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Reprinted from my diary I received an email recently from someone accusing me of being misogynistic and that i had a hate on for prostitutes ? WTF I thought to my self! What an odd perspective, clearly this person has no clue of what they speak. If they knew anything about me they'd know that I'm a frequent hobbiest and provide support to many independents in more ways than just financial. I suspect the letter came from an agency or pimp or indy that has made their way to the pages of the diary. My agenda is clear and simple. Honesty is king, if you follow standard honest business practices then you will never find yourself in the pages of my diary. However, if you choose to use bait and switch tactics, put customers into dangerous situations, harm or threaten to harm a customer, steal from a customer, provide poor unacceptable service or bad customer service then yes, you will be featured in the diary. So the next question is why, why do I bother ? Well by exposing the fakes and frauds it kind of levels off the playing field for the honest agencies and independents. If I can filter out the bad guys for the newbies or the unsuspecting then they can focus their attention on the proven quality and customer driven providers in town. Often clients who find themselves victims of a bait and switch situation do nothing about it. Usually fear of violence, blackmail etc prevent the victims of bait and switch from doing anything, they may go through with the service, which is usually sub par and no where near what was agreed, or give the money and leave. Rarely will they leave without paying the fee, which just paves the way for the fraud to be committed again, if they get away with it once then there's nothing stopping them from doing it again, and so they do. I don't publish private information, I don't print full phone numbers that can be easily searched, I don't jeopardize anyone's safety, I don't print lies. Just the facts. The fact is that if you are an agency, a pimp or and "indy" and you use fake photos to lure customers to mislead, ripped off or robbed, then I will print the information you used to lure these victims , to warn them of the deceit that follows. I will prove that the photos are fake and will continue to track your movement as you continue to practice your deceptive ways. I realize not everyone is going to like me , some have even accused me of being a "creeper" stalking girls on the internet , again WTF ? I see bad, I warn others to avoid or be cautious, how that qualifies me as a creeper is beyond me. Do I profit from the site, yes to cover the costs of operating the site and for hard costs. Donations are always welcome and many readers have donated, some do it often some for just a few bucks, others for considerable amounts. To them I say thank you, these readers appreciate the service I provide and I appreciate the acknowledgment. The fact is I donate a good percentage to charities that are important to me. I didn't start the site to make a profit. Yes there are advertisers on my site as well, again proceeds from advertising go towards covering operating costs. When I introduced advertising some said that would impact my credibility and that by advertising on my site advertisers would be "protected" from being outed or exposed. Not True, if any advertisers, indy or agency that advertise on my site were to practice bait and switch photos bait and switch service or put a customer in harms way I would not hesitate to report on them. To the credit of current and past advertisers that situation has never occurred which speaks volumes to their credibility and the type of business they run. To the original letter writer, there is your reply for you and all to see. Take it or leave it. It is what it is...

After five years of full time smoking I finally made the decision to have my final cigarette at 8pm last night. I had a hard time sleeping, tossed and turned after waking up at 4am but am so happy I've made this decision. It's already hard though and feel like I lost a friend. I must have cravings every ten minutes it seems, but enjoying my morning coffee despite the fact I'm not lighting up. After the restlessness of this venture, I know I will be so much healthier and am looking forward to the gradual changes that come with time. Right now though is tough and I figure my closets will be reorganized, I'll be taking a few walks around the block several times a day, chewing gum and hoping I don't yell at anyone. This is going to be a big challenge but am excited about it as it's mind over body. I'm hoping to take lots of appointments over the next few days as well as my hands must keep busy. This is my good addiction. : ) Anyway, I just felt the need to announce my decision and hoping to stay strong and not slide back into old bad habits. I was closing in at a pack every two days and starting to feel the effects. Morning coughs I know are not sexy! :) Anyone else going through this?

I am in recovery. I have done a lot of work spiritually and working the 12 steps to be in such a great place right now. I am wondering who may be on the same path. PM me if you wish to keep your anonymity. I'm looking for new sober friends to share the joys of sobriety. grateful to be sober today. r100rs

Greetings Cerbites As previously stated, I was diagnosed with the "big C" a couple of weeks ago. Well I have a date for surgery, it is next Tuesday. Because of backlogs "in the system" I am now traveling down to London for this surgery! How weird, Ottawa's hospitals are too busy, so let's find someplace else to have it done. Anyway, will be out of commission for a while. Guess my tongue will get a nice rest!! Maybe I can be "serviced" by one of the nurses on night shift. Nudge, Nudge, Wink, Wink. Have a good Easter long weekend all. Play safe, have fun, and of course.......lots of licks! PS: thanx to those who have sent out their good wishes and thoughts, it is appreciated. The Liquor

I just saw in the service providers section, and add with the following; "Grand Opening" as the title I just thought it was funny! That's all! Thank you MOD for not letting me post this there! It will keep me out of trouble.

