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Yep, the C-word. We hear it all the time; that it's a cure-all for interpersonal issues. As an SP, I communicate as clearly as possible in my ads, website and interactions so there is no misinformation and are no misunderstandings. My responsibility is to communicate, either written or verbal, effectively, clearly, and honestly. That's on me. Reading things thoroughly, and asking for clarification before making an assumption.... that's on you. Caveat emptor, buyer beware. Being aware means being informed. It takes time to inform yourself, and effort. Yes, a lot of the time seeing an SP is more-or-less on impulse. But that doesn't mean you can't take the time to familiarize yourself with that lady. Her services, her booking protocols, anything else you need to know to be an informed client. These things shouldn't need to be said, but they are said - often. The reality is there are enough guys out there who skim over important bits of information, or worse yet, think they are an exception and a lady will bend her rules for him. And rather than taking responsibility for their error (afterall, it is your responsibility as a client to be familiar with what the rules are), they transfer it onto the lady. She's bitchy. She's being unfair. How dare she stick to the rules and restrictions which she has already clearly outlined, can't she see I'm special? This kind of nonsense happens a lot, and the sad truth is that while there are times when a lady is genuinely at fault, there are also times when bitter men who feel slighted are not completely forthcoming with their contribution to events. It is this reason why I don't bother with the other place. It's far too misogynistic and I don't feel that women are being properly respected there. We have our responsibilities, both SPs and clients. I am not responsible for making sure your phone has minutes, providing transportation to my incall, or providing services that I do not offer just for you. You are not responsible for supplying my lingerie or condoms, making sure my phone has minutes, or my right to choose what I do with my body. Information is key. Communication is how that information is given. If you're not sure, ask. Don't make assumptions or fail to plan and then wonder why a lady is less-than-impressed with you. There's my mini-rant about communication and not trying to make someone else responsible for your (in)actions. Posted via Mobile Device

For me, this is what I have experienced. I am a very attractive woman who is always dressed very nicely and also groomed the same. In my 9-5 career-I am someone with a very strong work ethic. I always go the extra mile-always obtain top notch references, have strong experience in a variety of sectors, plus I also have the maturity that ensures that I am there for the long haul, looking to establish a solid career by being dependable and efficient. IMHO, I would think thats what an exec would want for his assisant. Many times , for the past few years-I have obtained many ineterviews for jobs-that excuse my arrogance, but were perfect for me, my skills and personality too. However, once I arrive to the interview-there would be a pool of us ladies, waiting to be interviewed, and once the interviewer opens the door to call in the candidates-they start to give us the total look over from head to toe. You see many of these interviews, consisted of men who were basically only interested in having an assistant who fit their idea of hot. Forget the skills, attitude or experience. I personally feel that I have lost out on quite a few jobs due to my appearance-but at the sametime, they did me a favour because I would have a hard time working for people like that. Whenever I go to a bar-probably cause people are drinking-and just plain stupid-I always get at least one insult, regarding my appearance-because some loser in the bar thinks its so important for me to know that I am not his type-meanwhile the person who is spewing stupid shit is usually someone who I would not even touch with a ten foot pole-so whatevs... Within this business-I have been shunned a little bit-and I dont mean cause certain men wont see me due to my size. I am not referring to this -I am not trying to change anyones mind about what they like ;) What I mean about that is that there are quite a few guys who I see on occassion and regularly that would NEVER let other hobbiests know that they see me and like me too. Yes there are plenty of ladies who fit the bbw image on this site and other sites too, but very very few individuals will fess up to liking us. I realize the return visits are imperative for my business, but I gotta say nothing stings more than when you see one of the guys that you spend time with always make it a point to rec the ladies who are no more than 130 lbs, but never you...ouchy -wouchy ;) But hey-I deal :boobies:....could be alot worse ;) I really love the way I look-and do not have any desire to be what is usually considered hot. I love my giant breasts-my tummy, heavy bottom and thick thighs and will not change that for ANYBODY...that is what is most important!

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God bless all farmers, been there done that and its not easy as everyone thinks it is. If you ate today thank a farmer.

Sorry I have to disagree with you on this. Ladies who wish to discuss services offered usually have a menu listed in ads or on a website. Not all of us conduct business this way and some of us even take great offence when being treated like a pizza. To some people seeing a companion is an experience and not just a single act. If your seeking a certain service and not a complete package find a lady listing her services. I dont have a menu, nor will I ever provide one and my business does just fine. not listing services offered does not mean a client leaves disappointed. I can tell by the 2nd email that I exchange with a client if we will click and menu has nothing to do with it. Just cause a service is available or offered does not mean the client will leave happy. Not every Companion bases her business on a menu.

