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Oh for goodness sakes have more sex!

I know a number of escorts prefer email interactions so that they can track all of their correspondence in one location. So PMs may not be the preferred method for every lady. Quick question for you did you get a chance to check out these ladies websites? Often times the information you need is available there. Unless you're being rude (and please don't infer that I believe you are) or using a non preferred method of communication there's no reason for the ladies not to answer, you are, in effect, their source of income and so answering you is to their benefit. I also find that many ladies dislike short form communication (although I've been known to have the opposite problem in that regard myself), things like "yo bby wats ur rates and menu?" don't usually sit well with many of the fine ladies here on CERB. I myself usually try for a format that follows this general form: Hello, I saw your pictures and they are beautiful! I would very much like to know more about you. I was unable to find your rates or specific services on your website. Could you please provide this information? Thanks, <Insert your name here> It's a tad over the top, but you'd be shocked to find out the effect that a well composed message can have on your likelihood of a reply. In the end, if you've done all of these things and the lady still won't reply to you then you're better off moving on. She's either too busy, or too disorganized for you to really make a proper connection. I know that can be frustrating sometimes when a lady is particularly enthralling, but it's not all about looks, I've come to find that attitude and service count for a lot in this hobby/industry.

You're absolutely right about this, and I don't see it as a judgment, but more of a commentary. People today are communicating in ways that we could never have imagined, and it's actually having a greater effect on us than we realize. I'd suggest the age divide is more for people under 30, but I guess there's some variation there; I'm sort of on the cusp of this phenomenon. When I was growing up, I didn't play video games too often; I had a computer (Apple IIC) when I was quite young, but I didn't spend 10 hours a day using it. Most importantly, I learned how to socialize before computers and cell phones became so popular; it wasn't until my late teens that these tools became the status quo for communication. Now, when I have classes with people more than 5 years younger than me, I can notice a serious difference between those of us who learned to socialize normally, versus those who grew up with computer-mediated communication (CMC) being the norm. There's not just a behavioural difference between groups, but a neurological difference as well. Sadly, these tools actually get in the way of how our brain processes communcation messages. You know the saying that 90% of communication is non-verbal? It's totally true. Our brains process communication holistically, and we consider all the information (verbal and non-verbal) when evaluating someone's message - but modern communication (emails and texts) eliminate some of the most important bits of information that we have depended on throughout our evolutionary history, such as facial expressions, affirmative nods, and body language. Quite simply, kids who grow up using computers and cell phones have brains that are wired differently, and they pay more attention to the details than the bigger picture. Some of the effects showing up in research include: - Considerably shorter attention spans - Desensitization to visual stimuli - Decreased working memory ability - Poorer calculation skills (most likely a consequence of the calculator) - Difficulty in face-to-face communication (lack of eye contact in particular, as well as decreased sensitivity to facial expressions indicating emotional changes) - Limited and decreased empathy for others (because the empathy mechanism in our brain is closely wired to our facial recognition and processing centres) - And, most problematic, a complete inability to delay gratification, and a major lack in self-discipline. At the neurological level, we're actually looking at a potential crisis of massive proportions, so it's not unreasonable to say that this generation gap and communication divide makes people feel more or less connected to other people. Even though we're more "connected" to each other in a technological sense, we've actually never been more alone, as far as our brains being able to connect and identify with other people. The good news is, this isn't the end of the line. Returning to normal, face-to-face communication is one way to increase your ability to connect with others, and having meaningful contact with other people has been shown to increase empathy and decrease feelings of loneliness and isolation. Also, it's actually pretty easy to develop self-discipline; all it takes is a couple of marshmallows to teach your kids how to exercise self-control. Check this out for more details:

Couple things come to mind as to why you might not get a reply First, maybe the lady prefers email (or phone call or text) to private message...always use her preferred method of contact Second are your messages polite and respectful, or rude and vulger. If the latter, you won't get a reply. Third, are you in any way negotiating or attempting to negotiate on her donation or services, if so, that can result in no replies Just a few ideas that come to mind RG

I would like to thank those who have, in the past and very recently, brought to my attention the existence of profiles on adult sites and advertisements in other cities that are using my pictures. I encourage anyone who notices one of the lovely cerb ladies' pictures being used in a suspicious manner to let her know. Further, I have learned that watermarking your photos is very important and am working on this as we speak. Help us maintain our individuality and our reputations! :smile:

... or you could say, "What the hell. I am here, let's do it!" You might just be pleasantly surprised about what your type really is!

