Turn-offs for a lady

[Brad 49548]

I saw this today and am guessing there's a few people here that will be able to appreciate it:

 

[Guest D***el B***e]

I'm starting to get uncomfortable reading this thread, it's the realization that I'm sure many men, if not all, at some point in their hobbying career have been guilty of committing some of these offenses. I understand you all get bombarded with weird, unfriendly, uneducated, and at times rude calls and texts but you need to cut us some slack a bit -lol lol - We're not all idiots but we do have a tendency to ask idiot questions occasionally :-)) thinking with the wrong brain is a common occurrence with us.

[50 Shades Raven 31380]

I know this has been already mentioned time after time but OMG

Please do NOT call/text to book a time and then like 5 minutes before the scheduled time you cancel....I do underatnd that life happens and sometimes it cannot be helped and I do thank you for at least calling to cancel but when it happens frequently from the same person its frustrating and very annoying and defiantly a BIG turn off

 

I am working on ways to deal with and not.deal with this issue ....if you book and cancel.please at least have the decency to pay a.cancellation fee for time wasted thank you xo

 

Oh, don't you just love when you get those!

If you cancel 5 minutes before you are supposed to be there, shouldn't you have already been on your way to the location?

 

I love the, 'oh, something came up', bs.

 

If it's 5 minutes before an appointment, you should have been at the lady's location already, or at least, in the vicinity.

If the lady is coming to you, have the decency to pay her fee, after all, she came all the way to meet you.

 

I know that life situations happen, but at least text to the lady to say you need to reschedule, as soon as possible!

 

One guy told me that he couldn't send me a message as his wife had suddenly returned home earlier than planned, so he couldn't call or message me.

I was left hanging with a no-show, no cancellation.

What's wrong with going to the bathroom even and sending out a quick text or call from the 'have to pick up something at the corner store' routine?

At least that way we ladies are not wondering if something deadly happened to you on the way here.

[CristyCurves 169032]

When members, in my case a member, thinks it's his right to inform me as to what pics I should and shouldn't post. Also suggesting that I constantly post old pics, I guess new to him is hours old!

[Ice4fun 78396]

When members, in my case a member, thinks it's his right to inform me as to what pics I should and shouldn't post. Also suggesting that I constantly post old pics, I guess new to him is hours old!

 

Hey they are your pictures post anything you want... who best knows what appropriately represents you.

 

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[Amber Rose 19012]

I'm starting to get uncomfortable reading this thread, it's the realization that I'm sure many men, if not all, at some point in their hobbying career have been guilty of committing some of these offenses. I understand you all get bombarded with weird, unfriendly, uneducated, and at times rude calls and texts but you need to cut us some slack a bit -lol lol - We're not all idiots but we do have a tendency to ask idiot questions occasionally :-)) thinking with the wrong brain is a common occurrence with us.

 

I'm sure we could say the same about the "Turn-offs for a Hobbyist" thread.

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[Exotic Touch Danielle 31676]

When no one takes the time to read through my ads....I always post my hours(still receive calls after hours) post NO blocked calls/emails( still receive those) and my all time favorite lol....do you have pics please(I always post at least 3-5 pics)

 

It would save us both time of you would please just take the time to read before calling

 

I absolutely have no problem discussing rates for my time,location and minor details that are not placed in my ad

 

Thank you to those gentlemen who do take the time to see more than just the pics/phonenumber lol

[conquistador 18487]

I'm sure we could say the same about the "Turn-offs for a Hobbyist" thread.

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Comparing 11 pages to a total of 37 pages here...

[Exotic Touch Danielle 31676]

Well unfortunately we as companions go through alot and I felt it would be at least somewhat helpful if we had a post to share our experiences....and we could possibly have more of an understanding of how to communicate and connect with each other and maybe.avoid certain things

Same goes for the hobbyist dislikes...we as companions have to respect that as well

It's mutual

 

Xo

[Ice4fun 78396]

I always saw the "Turn-offs a Lady / Client" and "Ask a Escort / Client" as a fun informative way for both clients and ladies to get an insight into the other person's perspective. Personally I have found it extremely informative and like the threads a great deal.

 

At times some of the comments may have struck a little too close to home for me and made me think about my actions and behaviors which while at the time might be a bit frustrating is in the big picture a good thing... who amongst us could not learn something from an honest assessment of our previous actions.