This topic is a sensitive one for me. As a teen I was extremely over weight and got picked on really bad in highschool, "walking meat locker, ogre, etc....". These names affected me sooooo badly I became anorexic for a long time. My body image ran my life, I was soooo obsessed with being skinny I went down to a very unhealthy weight. The thing is once someone becomes anorexic there is no cure, it stays with you for life. Everyday I worry about what I eat, and what I look like. When I look in the mirror, I do not see what everyone else does, I see a huge whale who is disgusting. I have had people tell me how beautiful I am but it is hard to believe. The last couple of years I have been battling cancer, and the side effects of the treatments I have been getting is weight gain. I am once again unhappy with my weight. It does not matter how little I eat or how much I work out the weight has been taken out of my control. So to anyone out there who has been struggling with a weight control disease (anorexia/bulimua), you are not alone. To anyone who puts people down for their weight/body image, shame on you! My best friend is a male who is extremely under weight, his whole life he has been picked on and teased for being too small. People have advised him he isn't eating enough, etc.... This is not funny for him, he has tried to gain weight and no matter what he tries he is just a small man. I always tell him he is perfect just the way he is, but like me he has been teased and tortured for sooooo long he no longer believes he is ok. Sorry I had to chime in on this issue as it is very close to my heart, as I see people everyday suffering because of someone else's ideal on how people should look.

Body shaming can happen to anyone at any size...too big or too small. The point is We have to love ourselves. I believe We can be our own worse enemies.

There needs to be more farmers.When we eat locally grown, farmed/raised food we are all better for it, including our enviroment. Unfortunately government has taken over and made it hard for many to survive farming independently.

Peachy, Although not as prevalent as bbw shaming, skinny shaming does occur as you have noted, and it was your intent to draw attention to the fact that it does occur. Both types of shaming can be equally as damaging (any comments that draw into question anyones uniqueness as somehow being a flaw can alter that persons perception of their self as being something less than perfect). Unfortunately, I have been impacted by the ill effects of negative body image in the form of eating disorders in two seperate loved ones and participated closely in their recoveries, so I beleive I have some legitimate authority in this area. As a man I have fortunately not been the subject of shaming of either type, but do to my significant intolerance for other peoples ignorance I have taken the opportunity to cut haters of either type down a few pegs when necessary. (Not that I am proud of it but I have once in the past took someone down a peg physically when I didn't even know the poor guy that was the subject of a public shaming, because of my experience I have a short fuse for this stuff). The true amazing part of life is that we are all beautiful, unique individuals, distinctive and exceptional each in our own way. If all women (or men for that matter) were exactly the same, either big or small, realistically a large portion of the hobbiests here on Cerb and in the country in general would have no purpose in this "hobby". Many are here looking for that difference that exists from one woman to another, that "experience" of what makes each unique and wonderful. The tendancy to just shoot down that fact that skinny shaming occurs and is horribly wrong because it doesn't happen as much as BBW shaming is very near sighted. Any type of intolerance and shaming is terrible. In an image driven industry such as yours I would think that everyone would embrace uniqueness as their tool rather than just want to be "more of the same". Thanks for generating discussion and debate. Chuck

No I have never issued fines, nor plan to, I also do the photography or pay my own professional photographer. I have worked for agencies like the ones you speak of, in the past, and I never agreed to that kind of treatment. I simply go with " if want to make the cash be here, if you are always standing up your clients, then you will not work with me any longer" It is up to them if they want to work and when. But just as any job, if you dont show up, you dont get to make money... and if the business makes no money then no point of you being here. I have no hard core rules other than show up no less than 30 min early to appt, no drugs, clean appearance. But this is not in contract, this is verbally done. I will never nicke and dime, like some agencies made you pay 5.00 a day for tissue paper, lol...I pay for the maintenance of the location and all the bills associated with that, I do laundry, clean, advertise and screen clients, also build your picture portfolio, this is what I am paid for...The lady is their own boss. The ladies make 3 times the amount per call then the business does. I think that how it should be, the business should not make equal to...or more than the lady who is working. What I get paid is to maintain the business. My profits are shown from my own work that I do for spa treatments only. I do not do 50 or 60% of their fee. I have a flat fee, and from that they can choose what rate they want to charge.

When I began my career as a dancer, I had some bars refuse me because of my small chest size:( After some time went by, I finally had a few places that did hire me. My audience grew larger and larger each time I got on stage, eventually having standing ovations! One of the bars that refused me, actually asked me to come to work there, as they had seen what a great show this small breasted woman could give! So I did go. I must say it was alot of fun, but then the management said if I wanted to stay I had to have an augmentation done and they would pay for it. ( Even tho I continued to get raving results for my shows) I said no, I am too young to know if I will want this later in my life. I am happy I did not, I love my small breasts, perky and in the right place, lol.... When your young, we have so many insecurities. I am happy that I had the fortsight to not do this procedure. I think I would have regretted it in my later years.

