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In addition to prostitution, there are a few other circumstances, activites and relationships that fall into the "exploitive" category and raise the age of consent to 18. These include pornography, authority, trust, dependency and Internet luring. The following excerpts are from a Dept of Justice FAQ regarding the age of consent for sexual activity.. "... the age of consent is 18 years where the sexual activity "exploits" the young person -- when it involves prostitution, pornography or occurs in a relationship of authority, trust or dependency (e.g., with a teacher, coach or babysitter). Sexual activity can also be considered exploitative based on the nature and circumstances of the relationship, e.g., the young person's age, the age difference between the young person and their partner, how the relationship developed (quickly, secretly, or over the Internet) and how the partner may have controlled or influenced the young person." "The Criminal Code protects 16 and 17 year olds against sexual exploitation, where the sexual activity occurs within a relationship of trust, authority, dependency or where there is other exploitation. Whether a relationship is considered to be exploiting the 16 or 17 year old will depend upon the nature and circumstances of the relationship, e.g., the age of the young person, the age difference between the young person and their partner, how the relationship developed and how the partner may have controlled or influenced the young person. As well, 16 and 17 year olds cannot consent to sexual activity that involves prostitution or pornography." "No one may make, distribute, transmit, make available, access, sell, advertise, export/import or possess child pornography. Child pornography is broadly defined and includes materials that show someone engaged in explicit sexual activity who is, or seems to be, under the age of 18 years; or show a young person's sexual organ or anal region for a sexual purpose. Child pornography also includes written and audio material that encourages others to commit a sexual offence against a child, or is primarily a description of unlawful sexual activity with a child that is intended for a sexual purpose." "No person may use a computer system, such as the Internet, to communicate with a young person for the purpose of facilitating the commission of a sexual or abduction offence against that young person. This offence is sometimes called "Internet luring"." Here's the full link: http://www.justice.gc.ca/eng/dept-min/clp/faq.html

While the age was not in the original ad, these guys absolutely knew she was underage. I replied to the ad, and the first sentence of the response was "Hi, I'm Chrissy. I'm 16 years old...." I immediately emailed the BP abuse account and also contacted crimestoppers.

Darlign gloryhole, I am truly sorry for your loss. I worked as a grief recovery facilitator for 13 years and I don't think you are ready for an intimate encounter at this point. I gently suggest you take a peek at The Grief Recovery Institute. They are leaders at helping people move thru loss and it's important that you address the situation head on. There are programs across the country and their handbook The Grief Recovery Handbook that you can pick up at any book store. Here is the website... http://www.grief.net/ I wish you all the best, please know there is a path forward... cat

I too am sorry for your experience with this SP Manitoba. But the talent pool in Winnipeg is huge and I can't quite understand how all SPs in Winnipeg can get lumped together because this one SP has trouble keeping her appointments. Why not try someone else? You have to remember that SPs couldn't survive without you, the client, and there are enough here who remember that and run their business this way. Liking how she looks is definitely a good place to start, but I doubt she's the Holy Grail, so why not do yourself a favour and choose another well-deserving SP who's known for being reliable? You work hard for your money and should be spent on someone who realizes that. Good luck to you.

Maybe not pedophila but definitely illegal Age old adage "Ignorance of the law is no excuse" No pity for them and glad they got caught in a sting RG

I appreciate your point and agree about your pedophiles comment. But when a man is going to hobby he needs to know the laws and rules just as we sp's need to. The law concerning protistution in this case considers dealing with a 16 year old exploitive sex, which is illegal and alot feel immoral as most adults feel 16 is a child, I do. Why would any man of maturity, 25 or over as the charged men were, want to be with someone so young? Legally it isn't pedophilia but morally it is, jmo. When an adult deals with a child to many bad things can happen, experience can be used to manipulate a young mind and coherce them into doing things they may not want to do ,are prepared to do or should even consider doing. I think the point of 16 being the age of consent is mute in this case. But I appreciate your point.

Founded to bring awareness to and to help stop bullying. Do you think there has been progress? If not what more do you think can be done to stop it?