 

I will however suggest that this community (me included) is often prone to seeing things very black and white and are quick to jump all over a person's opinion that might challenge in some aspect the conventional wisdom of the group. I am pretty sure this happens with both clients and ladies but being a client I am likely seeing this more from a clients perspective.

 

I think we all need to sit back and embrace the information that these types of threads bring to our attention and allow ourselves to be open to that challenging thought... be open to considering that other perspective... we don't have to agree with it... but the thought process around considering it will inform us and allow us to understand that there are other opinions and perspectives out there.

 

Just my Opinion

 

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[Luckyme 41401]

I always saw the "Turn-offs a Lady / Client" and "Ask a Escort / Client" as a fun informative way for both clients and ladies to get an insight into the other person's perspective. Personally I have found it extremely informative and like the threads a great deal.

 

At times some of the comments may have struck a little too close to home for me and made me think about my actions and behaviors which while at the time might be a bit frustrating is in the big picture a good thing... who amongst us could not learn something from an honest assessment of our previous actions.

 

I will however suggest that this community (me included) is often prone to seeing things very black and white and are quick to jump all over a person's opinion that might challenge in some aspect the conventional wisdom of the group. I am pretty sure this happens with both clients and ladies but being a client I am likely seeing this more from a clients perspective.

 

I think we all need to sit back and embrace the information that these types of threads bring to our attention and allow ourselves to be open to that challenging thought... be open to considering that other perspective... we don't have to agree with it... but the thought process around considering it will inform us and allow us to understand that there are other opinions and perspectives out there.

 

Just my Opinion

 

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Well-said! I always find these types of threads informative, educative and amusing. Even with my many years of hobbying experience, I still find that hobbying is a learning curve and that there are always things that I can improve myself on. These threads are a great way to get helpful information from.

[Exotic Touch Danielle 31676]

**just a turn off**

 

This has nothing to do with the guys but has been a serious pain in my butt all the way around

It is very annoying and unattractive when I see another lady basically copying and pasting my words in her post to use as her own

I would like to believe we all are original and would like to be seen as that

Just my rant for the day!

 

Just not professional in my opinion

[Guest D***el B***e]

**just a turn off**

 

This has nothing to do with the guys but has been a serious pain in my butt all the way around

It is very annoying and unattractive when I see another lady basically copying and pasting my words in her post to use as her own

I would like to believe we all are original and would like to be seen as that

Just my rant for the day!

 

Just not professional in my opinion

 

I totally agree that it's not professional but see it as somewhat of a compliment. There must be something great about your ad (I know they're great, they often catch my eye) that make others want to use it. Maybe you're very artistic and have a good pen (I know you do), maybe you leave just enough to make it sexy (I know you do). But ya, really, it's a piss off, some people are cheap and bottom feeders.

[roamingguy 300291]

**just a turn off**

 

This has nothing to do with the guys but has been a serious pain in my butt all the way around

It is very annoying and unattractive when I see another lady basically copying and pasting my words in her post to use as her own

I would like to believe we all are original and would like to be seen as that

Just my rant for the day!

 

Just not professional in my opinion

 

Turn off for me too, and have said so, not just in posts, but in some case reported too

When this guy notices a lady who steal from other ladies, and they are on my do not ever see list.

http://www.lyla.com/vbulletin/showpost.php?p=676127&postcount=94

 

RG

[Guest D***el B***e]

Lightheartedly, the oddest pet-peeve I've grown to have (though happily only through BP experiences, lyla's been amazing for wonderful smelling gents) was men asking if they have to shower. It isn't the middle ages, you shouldn't be thinking water will give you the plague.

 

Sometimes I bring up showering through text.

 

Sometimes I don't.

 

But if you're asking me, ( regardless of me bringing it up ) if you have to shower, I'm going to assume you're not often a very cleanly human being. You know who asks if they have to bathe? A four year old who just had a romp in the mud. Another whiner about bathing is my dog, and he also eats his own shit. Please don't be like my dog. ._.

 

I kind of disagree with that post ... I always ask if I can take a shower, and it doesn't mean I never do outside of seeing a lady. I prefer a morning appointment, meaning I will usually line up an appointment before noon. That being said, I am a professional, I work in an office and I shower everyday day, regardless, usually around 5:45am. I always feel fresh and clean even by mid-day BUT I always like to freshen up immediately upon entering a lady's premise. Regardless if I showered three or four hours before my appointment, I think it's a sign of respect to the lady I'm seeing that a clean manly body is more enticing than one that may be questionable.

