wendigo

I'm definitely looking forward to the next social! Some thoughts: I think $20 for the guys is a nice round number for the ticket price, but it should not include a free drink. For liability and other reasons I would prefer a similar venue to the Christmas party rather than a private hotel suite. Ottanon, I had no idea during the party that you were paying for the food out of your own pocket, sorry about that. I think that other gentlemen simply being more aware will go some way to splitting expenses better. I'll commit to getting a food/appetizer platter at the next event, as long as a few other guys are on the same boat everything should be fine.

Thanks angela and ottanon, I had an awesome time at the party! We have a great group of people here on cerb, it was nice putting faces to names and getting to know some of you in person! I'm definitely looking forward to more of these events.

A few of my recommendations: Cashback http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0460740/ A surprisingly well-done romantic comedy Oldboy http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0364569/ One hell of a revenge flick My Sassy Girl http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0293715/ Be sure to see the original The Lookout http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0427470/ Before Joseph Gordon-Levitt appeared in Inception and 500 Days of Summer

My two cents on what I prefer in an escort website: No flash - if your web developer is competent there's no reason to use it. I prefer no music and videos. A well organized gallery page showing all the ladies, with links to a more detailed profile for each, check out the GOE site for an example. Full accurate stats for each lady please. A little about each lady's likes and dislikes, and photos which are an accurate representation of how she looks are appreciated. Either professional photos or more amateur ones are okay with me. I don't have a problem with blurred out faces for privacy reasons. A piece of advice on advertising services - I'd prefer ads which are more restrictive, i.e. safe GFE, and just saying that any extras are strictly YMMV. And believe it or not, there are some clients (admittedly a minority) who purposely seek out ladies who only offer safe services. Nice bonuses in an agency website that aren't strictly necessary: A schedule showing who's on that night, or that week. Looking forward to seeing your new site!

In reply to vulcan's post, I'm good for either $20 or $30 in advance to help pay for the rental. I haven't met too many people here, but I'll trust Old Dog, rickofshadows or jazzitup or anybody they trust with the cash.

Just wanted to say that I'd be willing to chip in a bit for a more private venue, hope this happens!

Isabella, don't scare us like that! I saw the title of your post and thought for a moment that you were leaving us! Thankfully that's not the case :)

I agree with reddog's and scottthecanuck's advice - press for the hard copy of the test results. There's no reason to reveal your past if your test results are clean, unless you are 100% sure that she would not react unfavourably. Needless to say, I trust you're going to be totally honest and committed to the exclusivity of the relationship if you don't reveal your past - no more hobbying from here on in for you! Wishing you all the best!

Thanks jazzitup for organizing! It was nice meeting some of the regulars here on the board in person!

Count me in, looking forward to the social!

Thanks for organizing jazz, unfortunately like many others something came up and I couldn't make it this time. Looking forward to the next one though!

Just a tip for those trying to use the link, copy-and-paste the link into your address bar, then remove the extra space at the end of the url (it should be "en-CA" rather than "e n-CA". I'll try posting the link below but it might not show up correctly: http://my.e2rm.com/personalPage.aspx?registrationID=930344&langPref=en-CA

Let me suggest that it is possible to do something both stupid and illegal, yet be applauded for it by a number of people. In this case, what the flight attendant did was reckless and dangerous, as pointed out by 777flyer, and he will be punished accordingly. However, many people are rooting for him because he's one of the few examples of someone in the service industry standing up to the rudeness and abuse that they have to put up with every day. As more extreme examples of questionable "heroes", there's the citizens who are charged with assault or murder when defending a home invasion, or the vigilante parent who takes justice into their own hands in punishing their child's abuser. In each case the behaviour is illegal, but is indeed applauded by many as something which should be done.

I should be able to make it, looking forward to seeing some of you again!