Well if you want to cross hairs that it is not pedophilia a sixteen year old is still considered a minor. Anyone knows that. However, they might be considered " Hebephilia is defined as individuals with a primary or exclusive sexual interest in 11-14 year old pubescents or maybe they are Ephebophilia is the primary or exclusive adult sexual interest in mid-to-late adolescents, generally ages 15 to 19". If the 16 year old is lying about her age or has not fully reached maturity yet she would be considered pubescent. What ever term you want to use, it is still under the pedophilia family. Great idea about tattooing it across their forehead, however I think that ALL Child abusers who are convicted should have it tattooed on their nose. They can always cover up their forehead, but its pretty hard to cover up a big red dot on their nose labelling them as a child abuser.

As someone who has met Manitoba, I will say he is an ideal gentleman to spend time with. He is polite, respectable, follows a ladies booking policies and procedures to a tee. He is also upfront that he is driving in from a good distance away. Winnipeg it seems is hit and miss for Companions and Gentleman, as both side's of the fence have equal issues at times. Clearly it sounds like this SP in question had another booking and when mentioned you were driving in she thought you'd flake and she took another client. Not to slag anyone off, but thats clearly what it sounds like. Not everyone can be put in the same boat as this lady, but what she did was down right rude and very unprofessional. Not all of us run a business as she does. I am really sorry this happened to you and I really dont have an answer on how to book a lady that will keep an encounter, as there are many of us who do show up for our dates. I know how frustrated you are as the same thing happens to us with clients confirming and no showing.

i am sorry for your loss...and you miss your wife dearly....however Lola is NOT your wife, and I am afraid that your hope is to make love to your wife , and although Lola may remind you of her in pictures, I think there is a good chance you may be totally dissapointed...my suggestion would be to see someone who does not remind you of your wife, and take it from there. Down the road , once you come to better grips with everyuthing, then to play out that fantasy may be ok, but at this point, I would advise against it, unless you go in knowing full well what may happen. Again , my most sincere condolensecs.

Mourning is a difficult thing to go through. Everyone is different and there's no one "right" way to do it. But if it's been more than a year since your wife died, you might consider joining a group for people who have lost a partner. These are often fantastic! You can find out about them by contacting a funeral home, and I'd suggest you do that rather than go through the standard therapist route, at least at first. In many places, they try to bring together people who are close in age, or people who have children so that there's common ground for participants. it really can help a lot to hear how other people are dealing with situations similar to your own. Finding a companion or two can also be a good thing because you don't have to get into a full-blown relationship before you're ready for one (and you're not ready right now). You can have contact, intimacy and a private, one-on-one encounter without repercussions. If you want to see a companion more than once, go for it. If not, no worries. Attending to your physical needs can sometimes make it easier to work through emotional ones. Go easy on yourself!

Hey there sweetie. I love that you are still devoted to your wife and understand the pain you feel. I am not out where you are, but wanted to drop a line. Sometimes, it is easier to start new with someone different then someone similar then the love of your life. You have felt some deep losses and it is always hard to move on. Just take it one day at a time, grieve your losses, love the gift she gave you (your child) and understand it is ok to feel like why..... One day you will be ready. In the meantime, give yourself some time to heal and grow. It does not always make sense, but eventually you will meet someone you can share a new intimacy. Love and blessings. Meaghan xoxo

Some may think my statement harsh but if you know you are dealing with a 16 yr old you deserve prosecution, thats a child. In my opinion 18 is to young, but thats just me. I know in Canada you are considered an adult at 18 but that is still a teenager, so is 19 . It is alot to expect teens to deal with adults in their 30's,40's, 50's and beyond. Although I realize everyone matures differently I can only think back when I was a teen and I know I wasn't an exception to how immature and unprepared they can be.

Just a reminder to all us men who pay women for sexual services that once in a while the po-po WILL pose as a prostitute trolling on BP or CL or even CERB or any other advertising forum as under 18. http://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/nova-scotia/story/2013/02/26/ns-ice-child-luring-arrest.html If you're paying for sex, make sure she's 18 and over! You'll wreck your life like these 5 men who have their names forever plastered on the internet and in our communities.