 

It doesn't matter if you say to the lady, "Oh I've just showered an hour ago!", taking a shower upon arrival guaranties your cleanliness ... besides, if the lady joins you, there's no better way to get acquainted than being both naked and wet under a rainfall.

[johnybird 4391]

I kind of disagree with that post ... I always ask if I can take a shower,

 

Based on what I read and understood on Jenny's post, they're asking if they have to shower, not if they can take a shower. There's big difference between the two :)

[Guest D***el B***e]

Based on what I read and understood on Jenny's post, they're asking if they have to shower, not if they can take a shower. There's big difference between the two :)

 

 

Ooopps I should've read the post more carefully. I misundertood. Anyone who asks why they "have" to take a shower probably don't get it in the first place! Not the best way to start a date!

[Nicolette Vaughn 294340]

Having a session finish at the correct time and they ask to use the shower and are in there for 15 minutes!!! Talk about taking full advantage! I had to knock on the door to tell them they have to get out of shower. I use another lady's location and she is about to come home and I have to make her wait in the parking lot. That isn't fair. I was also starting to get suspicious as to why they were in there so long with the shower going. Those are people I will NEVER rebook with! While I'm not a clock-watcher but a half hour and shower and out the door is 35 mins to me, not 45 or 50. I know I'm preaching to the choir but that ticked me off! No consideration for other people.

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[Amber Rose 19012]

Having a session finish at the correct time and they ask to use the shower and are in there for 15 minutes!!! Talk about taking full advantage! I had to knock on the door to tell them they have to get out of shower. I use another lady's location and she is about to come home and I have to make her wait in the parking lot. That isn't fair. I was also starting to get suspicious as to why they were in there so long with the shower going. Those are people I will NEVER rebook with! While I'm not a clock-watcher but a half hour and shower and out the door is 35 mins to me, not 45 or 50. I know I'm preaching to the choir but that ticked me off! No consideration for other people.

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Couldn't agree more! I have no issues with a shower after and going a bit over time to clean yourself up, especially if I offer, but when you book a half hour, and literally shower for another HALF HOUR(I don't even take that long!), and I can hear you shampooing and conditioning, and THEN try and sit down and have something to drink after when it's clearly been almost 40 minutes past our time..like that's just rude.

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[Ice4fun 78396]

Couldn't agree more! I have no issues with a shower after and going a bit over time to clean yourself up, especially if I offer, but when you book a half hour, and literally shower for another HALF HOUR(I don't even take that long!), and I can hear you shampooing and conditioning, and THEN try and sit down and have something to drink after when it's clearly been almost 40 minutes past our time..like that's just rude.

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First I should say that I have never booked a half hour appointment so it could fairly be said that I have no idea of what I am talking about but here goes anyway.

 

I tend to book appointments that are more than one hour typically 2 hours especially if I have met the lady before. I do that because I know I am a talker and that i truly enjoy the interaction with the lady both before and after the main event. I kinda think that if I booked a half hour appointment my time would be up even before I got my shirt off. So that said if I was to add in a quick shower before and after I might as well stay home.

 

For me and I think a lot of other guys the half hour booking is just too short and too rushed so the reality would be That it almost makes the shower after a certain infringement on the ladies time. I kinda think that if a guy chooses a quickie booking of 30 minutes or less he should accept that it does not include a show after or he should ensure that the fun activities are completed at least 10 minutes before the end of his time.

 

The reality is I think that way in regards to the longer bookings I make so why should a cheaper booking include unpaid time for the lady.

 

Just my Opinion

[mrgreen760 37785]

"First I should say that I have never booked a half hour appointment so it could fairly be said that I have no idea of what I am talking about......"

 

Correct, you don't. I book 30 min appointments and arrive freshly showered and don't expect nor have ever had an after shower. By and large I'm the one cognizant of the clock and find myself often with my hand on the door handle trying to extricate myself. 30 minutes for me is ample and it can feel rude to leave when some one clearly doesn't want you to.......but I do.

 

Peace

MG

[Ice4fun 78396]

"First I should say that I have never booked a half hour appointment so it could fairly be said that I have no idea of what I am talking about......"