While I'm on sure this is possible with some ladies, it's comments like this that make the job very difficult for the majority of MA 'who, like myself, Will never offer these services. Men coming in to a massage place thinking they Will get this services will not only be disappointed but they will also put the MA in a very uncomfortable and unwanted position where they're having to turn down a clients request, and it's very hard for a session to end on a positive note when this happens. As suggested above, your best bet is to contact an SP who offers the finish you want, rather than waste your timeand the MA 's trying to get something she won't give you .

Or are you like me and spend most of your time walking around and thinking "what the hell is wrong with all these people? Am I the only normal living thing on this big muddy dirtball?". Can you relate to most people? Or are there only a few other people that you can truly relate to? Do you look at the population of the world as a whole and think of it as a seperate entity or do you feel a part of it? Or are you like me who feels like an eternal outcast, seperate from the rest of the world, always on the outside looking in, only feeling close to other outcasts......and you are perfectly A-ok with that. Because the human beans on the other side of the window are straaaaange! :p Posted via Mobile Device

This is pretty cool! Peace MG

I come back to CERB to improve my English vocabulary and writing skills. English is not my first language! People at work are very impressed at my new found wittiness. Little do they know...

Watching your 11 year old dog act like a puppy, playing in the snow.

For Christ sake it's one of their last freedom. Let them masturbate in peace. Also the right of masturbating probably keep the stats of rape a bit more down that if they weren't allowed.

That is good advice, OD. Also, they may be like me and come on infrequently. I find that unless a pm message is indeed a one or two word like "Rates?" or worse "r8s?", I will reply if only to send a direct link to an ad, with the contact preference all laid out. If I had a website, with the info requested, I would send that instead with a brief note. What we like to know first and foremost that the person contacting us already knows things like location, age, stats, and more. If someone reads my ads, from top to bottom, they know not to bother sending emails, texts or private messages if they are only going to ask about rates/services. My contact preference is phone call only. I know when someone has not read the ad in full if they send me a message of any sort asking those things, and I am unlikely to reply.

It's marketed in Rona or Home Depot under full spectrum lighting. Some folks say greenhouse lighting works too but I have only tried full spectrum. Yes have had one for the last 2 years and its great.

Aside from Gabi's and RG's helpful comments, there is a big secret to CERB that some do not realize. There are a lot of providers here who have inactive accounts. They sign on, post a few times and disappear. Left the business, moved to another city or found that CERB was not their thing. It happens. When you check a profile, look for "last activity" - you can see it below their profile pic. If there is nothing there, check "statistics"... it's the third tab directly under the profile pic. Now click "find all posts by XXX"... if the last post was in October 2011 or before, the likelihood is that you are NEVER going to get a response. She has moved on. Don't get discouraged... CERB is like the biblical land of plenty... manna from heaven. You will find that perfect experience!!!

Perhaps the information you are looking for is listed on their websites and that's the reason they're not answering your PMs. You should also consider contacting the lady by the method she prefers ;)

Apologies for this one Wham-Wake Me Up Before You Go Go RG I'm sorry

Huge loner over here. I'm quirky and odd and I'm totally fine with that.

This may be conjecture on my part, but I do think that the technology that we are using right this second has a great deal to do with the disconnect. Think about it. People 35 and under have had an entirely different set of parameters within which to conduct their socialization. You "play" with people online. You "chat" with people online. You text and bbm and message remotely. Ipods, other MP3 players and the like are the offspring of the Sony Walkman, but they seem to be more relevant and as such create a greater degree of self imposed isolation. You grew up in a video game generation, where amusement didn't require interaction with anyone else and if it did, they weren't in the same room. None of this is your fault and none of it is necessarily bad - but it has limited some of the social interactions that were prevalent in the group of people just a few years older than yourselves. The "disconnect" makes it easier to relate to people in remote areas because you can turn them off at will - you can't do that to people in the real world. You have to cope with their everyday problems, their issues, their "chatter" - and it's inescapable - the coping mechanisms of this age don't allow for unplugging and walking away. It's not a condemnation written by an old guy. Hell, I wish I could unplug and tune out some times. In my opinion, it's just an unfortunate outcome of technology, an unanticipated shortcoming of the electronic world where reality is far less accommodating than the self imposed isolationism of your own alternate reality. That was deep. I need a nap.

Olivia Olsen is now in Toronto for a short time. Awesome redhead! My reco of a previous meeting abroad here: http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=73047 Her website: www.oliviaolsen.webs.com Edit: I just posted a reco of her in Toronto: http://cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=77173

saw this on the news today, hope is a bit helpful :) http://ottawa.ctv.ca/servlet/an/local/CTVNews/20120112/ott-recipe-VegaTini-120112/20120112/?hub=OttawaHome

Does masturbating count?