Since the 'Thanks' button was implemented on Cerb, is it just me or are you more aware of giving thanks to other members now as opposed to just receiving them? While I'm glad there is now a button for us to show our thanks to others here for their contributions, have you ever felt aware of thanking those much more now? And do you also feel like you should be giving thanks as much as you are receiving? Not just in your thoughts but by looking at the number on your profile? And have you ever felt inclined to up your thank-you points to others since people thank -you for your posts and perhaps haven't been aware that your 'Thanks' count is lower than your 'Thanked Points? I know they are just numbers but to me they are significant and I have found that it has made me more aware of thanking others and is much more meaningful than just getting a rep point. I admit sometimes throughout my daily life I have read posts and not thanked them and then became more aware of it. First it was a mix of finding something meaningful from a member posting and then a bit of guilt because I got more thanked posts when I was thanking. lol. Maybe it is because I am considerate of others but sometimes life got in the way. I am grateful that people appreciate my posts and now I make it a point to thank them for the signifigance of their posts and their contribution and not just because I felt obligated. So thank-you! Can anyone else relate?

I think I've been using the "Thanks" button in the same way I would use the "Like" button on Facebook, and I really appreciate it for that purpose! Sometimes I don't feel strongly enough about something to nominate it, and I don't have a particular comment, but I do want to show some appreciation. I definitely like the new feature, and use it pretty often.

I'm wondering why the police don't lay charges....forget suing, it's too long and drawn out an affair. But isn't extortion illegal? As for living with mommy maybe he has lots of money, could be living off her dime...and saving his money. As for posting the lady's rates/expenses well rates are public but only she would know her expenses so my guess she provided them to the Sun. BTW her rates don't seem unreasonable or over inflated and I hope she makes good on her dream of being a doctor RG

I recently was given the pink shirt as a gift- its just a cotton big tee but its super sexy for what it stands for..... and men wearing it.....well you know the saying 'real men wear pink' I have to admit.... I sorta lived in mine for a week. AND NOT ONE person made fun of me for it....so....I say its working. lol. ;)

I don't think one could ever stop bullying, it just one of those things that's been around forever and will always be around. I think it's up to the parents to teach their kids how to avoid it and how not to be one. But really not always the parent's fault and up to the kid or adult to be aware of it or others around to confront the person. Bullying can take many forms and not always on the playground. Someone will always want to get the best of someone else for whatever reasons.

This may be of interest. It is a recommendation by a disabled cerb member. It demonstrates the compassion that some of the ladies on this site are capable of. Be prepared to be emotionaly moved, as I certainly was. Here's the link: http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=15487&page=3 scroll down to entry #26, written by big AL

My deepest sympathies going out to. I cannot give you much advice about what you should do, but I can tell you this. Your situation you describe sound very familiar and the pain you go through I know it all to well. Although our situations may not be exactly the same I too understand your desire and need to be touched by the one you love and miss so much. This is something I feel too, but I've seen sp even ma, they give me back a little bit of light each time but it cannot replace them nor does it feel the same. Although for me it is enough to get through this hard times. I know everyone copes differently, I myself used to think the only way out was suicide. I do not know if this is something you deal with but I would like you to remember something you have a part of your wife left behind in your son, who needs a father. Give your son as much love as you can, he needs you! Growing up without a mother can be difficult, but to grow up without both parents would be far worse. Remember if you ever feel suicidal it is ok you're not alone in the world and I know how hard it can be to talk or tell someone about it but please trust me you will feel better. I myself still cannot talk openly to people I know and find it much easier to talk to strangers. I would be more than happy to talk if you ever need too. I may not be a therapist and give you much advice but I can listen and assure you no matter how hopeless and alone you may feel there is lots like us out there that feel the same. We just have to sake the chance and speak out, trust me its changed me a lot. I would also seek therapy they help a lot and they can guide you better and help you understand your feeling and emotion and eventually you will Learn how to cope easier. There is no shame in how you are feeling and what you think might help you. It my or may not feel the same only you can tell but remember she cannot replace your wife and I recommend only seeing her if you thing you can accept that. Just be prepared for either outcome it may feel the same it may not. My heart goes out to you what bit I have left.

