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Karina... Spending intimate time with a client or conversely when we spend intimate time with a provider is bound to have emotional challenges. Intimacy comes not only from the body, it comes from the mind and spirit. The greater the time spent with another human being, the greater the bond is that is being forged. Is it wrong? Absolutely not; it's human. Therein lies the challenge. The challenge is fulfilling that desire, that need to requite, to validate. The checklist is infinite but you probably should ask yourself a number of questions. First, does he share the same strength of passion for you? If the answer is yes, it becomes simpler and more complicated. It is however the key in determining whether your feelings are insatiable or open to further provocation. Second, if the answer to the first is yes, are you both willing to make sacrifices - significant sacrifices - to see the relationship flourish or flounder? Men, for the most part, do not share well. Your current career is an avocation that might not be in line with his traditional values; he might not be willing to accept a partner that has intimate relationships with other men. It's a paradox, considering the nature of your current relationship, but it is a clear delineation - a line in the sand. Would you be willing to forego your current position to fulfill a relationship that may or may not work out? Further to this - would he be free to make the choice to be with you, without making significant personal sacrifices? Is he married? Does he have children? Does he have a career? Would his family accept the relationship? The typical client-provider relationship is safe because it is discrete and fulfilled at the end of each session. Guilt is diminished - it's a transaction of the flesh rather than of the heart. When you add emotion, the intimacy is enhanced and the safeguards come down - you genuinely give yourself to him as a whole - but the price to yourself is vulnerability. YOU need HIM. It's a struggle that many people on both sides of the industry face. It can be incredibly beautiful. It can also be psychologically crippling. The best advice I can give? Be analytic. Before you approach him, ask yourself whether you would be willing to make equal or greater sacrifices to the ones you may have to ask him to make. Ask yourself whether you really know him or whether you just idealize him. It's far easier to love the idea of a person than actually live with that person. It's a tough one that each of us has to deal with. I don't know whether I have helped at all or over complicated things - but I do hope that I have given some food for thought. A quote comes to mind, not written by Shakespeare but of that era: "Love is the most beautiful of dreams and the worst of nightmares."

Miss Karina, I understand where you are, I've been there and it isn't easy to know what to do. With the right man, we can develop the most amazing relationship on every level and it can be good for both parties. I have a small client base and intense connections happen and they can grow stronger with time. The key is to ensure that it stays within the boundaries of being a mutually beneficial experience for you both. My guests understand that my feelings are genuine but it doesn't come with the usual strings of a romantic relationship because the envelope ensures it doesn't. If your client is open to exploring a more intimate emotional relationship, then take it slowly and enjoy the ride. Just remember that we are suppose to make their manhoods hard, not their lives so put no pressure on him to change his life for you and expect the same respect from him with your life. Maintain the business aspect as it keeps you both real and emotions in check when things have the potential to go left. Life is too short to miss amazing opportunities, just proceed with care and awareness... cat

We are all aware these things can happen Karina. It's natural for people to fall for each other. My best advice is to just tell him. Never pass up the opportunity for something special in life or you'll regret it. If you word it right, he won't think you are just trying to get him in as a client. Just be honest with him and speak from the heart! Good luck Karina :D

