Ask a Hobbyist!

[CristyCurves 169032]

So you visit a number of profiles and see a lot of girls you'd like to meet. On some of these profiles you post that you'll be in touch, want to meet. Yet you don't:( Were your posts sincere, were you just being polite? Are you always honest when you post? Or are you like a kid in a candy store with a big sweet tooth and just get caught up;)

[qwertyaccount 15793]

cristycurves[/u]]So you visit a number of profiles and see a lot of girls you'd like to meet. On some of these profiles you post that you'll be in touch, want to meet. Yet you don't:sad: Were your posts sincere, were you just being polite? Are you always honest when you post? Or are you like a kid in a candy store with a big sweet tooth and just get caught up:wink:

 

I'm always sincere and never say something that I don't mean.

 

If I say I'm going to get in touch I will barring something that prevents me from doing so like going to the hospital, but then I would make contact ASAP afterwards.

 

I'm sure that a few guys are like kids in a candy store - they find an amazing piece of candy that they are sure they will savour, only on the way to the checkout they find a piece of candy that they think they might like better, not even having tried the first piece.

[Guest c**io**m7]

In a session if you "blow" to fast, do you just want to run out right away or do you stay and chat, or massage, enjoy a beverage?

 

Nope...I want to talk, cuddle, kiss, some oral and let's get going again. ;-)

 

Additional Comments:

What is your absolute favorite thing about hobbying? Whether it's setting up the meeting, the sex itself or the anticipation of meeting a beautiful stranger...

 

And also what is the thing you hate most about hobbying?

 

Favorite thing? Intimacy with a beautiful woman...being treated like a sexy and desirable man.

 

Worst thing? It can get costly. An hour is really just a teaser. When I was hobbying, I often wished I could spend the day.

[Studio 110 by Sophia 150333]

For you, is there room for error? I mean, not on your very first meeting, but let's say you go see someone for 3rd time, and she is just out of sorts that day. Will you give her the benefit of doubt and try again, or just say..." nah I will look for another"

Maybe she didn't know she ran out of condoms and has to improvise, or maybe a bad hair day, or just low energy? Maybe she went into the session feeling a bit flustered and unprepared?

[Guest P*rry]

Yes, there is room for error.

 

If I've come back for a third, it means that I've enjoyed myself. So, I'd give her the benefit of doubt even more so if she acknowledged that she was not at her best that day.

[Midnite-Energies 110563]

When you've seen a lady a few times and have a good connection established, do you feel comfortable talking about or requesting things you'd enjoy trying or do you leave it up to her to either broach or try? Or would you look for someone else who up front states they are into whatever you want to explore and not even mention it to the other?

[Guest c**io**m7]

When you've seen a lady a few times and have a good connection established, do you feel comfortable talking about or requesting things you'd enjoy trying or do you leave it up to her to either broach or try? Or would you look for someone else who up front states they are into whatever you want to explore and not even mention it to the other?

 

I have absolutely no issue discussing bedroom desires with a lady when I am comfortable with her. My expectations when hobbying is that the worst I would hear is "no"...without judgment.

 

Besides...my requests are very non-kink so I have never worried much about it.

 

Additional Comments:

For you, is there room for error? I mean, not on your very first meeting, but let's say you go see someone for 3rd time, and she is just out of sorts that day. Will you give her the benefit of doubt and try again, or just say..." nah I will look for another"

Maybe she didn't know she ran out of condoms and has to improvise, or maybe a bad hair day, or just low energy? Maybe she went into the session feeling a bit flustered and unprepared?

 

If this is someone I have already seen multiple times, hell, we all have bad days. Out of condoms? That's ok, oral is my fave anyway...

 

If it's my first visit and she is out of sorts/bad day etc...I wouldn't return. It becomes a feeling of wasted money.

 

Bad hair day? I hope her hair is messed up by the time we are finished anyway so, I couldn't care less if her hair is done up or if her make up is perfect or not.

[Guest P*rry]

Ditto re what Curiousm7 said.

 

I like to say up front what I enjoy. It's not kinky. I also ask the woman for suggestions.

[Jay67 688]

For you, is there room for error? I mean, not on your very first meeting, but let's say you go see someone for 3rd time, and she is just out of sorts that day. Will you give her the benefit of doubt and try again, or just say..." nah I will look for another"

Maybe she didn't know she ran out of condoms and has to improvise, or maybe a bad hair day, or just low energy? Maybe she went into the session feeling a bit flustered and unprepared?

 

I think for someone who I've seen before and enjoyed my time with, I'd give the SP another try. We all have days where we are not at our best and I wouldn't hold it against her.