NO escort is going to be able to provide HER touch. You are still grieving and need counselling to accept the loss of your wife. You need to move on, for your child's sake as well as your own. Forget it. Forget her. Deal with your issues first. The fact that you sought out an SP who had an "uncanny" resemblance to your wife is remarkable. I'm very uncomfortable with this and am concerned more for the safety of the SP than anything else.

Heard this on CBC's The Current yesterday. Found it to be very interesting. I know a couple of people who are in this group facing these problems. In search of equal opportunities in sexual expression: Sex & Disability Note: Link is to a copy of the broadcast so there is sound. If sound is an issue, wait to click this until it isn't. :)

I found this video on You Tube and was touched by it hope you enjoy it too. http://youtu.be/ID0kgP9IVhs One good deed brings another.

:biggrin:Thank you Notchy-it doesn't get better than that. We need to see those types of messages more often to be reminded that society will thrive when people respond to one another that way.

If you're not trolling for underage or trafficked girls, in my opinion you have nothing to fear from the Police/RCMP.

I learned that Gustave Eiffel (designer of the Eiffel Tower and the framework for the Statue of Liberty) had a paralysing fear of heights. I guess I also learned that we should learn to work with our fears and that the results can be pretty remarkable. I also learned that I just like to say Gustave. Gustave! Gustave!

I understand that you're feeling impatient and want answers to your questions, as well as some tips and strategies about how to do things. Every question you've asked about the law is answered, several times, in the Legal discussion and most are referred to extensively in other areas, as well. For the most part, the best information comes from established, long-time members of the board so pay particular attention to their posts. When it comes to things like strategies for working outcalls, transportation, etc., those are important considerations and most are also discussed on the boards, here. Frankly, the best way for you to learn how to deal with these things would be to start with a good agency. Since you've not said where you are, it will be difficult for anyone here to make a recommendation in your area. Please don't take offense at what I'm going to say, but this part of your post is likely to be considered deeply insulting, not only to many of the ladies here, but also to many of the gentlemen as well. One critical thing that you need to understand is that the best so-called "high end" paid companions defend and are protective of women who work outdoors and those who have health problems and addictions. You won't find much tolerance on this board for denigrating any SP, anywhere, because of her looks or personal habits. We do discuss safer sex all the time and while we generally advise prospective clients to seek companionship from a reputable independent or a good agency, we don't put down women who, for many serious and difficult reasons, face so many challenges that they must work in compromising conditions. Your assumption that many companions offer poor quality and/or unsafe encounters is troubling. I don't know which sex workers' blogs you have been reading, or where you get your information, but as someone who has worked as an independent for many years, both in Toronto and in Vancouver, what you describe is not my experience, anywhere. No one should have to engage in activities she deems to be unsafe. Ever. I have to say, though, that I think your problems will have to do with not knowing how to screen potential clients and not knowing how to manage the volume of requests you would receive as a "new girl." These are also reasons to begin to work with a good agency. Starting out as an independent is tempting, but it's frequently a very bad idea. Yes, you'll make less per call with an agency. But you'll also have lower expenses and you'll be working with people who do know what they're doing and how the industry works. You need that knowledge and expertise behind you and, frankly, you don't have it yet. Without it, you will inevitably get into trouble. Are you aware that this statement verges on hostility? If you truly believe these things, I have to say that you don't really understand what the misconceptions and myths about the sex trade are. Speaking for myself, I have been a paid companion for over a decade. I have never engaged in any activity that I felt was unsafe--assuming, that is, that you're referring to things that increase one's potential for exposure to STIs. I'm also old enough to be your mother. I have never considered myself to be in competition with anyone. I work hard and I make a good living. I attribute my success to accepting the realities of this profession, to identifying my particular market niche and serving it very well, and to gaining the respect of my colleagues. That last thing--the respect of colleagues--is essential. If you do decide to work as a paid companion, no one, no matter how well-meaning or close to you, will understand what your life is really like. You will need the support and care of other companions so that you can stay safe, make good decisions and get support when things go wrong. No one ever avoids having things go wrong, regardless of what they may say. But there are ways to avoid some problems that you may not even imagine exist and there are ways to manage the things that you can't avoid. In general, we don't discuss these things in public forums. You will need to gain others' support in order to have access to this information. If you're just investigating this as an option, I would recommend that you find something else or some other way to take care of your problems. The sex trade is not the right thing for most women. If you're seriously considering becoming a paid companion, my advice is to step back, take some calming breaths and clear your mind. Only a minute percentage of women enter the sex trade because it's their ideal, intended career path. Nearly everyone has had some significant problem in her life and suddenly needs to earn a lot of money fairly quickly. In other words, most don't start out in the best frame of heart and mind. You can still do it, but you need to be careful, you need to be thoughtful and you need to learn to listen. An arrogant attitude will be a liability. Over-confidence is a mask for fear that prevents addressing the things that cause fear to begin with.