There's a lot of very good advice here, Karina. While telling this gentleman your feelings could be good, pay attention to the wise advice you've received from Old Dog and Cat. Take some time to think about you, too. [--][--]How are you feeling, in your own life, right now? [--][--]What kinds of stresses and concerns are you dealing with in your life? [--][--]Ours is one of the loneliest professions in the world. We spend time with many people but few ever know us well. We need to maintain good boundaries for the sake of our clients and for ourselves. Most of the time, our friends and family don't know how we're making a living or, if they do, they don't approve. It can be difficult to integrate both parts of our lives--professional and personal. Who knows you well and knows about the reality of your life and work? What kind of care and support do you receive from them? [--][--]When was the last time you had a great evening with friends or family? [--][--]When was the last time you took a vacation by yourself or with a friend or family member? [--][--]Most of the women in our line of work are kind, nurturing, compassionate, highly intuitive givers who get a lot of satisfaction out of caring for other people. One thing many of us struggle with, in our personal lives, is feeling that others care for us. If you get sick, who makes soup, brings you some tea, a movie or a stack of books? Who remembers your birthday without being reminded? Who calls you just to say hello, not to get you to do something for them? [--][--]How many clients are you seeing, on average, each week? [--][--]Do you take last-minute meetings or do you know a day or two ahead of time who you'll be seeing? [--][--]Do you see more clients than you'd like to because you need the money? Or are you working hard to advertise and communicate with potential clients but not actually entertaining as many or as often as you think would be ideal? [--][--]Our clients come to us for sex. Sure, other things are part of the encounter--talking, sharing a meal, exploring one another's thoughts and ideals. Those things are often part of what makes sex work really well for us women. Only you can know whether you've really enjoyed the sexual intimacy in your work. Be honest: how has it been for you, especially in the last couple of months? Even when our bodies respond, becoming aroused, having orgasms, we might feel that something is missing, or that our responses are almost automatic. Other than with this particular client, when have you felt lust, deep desire, yearning and exaltation for someone? [--][--]When you entered our profession, what were your long-term plans? Maybe you thought you'd work for a year or two. Perhaps you were needing to earn some money, quickly, and then realized that you might be able to pay for your education, put some money away for the future, buy a house or do some other significant thing. What goals did you have? [--][--]Every paid companion should have a retirement plan, whether that's based in putting away a certain amount of money, reaching a particular age, or being in a position to pay for something important for her future. What was your plan, originally? Has it changed, and if so, how and why? [--][--]With many important things in our lives, the reasons we start doing something are often different from, and less important than, the reasons we continue. How might this be true for you, as a paid companion? [--][--]Have you had a boyfriend or partner while also working as a paid companion--even one who may not have known about your work? If you did, what was it like for you to work and have that intimate relationship? Did you feel that the two things gave you energy? Did you feel that one got in the way of the other sometimes? If your boyfriend or partner knew about your work, how did he handle it? Did you believe what he said? Did his behaviour match his words? Some time ago, I had a client who was perfect. He never hit a false note, never did even the tiniest little thing wrong or at the wrong time. Over a couple of months, I saw him three or four times a week, for two or three hours at a time. The erotic pendulum swung very wide and never wobbled at any point in its arc from tenderly gentle to wildly kinky. I have never, in all my adult life, known anyone who always knew exactly how to touch me, where to touch and when to do it. It felt like he could look deep inside me and find things that I wasn't really sure were there. It was exhilarating. It was madness of the most delightful kind. He paid me a small fortune, though after the first couple of meetings I hardly noticed. It couldn't have continued the way it was, though. Heated romance like that always burns out eventually, and I knew it. When I realized that our interaction was basically taking over my life, not in terms of the amount of time we were spending together, but in the amount of time I was spending with him in my mind, when he was gone, and when I recognized that he may have been the best sexual partner I'd ever had but he really didn't know anything about me (and that maybe that's why it worked so well), and that my own emotions were driving me very strongly, I stopped seeing him. For weeks, I felt bereft. I felt empty. I felt dull. But after awhile, I started to feel myself again. A year or so later, he asked to see me again and I agreed. Having had some time to ponder, I was curious about what had happened. It was as good, or better, than it ever had been. And so I ended it permanently. Others might have made a different choice. But for me, this was more like an addiction than the kind of love I want to feel and to give. Everyone wants to be loved. No one ever feels loved enough. We all feel insecure about the love we feel, whether we're showing it adequately, whether it matters to the ones we love. I think this is part of being human. I also think that, if there's a grand purpose for our lives, it is to learn to love others, even when loving doesn't bring us what we most deeply need for ourselves. Love and be careful.

I just want some opinion on this. From the beginning Ive always set and follow my own rule which is, not to get too attached or not to fall in love with any of my clients, just have a lot of fun . Unfortunately i am falling for someone now and i really dont know what to do about it ,its so hard because I can't even tell him I miss him or how I feel because he might think I'm trying too hard for the money.. I just can't help it every time I see him he just melt me inside. I really need some good advice on this one, maybe clear my head a little. I would really appreciate it.