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So, I'll start this off by saying this is a lot of firsts. My first recommendation, and my first experience period. That beind said, I dont think I could have found a more perfect girl for me. So, if you want to skip to the good stuff, head to the **. So, here goes. I have been a long time lurker on the site, and have always been touch and go about finally taking the plunge. Anyways, I saw her ad pop up and I wont lie, the pics had it in for me. I thought this girl was just jaw-dropping. I've been stupid busy with work, and I had pocketed a decent xmas bonus so I figured I'd treat myself and with a girl this well spoken in her ads, and this good looking I decided to give it a shot. We exchanged a few pm's and emails discussing some rates and availability, and on the Sunday I decided on a Wednesday encounter. The entire time she was friendly, and easy to talk to. Especially after I made it clear that this was my first time, although Im sure it was quite obvious I was nervous. So, it was set. Monday morning rolled around and just the thought of it was already exciting me, I had some time open up before a soccer game that night so I asked if I could see her later instead. She agreed to bump it up (heh) and after work I ran home for a good shower to get all primped up and headed downtown to her incall. Now, I cut it a bit close as parking downtown can be hit or miss but got to her hotel and called up to let her know I was there. Now, part of it may be because I saw her photo already, but some girls just sounds cute and just hearing her voice me a little goosebumpy. So in I went and took up the elevator to her very nice hotel room and knocked at precisely 8. She opened the door wearing a very nice, sexy and quite short black dress and invited me in. At this point I couldnt believe just how pretty she really was. She quickly took off her heels since she was already just a bit taller than me (which was quite thoughtful I might add, although hardly important) and gave me a quick hug before taking my coat. I excused myself to the washroom quickly just to wash my hands and left the envelope on the table. When I came back out she had me sit down and we chatted for a bit. I was still a little nervous and Im sure she sensed that but was still super good about it. She was quick to answer, and helped to assure me that I shouldnt be at all hung up. Also, who DOESNT love awkard pauses. ** So as we inched closer together, and Im sure she noticed my wandering eyes I briefly grazed her shoulder and she bam! Just like that there was a spark and we began kissing, and MAN this girl can kiss. She crawled on top of me and just the feeling of her being close was intoxicating. Some girls just *have it* and this girl is MADE of it. As were kissing she begins grinding on me and I can feel the heat coming off her neck, I could have stayed there and just made out. I felt like I was back in high school. But alas, it seemed more like she had other things in mind, as she slowly pulled my shirt up over my head. My hands were wandering on their own of course up those incredibly soft, shapely legs and that gorgeous bum. Within a just a few minutes were were doing the "keep making out, while mostly naked" shuffle over to the bed, and managed to fall over together in one piece. Now, at this point I had a chance to sit up a bit and just take in how amazing she was. Now, Im going to point out that most of you boob guys Im sure have noticed her pics by now. But godDAMN this girl has an amazing pair. Full, and soft and the prettiest tastiest nipples. So, we pretty much got the rest of our stupid, restrictive, unfun clothing off I was able to explore this exquisite Aphrodite. As I was kissing down her neck and body one thing I remember was her genuine reactions, oh man the little noises and the way her hands would grasp at mine was intense. I spefically remember the way she was grasping at my hands and gasping as I kissed up the inside of her thigh. At this point I began to indulge in one of my absolute favourite things, and was able to tease her before tasting her. Something I had heard before was the vegetarians taste better, and now I absolutely believe it. I spent the majority of my time between the legs of this sultry girl and I cannot wait to have another crack at it (something tells me shed enjoy it too ;-) ). Not only is she tasty but oh so responsive! I asked her if there was anything I could do and all she did was nod and paw at the back of my head. Nothing gets me riled up more than when a girl tugs at my hair while I please her. After a good while of some exquisite fine dining she pulled me up and told me she wanted to return the favour. Unfortunately, my overwork and being excited all day left my perfomance as less than desired but she never skipped a beat. Beyond that she definetely made me feel comfortable and even just the in bed banter back and forth was so natural and calming that it felt like we knew each other. Of course, the fact that I was kissing and crawling back down her belly might have helped her to relax. I went back for a second round until it seemed like a break was in order. After that, was likely the most impressive part for me. We just lay there, talking and laughing for a good while. I got to know a lot more about her personally and it was so very nice. I know the whole experience is labelled as the girlfriend experience, but I feel like something this natural would be hard to manufacture. Just being able to talk with someone this intelligent, and witty ( and modest ;-) ) was so refreshing. Enough so that, I genuinely lost track of time, which is something I told myself not to do. Once we realized what time it was she planted one last, lasting kiss and we got up and I got ready to head out for my soccer game. We kept chatting on the way to the door and as Im sure we went a bit over the hour, it was an experience that was fairly unforgettable to me. Sky, truly is a gem. I havent seen any other SP's yet, but I say this as a person before all else. I plan see her again quite soon and hope to get to experience some other sides this wonderful woman.

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Woman who weighs 250 pounds is denied massage by spa owner who said she is 'too fat' and 'will break the table'... one day after she completed a half-marathon http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2281514/Woman-weighs-250-pounds-denied-massage-spa-owner-said-fat-break-table.html A Colorado woman who is training for a half-marathon is outraged after she was denied a massage at a spa by the owner - who said she was 'too fat' and 'would probably break the table.' Laura Smith, who weighs 250 pounds and stands 6-foot-3, admits she isn't 'tiny,' but she is furious with Penny Wells, a so-called 'doctor of Oriental medicine' at Natural Healing Center in Aurora, Colorado. The incident came one day after she finished running a half-marathon. A local chiropractor said most massage tables are built to hold 2,000 pounds, and have a 'working weight' of 500 pounds - twice what Ms Smith weighs.