I have a pink dress shirt,(lighter shade of pink though) love wearing it, never,ever get a comment or remark, perhaps that is because I'm a rather tall guy I think it looks great any time throughout the year. Another link about the bully campaign, we may not stop it in its entirety, but how about supporting the campaign?? http://www.pinkshirtday.ca/

Thank you all so very much. I have gone through grief counselling it has helped immensely. Your all very right and I to have considered all possibilities of seeing an SP. Guilt, shame, pleasure you know the drill. My hat comes off to all SPs what you ladies do is remarkable. Look what you tried to help me with selflessly. The limits you ladies go to bring joy, excitement, relief and comfort to individuals is at the very forefront of any relationship between all couples. Who knows what the future holds for me, I will satisfy my craving for intimacy, I will one day let my memory of her fade. Move on with my life. Due to your guidance and experience if I decide to see an sp she will look nothing like my wife. Who knows maybe one will find me wouldn't that be a spin! This has been very releaving thank you for allowing me to use this forum as a conduit and for all the advice it has come as a much needed form of letting go. So very sincerely, BF

I think the story of the original/first pink shirt day is really lovely and powerful. For anyone who hasn't heard it, a boy went to his first day of high school in a pink shirt and was bullied and harassed because of it, so two older boys decided to buy a bunch of pink shirts and get a lot of people to wear them to school the next day in order to show solidarity with the boy. (More info here:http://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/nova-scotia/story/2007/09/18/pink-tshirts-students.html). I think it worked really well because it addressed a specific problem in a really positive way, and it made sense in the context of that situation. I love the idea of a bigger Pink Shirt Day, but the critic in me wonders how much impact these events actually have when they become a big thing. I definitely don't think they should stop, and I'm sure there are stories of how they've helped and made progress, which is great! But I do believe that we need to do that plus other things to get to a solution. I also think that bullying is sort of a catch-all word for things like racism and homophobia when that happens in high school. In order to create lasting change, there need to be conversations about why people are bullied along with conversations about how to stop it from happening.

Kinda, sorta.... but I don't actually keep track of it all that much. Although I think I've always been quite bad at the whole rep points/noms/thanks thing. One thing I have found that stops me using it: if you thank/nominate posts you're dishing out rep points, and if you do this too much then you hit the limit on how many times you can give out rep points in a time period, which prevents commenting on posts. And I like commenting on posts, which means that quite often I'll intend to go back and thank people later, and forget... I think that before it existed, people were using the Nominate button to fulfill the same function that the Thanks button now does better. I think that really good posts will still get a lot of nominations, but there will be far fewer with just one or two because they'll tend to get thanked instead.

Today I learned that I've absolutely had it with winter. Seriously, snow. Just fuck off now, please?