Old dogs advice is the best you'll get I'm sure, so well put OD, but I'd be interested in what Cat has to say, hopefully she'll respond. This is a tricky subject-no pun intended.In the begining my attitude towards clients was somewhat guarded and impersonal. For many reasons, I was versed that this business wasn't about being warm and intimate but about sex, straight sex, which as I knew it was all about the genitals and genitals alone. Also those whom I knew in the business had coached me into thinking that these men involved just wanted my body and would never think anything nice about me afterwards.Then I came hear-cerb, still guarded, then I was introduced to the gfe session. I was shocked that so many men wanted to caress me, kiss me, get to know me and not to simply use my body. So the point to this rant is feelings do sometimes evolve in these types of encounters,especially with gents you see over and over. How could they not, we share intimacy,passion,feelings and if all the stars align and your match comes along you are going to fall, nothing wrong with that. Your feelings are yours, express them keeping in mind the upsides and downs to doing so and prepare yourself for both. If you feel you know him well enough then you should have a sense of how he'll react as well. After all his feelings have to be taken into account as well. What ever you decide to do my dear remember wanting /caring/desiring someone is never wrong, you are lucky you have found someone you can want. Best of luck.

Karina, having met you during your last visit to Ottawa my first reaction to your post is that the person you are referring to is one lucky fellow! In a very short time I felt your kindness and passion for life. Having spent "off the clock" social time with a few SP's and several dancers over the years I've found that many times people are different outside the bedroom. In a hotel room, without a personal relationship, there is the fantasy component for which the chemistry doesn't always translate to a personal relationship. I'd strongly recommned, if you havn't already, spend some time "off the clock" time with him in a personal social setting; perhaps dinner, hockey game, going for a walk, anything mutually enjoyable. Its not as unusual as some think for an SP and client to do something casual, especially out of town SPs. Goodness, last year I took a visiting SP to the grocery store since she had just arrived in town, was staying in a suite and needed to do groceries lol. I really feel the key is to get to know the guy in a real social setting. You may find a different person, or perhaps your initial feelings will be confirmed. I think then, after spending time together, through conversation you'll be able to tell if his feelings are mutual and if his personal circumstances are such that he is even able to pursue a relationship. I will say thou, I'm not an expert on this, but wanted to at least give you my thoughts. JacK PS: Feel free to fall for me anytime!

The original question was whether it is wrong to fall for a client. In my view it is never wrong to fall in love. It's all the things we do when we are in love, and the things we expect/demand of those we love, that sometimes are wrong. I say this as a hopeless romantic. Porthos

I am always flattered when someone brings wine to our date. Its the thought that counts and not the price tag on the bottle. If I want to drink a particular bottle I will have it on hand to offer. When you bring wine it is like a gift, so being grateful is what matters.

Wellington Street in Ottawa is more awesome than most people give it credit for. And here's why. If you've ever been to Parliament Hill, you may have noticed a beautiful building across the street along side Elgin. It's currently the Prime Minister's office, and over the last century has been used for various government offices. Langevin Block Now I'm more interested in the architecture of it. It was designed in a style that was prominent at the time called Second Empire. Originally from France, buildings were designed in that manner because it was fashionable. That's right, buildings were a fashion statement. Ottawa, specifically downtown Ottawa is a great time line of architectural styles that have been prominent over our nation's short history. Parliament Hill was constructed in a Gothic Revival style, partly to show the world our difference from the United States. Compared to Capitol Hill And while there isn't an example of American Neoclassic design on Wellington Street, there is another great building which has a style very prominent in US. And when I found out what it's original purpose was, it made perfect sense. Located at 100 Wellington Street, it's proposed use was a National Portrait Gallery before the Conservatives came in and scrapped the idea. But it's original use - The American Embassy; the only embassy ever on Wellington Street. Now the last stop is the Bank of Canada. Between Elgin Street and Bay Street, it is the only glass tower to grace Wellington. And again, it is an excellent representation of Canada's history. Almost like layers of soil overlapping the previous one as centuries pass by. The original building was designed in the Neoclassical style so commonly used by banks in that time. In the 70s, much needed additions were constructed, but in a very different approach. And here is the result. Not my favourite, but apparently made it to the top 500 list of Canadian buildings of the 20th century. So if you didn't read all of that, I'll try to sum it up as best I can. Ottawa is new, but has some awesome buildings if you're into that sorta stuff.

I gotta say the worse Job in the world is that one where you are absolutely unhappy, a job that you hate, a job that when you get up in the morning all you think is a excuse not to come in.., that job where you cant see the end of the work day, and you feel like time is just still....

