A "How To" Handbook?

[Guest f***2f***]

Start shaving everyday, there should not be any red flags.Tell you are doing it for her so she won't get whisker burns, and maybe she will DFK you alot;)

 

Whisker burns from my nuts?? If only she was that devoted to get down there and nuzzle them everyday!! I might not have to look for consolation elsewhere...know what I'm sayin ?

 

Love the video...LMAO!!

[PistolPete 61421]

Whisker burns from my nuts?? If only she was that devoted to get down there and nuzzle them everyday!! I might not have to look for consolation elsewhere...know what I'm sayin ?

 

Love the video...LMAO!!

 

Just laughing my ass off good buddy:D, hopefully she will be that devoted....still smiling and laughing right now:p

oops a tear rolled down my face..somebody going wonder why I'm laughing my head off in front of my computer!!! I know what you're saying..just had throw that out there, figured I get a rise...sorry Cat for getting off the topic

[esoterica 624]

I started shaving when I had my vasectomy.....and then I said I liked it so much I stuck with it....she is happy now that I did.

 

That's how I started shaving. Two unshaven bodies gliding together... feels so ummm good.

[esoterica 624]

I prefer a slow simmering session opposed to a porn star experience. One shot on net is enough as it's the quality that counts. I do expect that she stay for the time booked and prefer that she keep track of the time. If it was an incall the reverse would be true as I wouldn't want to overstay my welcome. A cuddle / massage after the event is always valued.

 

Good point here

 

I always tip 10% regardless of service and already have that money in the envelope. If she provides a wonderful experience that I will add an additional tip afterwards.

 

This is a good idea. This thread has been an educational experience for me.

 

At the end of the date I always ask if she would like to be escorted out of the hotel.

 

That one is good for brownie points!

 

In the email setting up an appointment, I always ask "Red wine, white wine or none". I make sure she sees me open the bottle.

 

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[PistolPete 61421]

Cat.... couple of other items to consider....

1)Always respect the SP's privacy, if you are going to an incall, the door is not answered to let you in, don't hang out..leave.

2) Always check your emails/pm box (if you had set your appointment that way) to ensure your appointment is still on.

Your SP has an outside life, and could have issues arise that she can't make/host the specific appointment.

[tmroper41 100]

Excellent thread....being a relative newcomer to the hobby, my biggest concern was discretion on the sp's part. Boards like this one helped me search out reputable sp's. After searching for 3 months, I finally settled on a girl in Calgary and had a very enjoyable time. I am now hooked and use these boards to help me in my selection process.

As far as uncomfortable situations, my biggest beef is the gals that insist in using foul language. Most sp's are quite willing to not talk like this as long there is some communication in the beginning.

[playtoe 201]

My one offer for this thread is in the first contact. For the SP's with little to no free parking I think it's only fair to relate to your client that they will need money for parking. I've been caught with my pants almost down a few times.

[d*mm*y 887]

Ah how about SP's that validate parking!@! now that is a novel idea!

[Guest f***2f***]

Ah how about SP's that validate parking!@! now that is a novel idea!

 

That's an awesome suggestion...and Air Miles???:D

[randy36 1078]

Thanks CAT for initiating this interesting discussion. I hope I get to read the final version of your "How To .." book.

 

I am interested to know that if you have to say no to an SP whether incall or an outcall, how to do it politely without being rude and without hurting sentiments. Thanks.

[Love2Cum 100]

Yes, I'm also interested in this. If you setup a date via an agency and the girl that shows up is not as promised, it may not be her fault but you still may want to cancel. What is the best way to say no here?

 

Thanks CAT for initiating this interesting discussion. I hope I get to read the final version of your "How To .." book.

 

I am interested to know that if you have to say no to an SP whether incall or an outcall, how to do it politely without being rude and without hurting sentiments. Thanks.

[Love2Cum 100]

I may have missed this earlier in the thread but also if an SP does not want to discuss services in detail until she sees you in person, if you then decide the services aren't what you are looking for, it would be good to know if there's good etiquette for stopping the date there too.

[d*mm*y 887]

If the ladies opt to work for an agency that over sells them or is unable to match SP's to clients that she will eventually get the point and move on, perpetuating the bad service by putting up with so you don't hurt there feelings helps no one.

 

If an SP insists on discussing details and then is unable to satisfy you when you arrive is there problem for not getting background info and setting the stage for the visit again leave.

 

Equally so if a gentleman arrives and he is not suitable for the SP it is her prerogative to not follow through the sword cuts both ways.

[capitalman 3861]

Hillarious video!

 

So should you be upfront in an email or telephone call about what services you want, or is the SP's website listing enough to assume it's on the menu?