I like how Berlin and I seem to share similar preferences in things both geeky and....hehe....naughty (see my contribution to the favorite quotes thread :p ) Plus she's smart, outspoken and sexy as all get out!

I like Berlin, enjoy reading her posts and getting her insights. When you post something Berlin, I read it Oh, and you started that damned addictive :-) first music thread which has provided a bunch of us "musical" CERBITE's a fun way to pass the time, thank you for that RG

Can't believe someone with 100+ posts would actually write this. this is unacceptable. Most ma's already are worried about LE, they don't need these comments being written on an open discussion board. Very irresponsible. Would expect this from a newbie.

I would recommend getting bloodwork done to check your iron, B12, and folic acid levels, which are often causes of anemia :) Vitamin D at this time of the year can really help as well.

Ohhhhh, I like Phaedrus for so many reasons... He's smart, witty, funny, sexy and he's a terrible cook! lol ;)

most people feel draged out this time of year due to the lack of vitamen D which most peolpe get from the sun. get some vitamen D and u should bounce right back

Have you considered getting vitamin B12 shots? I am considering this right now as i saw a really good show yesterday on Dr. OZ and the benefits of it and how it boosts energy levels and general well-being and lessens fatigue.

Please don't post ladies' phone numbers on the board... not good! The ladies get to give out their numbers - or not - as they wish...

I had this a few years back on CL and she not only stole my pictures she also stole my ad and told clients we were doing duo's together. On the day of the appointment she would tell them I didn't show. This was really hurting my reputation. I had a couple of people email me to let me know what was going on (they were unhappy with me for not showing up). I contacted the site admin. to have to pictures removed and they wanted proof the pictures were mine. Since all my pictures are water marked with special logo's I was able to prove it. This could have ruined my business and much more. I agree with Meg if you find someone posting fake pictures of a lady please let her and the site administrator right away. I recommend anyone in this business if you are going to post pictures on the internet, make sure they are watermarked. If you don't know how to do this, then there are options on line to learn how, or contact your photographer.

I am surprised to hear that ladies pics. are being stolen and used illicitly on other sites. That fact other people would steal, and then use as their own, pics. that are of others in order to profit is shocking. Yes, sarcasm is implied in this statement. On a serious note I find the act of stealing pics. to be repulsive! This one simple act is reason enough to (A) stick to cerb and (B) make us all question the validity of ads on other sites. Of course it is not ALL ladies on other sites that do this but with most things it only takes one to cast a net of suspicion over the whole group. I also understand that standing naked or semi naked in front of a camera and then posting said photo to your profile for all to see is not easy. It takes a lot of confidence and guts to be able to do this and be proud...more confidence than this man has I might ad. I know I could not do what you ladies do to promote yourselves and your business. However, to those using photos that are not yours take 5 minutes to take a pic. that is yours. We (the guys) don't need/want a professional 100 page portfolio, all we really need is one or two honest representations of you as a lady/SP. This will ensure copyright is respected and everyone knows that the lady in the picture is the same lady answering the door. My two pennies anyway.

concrete blonde has blood letting - bringin' back the 80's here :

Two tours of Iraq...enough said.

Religion is about fear. Our ideas about hell and damnation are usually both about the things we fear the most--pain, alienation, isolation, meaninglessness--and our beliefs about God or gods. Add into the mix the notion of a moral universe, where everything happens for a reason, where the good guys really do win in the end, and where there's some kind of balance or settling of accounts, and we have a very potent concoction. I believe in hell sometimes. When I feel at my worst, I may think I'm living in a corner of it. When I feel misunderstood or lost or angry, I may hope that someone else will end up in whatever version of hell I might design for them. But I know that these are just mind games I'm playing. Ultimately, I don't know about heaven or hell. I do know that the future is an imaginary thing. It doesn't exist. I have only now, this time, this moment, this breath, this heartbeat.... what I do now is what matters.

I believe that many life threatening diseases, are curable, but because these pharmaceutical companies are billion dollar businesses..the cures will not likely be provided since this would not make them as much money.

It's a sense of community. Belonging. I am fortunate to have so many wonderful friends (including the OP, whom I adore).... and the lighthearted nature of so many of our members makes it a pleasure to make your acquaintance. CERB has become part of my family. Some of you have shared time with me on a number of levels. I have opened my home to some. I have a deep fondness for the wide array of women and men that make this community "accepting." Despite our varying beliefs, backgrounds, professions and opinions, we find a way to make it work and will try to make it work even better if given the opportunity. That's my CERB.