I agree with these sentiments. I may suggest that you try something different, less intense. A massage with a happy ending with someone who does also provide full service, but this massage style session is usually the very best first step. You have to be prepared to want to back out, and full service sessions are a lot of pressure, physically and emotionally if you aren't prepared. I suspect that you are not going to be comfortable with someone on a first visit. The non full service session allows you to reach that comfort after a couple of visits, or you may never be ready, but you will have crossed a barrier in your body and mind thru this touch. I recommend choosing someone who does provide a more relaxed encounter, and who is able to work with you thru a series of encounters rather than a full on assault on a first visit. take care, and thanks for sharing.

I like using the Thanks button to say I appreciate a post, or to thank someone for contributing to a thread I started or for referring to something I've said. I also like that we now have three options: thanking people for their thoughts, giving rep points with a comment and nominating a post because it's timely, important or well-written, etc. It will be interesting to see how the Thanks button affects the Nominations. Will nominations be fewer but seem more significant? As for being thanked, I like that, too. It lets me know that I'm in tune with others' perspectives.

When I read the article It appeared to me that they knowingly communicated with and attempted to see a girl who was clearly advertised as underage (as 16) for the purpose of prostitution?. If so then they deserve what is coming to them, in my view. Additional Comments: It was so unbelievable that people would do such thing that I had to read the article 3 times to be sure that they knew about the underage and yes I am pretty sure they did. As I have mentioned in my prior posts recently best to ask for ID for unknown providers especially on BP or CL. Ask them to cover their personal info (like name and address) with their hand or fingers and all you are interested to see is their picture (must be the picture of visiting lady of course) and birthdate. Make it a pre-requisite upon arrival for appointment to go ahead. Some would welcome this request as they realize that you are safe and legal.

. :aol_poundit: Ditto - Sometimes an educated hand can produce the most explosive eruptions. Although, a skilled mouth or pussy can be nice too.:tongue: Conversely, there is nothing worse than a bad Handy J, having someone yanking on my junk like it was salt water taffy is not my idea of a good time. Like everything else worth doing, it's worth doing well. :sm185:

I've heard from many women who were considering entering the sex trade but none of them has ever started the conversation by focusing on the kind of blowjob she thinks she might be expected to offer. Many men, however, do start with sexual activities when they ask about our profession. Even women who have had many boyfriends or casual sex partners generally find the notion of entering the sex trade to be daunting. They usually have many questions about what it means to be a prostitute; how they will feel engaging with many clients in a day or week; how other people in their lives would react to knowing what they're doing and how they plan to deal with that. Physical health and safety are important and the relief that comes from being able to address a serious financial problem is enormous, but there are emotional and psychological considerations involved, as well. For example, most of us find this to be a very lonely, isolating profession. How good are your relationships with friends and family right now? When have clear and constructive boundaries been a challenge for you? What did you learn? Where are your points of greatest vulnerability when it comes to engaging with other people? What are your coping mechanisms when you're under stress? How might your stress-management techniques be compromised or enhanced by working as a paid companion? What have your relationships with men, including boyfriends, lovers, teachers, employers, siblings, your father and grandfather been like? How have you managed pressure you've felt from men about important things like school work, employment, or their expectations of you because of your gender? You say that you're a small, slender woman. How have you handled men who are much larger and stronger than you are and who are, or have the potential to be, physically threatening? When a man is angry because he wants something from you, how do you respond--that is, how do you feel, deep inside, what do you do and how do you work through things later? When in your life have you found it difficult to say no to someone? What happened and why? When have you found it difficult to say yes, when you really wanted to? What happened then? Generally speaking, in your life do you tend to be obedient when someone tells you to do something? How important is it to you to please other people? If someone tells you to do something that you don't want to do, how do you feel? How likely are you to give in rather than take control of the situation constructively? Whether a covered bj is conservative or enlightened is a matter of debate. In our industry, every woman needs to decide for herself what she is and is not willing to offer when she entertains. There are plenty of women at every price point who are making a living, providing safe GFE including condoms for oral. There are also a lot of women who offer uncovered oral, but use condoms for everything else. You need to decide what your own risk tolerance is, how you will attend to your health care needs and how you will respond to pressure from clients who want to engage in activities that you may not have tried before, or may not want to participate in. What kind of oral you offer--if any--is only one consideration. So is anal sex. Digits is another. What about fetishes? Which ones might you be comfortable with and which ones will you not consider? What about duos? Who would you approach to be a duo partner? What level of involvement are you comfortable with when another woman is involved? What about couples? Or two men? Or more than two men? Stag parties? Poker nights? Toy shows? What about male duo partners? Suppose a prospective client invites you to travel with him--would you consider it? How will you maintain your safety and limits when you're not in a situation that you control, potentially far away from home and dependent on a virtual stranger? How do you imagine working? Will you do half hour meetings? What about quarter-hour quickies? Do you prefer to accept only two-hour engagements or longer? What is your preferred age range? If you think that the majority of your clients are likely to be guys in their early 20s, think again! Are you comfortable with older men? How old? Consider, for example, men in their 50s, 60s and 70s. How comfortable are you with men who may remind you, in some ways, of your father or grandfather? This is actually a very important consideration, particularly if, as I suspect, you plan to be setting your rates near the upper end of the range in your part of the country. Who do you think can afford to pay your fees? Are there enough of them where you're living and working to provide enough of the sort of work you imagine doing? How do you know? This is just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to things a new SP needs to think about. Very little of it is about blowjobs.