I would tend to agree with RG. The question is when. Keep in mind, that the client-provider relationship is one that is quite bounded in terms of what happens and the circumstances under which it happens. Ladies often say about clients who fall for them, that the client "really" doesn't know who they are. They see them in a fantasy context, in which everything is being geared to their pleasure. Clients don't see their providers lounging around the house in sweatpants eating chips! (although, depending on context that could be quite incredible). Well, it may be the same with clients. Clients as well are on their best behaviour (or at least good clients, so I assume this applies to your gentleman). The question is how well do you actually know him. Falling in love involves a certain degree of emotional intimacy and understanding of each other. I think that can happen within the context of sessions, but perhaps a fuller ability to get to "know each" other outside the bedroom is required. Maybe you should suggest lunch, followed by a session. Discount the lunch, or even say "I really enjoy talking to you, and we never have enough time. Let's go for lunch before our session." If you wanted, you could deeply discount the social time, or even offer it "off the clock". I realize that in general this is frowned upon, but this is different than the situation where the client suggests it. Make sure he understands this is a unique offer, because you think he is special. This will be a good testing ground to see what he's like in a different setting, and his reaction may be a guage of his feeling to you. Perhaps say to him ... "I was thinking about you the other day and nearly dropped you a text, just to ask how you were doing ... but didn't want to intrude on your private life" ... see how he reacts. Anyway, perhaps there are ways of testing the waters, before plunging in. Porthos

If I were you Karina, let him know. He may have the same feelings for you. The risk, he may not have the same feelings. If he is a client who sees you for repeat encounters there is something about you he does like. My guess, if you tell him your feelings, he won't think you are doing it for the money, in fact if you tell him your feelings and things progress, a monetary transaction wouldn't even form part of your relationship, should you develop a relationship. Things to keep in mind. Is he receptive to a relationship (is he single, will you stop being a professional companion, if that is an issue for him, does he need to stop seeing professional companions if that is an issue for you, will both your families accept each other, is there an age difference etc) And if he says he isn't interested, could you continue to see him as a client and would he feel comfortable continuing to see you. All that said, I would, if you really have fallen for him, let him know. There is an underlying risk in letting your feelings show, but there could also be great rewards...maybe he is "the one" Good luck RG

Trust. My ex-wife and I had trust. No matter what we would always tell each other if something wasn't working. When we split I was always true to her and to this day I still love her with all my heart. I no longer trust her and as much as I want her to come back I could never trust her again. We split in Sept 2012 and she told me there wasn't another man. I believed her until the proof came out. She was with the same man from late 2011 to present and has been living with him since Oct 2012. Almost less then a week after telling me she wanted to split up. I have been with a couple ladies and SP a few time but only after I finally felt I could. We all make choices and I didn't have a choice at all. She down right cheated on me and what that means is when we finally go to court and it all comes out she will lose everything. Not only my trust and families trust but her BF daughter is going to find out that her mom left because he was cheating on her with my ex. My ex will always have my love but will never have my trust. To have one without the other is not a happy life with another person. You want to be with a sp then make sure you are honest about it to yourself. If your married or in a long term relationship be honest with your partner. They have every right to make the choice to stay or go. If you say you can trust someone then you're admitting to something even greater then love. Trust involves all your thoughts and emotions to be given to someone so they can have. Trusting someone is knowing that you can be hurt so bad that none can even know. This is why trust is a word of great power.

"Wouldn't it seem that if you truly were with the right woman you wouldn't even WANT to see escorts? " The monogamous bonding instinct for humans is very weak; its a very recent development in evolution. If we look at our two closest relatively it is most likely that our ancestors were either polygamous (Gorilla; more than one mating partner) or promiscuous (Chimps; no pair bonding). The only other ape that pair bonds is the Gibbon and its the most distant of the apes from us. Sooo the fact that human mating rarely reaches that monogamous ideal is not surprising. Just cause your eyes go a wondering... doesn't mean your wife is not the one... of course I also don't believe in destiny or in any magical notion that there is the right person what so ever; forget about that. People marry who they happen to meet up with and they stay with the person that can get along with without irritating each other too much. AS far as I'm concerned. Service providers are one of the things that makes monogamy possible.... Personally I believe that cheating is not less and not more moral than expecting someone else to be monogamous. Its interesting how people will moralize about "cheating", but never consider the fundamental ethical problems with expecting someone to be "faithful".