[kacey65 509]

I have been trying to avoid this thread for some reason. However, Suite Escapes asked "do you feel 'she's out of my league'". I feel this way everytime I look at an ad! There are a large number of SP's that I would love to contact, but I also know that they will be sooo disappointed when they see me that I don't contact them. Also, if I go to a strip club, I never approach a dancer..for the same reason!

[emiafish 30979]

Do you form a significant opinion of an SP based on her writing and how she presents herself whether it's on a site such as this one or what's presented on her website?

 

When I read a provider's posts I look for intelligence and wit. IMO for the sex to be good I need a partner that has a sense of humour and is not dead between the ears. Imagination and creativity count as well. Bad spelling and bad grammar are my red flags. I meen wat wud you think if I cudint put wurds togethr very gud?

 

So many of you intimate that you choose a lady for things other than looks so...

If your favorite companion was to increase in size 15 to lets say 20+ lbs would your attraction change?

Cristy, I'm about as far from Adonis as you can get. I've been with providers of all shapes and sizes and do not have a preference. Size-ism is one of the last socially accepted prejudices. I am not a size bigot. Besides the bigger the cushion, the better the pushin! (Note the intentional spelling mistake)

 

What is your absolute favorite thing about hobbying? Whether it's setting up the meeting, the sex itself or the anticipation of meeting a beautiful stranger...

 

And also what is the thing you hate most about hobbying?

 

Kimmy, all of the above applies. A good orgasm is great, but I keep doing this for the entire experience. What I hate most is the fact that my budget limits my play time. Left to my own devices and if money was not an issue, then I'd play date more often than I do now.

 

In a session if you "blow" to fast, do you just want to run out right away or do you stay and chat, or massage, enjoy a beverage?

 

I've "popped my top" early in a session before, though not by choice. If that happens I like to turn my attention to my partner. I've also been given the bum's rush by a provider who works on volume over quality. In that case I hit the road, never to return. Thankfully, with age comes wisdom and stamina!

 

So you visit a number of profiles and see a lot of girls you'd like to meet. On some of these profiles you post that you'll be in touch, want to meet. Yet you don't:( Were your posts sincere, were you just being polite? Are you always honest when you post? Or are you like a kid in a candy store with a big sweet tooth and just get caught up;)

 

Cristy, it has not happened yet. I have been forced to reschedule before, but if we set a date then I am committed. My posts are as honest as kindness allows. Of all the places one could be free to be honest, this community is one of the best.

 

Additional Comments:

When you've seen a lady a few times and have a good connection established, do you feel comfortable talking about or requesting things you'd enjoy trying or do you leave it up to her to either broach or try? Or would you look for someone else who up front states they are into whatever you want to explore and not even mention it to the other?

Tracie, I am not shy about what I like. In fact I am very forward and up front about my personal preferences. I've learned over the years that there is no reason to be embarrassed when with a professional. I'm not shy with my doctor, why would I be shy with a provider? This way we both know where we stand and there is less chance for disappointment. Now if I could only find a provider who will frost me like a layer cake and then lick it off while playing Yankee Doodle Dandy on a flute out of her butt! :icon_eek:

[roamingguy 300291]

So many of you intimate that you choose a lady for things other than looks so...

If your favorite companion was to increase in size 15 to lets say 20+ lbs would your attraction change?

 

There is one very special lady I have been fortunate to meet and I continue to see. My attraction to her has changed in that it has grown from the first time we met. And if she gained twenty pounds and even if overnight she was twenty years older, my attraction to her would still grow.

Without details, she has been much more than a companion, she has been a friend...one who's support came not just at the lowest point of 2013, but probably in my life. Her friendship meant a lot, still means a lot and I will always remember it.

She could gain twenty pounds, age twenty years, whatever. My attraction to her has changed, it has grown and she is a lady I respect and her friendship I will always remember and cherish...even after I retire from this lifestyle.

A sentimental rambling

 

RG

[jafo105 39057]

What is your absolute favorite thing about hobbying? Whether it's setting up the meeting, the sex itself or the anticipation of meeting a beautiful stranger...

 

And also what is the thing you hate most about hobbying?

 

My favorite thing about hobbying is just being able to spend two hours with a beautiful woman. To just sit and talk, have a cup of tea, enjoy the amazing view of the Ottawa River and Gatineau Park from my balcony. OR go out to a nice restaurant for dinner, or a walk along the river. If she wants to kiss, cuddle and some petting - I am always up for that but I let her initiate. I leave the coitus part up to her as well. I do enjoy that part but I have never been able to climax - erections are no problem but climax has never happened - YET. [survivor of childhood molestation & psychologically abusive mother]

 

My least favorite thing about hobbying is that I always feel nervous and scared that I am going to do something or say something to offend the lady. I just do not have much if any experience with women beyond that of a professional working relationship. I have only had two girlfriends in my entire life and they only lasted a couple months. I have only been with one MP and two Escorts. The one escort I saw off and on for two 1/2 years (she retired).