congrats NJ, Phaedrus, and Gabriella. three people who really define what this community is all about. Well done. Porthos

And very good posts too! Thanks to all of you for your contributions to the board.

Congrats to you gorgeous Gabriella xo Congrats to you Phaedrus :) And congrats to you too Notch Johnson ;) ! Keep em coming ;) Vanessa xoxo

:bigclap:Congradulations to you notch, Phaedrus, Gabriella on reaching 3000.

Congrats on hitting the 3000 post mark Gabriella, Phaedrus & notch Johnson....

Hello to my many friends here:) Although you know me, my lovely Maria Styles feels that she would like to have her profile opened here. She is sort of new to the industry, and is finding it difficult to find herself. She has been unfortunately exposed to the negative side of the industry in the past and is trying to find the all the positive side to this industry. Those negative experiences has seeped into her way of thinking:( She has seen a world of difference with working with me, but still needs a voice and support of her own. So I thought this could help her. I am encouraging her to open her own profile so that she can meet on line, the most amazing people! If it were not for the many ladies and men here, I too never would have known the since of pride and respect that one can experience in this community:) It is a lonely life at times to be in this trade, and with all the "gunk" clouding our own feeling on the subject it is hard to hear your own voice and feelings on the topic. I know for me at first it was the fact of living a double life that was the hardest to deal with. I was lucky enough to have met a few EXCEPTIONAL ladies in Ottawa that helped me threw that, and did "come out" to the ones that mattered in my life. Once I did that, I had so much freedom from my own conscience! For me, also it is the fact of doing good things for my life and future with the money I earn. 2 years ago I had no credit...now I do! 2 years ago I never paid taxes, therefore feeling like a non productive member to my comminity...now I do! 2 years ago could not hold a morgage with my bank...now I can! If you practice some self discipline and self control, making wise use of my cash has saved me from feeling useless, hopeless or like running in one spot! Anyone willing to witness their success, please do so in hopes to help new ladies like Maria...Just a few examples of when we --ucked up, and learned our lesson from it, then picked ourself up and becoming successful and strong business women because of it! I hope this thread will help any new SP out there find their way threw the maze of misconceptions of our trade:)

I find the thinner extra sensation condoms are the better choice, they are not only thin but seem to me to be stronger than the regular ones. I use a little lube, inside, all the time, on the whole area. This adds extra tingling sensation, warming feeling, and so the 'no feeling' issue is minimized.The type I use is warming, unless the client has PE issues, in which case I don't. I have used the Him/Her lubes, and the cooling one is great to take the edge off of someone who does have PE concerns. I also find that the condom on also takes the edge off, which is a good thing. Most of the people who say they don't feel anything, or much less sensation, are using what their head tells them, not what their body shows them. A lot is involved in the preparation, prior to putting on the condom, the flow is natural and unlikely if they are relaxed and not all caught up in what they think they feel it goes very well. I find a lot of younger guys don't think twice about whether bare or not bare feels better or not better, they often only know what it feels like with a condom on, and have little to compare it to. Judging by the large number of guys who can cum with a cbj before they are ready, or before they go over to FS, I don't think condoms lessen too much sensation lol.

