credit card statement which may have only one or two transactions my bank statement will have hundreds so the likelihood of it being noticed if anyone had access to my account is remote.... I have a PayPal account but would not use it for this type of transaction as it has many of the same issues as the credit card. Direct Debit.... i would use this as it is really the same as email transfer (maybe better) but only if the account name of the SP was discrete. Bottom line for me.... for any 1st time visit with a lady.... CASH is king. Once I know and trust the lady I would be open to Debit or email transfer if that was her wish. All of the above is just my personal perspective about what's right for me.... i understand that for others they will have other interests and that's fine... people should do what works for them. The challenge may be that ladies my get increasing pressure to offer a range of payment options (just like other businesses) we as client should keep in mind that our wonderful hosts have to also meet their own needs which are no less complex then ours. And just think.... our thoughts on all this might change dramatically if Mr.Harper makes the purchase of sexual services illegal.... who wil want a financial record of the "crime". Just my rambling opinion

the easiest way to avoid after-hours bs is to simply not answer your phone. I don't book via text unless it's someone I know, and although I have an outgoing message, I have my phone set not to accept incoming voicemails. I post in my ads that generic ("what's up?" type) or rude messages will probably be ignored, and that's often what I do. I don't engage at all with those people, trying to educate them or train them in etiquette isn't fun for me. Turn offs for me are people who try to tell me how to run my business tell me I don't advertise enough (if I'm booked why advertise??) cancel last minute or no show have a sense of entitlement take 17 emails to book an hour visit

not the one that kingof6 saw lol, here's the link to her ad http://halifax.backpage.com/FemaleEscorts/100-real-upscale-classy-girl-in-town-bunettes-do-it-better-1902-210-4997-19/1857130

Anything that reeks of entitlement or bad boundaries. Guys who leap right into grovelling or submissive behaviour from the first contact. Until we negotiate a scene, I am not your mistress or your dom. I am your equal. I don't appreciate being non-consensually pulled into a dom/sub dynamic or a potential client trying to start a scene with me over email by being all subby and expecting me to respond all domly like. Save it for when I've agreed to see you and we're in the same room. Being disingenuous about why you want certain activities when we're negotiating. If you really want a certain act or activity because it turns you on, just be honest about it. Don't try and convince me that you just want to do it for my pleasure if I've already told you that I prefer something else. I'm very happy to roleplay being really into your kink and "forcing" you to do it once we're in session, but if you can't be honest and straight forward before we start playing it's off putting. Insisting on discussing the details of our session by phone, when I've made it clear I prefer email for that. I have a detailed email form on my site for a reason, and having the specifics about your kinks, experience level, clothing preferences, fantasies etc in writing is really important for me, so that I can go back and review that information before you arrive. Everyone I see wants something different and the details are usually very important to creating a hot scene. And since I book most sessions well in advance, the odds that I'm going to remember every important detail is pretty slim if we planned everything by phone.

lol, me too. I don't know how many times i've just said, oh, sorry, not available the minute i hear that kind of thing. Also they say it in what i call 'sexy voice', so it really grates on the nerves. This is not a dating site, I snap, from time to time, you don't have to sexy voice me to impress me. it creeps me out, and makes me question why they are calling in the first place lol. I'd advise not using sexy voice and not calling any sp sweetie, hun, babe, and/or babeeee

Oh, I know what you mean lol I even created an ad for it some time ago: http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=123724 I look at it on the bright side though: it makes my screening much easier/faster that way and I don't hesitate to mark the email as spam and then gladly send it to the trash folder :) u know sweet baby darlin'... coz im a buzy gurl i dont w8ste my time, evar ;) lol

My minimum booking is half an hour, and I only provide a few select services for short bookings. I'm low volume and rarely see more than one client a day, so putting in all the effort to prep my space for less than a half hour doesn't work for me. I have one client who books a half hour and only uses about 15 minutes of our time. He's lovely and I enjoy my time with him, and he gets to satisfy his fetish and have an orgasm. Our encounter needn't be long and drawn out to be satisfying and fun.

Hey, im new here!! Thanks for accepting me int cerb

For me, skill is what is more important not the certificate. I say give it a try if you believe you are good at it.

Just be professional and mature. I am young as well and have seen sps. Don't act like those bravado men and remember to treat everyone with respect just like the way you want to be treated yourself. If they don't want to see you, then as the other member said say thanks and move on.