 

Correct, you don't. I book 30 min appointments and arrive freshly showered and don't expect nor have ever had an after shower. By and large I'm the one cognizant of the clock and find myself often with my hand on the door handle trying to extricate myself. 30 minutes for me is ample and it can feel rude to leave when some one clearly doesn't want you to.......but I do.

 

Peace

MG

 

Not really sure why you felt the need to take the swipe at me when in reality your approach it pretty much exactly what i suggested... no time before or after for shower and you manage the time accordingly.

 

So I guess if we both agree then neither of us must know what we are talking about.

 

Just my Opinion

[EmilyRushton 253346]

Not really sure why you felt the need to take the swipe at me when in reality your approach it pretty much exactly what i suggested... no time before or after for shower and you manage the time accordingly.

 

So I guess if we both agree then neither of us must know what we are talking about.

 

Just my Opinion

 

Plain and simple - I4F you post was condescending towards those who book 30mins.

Not everyone one is a multi hour booking, yet not all 30mins bookings are disrespectful of a ladies time. While its great you need to remind everyone that you only book longer dates, in reality - it does not need to be mentioned - unless your going to partake in a shorter date you really have no need to comment on a ladies annoyance of a shorter date disrespecting her time. - when you have no idea in reality of what it is. I don't offer shorter dates, so I choose not to comment on threads that don't relate to me or what I offer.

Your post was ignorant and unnecessary.

 

Just Emily's Opinion

[Ice4fun 78396]

Plain and simple - I4F you post was condescending towards those who book 30mins.

Not everyone one is a multi hour booking, yet not all 30mins bookings are disrespectful of a ladies time. While its great you need to remind everyone that you only book longer dates, in reality - it does not need to be mentioned - unless your going to partake in a shorter date you really have no need to comment on a ladies annoyance of a shorter date disrespecting her time. - when you have no idea in reality of what it is. I don't offer shorter dates, so I choose not to comment on threads that don't relate to me or what I offer.

Your post was ignorant and unnecessary.

 

Just Emily's Opinion

 

Just because someone chooses a different option for themselves does not mean that they don't have a right to express their opinion on a topic raised on this board.

 

I said up front that I don't book shorter appointments and explained why they would not work for ME at no point did I say they should not be allowed or say anything negative about those who do. I simply suggested what I actuality think which is that it is difficult to accommodate a shower before and/or after in such a short time frame....and i suggested that just like longer appointments that pre shower and post shower time should be part of the paid time and not part of an unpaid extension. Now you can feel free to agree or disagree as you see fit.

 

None of what i said was condescending to anyone or in my opinion ignorant ... I can only conclude that in fact must be something you have chosen to read into it. From my perspective both clients and escorts get to choose for them selves how they operate and if a 15 min or 30 min appointment works for then wonderful.

 

Now simply because you choose to not comment because you don't book shorter appointments does not mean that other members here are not allowed to express their opinion.

 

Just my Opinion

[CristyCurves 169032]

Plain and simple - I4F you post was condescending towards those who book 30mins.

Not everyone one is a multi hour booking, yet not all 30mins bookings are disrespectful of a ladies time. While its great you need to remind everyone that you only book longer dates, in reality - it does not need to be mentioned - unless your going to partake in a shorter date you really have no need to comment on a ladies annoyance of a shorter date disrespecting her time. - when you have no idea in reality of what it is. I don't offer shorter dates, so I choose not to comment on threads that don't relate to me or what I offer.

Your post was ignorant and unnecessary.

 

Just Emily's Opinion

 

Please... if you are going to chastise someone for being condescending then please don't be the same way.

He did add in his comment that "he didn't know what he was talking about.".. So why would it then be conceived that he was bragging about his longer sessions and condescending towards those who take shorter ones? I didn't read it that way at all and I'm one who offers both! May I also add, that you've never lectured another member, who constantly lets everyone know how long his sessions are and with whom and who tends to offer his opinion to every topic warranted or not. Can't we be fair and accepting towards all members here? If this is a community and we are all here to help and support one another then if someone feels a community member has erred then shouldn't they be approached in a friendlier fashion and not bashed? Especially and when they are simply adding their opinion. I believe in fairness and in a community such as this there shouldn't be a hierarchy but somehow here there often feels like there is one.