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I've thought about privacy issues and paid companionship a lot. Some men are almost rabid in their insistence that they will have 100% anonymity in their dealings with companions, no matter what. They often say that their privacy is more important than anything else, which presumably includes the companion's safety. And that's the problem. I sell fantasies. I can appreciate that, for some clients, a big part of the fantasy is to think they're getting away with something that no one will ever know about--including me! Who hasn't wondered what it would be like to be invisible, sometime? An encounter that leaves no trace is appealing to many people. Unfortunately, it's also part of the plot of many murder mysteries and true crime stories. Too often the victim in these stories is a prostitute, paid companion, courtesan or a woman falsely accused of being one of us. As we're all aware, even the federal government doesn't consider our safety to be as important as that of women who are not in the sex trade, and the police don't pay as much attention to our demise as they do to the death of the banker's wife next door. Feeling powerful is erotic. I think that some men enjoy imagining that they're navigating through a demi-monde riddled with crime and deeds of darkness when they see one of us. They go on and on about their safety and security, and they book meetings with those of us who will agree to see them. They get off on the company, the sex and the feeling that they have come away unscathed, that they have bested or tricked the underworld and lived to tell their story. In other words, the encounter may be, at least in part, about their feeling that they can compete with other men and come out ahead. Sensible women avoid men's pissing contests. Most of us won't see someone who demands iron-clad anonymity. It's far too likely that he may be hoping to get away with something violent. Speaking for myself, I'm happy to play a convincing fantasy game full of elaborate plot twists, subterfuge and secret passwords exchanged in train stations only when I know a few things about the client. What it comes down to is this: we're on the same side. I am not a client's enemy. We want the same things.

We have already discussed this issue at length in a previous thread, but I really do not understand what the deal is about hiding everything about who you are!! You know what we look like, somewhat of what kind of person we are by our posts and Ads, you know our phone number, email and once an appointment is booked you know where we live or recieve our incalls. There are sooooo many things YOU can do to us. What can we really do having a handle on a board? Or a phone number? We do not know anythign about you! So really what can we do? This is our job, its what puts the food on the table and pays our rent! Unless you harmed us in any way, it would be a career ending move if we choose to do something with the info you provide us with. What if we were raped or beaten half to death? The first thing out of your mouth would be "Do you know anything about the person?" NO, because we need the money to live and too many people are making a big fuss about giving a little of personal info, so all I know is he looks like..... and his name is John Doe!! Then we are a no longer considered a victim, we are just clueless! YOU may not be a sicko, a rapist or a murderer, but who says the next guy after you is not???

Personally, the only reasons I can see for not giving a board handle when asked is that you are trying to be deceitful.

The council has voted (unanimously) to make it a rule that any Agency, Massage Spa or Private club must be PAID ADVERTISERS in order to post ads on Lyla. At this time this rule only applies to Ottawa and Toronto as both cities have over 5000 posts. NOTE: Any city to reach 5000+ posts will be added to this list. Lyla will NOT charge the Independent providers for using Lyla however anyone who works for a Spa or Agency and wishes to mention that company on Lyla will need to purchase a banner for that company. Agencies/Private Clubs/Massage spas that run MULTIPLE COMPANIES will be permitted to have MULTIPLE PAID ACCOUNTS (One for EACH company) - Each account would require a PAID BANNER. Each paid account could advertise in the announcements area per 12 hour period as well. - Lyla remains an outstanding value for agencies and this will get rid of the "fly by night" agencies and give exclusivity to the serious agencies who do pay for advertising and are branding a reputation. - Agencies will be monitored closely to ensure compliance especially in regards to anyone trying to circumvent this rule with FAKE indie accounts will be banned from the site and purchasing a banner will no longer be a option. If you are unethical we do not want you here. Public gentleman's clubs (Strip Clubs) are welcome to purchase banners and if they wish to advertise directly to Lyla they may do so as well but so far none really seam to want to advertise but some of the dancers do from time to time so the ladies who work for these clubs can still post where they will be working without the need for a paid advertisement at this time. This exception is ONLY for PUBLIC STRIP CLUBS (Not Private Clubs or any other type of adult club). Private adult entertainment clubs will be seen the same as agencies and massage spas and will be required to purchase a banner to advertise. New members (Agencies/Spa's/Private Clubs) will have 5 FREE posts as a trial period. This does not count for companies running more then one business so if you have a paid agency account you can not get a 5 day account for a NEW agency you are opening. Current Agencies/Spa's/Private Clubs who do NOT have a banner yet will have 7 days grace to contact me and purchase a banner from today. Thank you. TheMOD.