 

-- I am 46 years old.

[Guest p**h*x]

What is your absolute favorite thing about hobbying? Whether it's setting up the meeting, the sex itself or the anticipation of meeting a beautiful stranger...

 

And also what is the thing you hate most about hobbying?

 

My favourite things... the excitement of meeting someone new for the first time. The excitement of meeting someone I have enjoyed previously. Discovering new things and experiences that make me jump. The sex itself of course but more so the intimacy involved beyond just the physical acts. I've been fortunate to have met some really great ladies that have gone above and beyond my wildest expectations. It is always such thrill when you find a connection with someone.

 

Thing I hate the most... Not being able to see everyone I want to see. Whether it is conflicting schedules or for budget purposes. But that's kind of a silly thing to complain about. More seriously though, the thing I hated when I first started was the dishonesty in which some people behave. Whether it is B&S images, or services offered in ads that aren't really available, or packing up to leave or being asked to get ready with significant time left on the clock. Fortunately I have learned a ton since my early days of hobbying so these things rarely happen any more since I know better now when doing my homework on who to see and what to expect. I can't remember the last time I had a bad encounter actually.

[jafo105 39057]

For you, is there room for error? I mean, not on your very first meeting, but let's say you go see someone for 3rd time, and she is just out of sorts that day. Will you give her the benefit of doubt and try again, or just say..." nah I will look for another"

Maybe she didn't know she ran out of condoms and has to improvise, or maybe a bad hair day, or just low energy? Maybe she went into the session feeling a bit flustered and unprepared?

 

Everyone is entitled to have an off day, unexpected illness, or even change her mind about how far she wants to go intimately. [The lady always has the right to say no.] For me it is about mutual respect and understanding.

 

One escort I saw regularly had an irregular menstrual cycle. That did not interfere with our being able to spend time together. It just meant that we would not have coitus. A few times she also forgot to bring condoms. She knew I always had some as well as lube - the trust level was there.

[Guest P*rry]

Kacey65: There's too much negative talk going on in your head. Just go for it, and enjoy.

 

You may want to keep in mind the motto "The secret of success is the ability to fail." And, I'll slip one more comment in. CERB is not the Olympics. You are not being judged.

[CristyCurves 169032]

I have been trying to avoid this thread for some reason. However, Suite Escapes asked "do you feel 'she's out of my league'". I feel this way everytime I look at an ad! There are a large number of SP's that I would love to contact, but I also know that they will be sooo disappointed when they see me that I don't contact them. Also, if I go to a strip club, I never approach a dancer..for the same reason!

 

As a provider I meet with all types of gentlemen. Short, tall, big, small, scarred, amputees, young, mid age and senior. What they all had in common was- they were gentlemen and treated me well. That is all as a provider I expect and want. A mans appearance is the last thing I care about. Your attitude, hygiene and willingness to have some fun are paramount. So put your negative feelings aside and contact who you would like to meet. Any sp will happily show you how to relax, and enjoy her. You deserve it:)

[cinelli 22184]

absolute favorite thing...the thing you hate most about hobbying?

 

Favourite: Meeting really gorgeous women who do everything they can to entertain me, and not just sexually, but can hold a good conversation. Some of them have very interesting stories of their own, and have travelled way more than I ever will.

 

Hate: It has made me kind of lazy as far as pursuing relationships with civilians. But that doesn't matter too much since I have a couple of retired --but still smoking hot--ladies as best friends.

 

One weird thing...I do get all the satisfaction I could ever want from professionals. So I never chase anyone at work. A couple of my co-workers, both male and female, have hinted that they think I am gay because they never see me chasing any women or looking at the Sunshine Girl.

 

Additional Comments:

On some of these profiles you post that you'll be in touch, want to meet. Yet you don't

 

I would not say I want to meet if I didn't. I think it is a lot more rude to make false promises than to make no promises.

 

Additional Comments:

let's say you go see someone for 3rd time, and she is just out of sorts that day. Will you give her the benefit of doubt

 

Absolutely, especially if I know she is usually on top of her game.

You don't hit it out of the park every time you are at bat. But if someone has a very good batting average then I stick with them.

[mrgreen760 37785]

And also what is the thing you hate most about hobbying?

 

I can be a spur of the moment type and often that just doesn't work well. I was mostly a mp user for this very reason. Due diligence has never been more important than it is now, so my least favorite part is the chase.

