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This is a thread that resonates very much for me. In many ways, I share the same, or at least similar experiences of many that have posted here. My wife and I have been together for 25 years. She was the love of my life in many respects. We share similar interests, politics, passions. Our sex, at one time, was quite wonderful. A series of things ... stress, illness, back pain, children, exhaustion with life ... led us to drift apart from each other. We had great affection, but little passion. Sex was gone. It's been nearly 5 years since my wife and I made love, and probably 8 years since the time before that. This, of course, was what led me to escorts. A familar path ... strip clubs first, massage parlours, escorts. I sought intimacy, but not love. Sometimes, I felt I had fallen in love Sometimes I actually had. I've had affairs, some of those were meaningless encounters at a weekend conference, some were deeply loving that lasted a significant amount of time. I've been reflecting very seriously on what this means of late. I realize, that despite it all, i still love her best of all. To whatever extent you feel your life has become a "cage", don't look for escape from that cage elsewhere. There is, of course, nothing wrong with seeking out the company of service providers. Indeed, I think it is highly advisable. But don't think it will solve your problems. It will not. Look inward. You either need to escape and leave the cage, accept the situation, or fix it so that it doesn't feel like a cage anymore, but a home. Empty83, as hard as it is, you need to talk to your wife about this. I found it nearly impossible to talk to my wife about this. Why, I don't know. Surely it should be easy to speak to the person closest to you in the world about sex and intimacy. But for some reason we were unable. Ask you wife what her feelings are, if she still loves you and wants you. Today, after the kids left to school, I said to my wife that I loved her, and that I wanted to have sex with her, and it hurt me that we didn't. She said it hurt her that we didn't as well. And that she wanted it too. We both cried. Now we have to make it happen. If anyone has suggestions for low impact sex techniques for a woman with back pain I would be very interested in receiving them. We tend, in our lives and in our loves, to assume far too much. Dialogue is hard. Especially when you are busy, or think you already know the answers, or fear the answers. Empty83, you already think she doesn't want you. Better to ask and know for sure, then live with the doubts and insecurities that not asking creates. I don't regret the wonderful lovers/loves I've met and enjoyed through this hobby. They have enriched me tremendously. And I don't think if I hadn't hobbied that my wife and I wouldn't have drifted apart. But, if one can drift apart, one can drift together again as well. The tide doesn't just go out, it comes back in. As Jade has rightly said though, only you know what is right. I thought of leaving my wife many times. But there was always caring and affection. We were best friends, if not lovers. We had great kids, and a life that was both full and empty at the same time. We got busy, and focused on that to fill our time. That seemed enough. But recently I've realized just how fundamentally lonely and unhappy that made me. Thanks to someone else, a friend and former lover, who has had tremendous impact on me, I've realized that I couldn't go back to that loneliness. That I had to either leave, or make an attempt at fixing our home, to make it something other than a cage. To speak, rather than assuming, and see where things went. I'm glad I did. Some overly emotional ramblings on a monday that seems full of possibilities that I didn't think existed a short while ago. Porthos

One week ago today I was just getting out of the hospital from being quite ill and having pneumonia and a body full of infection. My business partner's good friend had died from pneumonia the day before. My very young son had Menangitis at the time and in a different hospital, very scary ! and my mother was in a different hospital still from heart issues and my dad was in Winnipeg for cancer tests. Today I am happy and healthy and working and living life, and my son just went to the lake about an hour ago with my mom and dad for a day or two :) For me this is a highlight and my family is once again very fortunate. My heart goes out to those Cerbies that weren't so fortunate as of late and you are all in indeed in my thoughts because family means everything !!

My fav! Taken by my friend Mister C!!