I, personally, definitely enjoy some saucy dirty talk when the mood is right... both giving and receiving. :) It can be a real turn on with the right person, at the right time. After all, this stimulates the most important erogenous zone, the brain! :) mmmm, Yes, make me your dirty little whore.. please... I have been a very bad girl... Feed me your throbbing hard cock, I neeeed to taste your hot big creamy load of cum! :bj2: In all honesty though, it is only good if it just flows naturally when we are in the right moment, as when it is forced it just sounds silly and awkward, LOL. But I suspect that not all SPs care for it, so ideally, I would suggest just straight out asking if she is okay with it when you are booking the appointment, or just throwing out a feeler during the appointment and see how it is received.

I promised details of my birthday celebrations way back in Feb., and here they are, belated but better late... Miss Chloe of Melbourne is like a hot Eurasian Bond Girl. A stunner. Beautiful face, fit hot body, great sense of style and elegance. Smart, easy to talk to, fun to be with. Cumming, making someone cum, and laughter: the three great pleasures. It was the week before my birthday, and I wanted to indulge. I figured it would be hard to top last year's experience, which I reviewed on here (http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showpost.php?p=318078&postcount=5) but it was worth a try. And Chloe is someone I had been corresponding with, and who interested me. :) A lot. :) We met. I gasped. OMG she's stunning. I hadn't seen her face before, but there she was, gorgeous, her symmetrical features framed by her long dark hair. Peeling off her clothes, that fit firm body to admire. Kissing, holding, my hands roaming, grasping her tiny round bum and her perky small breasts, inhaling them, inhaling her. Before we met I had warned her of my oral fixations, and she encouraged them. As much as I wanted. In many different ways. Perfection. Then the teasing of my cock, and the insertion, and the ride. Watching her in doggie turn around to watch me, kissing her in mish, rolling around locked in each other. Total intensity. And we talked. We found a level of confidence and comfort that allowed us to share all sorts of experiences, and then to drift off to sleep in each other's arms, well past the allotted time. It felt like a date, except it's not often that you get to have a date with a Bond Girl. Here she is: http://misschloeofmelbourne.com/ Have a look!

I think this happens both ways a lot more often than we read or hear about. I've developed feelings for a provider and know that a provider has developed feelings for me. I stopped seeing both and explained why and the reason was simply that I started to like them. It may seem like an odd way to put it but I know it wasn't a love thing it was a like thing. It's very easy to become confused, it's kind of like a vacation romance in that everything seems perfect and idyllic and it is because it's only for an hour or two it's not all day everyday reality. When I start to "like" some one or sense they are starting to "like" me, I move on. It's much simpler. Peace MG

Did you know... a 1 minute kiss burns 26 calories.... So anyone up for a workout? ;-)

I never expect it, but it's always a nice gesture when someone brings a bottle of wine to share, especially for longer visits. I don't think of it being about loosening up so much as a nice way to start an evening, but I'd be just as happy to sit down over a cup of coffee. I think it's often more about the act of sitting down, having a conversation, taking your time and building anticipation than what we're actually drinking. A few years ago, I had a close friend who also loved wine and we both wanted to learn more about it, but didn't necessarily have the time or budget for a formal tasting class. So we would read the weekly wine section in the Globe & Mail, pick out one that was under fifteen dollars (we were on student budgets!), and sit down together and drink it. It was a great way to explore, and we discovered some delicious wines. If you're at a loss, that's a great place to find inspiration. I still check there often when I want something new!

Shelly Long From Cheers

Hello, Katrine, Desire to visit is 70% of the way there! It's nice to hear that you'd love to come. Of course we would not want you to feel anything other than safe, and as long as you are discreet and just carry on as in Ottawa, I'm pretty sure you'll feel quite comfortable here. You might even fall in love with the place. ;) If you do make plans and need information I'm willing to share my knowledge. This applies to any other ladies contemplating a trip. FR

When I'm hosting, which is the case in most of my encounters, I contact the lady ahead of time and ask her what she would like to drink. Me, I can't drink, but ladies might like a social glass of wine while we are sitting together conversing, getting to know one another or re-connecting if a repeat encounter. A couple notes. First, always, always open the bottle in front of the lady. Even with ladies I have seen on repeat encounters, I open the bottle in front of them. Second, I don't use wine to loosen up the lady. Wine may be a drink to offer, maybe it's just water. In my hotel room I make sure there is also water and juice on hand too. A morning rambling RG