 

Peace

MG

[roamingguy 300291]

For you, is there room for error? I mean, not on your very first meeting, but let's say you go see someone for 3rd time, and she is just out of sorts that day. Will you give her the benefit of doubt and try again, or just say..." nah I will look for another"

Maybe she didn't know she ran out of condoms and has to improvise, or maybe a bad hair day, or just low energy? Maybe she went into the session feeling a bit flustered and unprepared?

 

Instead of viewing it as room for error, I would view it as being human. There is something special and intimate, if this is making sense, about a lady feeling comfortable enough to be human with you, even if things not 100 percent...that sort of connection, well that is special. She could always call and cancel but instead feels comfortable enough to have the encounter.

Never had a bad hair day situation, but for a guy having no hair, how could I even complain about a bad hair day...in fact what is a bad hair day

If she forgot condoms, well first I am not menu driven to begin with, but if that happened, lying in bed, holding one another, kissing cuddling, well an encounter to me isn't all about sex. It's about a connection, intimacy (in the larger sense of the word)...no, forgetting condoms doesn't write off an encounter, and yes, I would see the lady again

And I hope I'm a good enough host that if a lady feels flustered, she'll feel relaxed enough (I like time to sit, relax and have conversation over drinks) when she arrives at my hotel room.

Mistakes, errors, not an issue for me...we're all human and not perfect. But showing your human side, just makes an encounter all the more personal and intimate IMHO

But a lady disinterested, clearly just wanting the money, not happy to see you, well she is someone I won't see again...BTW that has never happened on repeat encounters

A rambling

RG

[Ice4fun 78396]

Do you form a significant opinion of an SP based on her writing and how she presents herself whether it's on a site such as this one or what's presented on her website?

 

The reason I ask if because when I had my former website, many people have admitted to being intimidated to meet me based on the way I had presented myself and in my writing.

 

What they expected of me in terms of personality before meeting me was a no nonsense type of person from the website. When they actually did meet me, they said "they didn't expect me to be that nice".

 

While I am an assertive person, I was sort of shocked to realize that it was too evident. Some respected and admired me for it, others felt intimidated and then others speaking through the grapevine thought I was a "bitch" without having ever met me.

 

What a lady writes on her website or blog is actually pretty important to me... its not that I gave to agree with what she wrote but more that it conveys her capacity to express herself in an effective intelligent manner. For me a major part of a encounter will be that intellectual connection.... lol not intellectual in the form of high brow conversation...lol if she can effectively explain what makes her passionate and sensual that works too.

[mrgreen760 37785]

In a session if you "blow" to fast, do you just want to run out right away or do you stay and chat, or massage, enjoy a beverage?

 

I tend to book 30-45 min sessions, so I'll get cleaned up and likely split. There are exceptions of course but not many.

 

Peace

MG

[Ice4fun 78396]

So many of you intimate that you choose a lady for things other than looks so...

If your favorite companion was to increase in size 15 to lets say 20+ lbs would your attraction change?

 

Honestly I think most guys here start with the looks so I may be less likely to book with someone who does not attract me... that said some ladies have made me interested by what they have written even though they were not my normal type.... but let's face it we are talking about only differing degrees of beauty here.

 

For ladies that I have met and gave an ongoing relationship with i really don't think I would care if they gained 20 lbs... if i am seeing them regularly I can tell you it's as much of more about the personality and character of the lady as it is about looks.

 

After all what would I do if all the women of CERB only saw guys who were young and in shape.

 

Just my opinion

 

Additional Comments:

What is your absolute favorite thing about hobbying? Whether it's setting up the meeting, the sex itself or the anticipation of meeting a beautiful stranger...

 

And also what is the thing you hate most about hobbying?

 

Well of course I Love the Great Sex but surprisingly for me anyway I think the companionship and friendship are what I love most.

 

What I hate is the fact that all the beautiful CERB ladies can tell time.... if only I was their sole source of info on how long we had been together lol.

 

Seriously I Hate the secrecy both for me and them

 

Additional Comments:

In a session if you "blow" to fast, do you just want to run out right away or do you stay and chat, or massage, enjoy a beverage?

 

I stay... i enjoy the time with the beautiful lady way to much to leave early.

 

Ok...ok... i know most of you are probably thinking... that's easy for him to say... i saw his earlier post about not always being able to deliver during encounters... so yea...lol... it will undoubtedly take the full time...lol

 

Just my opinion

 

Additional Comments:

So you visit a number of profiles and see a lot of girls you'd like to meet. On some of these profiles you post that you'll be in touch, want to meet. Yet you don't:( Were your posts sincere, were you just being polite? Are you always honest when you post? Or are you like a kid in a candy store with a big sweet tooth and just get caught up;)

 

If I post on a ladies profile that I would like to meet her I am being 100% honest. Sometimes that does not happen right away because of distance but if was in the same city I would follow up.... if she visited St. John's... i would normally try to book.