I will agree with everything Emily said 100% , I feel a rendezvous with me is an experience, not just certain acts. It's the journey, not the destination;)

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Budda also said, "What you think, you become" (avoid dwelling in negative thoughts, you'll attract negative things and experiences / constant positive thoughts create positive things and experiences) I've told a certain SP here that I'm sickenly positive as part of our getting to know each other. I'll let everyone else know now too ;) Something that I've adopted many years ago is always responding to the question of, "How are you?" with a resounding "Excellent!" Too often peoples typical response is something negative (I'm tired today etc.) or at best "ho-hum". I've found that this simple response usually catches people off guard and causes them to smile. A smile sets a positive tone for the remainder of your interaction. It's really just part of putting, "What you think , you become" into action. Works for me, try it! If it doesnt work, you're doing it wrong! Try again. Chuck

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You might just need a bit of advice how to increase your odds of success. If you check escorts-canada under Winnipeg you will see lots and lots of choices. Most of them will reply back reasonably quickly. As for not accepting new clients, my experience tells me that if an escort tells you that, then something about the way you asked or for what you asked for raised a flag and she is choosing not to provide her service to you. It is their right to NOT take on someone just like it's our right NOT to call some of them. Make sure that you contact them in the way they ask, some say leave a voicemail with very specific instructions, some ask you to send an email, some even accept text messages. You need to follow whatever the lady asks for... again this will help to ensure you get a response. As the previous member posted, what kind of lady are you looking for? Then maybe some of us who partake can offer some more direct advice as to which ladies to contact.

The biggest things I hate being asked..... Do you live alone? You then start thinking, am I going to have some stalker watching my every move? I understand the question "are we going to be alone", but to ask a personal question about my private life is none of your business. Do you have any STD's? Can I do you bareback then? As I dont have any STD's, I certainly will not do bareback, especially with someone I have never met before. That is why I DONT have any STD's. Because I will not do bareback with guys who are willing to take a stupid chance with someone they dont know, especially in this business. Especially when they say they are clean and you ask them when the last time they were tested, and they say never, I just know I am clean. Well, I go for regular testing to make sure I am clean, why wont you?

In this thread it looks like you're getting contract advice based upon two different business models/relationships. After reviewing all of the advice I'd suggest you put it aside for a day or two and then write a simple clear statement for yourself, your lawyer and associates describing your business model. This will provide the lawyer with very clear direction when they are drafting the document. Without a clear idea and articulation of your business model it's very easy to start mixing and matching things that don't belong together. Kind of throwing everything into it just to be comprehensive. Each business model defines the business relationship between you and your associates differently and will likely have an affect upon how you interact at times. Here are the two basic business models I see. 1) You are the employer and have an employer/employee relationship. You specify the conditions of employment (hours, fees, wages, attendance, behaviour, benefits etc). Your employees represent your agency/brand and you define the conditions of work accordingly to build and protect your brand. 2) Alternatively, the women are self employed and they contract you to provide services (marketing, booking, possibly access to an in service location provided by you etc). The marketing can be under one brand for all of the women you represent or alternatively they are each responsible for their own brand. I get the sense that you are very close to the women you work with. Business and friendship can be a difficult balancing act. Obviously you are trying to maintain healthy personal and business relationships. Entering into a formal contractual arrangement is a good way to avoid conflict and confusion about roles, responsibilities and liabilities. As I mentioned earlier, defining the relationship through a clear idea of your business model/relationship is the first step and a prerequisite to drafting a contract. It's also a conversation you should have with the women you work with. If you can agree on what your business relationship is, in simple english before a lawyer gets involved with the necessary legalese, you will all be better off. I hope this helps. I can't offer specific advice, but business is business so the same principles apply.

I am not travelling alone:P going with a friend, but yeah I would be jealous of myself :D

I think some agency contracts may have references to fines, if the sp is missing shifts, or doesn't give proper notice to cancel a shift. I don't know for sure, but I do think that they do or can get fined, or nickel and dimed for a variety of expenses. Also some agencies build in a signing bonus, as in they offer the sp a certain amount if they sign on with them, which I imagine is not paid out in full until a certain amount of time has passed. Legally, unless you take the pictures yourself and then have them sign a release, you can't own their photos if they supply them. You can contract in that you are allowed to use them on your site, and that is to protect you but legally copyright is owned automatically by the person who took the picture or in the case of work for hire, the one who paid the photographer. I would stick to not trying to control the photos if the sp supplies them, and you can't control where else she chooses to use them. However, providing professional photos for your site advertising, with her as the model, avoids that issue. And is a really good incentive for joining you, if they get good advertising and pro pics and a good booking manager. In regards to being a good employer, I'd suggest keep the nickel and diming fining to a bare minimum. No sp is going to appreciate coming in, getting 2 one hour appts, and ending up with 50 bucks to show for her efforts, due to having to pay for this, that and the other things. I also think they might have non disclosure agreements in them, because I can say to this day I've never once seen anyone thoroughly talk about their work with an agency, the contract, their cut, and their experiences there.