Well, wifey's a sommelier so I'm exposed to a very broad range of wines regularly and I'm doing the ISG myself for fun. First off I'll pass along what I heard right from the lips of Wolfgang Blass when asked about what wine is best. He said, "The best wine is the one that's in front of you!". Too often wine drinking gets caught up in pretentious airs of people trying to impress each other with the "la-de-da" of it all. I've been in the company of these type of people way to many times. I have had $2000 bottles of wine that I could just barely stomach, $14 bottles that I loved and everything in between. Bottom line if you like it, you like it and that's all that matters. All that said, Malbec's from Argentina are great wines and in those I personally prefer the 2011 Don David about $16 per bottle and they also have a nice Tannat a little more dry for about the same price. In reds my favorite is a 2005 Chateau Brown from Bordeaux about $90 a bottle(its a little hard to get). However as a point of note any Bordeaux wines from 2005 will be better than any other year and slightly more expensive. I love whites more than reds and in whites my fav are Rieslings and the best I'v ever had is a 2009 Trisaetum from Oregon. I love Ports too! Actually I love them all!

Best advice? Find out her preferences (Red, White or Rose) then go with what you know and like. It's easier to choose something that you know than offer her something that neither of you have ever tasted and then be disappointed and embarrassed. A nice mid range red is the J. Lohr 7 Oaks - it's a full bodied red, Cabernet Sauvignon from California - delicious little find that the LCBO stocks all the time now. If you are looking for an Italian blend, try a mid range Ripasso - it's Valpolicella that has been strained through Amarone skins - a medium to full bodied red with lots of flavour. It's not as hearty as an Amarone but has more bite than the Valpolicella...

I love wine and offer my clients a drink, snacks, or even a meal, especially on longer appointments. Thats part of the session-hospitality. Of course I have other beverages on hand. I feel part of making someone feel comfortabe and relaxed is to feed all their senses and for some gentlemen that means a nice glass of wine. I love when a gentleman brings a bottle but they are perfectly welcome to choose for me as I love to try a new one. Two of my favorite reds are Chateauneuf du pape, and one that is a little less pricey is clancy's which is a blend. For a white I think the Italians make the better pino's, but most pino grigios will be enjoyable to me.

Also, the word "Fuck" comes from an acronym that was used in the British legal system in the 19th century. It stands for "For Unlawful Carnal Knowledge."

It is "hot" I thoroughly enjoy it, and I really like it when she says really nice dirty things to me in a loud tone of voice, then giving it back to her in some more dirt talk as well....it just really heightens the experience. :) Example "Ahhh... you fucking love that don't ya, you like it from behind, and like take a pounding in doggie, let me slap your ass too!"......her "yes baby fuck me harder, and deeper I want to feel you cum inside ...yes fuck more please,yes yes yes spank my ass.... ahhh fuck ya, I love it MORE...MORE!" :) Don't forget a little BDSM play requires dirty talk, and just making out the dirty talk is GREAT!

A SNACK FOR LATER? You never need to worry with me About my liking your beard, stache or goatee I don't mind some face hair, or even if it's all bare Just make sure it's conditioned and gleans O-kay I'll tell you the truth Lying is just so uncouth So I'm feeling the need to come clean I can honestly say That before you get laid Clean your face of left-over cuisine!

OMG. Beards are sooo sexy. There is nothing hotter to me than making out with a bearded dude after he's gone down on me. The smell of me in his beard is such a turn-on. The key to keeping them nice and soft is hair conditioner. Get a good one and use it on your beard too.

Marika is indeed out of country. She may not be back for a year and is presently back home in the Phillipines. She is missed.

Andrea from The Walking Dead drives me insane. I mean the world ended and she is still all moral and high and mighty...geez. Oh well don't have to worry about not liking her anymore I suppose. Michael Kay the play by play guy on the YES network....can't stand the guy. What an annoying, now it all "homer." Arya from Game of Thrones; LOVE the show...hate her character. Don't know why just do.

I can't seem to interact, post pictures, talk to anyone, or post any threads besides this one and I'm adorable! I'd like to get to know the ppl on this wonderful site and have so much to share with u! Thanks! Your Mute Sophie xo

is it worth the risk of losing him as a client (how much does he bring in) and are you willing to let that go if you tell him and he gets awkward and doesnt come back anymore romantic situation that unfortunately translates into a business decision Additional Comments: and you know all your clients are now wondering if its them..... he might present himself to you now if he reads this.