In my 4 years I've noticed that the first few weeks of "good" weather in spring result in a reduction business, just like the first few weeks of shitty weather in winter results in an increase in business. The sex industry is one of industries least affected by a depressed economy. Like food, human companionship and touch is a basic human need. In some ways an economic depression can help us because many people see us because they are depressed. I know of several gents who lost their jobs and started hobbying more to get them through the rough times. On another note, why is it that everyone always points out the bad times, but no one points out the good times? This last December and March were amazing for me!

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Actually if you have seen someone more than once, I find this very sweet and a chivalrous thing to do, if the Lady wishes it.

No, politics and sex industry are related. If you are aware how the conservatives stand on this issue then you would be interested too. A conservative MP (Joy Smith) wishes to implement the Nordic system in Canada (which virtually will kill the industry as it will likely end hobbying,at least for me or most which would sent hobbyists to six month in jail for consensual sex) and what conservatives stand on the issue is to make prostitution (even seeing escorts and even outcalls) ILLEGAL. As it has been mentioned in other threads if you are still not interested you can always steer away from the politics related threads but many of us are for above reason and more (generally politics affects our every day life. Our taxes, our jobs, our prosperity, our lifestyle, our freedom, our well being.... ) Cerb is more than a recommendation board nowadays where we come to see or read sex related stuff. It has evolved to become quite a community with DIVERSE subjects of interest to all members.

I think that discussing the Federal election here is very relevant because, unlike other vehicles, here we can openly discuss the election in the context of sex worker issues. Elsewhere if you mention that one of the reasons that you don't support the Conservatives is because their policies are the most hostile towards sex workers, you're liable to raise some eyebrows.

I must admit, I'm amazed this matters. Ottawa's not *that* big - if you avoid rush hour, you can drive from anywhere to anywhere else in half an hour or so. I suppose that may be a problem if you're running a tight schedule... but if it's that tight, are you really going to enjoy your visit if you're worrying about getting out on time? And if a half-hour drive is really an insurmountable obstacle, then I can't believe you really wanted to see the lady in question all that much. Of course, this might be much more of an issue for those who don't drive. For me, the main issue on location is parking (although most places aren't too bad if you avoid peak times). Which leads me on to the most important thing, which is *when* you're available - I suspect it's far easier for some of us to visit a SP at some times than others. I'd guess that some folks can only get out to play during the working day, and others may find that impossible but can take time in the evening, or after work. This is just my thoughts, of course. I can't really speak for anyone else, so all of the above may be completely wrong :)

I am new, but would give my nickname over willingly. I only joined Cerb at the suggestion of a SP. Was not even aware of it and had been seeing escorts from the Escorts Canada listings. Anyhow, I would think if your serious about meeting, then what's the problem?

There is a program called Wine which you can install on Ubuntu. Its not perfect by any means. You can find a list of supported applications here http://appdb.winehq.org/ Personally I would just run VirtualBox and install a proper Windows OS on it.

The current Fed Election campaign... Sorry!

Camel toe vs MOOSE KNUCKLE!!!

Just knew there had to be a video http://www.dailymotion.com/video/x1t010_camel-toe-song_fun RG

I actually find not wanting (or willing) to give your CERB handle a little odd. But I have seen one great lady who required verification, and am scheduling with a couple others who have verification procedures in place, and that includes your real name, phone, email, and in one case a confirmation pm from the board you are on to confirm handle with name I'm have no problems providing that information What really is the big deal in providing your CERB handle But that's me RG

Being new to Cerb myself, I found myself assured to know that some of my earliest guests had some time on Cerb as well as a posting history. It did, in a sense, 'rest my nerves' that these were men who were truly into the 'hobby' and that they had experience in dealing with SPs. I did have an situation just last weekend where a gent had said they had seen me on Cerb and the texts and phonecalls took up a lot of time in my afternoon try to arrange a get together that never did happen. Something struck me as odd and when I asked him for his Cerb handle, he refused to provide it. Now I don't have the experience that you other ladies have on here, so all I can do is to defer to your opinions and try to learn from them, but if he is going to say he saw me on Cerb, instead of my ad on Escorts Canada or my Web site, then I personally didn't think it was wrong to ask for his handle as well. I sort of draw a parallel of not accepting calls from blocked numbers, if that analogy makes sense...

I would recommend AngelaofOttawa as well :)

That moment when you realize you would be ok living on your own is really powerful. You feel free, and suddenly, comfortable with the idea of 'alone'/'lonely' ("if your heart is bleeding make the best of it"). I had that moment about a year ago. Not in the context of a divorce, but in the context of realizing that the person I loved and cherished the most in the world wasn't worth disrespecting myself over! The greatest love is the love we have for ourselves...