I'd like to add a reminder to fellow gents that nobody has a right to see a particular provider, even if you're on your best behaviour and do everything by the book. Some (thankfully, very few) providers have limitations on which ethnicities they choose to see, and that's something you can't change. It's also possible that you just don't "click" with a provider on a personal level before or during a session, which can land you in the do-not-see list. These are just situations one has to accept and not take personally, given the personal nature of the business. In the end, it's sort of like dating in that you just put your best foot forward, but you're not always going to be successful!

Pretty funny, for another take on the don't-take-the-bible-too-literally theme here's a quick quiz, Do You Have Biblical Morals? http://www.gotoquiz.com/do_you_have_biblical_morals

How the provider responded to your PM was less than ideal. I guess one takeaway lesson is that the mode of communication matters. If it was in the chat room, a casual "how's it going?" isn't a bad icebreaker at all. But think of the PM from the provider's point of view - she probably gets way too many of the throw-away one-liners on a daily basis, 99% of them from time wasters (even though it was not your intention). If you want to get to know the provider better, I think Kyra's polite introduction approach in a PM is appropriate.

Lindsay, you were absolutely justified in refusing to see the individual in question, his behaviour once he arrived at your place more than amply confirmed that he was not the sort of client that you would see. I had a question though: is it possible to ever get off a provider's do not see list? An interesting discussion arose on another board, though it involved a second chance three years later which turned out much better than expected.

Online dating and POF in particular are a pain from a male's perspective as well. I did meet one genuinely nice lady but the chemistry just wasn't there. As for the rest, let's just euphemistically say that most of them had a tremendously inflated sense of self worth. And yes, there are women on that site who are just there for sex, but they were the ones who looked nothing like their pictures anymore - in the not so good way!

Ack, the trials and tribulations of being responsible for your own hosting and maintenance. Which is one of the reasons why I pretty much deploy and backup all my client projects and stuff to the cloud and/or VPS's. Of course, that's not foolproof but in my experience it's more hassle-free. However, I can understand why Mod doesn't use those services, if I was in his shoes there's no way I would trust a third party with this site's data!

How about the old friendly guy who wears big hats, I used to see him a lot on Bank Street but not in the past while. You know the one, big outrageous novelty hats, saying hello and have a nice day to everybody?

Hey bababoom, Nothing wrong with being a virgin, rumour has it that everybody here was one at one time :) You mention in your post that you've dated some women in the past, but couldn't get past your vow to save your virginity for marriage. However, now you'd like to see an escort to lose your virginity. This suggests to me that you've had opportunities in the past which you chose not to pursue (which is perfectly fine!), which in turn leads me to believe that civvie opportunities in the future will not necessarily be too hard to come by. In that case, you're definitely in a better situation that some of us (ahem) who just can't get laid outside of the hobby, for one reason or another. With all that in mind, and at your age, I would argue that you have a luxury in deciding whether you ultimately lose your virginity in a civvie versus a hobby context. My honest opinion is that there's nothing wrong with either approach, just go with what you feel comfortable with. While it's worth taking the time to decide, it's not something you should fret to much over, good luck whatever you decide! Edit: P.S. there's nothing wrong with your question, and it would have been fine in either the general section (more eyes looking at your post) or your local discussion section.

I would definitely quit if I was entering a new relationship, I just can't reconcile hobbying with maintaining a committed relationship. Just my two cents.

Adding my vote for Top Gun - great 80's rock together with one of the best slow dance ballads ever: Take My Breath Away.

I may be somewhat pessimistic, but how much a provider enjoys her job (versus how much she pretends to enjoy it) does not factor in to my decision whether to see her. The thing is, the ones that are the best at pretending are indistinguishable from the ones that truly enjoy it to me. That being said, I strive to make an encounter as enjoyable as possible for my companion. My approach is to be as courteous, respectful and clean as possible, but this doesn't guarantee that a provider will truly "enjoy" our time together - chemistry is something that can't be obtained by any one formula. Due to the personal nature of the business, no matter what effort I go to ensure a smooth encounter, the enjoyment aspect on the part of the provider will often be an illusion, and I can accept that.