This is important! Sorry that I forgot to mention the effect of some kinds of medication. Antidepressants are notorious for causing difficulty with ejaculation or delaying ejaculation. That said, when a man has trouble with premature ejaculation (PE), he may find that he gains extra stamina if he's on one of these medications, not that this is an ideal solution! PE can be managed without medication. It often occurs when a man has relied on masturbation most of the time and has been in a hurry to climax. He gets used to having orgasms quickly and needs to discover ways to delay them. A companion who won't provide the condom you prefer needs to think carefully about what she's doing, in my opinion. If I know a day or two ahead of time, I would be happy to ensure that I have what someone wants available. Not only is this good business sense, but I really do want clients to be happy with all aspects of our time together, including this one. As Berlin noted, one of our principal concerns is how a condom has been stored. Expiry dates are important, too, but if the condom has been stored in a too-hot or freezing car or carried around in someone's wallet or pocket, even if it hasn't reached its expiry date, it may be liable to break while in use. Sadly, there are some people who try to sabotage condoms deliberately, and we need to protect ourselves from them, too. I'm glad to read this, Porthos! You might be astonished to know how often many of us are asked to provide condom-free services, though. A couple of weeks ago, a prospective client told me that one reason he likes mature companions is that, once we're no longer having periods, we don't need to use condoms because there's no risk of pregnancy. That's not true, of course, but he claims that not only has this been his experience for years, he hasn't had to pay anything extra for it. I didn't believe him and declined to meet him. I think that it's possible to make a CBJ very erotic and deeply satisfying. I do understand why men prefer to have oral sex without condoms, but I often wonder why too many men pay little attention to the risk of STIs from oral sex. There are a lot of very nasty germs that can live very happily in a human throat, undetected for a very long time. There's no way to know whether someone has an STI or not and, sadly, the risk is somewhat greater for the one whose mouth and throat are being employed than for the one who seeks access. Of particular concern to me is that an incurable form of gonorrhea surfaced in Toronto last fall. Gonorrhea is already the second most common STI. It's very important to find ways to make safe sex sexy!

Do not tell her. It would be cruel to do that while she is ill.

1. Whats your "real" name? 2. How many men have you been with today? 3. So, have you been busy? 4. Is your real hair color/breast size/nails/tan real? 5. How did you get into the business? 6. Do you have a boyfriend/SO/partner? 7. Why don't you go Indie? 8. Can I stand you on your head while you give me a bj? 9. Why do you have to put the condom on now? 10. Can I have a tour of your place? 11. Who is that in the picture? 12. Are the sheets clean? 13. Did you shower? 14. Tell me the difference between the 1hr and 2hr option besides time, I might want to readjust our session. 15. Is that what you are wearing? 16. I thought you would be _________ (taller, shorter, skinnier, fatter, younger, older) 17. I brought rolled change for part of my donation, is that a problem? (paid $250 in rolled pennies and dimes) 18. Do you own this place? 19. You should take yoga. 20. Have you ever considered having your breasts done? 21. Do you have a bong? 22. Can you drive me home afterwards? 23. I have a friend in the car, is it ok if he waits in your livingroom? 24. How many children do you have? 25. Do you REALLY enjoy it or are you an awesome actress? 26. Can we "just hang out" cause I think we have a real connection. 27. What are the perks if I become a good regular? 28. Can I leave my shoes and socks on for the whole visit? 29. Whats the weirdest request you've ever had? 30. Has anyone ever hurt you during an appointment? 31. Does your family know what you do? And my all time favorite! 32. Your such a smart woman, why don't you get a real job? These are all questions I have been asked personally and they range from mildly annoying to WTF is he thinking! cat