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Never ever keep this information from a potential sexual partner. If you plan to see an escort, she needs to know up front in order to make the best decision for her.

Please lets try and remember that this is this young mans first ever post here on CERB. How many of us had the understanding of the language and politics of sex work down pat from the get go? Please give this young man the same oppertunity to learn the ropes that we all had. I thought that his question was a valid one. As SPs we all get to decide what our personal risk tolerance is, some of us give BBBJ, some only covered. It's our personal choice, I'd rather have a client who was open and honest with me than one who had been shamed or driven by desperation to keeping health information a secret. November

This just seems like a no-brainer to me. you pay. Then you play. Why on earth would it be any different. You're not in a restaurant or a bar - you're privileged to be where you are, and your SP is taking far more risks than you are. If you're not willing to pay up front, this isn't the hobby for you.

This has been an interesting read... And I understand all of the responses. All of them. That being said, I also remember my first few posts... My first few questions. And this guy is asking for help/information/advice. Good for him. How many guys with herpes just say 'fuck it', see SPs, and never tell them. Lots. I am sure. So while I agree his choice of words is unfortunate, good for him for asking. So many guys with STIs or STDs never tell... One of the things I love about CERB is how forgiving people here are. We all blow it sometimes. Give him a break, and some good advice. Think of it as a teaching moment.

I've cancelled once, been cancelled on and have been no showed on a couple of occassions. I think a client not showing is by far the worst as it gives virtually no chance for the sp invloved to accept something else that might come up last minute. Shit does happen and I've struggled with not taking it personally when it's happened to me. Some what the nature of the beast I suppose but no fun for anyone on either end. This game is tough enough already for all involved....lets try to be kind to each other. Peace MG

Frankly, I'm troubled by your query because you seem to be saying that, because you have herpes--and presumably have had negative reactions from other women--you're "willing to try escorts." You say that you're afraid of being rejected and of having your condition reported to others. I hope you're not buying into the stereotype of escorts as disease-ridden women. It's completely false. You are significantly more likely to be infected with a sexually transmissible infection (STI) from your wife or girlfriend than you are from an independent paid companion who works indoors. That's because we companions generally will not engage in sexual activities which are common in husband-and-wife relationships. We tend to be scrupulous about our health not only because we have many, many sexual partners whose histories we cannot possibly know but also because we have no reason to trust that our clients are infection-free. I also hope that you're not imagining that escorts are the appropriate companions for someone who has an STI--that we're the "women of last resort," so to speak. What I mean to say is that it's okay to expose a paid companion to an STI because she's a prostitute. This is a reprehensible idea. Forgive me if I seem to be casting aspersions your way if you don't think these things. I hope you're aware that many people take the health and safety needs of women in the sex trade much less seriously than other women's same needs. Having said all that, I'd like to suggest that everyone calm down a bit when it comes to thinking about herpes. It's a real infection, it can be troubling at times, and it's also manageable. Good, accurate information is available from the Health Nurse. Read it carefully. Many people have herpes and never know that they have it because they have mild or no apparent symptoms. Those at greatest risk are unborn children, yet women with herpes have safe pregnancies and deliver babies safely all the time in North America when their health care professionals know that the women have the infection. People with herpes are most contagious in the first two years or if they have recurrences more than four times a year. If you're using condoms 100% of the time, taking antiviral medication daily and having no sexual contact anytime you have sores, you're being responsible. When or whether to tell a sexual partner that you have herpes is a complex decision. The Herpes Health website gives useful information to help in your decision-making process. Finally, Australian sex workers who have herpes are advised not to work when they have symptoms until the sores have completely healed. They must use condoms 100% of the time when they're working.

I think I've shared this before. A special lady visited me and had two small pieces of art that went together as a set. She let me pick one and she kept the other. I have it on my work desk and look at it every day with fond memories. Cub Posted via Mobile Device

-Feeling a mans hands slowly but firmly carressing every curve of my body. -grabbing my hair (gently) when Iam going down on you. -watching a mans toes curl from the pleasure. -slowly teasing me with your tongue around my pubic area and inner thighs and then when I cant take it no more, you still move very slowly over my clit and gentle suck my clit -having my hands pinned to the bed/wall while your move deep and slow inside of me -that feeling when your first enter me, the most amazing feeling (Guys, do this very slow and deep!!!) OMG!! I'll be back in a bit....LOL!

My beer tastes have changed over the years for sure. It is very enjoyable to go into the liquor store and be able to sample beers from around the world, but I invariably return to my favorites. PEI's one and only microbrewery makes a great selection but Island Red is at the top of the list for me. Away from home, I go straight to the Keiths Red or Rickards Red. Rumour has it that The Gahan House, our microbrewery, is about to begin bottling and marketing in Ontario. So, all you Ottawa folks, be prepared for a treat.

Just because I find him extremmmmmmmmely sexy and because he has amazing little round buns!

One prick, and it'll explode all over you... :)

I like to blow bubbles

While I agree the phrase "willing" doesn't sound good, keep in mind a couple things. First, to publicly discuss an issue which has to be troubling for him, takes a great deal of courage. He should get a kudos for that alone. Second, his age, 21, and third his posting history (2 posts) Some people find it hard to convey thoughts to words. But if you look at the entirety of his post, the gist of it to me at least, he is worried about trying intimate relations because of the fear of rejection and that whoever he tries to see will tell other people about his condition. His choice of word "willing" does on first glance seem bad, but in context I take it as he wants to see escorts because the escort wouldn't tell others of his condition and an escort might not be as likely to reject him out of hand because he has herpes. And the inference from that is clear, he would tell a escort of his condition Look at the intent of his words and post, I certainly don't think he intended any disrespect to the ladies. And really, if he wanted avoid all the criticisms, he could have avoided posting altogether and kept it a secret As I see it RG

Also, do not to forget to purge last call history. Additional Comments: In trying to set up an encounter, I called a provider. No answer and I left a message that I would call back later. Which I did, no answer so I decided that I would call another provider and was able to set up an encounter. A few hours later I get a text message from the first provider. I had stated that I would call back. This text was not appreciated. Please use discretion.

This is something that you should be revealing before making an appt, not after arrival, or even after a couple of visits. No matter what you plan to do, the idea that you might not disclose this with first contact is alarming. It really doesn't matter if you assume escorts are more educated about STDs, the reality is that many many are not. And to be honest, being educated and open minded does not mean that I would plan to willingly expose myself to it knowingly. Even if I approach every encounter as tho the person has an STD, the bottom line also is that if you don't tell me, you are taking away my choice and my ability to keep myself safe. And that would be irresponsible and inexcusable. But to me, that you think that seeing escorts is "OK" knowing you have this condition is also irresponsible, no matter what precautions are taken.

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First thing....always. In an envelope, I don't hand it to her, I show where I put it and just leave it at that. Peace MG

I think I figured it out!!!!!!!!! This is Nun of the Above...