[piano8950 32577]

Do you form a significant opinion of an SP based on her writing and how she presents herself whether it's on a site such as this one or what's presented on her website?

 

 

The more I notice her posts, and if she presents herself a particular way, the more I notice. It works both ways, I've been influenced to meet someone just because of her online presence, but I've also been turned off by a particular person (Who is not on Cerb, but somewhere else) by the manner of the way she speaks.

 

So many of you intimate that you choose a lady for things other than looks so...

If your favorite companion was to increase in size 15 to lets say 20+ lbs would your attraction change?

 

I am attracted to healthy body types so there is no ideal weight. I feel like a hypocrite saying that since I'm not rocking a 6-pack, but I think that I would value the comfort, her exceptional service that warranted repeat visits would matter more.

 

What is your absolute favorite thing about hobbying? Whether it's setting up the meeting, the sex itself or the anticipation of meeting a beautiful stranger...

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Meeting people who have blown me away (pun not intended) with their lives. Not talking about where they came from, but I've met some women who do not fit the Hollywood stereotype of what an escort is. They are fiercely independent, and intelligent.

 

And also what is the thing you hate most about hobbying?

 

I understand that this industry revolves around secrecy. Outside this industry I've become friends with people I pay for services, or help them if I can. One SP told me that she runs another business of some sort (she told me, but I'm being intentionally vague here for privacy reasons), and I nearly asked her what was the name/address so I could tell someone I know about it. I caught myself at the last moment because that would've been like asking her for her real name, personal information about her life. There was another who was going through a course that I've taught, and before I thought about it, the words slipped out of my mouth when I offered to help her. I didn't want to give the impression that I was looking for free time.

 

Like I said, I completely understand the need for secrecy, I know that there are many out there looking for a work around for paying, and worst of all, the utmost consideration for safety, so I hold my tongue. So this would be it, not completely being about to be friendly like I would anyone else.

 

In a session if you "blow" to fast, do you just want to run out right away or do you stay and chat, or massage, enjoy a beverage?

 

Once we did the business and had a whole hour left. She offered to refund the entire hour. I took her offer and went back a couple of weeks later.

 

In most instances, I like a massage (giving/receiving), talking, relaxing.

 

For you, is there room for error? I mean, not on your very first meeting, but let's say you go see someone for 3rd time, and she is just out of sorts that day. Will you give her the benefit of doubt and try again, or just say..." nah I will look for another"

 

Everyone has an off day. I wouldn't care about it too much. If it was a re-occurring pattern, that's a different story.

 

When you've seen a lady a few times and have a good connection established, do you feel comfortable talking about or requesting things you'd enjoy trying or do you leave it up to her to either broach or try? Or would you look for someone else who up front states they are into whatever you want to explore and not even mention it to the other?

 

Depends on the lady, and depends on the request. If I get a sense that she's open to ideas, then I do share them.

[Ice4fun 78396]

For you, is there room for error? I mean, not on your very first meeting, but let's say you go see someone for 3rd time, and she is just out of sorts that day. Will you give her the benefit of doubt and try again, or just say..." nah I will look for another"

Maybe she didn't know she ran out of condoms and has to improvise, or maybe a bad hair day, or just low energy? Maybe she went into the session feeling a bit flustered and unprepared?

 

We all have bad days....I know I gave lots and only as a result of the understanding, giving and caring nature of the ladies I see I would have been cut off long ago.

 

So I hope that I would be just as understanding if a lady I am seeing has a bad day... i think the key ingredient for me would be that I would want the lady to just be honest with me about the issue.

 

Additional Comments:

When you've seen a lady a few times and have a good connection established, do you feel comfortable talking about or requesting things you'd enjoy trying or do you leave it up to her to either broach or try? Or would you look for someone else who up front states they are into whatever you want to explore and not even mention it to the other?

 

Very interesting Question....

 

In general I don't make many specific requests for sessions as I kinda like to just let them take their natural course which I guess means the wonderful lady sorta gets to guide me along.... maybe she has it all planned out or it just happens I don't know but I don't have any complaints.

 

That said I am finding that with ladies I see regularly I have a heighten interest in knowing if there are things that they really like that we could try....lol... i know I always leave happy so if there are things that will make it better for her I'm interested. I guess I trust her more and therefore am open to more suggestions.

 

Just my opinion