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Jade, you ponder when it will all end? I might be a cynic but unfortunately, I suspect the answer is never. Mulit billion dollar conglomerates constantly bombard us and tell us were not good enough. You can't have wrinkles so you need this cream, your eyelashes arn't long enough, your skin is not soft enough, not tanned enough, too fat, too thin. Cosmetics, weightloss companies lead the charge. You definately hit the nail on the head with your though that it'll only stop when look into ourselves and love us. Thanks for sharing.

This thread and those of a similar sort trouble me deeply. Body image and in particular negative body image and its terrible negative effects I have unfortunately experienced in loved ones. It's an area that is very easy for me to go off on a rant about condeming all main stream media (internet now included) for distorting and perverting the minds of generations with distressing perceptions of beauty and body image. I weep for my daughter. That said, I'll move in a different direction. Cliche, chiche, chiche, "beauty is in the eye of the beholder", blaw, blaw, blaw. Deep down we all know that every one of those chiche's is correct but we too often let our own good sense get washed over by the wave of popular perception. As SP's each of you should easily grasp the never judge a book by its cover as I'm sure you all on many occasions have met someone that doesn't fit the physical mold so to speak but throughout the encounter develop the feeling that this is a truly wonderful person and vise versa. Beauty, sensuality, sexiness, hotness, has no foundation in the physical form and is derived completely from within. One of the most attactive, sexy women I have ever known happens to be a wonderful volumptous, buxom beauty. She first seduced me with only her eyes and smile and now I would love to just tear off her clothes and make love to her (she's now a dear friend so that's out but the thought crosses my mind just the same). Although, she definately would not fit into the mold that society has set for physical beauty (she'd probably need three molds) she exudes confidence and comfort in her own skin and within minutes thats what spoke to me. Lesson, own your body and love it. Once you do, that's what will be conveyed to everyone else within seconds. Hellen Keller saw more beauty in this world than most of us will ever see. Thats because she saw everything with her heart not her eyes. There have been numerous scientific experiments where individuals sat and looked only into the eyes on another individual, no other contact and could not see any more of them. After a short while those people reported feeling a romantic connection to that person and found them attractive. (I guess the eyes are the window to the soul.) Maybe I'm an old soul at heart and see the world differently but thats just me. Love yourself, embrace yourself and others will do the same.

My advice to Maria is your true and best friend is yourself and your intuition, trust in it as it will guide you to and from those you should and shouldn't interact with. Don't listen to gossip, be good to those who are good to you and ignore the negative. No matter where you go or what occupation you choose there will be those rooting for your success and those who will try and tear you down. You, are in good hands with Sophia, best of luck and have fun.:icon_biggrin:

I write a lot and I would love to hear some constructive criticism on what I write. Story line, length and character development So here is the first story. Feel free to share what you think. Grace was mildly impressed with the show Ginger and her fellow actors had managed to put together. The moment Ginger launched into the first of her high kicking, spunky solos, she fell in love with her. She had no doubt why Amy considered her such a good friend. She was like a taller, younger Grace-with perhaps even a bit more spirit. Her stage presence was nothing short of fierce. These poor kids were pouring their souls out on stage, and they were about to lose their dream because a few shcmucks rolled up the carpet. She could only imagine what this ensemble could put together with a few tweaks of talent and a flush influx of cash. Oliver wasn't stupid. He knew this was more than a date. He was a fan of theater, and even though he sensed a sales pitch he had been genuinely entertained by several of the scenes. He was also very attracted to Ginger. That would make Grace's pitch that much easier. By the time Grace flew into New York, Oliver would be melted butter. This was not a devious plan. The actors were indeed passionate and talented. The writer and director needed to be fired, and the original producers needed to be shot. By the second scene of Act IV even an idiot could sense the hackneyed ending coming soon. Even the last two songs sounded like remixes of the new Chicago movie soundtrack. Oliver was beginning to lose interest. He glanced over at Grace with a sly, but bored smile. He would snooze through the rest of the play if she didn't keep him entertained. While there wasn't an actual balcony box, Grace had managed to cajole the usher (one of the chorus actors pulling double duty) into giving them the secluded double seat to the right of the second level. They were almost shrouded in the wall curtains and the lights flickered very dimly. It was almost a prophecy of the utilities being shut down on this place within the next few days. The crowd was light that evening, so they actually had the entire section to themselves. Grace slid her hand over Oliver's thigh and he grunted. Ginger was doing a very sultry dance onstage, and Oliver was already quite aroused. Grace could feel his cock twitch under his grey flannel slacks. Ginger was very impressive. Grace could feel her own loins stirring as she boomed out her solo. He leaned over toward her and lifted the arm-rest separating their seats. She knew he had had a rotten day on Wall Street and he was still grumpy about the short sells. It had been a long week. The strain of his woes showed in the heavy creases in his face, and she was concerned. While Oliver was ridiculously wealthy, she didn't want to ask him to invest in Ginger and her friends after taking such a beating on the market. She wanted to help him feel better, to ease some of his tension. She sat in his lap, placing her head against his chest and wrapping her arms around his waist. He smiled and settled into the embrace, content for the first time in a long while. The smell of her hair and the proximity of her warm body began to affect him and he felt a stirring between his legs. He kissed her hair softly, massaging her shoulder blade with his huge hand and murmuring to her in fractured French. He took her earlobe in his teeth and pulled gently, once. She responded with a soft gasp and began towiggle on his lap. He knew then she wanted him as badly as he did her, so he turned her head to him and kissed her, hard, on the mouth, thrusting his tongue between her lips. She responded by caressing his tongue with hers, sliding her hands beneath his blazer, pulled his white shirt loose from his belt, and slid her fingers around his tie, teasing him for a moment. Then her hands slipped under his shirt to caress his bare chest. His need was intense now, and as quickly as his fingers could manage it, he slid the straps of her black dress over her shoulders with one hand, using the other to caress her breasts through her sheer lace strapless bra. He peeled back the nylon covering her right breast with a single huge finger, holding it out of the way so his tongue could find her nipple. She moaned and pushed her body toward his warm, moist mouth, her body on fire now, aching. There didn't seem to be anyone noticing them, but she bit into his shoulder to muffle her moan. Pressing against his straining erection with her thighs, she held his face firmly against her breasts. He pulled back, blowing a stream of cool air on the nipple until it hardened, then encircled it again with lips, rolling the hard flesh between them. She could feel his hardness through his slacks, the mountain rose in his lap and managed to push it's way around the slit in her cocktail dress rubbing between her legs, and it thrilled her. She bore down on him harder, rocking back and forth on it, her gratification already beginning to build. He repeated the treatment on the other nipple, trying to slow down, but the feel of her hips grinding into him was becoming unbearable. Onstage, Ginger, and the fairly talented leading man, shared a very passionate kiss after their duet. Grace barely focused enough to make note that it was far more than stage chemistry she was witnessing. For a brief moment she was tempted to turn and watch the show, but Oliver's tongue on her nipples made her mind whirl, and she nearly forgot where she was, much less remember the unfolding plot of the raunchy musical. Oliver didn't want to wait any longer. His hands dove downward, finding her wetness, pressing harder against her. He carefully ran his index finger along her lower lips, following the path until it was buried inside her, the rest of his hand rubbing against her clit in a rhythm older than time. She leaned back slightly, allowing his fingers easier access, and moaned as he expertly danced against her aching clit. His right hand fumbled with the fly on his trousers, a task made difficult by his position and her lustful leverage. With the dual pressure of his fingers deep within her and his mouth tugging at her nipples, her orgasm wasn't long in coming. She peaked high and hard, and he continued tantalizing her in order to make the sensations last as long as possible. The feel of