Just got the new Depeche Mode. Huge fan since their inception. (Am I showing my age? lol) The song 'Slow' is definitely going on my session playlist. Bluesy and oh so sexy. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yqwtanA2R4A

Sweet and dirty talk have its place and time. I like both. During the action, a bit of dirty language add to the enjoyment.

For those cerbites following my posts they know that I am a rare hobbyist who is after great looks rather than a list of services and very safe (nothing bare) and cautious (outcall only) and love pale skin and love natural kitties, dislike dirty talk/vulgar language......... so I reach the conclusion recently that masseuses are best suited for what I am looking for and here is MY FIRST review of a beautiful delightful masseuse by the name of Justine at CMJ (this was my first ever call to CMJ). Justine was EVERYTHING that I was looking for. CMJ responded to my post asking for those aware of beautiful pale classy masseuses to contact me and they posted in my thread. The Touch of Euphoria is the outcall wing of CMJ as I made it clear that I will not be visiting a SPA and they arranged this outcall date for me. It is great that CMJ unlike others is so flexible on call type and have an outcall wing, otherwise I wouldn't have been able to see their lovely ladies. They suggested two ladies, Justine being one of the two who graciously accepted my invitation to be my guest this afternoon. I hope to see the other (I am sure delightful) lady next weekend. Justine arrived exactly on time. She was smiling and stunning dressed in mini skirts for me. My heart started beating fast when we hugged and kissed. We walked to my unit and we conversed for a while before the session started. Justine has a beautiful soft feminine pale skin, a very model like relatively tall spinner body. A very cute face and dark hair and eyes and a pair of large very sexy firm boobs. I had a heavenly hour with her at my home with a very classy guest. As picky as I am on looks she completely satisfied me with her great looks. She is a masseuse and the session included lots of touching and kissing and she lived up completely with my expectations as per my thread in the massage section on looks, services, class and hygiene. She was also a total emotional GFE and very kind and considerate. A classy lady, university student with beauty, big heart and great mind. If you see her please treat her like a princess that she indeed is!!!. I would like to extend my thanks to Justine for accepting my invitation to be my guest and also CMJ for arranging this date making it a memorable Saturday afternoon.

The sunshine fills me with so much energy, feeling so hot and sexy, this week you get to reap the rewards ;) A wild shower for two, followed by a sensual experience like no other.... This week I fully intend to rock your world! And trust me I know just how to do that!!! If you want soft and sensual, or hot and steamy I will be your guide to pure bliss ;) Beautiful and sexy, mixed with smart and funny, I will make you feel better than your wildest dreams come true. Monday 10 to 8 Tuesday 10 - 4 Friday 10 - 4 You wouldn't want me to play all by myself would you?? xoxoxox Kelly PM me or call 613-523-6199

For me, I love that the SP talks dirty in the heat of the moment. It doesn't get sexier than seeing and hearing her enjoying herself and talking dirty at the same time. I find that with a regular, when we are more comfortable with each other, we will know what and when to say without worrying about upsetting each other. With a new SP, it is better to follow the cue. In a normal conversation though, I prefer we both don't use the four letter word and other vulgar languages.

I really like female condoms, Meaghan. They work very well. They may be somewhat more effective at protecting against STDs because the "flange" --the opening--covers a wider area than a regular condom ever could. They're NOT made of latex, so they're terrific if you're sensitive to latex or if the man is. They're lightly lubricated, but you may still want to put a bit of lube inside the condom for the man's comfort and pleasure. You can put lube on the outside, too, if you want to. They're more fiddly than a regular condom, to be sure, and you need to be sure that the penis goes into the condom instead of into your vagina beside it, which can happen if you're not paying attention. That happened to me the first time I used one. Fortunately, I was doing my test run with my boyfriend, so I wasn't worried about anything. Here's a photo of a female condom: The ring on the inside is intended to fit around your cervix and helps to anchor the condom in place inside you. The man shouldn't feel it. You can use them for anal sex, too. Just remove that inner ring and have your partner put the condom on, around his penis, holding the opening against the base of his cock. Put some lube on it that way--on the outside of the condom. When he enters you, the condom is in place. And yes, they're plenty strong enough for anal sex. I have some clients who prefer these to regular condoms. I'm the one who introduced these to them. The men say that it's a LOT more like sex without any barrier, which is an advantage, because nothing fits tightly around the penis. You can insert the condom before your date begins, if you want to. When removing it, I take care to pull it a little way out of my vagina, then give the open end a couple of twists. That prevents the condom from turning inside-out or emptying on me or on the bed. They are significantly more expensive than regular condoms--anywhere from $2.00 to about $6.00 each. You can buy them in some drugstores and in most good-quality sex toy stores that sell condoms. I get mine from a toy store, but sometimes they're available at my local Safeway, and I buy them there. Also, many public health clinics that provide free safer sex supplies provide them.