In this lifestyle, speaking in generalities of course, with age comes with maturity. Where as a young man may think he's god's gift, with age comes a maturity, the realization that a gentleman knows he isn't god's gift, but he knows and appreciates that he is going to see one of god's gift, the Goddess he is sharing a hour or a few with. And he appreciates the time the lady has set aside to see him. He does not view her time as an entitlement for him. As has been suggested, contact a lady, build a rapport. When the time is right ask if she will see you. Offer to pay a deposit in advance (there are many well recommended ladies here on CERB in case you are worried about sending money in advance) plus volunteer verification information (your real name, board handle confirmed by PM, email, an unblocked contact phone number) a reference if you have one. She may need other information if you don't have a reference. And btw the ladies can be trusted with this information Be open, forthcoming, show you are more mature than your age, and you may get an companion agreeing to see you despite your youth. And if she declines your request, say thank you and move on. Even if you give her verification information, doesn't mean she owes you an encounter. Be mature at all times, even if you are declined A rambling from a fifty something bald man RG

My advice would be to strike up a conversation with someone you are interested in. Connect via the online world and let her get to know you before trying to book a date. If you can create a good rapport, perhaps she will reconsider and arrange a meeting. What Malika said is sad but true. Prove that you aren't a 20 something jerk and maybe you will reap the rewards :)

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Yes, you are correct and I'm sorry if I offended any SPs who offer these appts as it was not my intent. I should have worded it differently yet my emotions got the best of me as I've had to deal with people who want them but don't bother to read my ad or tell me they only have X amount and want 15 mins.. Rest assured, I'm not someone who looks down on other providers or make them feel bad for offering 15 minute appts. To each their own,.

Just read this now. Respectfully Cleo, it was not my intent to insult other ladies who offer 15 min appts. I was simply saying that it makes me feel a certain way ( i.e. a device for a quick release rather than feeling like I'm being treated like a person) and especially since I DON'T offer these sessions and make it quite clear in my ads. Receiving these requests after those who don't decide to fully read my ad is annoying and shows that they clearly are dismissive of my boundaries. And imo, that is the height of ignorance. Those are my feelings and we are all entitled to what we feel and what we are willing to offer and not offer. While you may feel differently, we are all different and provide different experiences as service providers.

For some reason I can't help but picture this: But yeah, no judgement on others, to me it sounds more stressful than fun. If I'm going to get to enjoy an encounter, I want to it to be a real experience. Hard to do that when you've given yourself less time than the previews last at a movie.

I think you are indeed 'New to this." if you believe that.

Definitely refreshing! I was referred to this site by another SP :) glad to be here! Kerri

Assuming different options are available with GFE or PSE will only make you mad when you find out these are not available from some ladies. GFE and PSE are "STYLES of SERVICE" and not actual services!! You CAN NOT assume PSE or GFE include any specific services. STYLES.... Mechanical Style: This means no chemistry and just what it is (Sex) no illusion of lust or passion. GFE: Girl friend experience (Does not include specific services) this is a style of date where chemistry is tried to be created, feelings of lust and passion. Usually includes kissing and a more intimate fantasy. The lady appears (and often is) genuinely interested in pleasing you and often enjoys being pleasured as well. PSE: Porn star experience (Does not include specific services) this is also a style of date. It is not a romantic/passion/chemistry type encounter it is like what you see in the porn movies (A little dirty and hardcore) SAFE PSE/GFE: means condoms are used for oral sex (and possibly DATY protection is used) - Some girlfriends and porn stars insist on condoms for everything too guys! CONDOMS are used IN ALL STYLES (Some people assume condoms are not used with these styles as often real girl friends and porn stars do not use condoms). DO NOT ASSUME THIS AS YOU WOULD BE VERY WRONG - IT IS UNSAFE TO HAVE UNPROTECTED SEX! You guys who assume services are included in these styles are setting yourself up to be let down. Just because one lady offers specific services (and possibly markets it as GFE/PSE does not mean the next lady will offer the same services. They are usually similar as a really good GFE would include kissing, bbbj and some touching and rubbing to build chemistry and fantasy. If you feel she is actually attracted to you and into the encounter she may be (or she may be VERY good at her job - just go with it!) Don't EXPECT any services - always ask or research first and if you show up with bad breath, rotten teeth, bad hygiene or dressed like a bum chances are you are going to be even more disappointed. In Addition: One of the ladies PM'd me to mention that one of the reasons ladies may not kiss is from being unshaven. A lot of stubble can do a girl some major damage. I would assume this to be true with DATY as well with some.