I think the hardest part, honestly is holding on, to memories, to dreams, to love. To what WAS rather than what IS. And those are the things that keep us holding on. Some people are lucky enough the evolve, grow and change together. Though its not always the case. Some settle into comfort and are happy there even knowing its not the same. There are a million different ways relationships survive, flourish or end. Every one unique, because no matter what two people are never the same. I've always believed that it didn't matter, you always have the possibility of falling in love with someone again. I've seen it happen many times over, Because good or bad what you focus on, becomes true. All that though being said. I think ultimately our hearts know whats right. And I think we hum and haw for months longer than we need to when we already made a decision. Only to make the decision we had already made to begin with. Theres no right answer. Only the right answer for you. And All I can say is follow your heart....

There was a song in the 70's... and the chorus had one line that resonates: "the hardest part of love is letting go." Thirteen years ago I was at the point in my life when I had to make that decision. I loved the ex... and part of me still does in different ways, but with the benefit of hindsight I can see that she was doing to me and what I was doing to myself. We each lost who we were when we started the relationship and had become strangers living together. What we had left was the comfort of our possessions and the uneasy sense of belonging to a "couple" regardless of how distant we had become. I made the decision that I was not satisfied like that... and after discussing the status of our relationship and the need to improve it, she decided that she didn't want to try anymore. Of course at the time I was oblivious to the fact that she was in another "secret" relationship... so I left. It hurt like hell. It felt like I had thrown away years of my life and that I was never going to feel part of anything that unique ever again. Then it happened. I discovered "me" again... and dammit, I like "me." I discovered that I had buried "me" so that I could be part of "us"... and frankly,by the end of the relationship, "us" sucked. That was 13 years ago. I have been nearly married 3 times since... but in the end, I am a happier man than I have ever been in the past. My kids love "me." I love "me." My friends love "me." You only have one go at life my friend. No need to live it in misery. Be strong. Make smart choices. Most important, decide to live your life happy and as yourself. It won't come easy, but then again, nothing in life that is worth having does come easy. Be strong!

That is correct. In my case for sure..... but the ladies may feel differently however about a visit with me and how things clicked. I do however try and tend to get to know the lady fairly well thru chatting before we meet. Makes a big difference IMO.

I love love love COF...being on my knees in front of a man, looking up and seeing his face as he finishes all over me... love it. I also have a mirror at the foot of the bed that makes this even more purrfect :D

I have had success with dancing like a fool, soaking in the tub, petting kittens, making soup, seeing people, not seeing people, having naps, rearranging furniture, writing, stretching, walking, altering my clothes, meditating in a rainstorm, cooking brunch with friends, watching Buffy until I fall asleep, cold showers, mugs of hot tea, bowls of fruit, pretending not to give a damn, giving every damn until I have no damns left to give, howling at the moon, singing off-key, stretching (again, because it's so important), masturbation, saunas, swimming, spending time in nature, cooking something complicated, and hours and hours of CBC radio 2.

Sometimes I ponder whether a person can have a long lasting relationship with another human being that can span decades and still have the spark to it in terms of intimacy, and sex and everything else that goes with a long term relationship? I have travelled quite extensively, been in long relationships, been in love, lost loves and had my heart broken too many times to count. Yet, I haven't really seen the long lasting relationship that I felt was healthy and still vital. I think one has to remember that humans up until the 20th century didn't usually live past 35 or 40 years of age and marriages were not that long. Today, if you're lucky you can live up into your 80's and maybe beyond and could be married for half a century or more, but I don't know if humans are mentally equipped to be with one person that long? People change over time and usually a couple in my experience doesn't grow or change at the same rate and that is where problems can arise. How many of us have heard of a couple splitting up once the kids grew up and left home? How fun is it to be in a sex less or love less marriage as well? I don't have the answers for all of this, but I feel that if a person is in a relationship and their needs aren't being met and their partner doesn't want to work on the problems or issues then it is time to part ways as life can be too short. I have seen too many people unhappy who are sticking out a relationship because of what others will think of them and are just plain miserable. A person has to look out for themselves first because being miserable is a choice and a prison that nobody deserves to reside in.