A tragic accident that claimed the life of a very young man. A heartwarming story about how his pet dog survived and didn't run away but chose to stay by the wrecked car. RIP young man. A man in his mid-20s is dead after a single-vehicle crash about 15 kilometres north of Kingston, Ont., but his dog survived and was found waiting next to the damaged vehicle. Ontario Provincial Police said a vehicle was heading south on Sydenham Road in South Frontenac Township at about 3 a.m. Tuesday when the driver lost control. The vehicle then struck a rock face on the road's west side. The driver, a man, was the only person in the vehicle and he was pronounced dead at the scene. Beagle survived crash, stayed by crash wreckage First responders found the man's dog next to the car, according to OPP Const. Jim Morris. The small beagle was also in the car but it survived. The dog kept returning to the scene of the crash, Morris said, and laid down next to the car. Police have closed Sydenham Road in both directions between Railton and Orser roads for the investigation and the road should be closed until late morning. The cause of the crash has not yet been identified. The victim's name has not been released. Traffic was being detoured at Railton to the north and Orser to the south via Stagecoach Road. http://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/ottawa/story/2013/04/02/kingston-fatal-crash-sydenham-road.html?cmp=fbtl

Discovering a gorgeous new provider... then finding out she is in Australia... which is like ummmm... over three hours by car. At least.

Bonne Fete Katrine and best wishes for a wonderful day filled with many gifts and much joy.

That is great news. So guys we have to support her if we want her to stay on this side of the river.

Thank you everyone for your love, support, hugs and best wishes. Yes, I had a bad call that would be classified as assault. Doesn't happen often, but every once in a while it does. I do love myself, and do not consider myself a whore. He viewed me as a whore, but I know I am not that.....I know how much everyone loves me, even those that have never met me. At that moment, my feelings were raw and that's why I posted this here. To show the other side of the coin on this subject of BBFS. I really want to thank everyone who came rallying forward at a time I needed to talk to someone. The phone calls, text messages, PMs and messages meant the world to me. Took yesterday off and am now back, stronger then ever. I love everyone who helped me. It means the world to me. This is why I love CERB. There really is no where else we can turn to for information, support and love. hugs to everyone and have a great day! xoxo Meaghan

As was mentioned above I'd definitely recommend the female condom; most men I have met prefer the feel of them as they have a 'relaxed fit' for the male partner and they also provide slightly better STD protection which can also provide better peace of mind.

I believe that if no blatant wrongdoing is present, we must give her another chance. Benefit of the doubt and so on. Apology accepted Nichole. Peace all. xo.

Whatever you decide to do, please bear in mind that your obligation to engage in the safest sex possible has now increased many fold, due to the possibility of exposing your wife without her knowledge or consent. Educate yourself! There are diseases which defy barriers, such as HPV, HSV. I am married myself, but the difference is that my spouse is fully knowledgeable and is therefore able to consent. It's a tricky thing to try to carry on a marital sex life alongside a clandestine one. There are good reasons to give it serious consideration. But I think you're right in that, if you're inevitably going to do it anyway, sticking with professionals is your most responsible option. Good luck!

Yeah, I think you should stop hobbying while you're working out your marriage. I dunno. For me, this is a service that exists for people who are in marriages that aren't satisfying them in this area. And in that sense, it takes pressure off the marriage. If the marriage has no use for sex, and if a sexual edge still exists, then this business can help take that edge off. But it should never compete with marriage. That is not our purpose. If you have a possibility for achieving satisfaction in your marriage, then for goodness sakes, go with that. If that works out, it will bring you your ultimate satisfaction.