her inner muscles clenching against his fingers made him redouble his efforts to free his straining member. When her orgasm finally faded, she smiled at him and kissed him deeply, then climbed off his lap. She looked around demurely, and then remember that the ushers were all onstage. She fixed Oliver with a wicked grin. Kneeling on the floor between his legs she took the hand that had been buried in her and kissed it, licking her juices from between his fingers. Oliver groaned, not even trying to suppress his lust at the feel of her mouth on his fingers, sucking, pulling, and making his cock grow even larger. She smiled at him devilishly. Tasting herself on his fingers thrilled her. When his fingers were clean she pressed his hand back to her swollen nipple and quickly finished undoing his pants. He squeezed and pinched her, groaning her name as she pulled his dick out and stroked the velvety head. She held the shaft in one hand while stroking the head with the other, running her hand over it from fingertips to palm and back again. Then she took him deep into her mouth, sliding her face down along the thick shaft until the head was tickling her tonsils. His fingers trembled as they ran over her hard nipples. His nimble fingers quickly rolled both of her breasts together and he was able to flick both nubs with just his circling thumb. His head was thrown back in pleasure, and he moaned deep in his throat. He tried to hold back and even muster a cough to hide his moaning, but it was of no use. When Grace was doing this to him he had no faculties. Submitting to her skilled tongue, he ran his right hand through her hair, caressing her arched neck, as he gave himself up to pleasure. He could feel his orgasm building. He pulled himself out of her mouth and leaned over, putting his hands under her thighs and lifting her in the air, bringing her down on top of himself until he was buried deep inside her. Grace arched back and wrapped her long legs around both him and the theater chair for leverage. The feel of him entering her, sliding deep into her, opening her up, made her gasp and throw her head back. She sat still, quivering around him, for a few delicious moments. Then slowly, ever so slowly, se ground her hips against him, reveling in the contorted expression of pleasure that came across his face. He took hold of her hips and tried to force her to move faster but she wanted to take her time. He took a deep breath, then lifted her up until only the huge head of his cock was still inside her. He could feel her entrance rubbing against the back of his rod, her hips moving in a dance that increased the pressure first on one side, than another. He held her that way as long as he could, then he let her down again, quickly, feeling himself touch the very recesses of her. They moaned together as she fell. He did it again and again until he was at the end of his strength and each time she fell sent a shockwave of pleasure coursing through her swollen clit. He was bathed in sweat now, the groaning in his throat becoming louder and harsher with each stroke. When at last he stopped, he leaned far back in the chair, his hands dropping to his sides, and she pushed his body back further, freeing her somewhat to begin moving on him. Her fingers grasped around the base of his penis, just outside herself, forming a ring of pressure. As she raised and lowered herself on him, her fingers followed. Tightness following tightness, He's breath was coming in short, harsh groans and the movement of his hips had grown ragged. She teased him mercilessly, varying the speed with which she moved, slowing down when he seemed ready to climb the peak and speeding up when he calmed a bit. He stopped moving altogether, threw his head back and closed his eyes, riding the waves of pleasure. After a moment, he placed the fleshy pad of his thumb on her clit and began massaging it, knowing she would not permit his release until she came again. With a groan, he sat up. Still massaging her hard bud, he levered his head forward and caught a nipple in his mouth. He sucked on it hard, dragging his teeth along its sensitive tip. The combination of him filling her, sucking her, touching her, was too much. Her orgasm burst upon her, filling her whole body, and she grabbed the back of his head, crying out his name, shaking. Her body wracked as spasm after spasm hit and he continued stroking and sucking her until she pushed his head and fingers away, raw and pulsating. Then she paused for only a moment before bracing her feet firmly on either side of the chair and riding him like a wild horse, seeking now to give him the release he so richly deserved. Though she had been tight, almost too tight at first, her juices had spread, easing the path. She slid up and down on him easily. Over and over he found himself thrust in and out, the pressure unbearable. He felt his orgasm approach, hot jism racing up his shaft, and grabbed her hips in his huge hands, grinding her into him. She felt the head of his cock grow huge inside her, pulsing, then his hot fluid spurted out, filling her. Head back, eyes screwed shut, he rode the wave of his orgasm, stamping his foot against the floor, his throat raw from the guttural noses he made. When it was over, neither moved, but he could feel their co-mingled juices spreading across his abdomen and upper thighs, the viscous liquids pooling in the space between their bodies. She collapsed against his chest, still gripping him deep within her and together they waited for their breathing to slow. His arms moved around her naked back, holding her firmly in place, rubbing her weary muscles. She nestled into his chest, waiting. He grunted and she looked up. He motioned with his eyes. The entire theater was quiet. The action had stopped on the stage. Ginger and the male lead stood center stage. The male actor was glaring at them, but Ginger had a sly smile on her face and her arms were casually akimbo. "Hey up there!" Grace winced gingerly. "Do you mind if we get back to the show, now that your are done fucking so loudly?" Ginger gave her a wave and a wink and picked up with the second verse of her song. Grace and Oliver straightened their clothing and made their way backstage trying to wipe both the chagrin and sex sweat from their faces... Ideal Grace