 

For example: I'm looking for a greek provider and I have a few in mind that have it listed on their sites as something they do, but do I need to tell them ahead of time this is what I want? Should I be telling them my cock size or telling them I want it hard and upside down? Or should I just book then when I get there mention it?

[d*mm*y 887]

Greek should be discussed, it may take a little extra preparation on the ladies part.

[cat 262460]

Gentlemen,

Great input! It is all appreciated and I'm continuing to work on getting it all together. Every post is appreciated. Thank you!

Catherine

[ulixestrojan 3757]

Catherine and Cerbians:

 

I have returned from Germany (more on that later, just to say - woo hoo!!) and wanted to share this little video that might bring a few laughs. It fits with the theme of "how-to".

 

The Sebastian Horsley Guide to Whoring

 

[Susie 1472]

hi everyone! what an amazing thread!!

 

i just wanted to share a link to some work done by annie temple - trade secrets- sex industry occupational health and safety that also includes information from consumers for consumers and from workers for consumers as well as finally from consumers for workers;

 

www.tradesecretsguide.blogspot.com

 

i can't wait to see the outcome cat!! it's sure to be amazing! stella also have a sex consumer guide known as dear client... it rocks!and inspired the work we did here in vancouver!

 

www.chezstella.org

 

love susieXXXO

[roamingguy 300291]

Any wonder I missed this thread, very informative btw...it started in 2008, I didn't join CERB, nor begin hobbying till 2010

RG

[da2root 871]

very informative information although the thread is older.

In terms of etiquette and how to treat a SP I read this on another site:

"Hiring a sex professional is the same as hiring any other professional, like a doctor, lawyer, or auto mechanic. You pay them money for a service. It doesn't matter what the service is: if you're nice to the professional, you generally get a better result than if you aren't."

 

Only makes sense to me; kind of goes back to kindergarten where we're all taught to treat others how you want to be treated. If only our government recognized this as a legitimate service industry then the girls would be much safer!

[mikey76 438]

i have taken the next step yet

 

what the first time like meeting a pro. i don't want to be a disappointment to her.

 

will she be able to handle some one who is nervous ie anxiety

 

what can i expect for the first time or any other time.

 

i can keep going just pm

[cat 262460]

i have taken the next step yet

 

what the first time like meeting a pro. i don't want to be a disappointment to her.

 

will she be able to handle some one who is nervous ie anxiety

 

what can i expect for the first time or any other time.

 

i can keep going just pm

 

Spend a little bit of time reading the Newbie section here on CERB (depending on how fast you read!) then make contact with a provider that interests you. This is like learning to high dive. You can play it out in your head forever and a day but until you climb the ladder, walk the board, hold your breath and jump; you're not actually doing anything. As long as you can swim, the first jump is just a faith action. The nuances are learned over time and repetition; no two hobbyists have the same experience twice. Be clean, respectful and realistic in your expectations and you will be fine. I promise...

cat

[Phaedrus 209521]

This is like learning to high dive.

 

I disagree. My first visit to a SP was a LOT more pleasant than my first leap off the top board at the pool. Which was fortunate :)

[Guest *on***e2]

Sounds good

[Meaghan McLeod 179664]

Thanks Cat. I also think that a blerb on the do's and don'ts...

 

Had a client once call my agency. Told them he had seen me before. The agency asked when, how he had seen me. Told them "She brought a gun" to the call. Literally the agency's mouth dropped to the floor. She said "Meaghan did not bring a gun to the call, you must have her mistaken for someone else" and did not want to book the call. Really, talking about guns is kinda way off the mark in this business. As it turned out, I had seen him before, and our conversation was actually "I Bought a gun from where you live", not BROUGHT, but purchased...Some people mumble, and this gent does. The agency does not know our conversations. So if they are asking if you saw her before, say, yes, last week at the Howard Johnsons. Don't tell them about our conversation or what we did. Tell them where and when you saw her before...It really helps. However, we had a big laugh about this, because those that know me, know I hunt and have a gun license and own guns. But, no I don't bring my guns to my calls.

 

Also, I think a thread of funny things that happen when seeing sp's. I had a Lab once, and she got out of the room I had her in for the call. Not sure how she opened the door, but she did. So I said to her "go lay down" in my stern dog voice, but the client thought I was talking to him, and when I turned around he was laying down, with all his clothing on, awaiting my next command. Turns out I might be good at dom after all...I had to chuckle over this one and he still sees me and is not the same man he was before this call. Turns out he likes being dominated and didn't really realize this until the incident with the dog happened. I think a blerb on funny things would really help.

 

Good luck, and look forward to hearing your novel.

 

Meaghan