You can do it girl!! And according to this chart is so worth it ...

The overall best outfit on a lady for me is the 'Little Black Dress', of course with some nice lace lingerie underneath.

I have shaved down there from the age of 15 for hockey reasons, and I never get itchy! Why do you shave your kity's, that's cruel! lol JK If scratching in public is not an issue, what do you ladies think of guy who re-places themselves? Sometimes it just gets in an uncomfortable position, and it needs re direction. I am guilty of doing it and getting caught by a woman and they get so offended. If I see people around me, I try to avoid doing it. But he has a mind of his own.... He just wins most of the arguments.

That moment when you realize you would be ok living on your own is really powerful. You feel free, and suddenly, comfortable with the idea of 'alone'/'lonely' ("if your heart is bleeding make the best of it"). I had that moment about a year ago. Not in the context of a divorce, but in the context of realizing that the person I loved and cherished the most in the world wasn't worth disrespecting myself over! The greatest love is the love we have for ourselves...

I used to enjoy those times when I would have a day or two or even three of being alone and now that it has become the norm, it is not the same at all. I used to think that I could function alone but now realize just how much contact with others is so important. I am a new person to texting over the past 7 months and those constant texts from my daughters who are spread across the country have become incredibly important things for me. All of those little "nothing" texts are not meaningless, they are showing me that I am not alone, and that means more than I could ever express here. Likewise for short emails from friends or quick calls. They are connections to remind me that others are with me, even if not present in my space at the time. I DO enjoy quiet reflective time outside, walking, working on my property, in my gardens, but other people are so important. As with so many things in life - balance.

You make a great point. Although the list in the OP is a great starting point, too much is focused on the appearance, imo. I often tell guys who see me for the first time or call, if they are looking for a great match, make a list of 10 things they want. Then return to the sp(s) who can provide at least 7 of those things, but if you ever were to find a 10, never ever leave her lol. In the list, apperance would only be one element. Rate, services, location, availabiltiy, age range, method to book appts (as in easy (short0 or hard (email 48 hours use contact form lol)), etc. Only you know what it is you want or need, and many many sps will provide a different combination of many of the 10 items but rare to find just anyone who could do it all. And often a focus too heavy on the looks, well a terrific attitude, personality and certain skills, makes a woman you might think doesn't meet the physical criteria turns into a woman who is much more attrative than first glance (or pictures, remember, some come alive in person, some just photograph well lol) All kinds of things to consider. In some cases, how she responds to a phone call may attract or repel as well, and that is only connecting by voice. All kinds of things create a great session, and for some guys especially ones who have been around for a while, looks become a very very low priority.

I have to disagree with you on this one, I'm afraid. If CERB's membership was constant and unchanging, and if we all had perfect memories, then I'd be right with you - but both SPs and hobbyists come and go, and even for those who have been around for a while a reminder of the potential pitfalls isn't necessarily a bad idea. If this thread makes someone, somewhere stop and think a little harder about what they're doing (or not doing), or if someone learns something from it, or if someone decides to go and find out more about something as a result of it, then I think it's been worthwhile. And I won't complain if it comes up again a few months down the road, for the same reasons; we'll have new members by then who won't have seen it before. Those who feel they have nothing further to learn are free to move along.

And I really don't care for these threads that keep coming up,after being discussed in great detail, year after year after year, and please Angeltbay do not take it personally. All you need to do, is have it YOUR WAY while conducting your sexual appetite and not to announce and start fear mongering over BB anything. Educate yourself, get checked out,have sex the way you want it,and keep your own choice to yourself. If a man wishes to have covered everything,which should also include protective dam while giving oral to his lady if he is that worried about BB, then that's his choice,if a lady only offers CBJ and perhaps you should not kiss or DFK too, again that is her choice and preference. Signed.... dislikes this controversial topic,only because others really need to educate themselves on the topic at hand and risks involved. I know I might take some flak for this,but I'm not interested in this debate,and discussions anymore here on this board.