I have had some experience with those that dont seem to understand that each woman is unique and what works with one wont work with another. Anyone who goes at the same breakneck speed and does not change their tempo or position will wear the kitty out. I find that after I have had several orgasms, and the big O, kitty is not interested in anymore penetration. She dries up and no amount of lube will make it enjoyable anymore, and actually hurts. After this happens, its game over for a few days till kitty is recovered. I understand wanting to get your moneys worth. You work hard for your money and want to make sure that at the end of the session, you are fully satisfied. Just remember the kitty is not meant for extended penetration. The porns make it look like this is how it is supposed to be, but in reality, my best O's have been with everything else, then some penetration - maybe the maximum of 15 minutes of penetration. And remember, who needs a 12 inch cock when we have a 6 inch pussy? I still remember a client who would pound away for 55 minutes. No foreplay, just a jack hammer while I grit my teeth. Needless to say, I would not book him after a couple of sessions and no amount of explanation would get him to understand that all he needed was a hole in the wall. After you have had great lovemaking, its kinda hard to go with this type of mentality that we are just an object for their pleasure and that they paid for 60 minutes to fuck me.

BP is a good source where a large number of ladies advertising if you love the variety as I do but picking from BP is also very risky (obviously for unknown ones not the ones already reputable) so be very careful when picking ladies from this site especially if they have no reviews or recommendations anywhere. Yes Cowboy's diary is a great source but also I personally ask a lot of questions via text, email or direct call. Yeah you may scare most of them away by these questions but you improve the likelihood that what you get is a good provider (in terms of looks and services) with real pictures and legal too. These are my personal (some recently added) rules when calling on BP (some may not agree that is why I said my personal rules). 1 - Outcall safer (for you) as no one hidden in closet or will block your way out if you refuse and since seeing a provider in outcall situation is 100% legal then you can always call the police if any wrong doing and she knows that (and she can too but I am a nice guy!!). 2 - Search for her number and if more than one girl is advertised by that number then it is a red flag, unless it is a reputable agency. 3 - Make it a prerequisite that the lady who shows up must be the one in the pictures otherwise it is a cancellation without any penalty. 4 - Make presenting an ID a prerequisite for those advertised between 18 to 20 upon arrival (and make ID mandatory if you suspect under 20 after her showing up in your agreement). If ID refused then make an agreement that it is a cancellation without penalty. 5 - Make an agreement on services that you require. Agree to pay the transportation fee (usually $40) and cancellation fee ($40 to $60) if the lady decides not to provide those services after seeing you and wishes to leave. For incall just a cancellation fee to be agreed upon. Be cool about it. remember it is always ladies' choice. But if she agrees to stay and refuses to provide agreed services, then it is a cancellation without any penalty. 6 - Agree to pay the transportation fee (for outcall) and cancellation fee above if the girl was the one in pictures but still you didn't wish to go ahead with the date (photo shopped pictures) and she must agree to leave with that fee not in full. 7- Let her know that it is important to you that she must be in this willingly. 8- After texts and emails are exhausted always call (to make sure she is the one picking the phone) and talk to the girl directly and see if she was really the one who read all the texts/emails and is aware of the details and agreements. Also convey your address (in outcalls) verbally when calling (not in text or email) and ask her to write it on a piece of paper. If you call and no one picked the phone that is a big red flag. In about 40% of cases you won't get any response and in about 30% of cases you get a negative response but in about one-third of cases you will get a positive response and then there is a 90% chance that it is a successful hit. You wish for a higher than 90% hit ratio then limit yourself to reputable cerb SPs and those on EC (with consistent recommendations on both boards). Do your homework (research) and avoid questionable sites like BP, CL and O@N.

Wow!! Love your new avatar!! While suicide is often associated with sadness or despair, please understand that is not always the case. We all have to die some day. Some of us would prefer to choose the time and method, rather than putting ourselves and our loved ones through whatever chance deals us. When I was younger, I rode motorcycles, skydived, raced. I accepted that I might meet an early death. But I didn't. So many people have said to me, "oh, you're so lucky your parachute always opened!" and I think to myself, "yeah, because now I have a greater shot at dying after some period of agony, humility and disability, pissing and shitting myself in some bed. How lucky for me!" I've lived a joyful life. When I go, I want to make a joyful choice. I think we need to respect those who choose suicide. We have each other while we have each other, and we'd do better to remember that while we do. It will be my choice if fate does not interfere, whether anyone respects it or not. It's not our place to second guess people on a matter like this. Additional Comments: See the movie "Harold & Maude."

You know what...this is a fav of mine!!! I usually order in a resturant, cause no one in my home life wants to look at it, smell it or eat it..ahahhaha, so I save this for when I g out to eat! MMMMMMmmmm with bacon and onions!

I know this post is going to cause some wrinkled up noses lol But I am frying up some Liver and Onions tonight :) mmmmm. I'm still unsure of baked or mashed potatoes but there will be broccoli and carrots :) now I'm getting hungry lol

LOVE this one:)

I'll go all Canadian... Cowboy Junkies - Sweet Jane Indio - Hard Sun

of course! The more sex I have in my private life, the better I feel about working as an SP and actually keep a regular schedule. I have a healthy sexual life. Most of my partners are female thought, but that'S just cause I am slutty and greedy...and I like to be about 50/50 with both men and women. I get the sex with men in my professional life and sex with women in my private life :)

I don't think it's necessarily a silly question. A lot of people hold onto this idea that people have a limited amount of sexual and/or emotional energy in any given day. People often wonder whether SPs/MAs are using up all of this energy at work. I don't ascribe to this idea that people have a limited amount of energy, I think life is more complicated than that and our energy levels depend on a variety of factors. Try and ask this same question for other sectors of the labour market. For example, when you've had a really really draining day at work... you're completely and utterly exhausted... if you had the opportunity to have amazing, relaxing, and rejuvenating sex, would you pass it up? Without getting into too much detail, of course we have sex in our personal lives! It's incredibly rare I don't want to have sex, unless I'm sick, but even then sometimes doing something as simple as mutual masturbation or a raunchy make-out session is sex for me. There are varieties and levels of sex that require more/less energy... to me, it's all about intimacy, not necessarily aerobatic sexual positions.

I received a wall post today, from a new member who joined today, simply asking for my address. That's a bit forward, isn't it? Though that is a necessary question at some point before we can meet for an incall, just thought it would be good to bring up that some questions may be necessary to pose, but timing can totally make things akward. Some questions may be better left unsaid, true. But we also need to be sure that some questions just need to be kept for a certain time...as in later.

Because, of course, everyone knows that SPs only ever become more hygienic overnight, when they're visited by the SP-cleaning-fairy (who is the tooth-fairy's cousin, btw) and given a thorough overhaul and tune-up while they sleep. It's nothing to do with soap and mouthwash and mundane stuff like that. Oh no.

I love wearing stay-up and my bare legs!!