I was noticing from what the women have been posting that todays eye candy is much more muscular compared to a few decades ago. It made me wonder if the "Hunks" of yesterday would still make it by todays standers. What do the women think? Examples:

Im just curious, since you say you book so far in advance, did you confirm the day prior or a few days prior? other than just texting for the location the day of? As personally to me, if you don't confirm the day prior we have no date.

Justine, I feel ya! I am by no means a spinner nor a bbw. Kinda 50's pinup ala Marilyn Munro. Curvaceous perhaps?

Nitty Gritty Dirt Band - Fishin' in the dark Think you will appreciate this one RG :)

You could only ever determine the "best" if you actually visited every lady that advertises in the ottawa forum. It should read who has been your favorite :). Not to sound contrary but this thread could be construed as a bit mean :)

I do but that information is only given out to the confirmed attendees two days prior to the social for privacy and discretion. Lexy

Turn on's Fun loving attitude Responsiveness Authenticity Imagination Pleasant scent Clean kitty (trim & taste) Turn off's Stink Bad humour Wham, bam, thanks man, see ya later! Interruptions I don't ask for much, but I like to feel like we both are enjoying ourselves.

Just a quick note... ALWAYS make sure you get the provider's permission before you post her pics in a thread!

There's a lot of wisdom in what's been posted here already and I don't have much to add except to say that there is enormous grace and blessing to be found in our relationships with people who have known and loved us for a long, long time. We all want passion. We yearn for transcendence. We want to feel as young and vital and sexy when we're in our 80s as we did, or should have, in our 20s. If so much life didn't get in the way, maybe we would! Love is a complex glory. I think we have considerable responsibility for those we love and for those who love us, too. The personal vulnerability and openness that's part of such intimacy is enormous and doesn't come easily to anyone. I think it's harder to achieve it the older we are, in many ways. I agree with MightyPen about finding a good counsellor to help you sort out what you feel and think, what you need and what's possible. I also agree with Porthos: you should talk to your wife about how you feel. Maybe the counsellor can help you do it if it seems like too big a task to do without some support. I would advise Porthos to take his wife away somewhere lovely on vacation. A romantic time in a beautiful setting can be very healing for all of us. Maybe something like this would help you, too, Empty83. And even if sex isn't possible, because of illness or inability, I think that what most of us want is genuine, intimate connection with another person who truly knows us. Sex is one way to achieve it, but it's not the only way. Long talks, especially when we really focus on listening intently, finding ways to be overt about recognizing the other person and celebrate their contribution to our lives every day--things like that can help strengthen the bonds that have weakened between us. Everyone wants to be loved. Most of all, we generally want to be loved by someone who knows us very well and loves us anyway. And by all means, spend some time with one of us, or even several of us. We're not going to create problems in your life. But be very careful. Right now would be a very bad time to fall in love with the wrong woman, see? Be playful, be engaging, try out something new, but when the encounter is over, close the door on it and walk away. Wishing you much peace, Samantha

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Kisses from my pug and snuggles from my kitties

Hi there Al...., based on your review i visited Nancy at 172. I thought she did a great job. I agree that Nancy at 177 is also great. Cheers.

Oh my...where to start!! Been here only for a month now and I'm gratefull to be a part of this great community! Everything was new to me...MSOG...DATY...BBBJ...felt kind of silly not knowing what it meant in the first text i got...but thanks to my BFF Carrie...she thought me so well! first thing she told me was...lets sign you up on cerb! She thought me how to search the forum and read some very interesting treads! so much info and so useful...and also...lots of laughs! Thank you to all the gents i have met here and the many more to come...and also the very suportive ladies! Bianca xoxox

First, my heart goes out to you. I've known a version of some, though not all, of the things you're describing. I'm truly sorry your life's path has brought you to this unhappy point. Second, it's VERY good that you're reaching out for advice, and CERB is a great community, but I don't think you can find what you really need here. You need to talk with someone, for a long time and in great detail, about: - what's going on, exactly - how you feel about all the various parts of it - you're wife's circumstances and what has brought her to this point and how capable and likely she is to change - and what's important to you You can find a bit of solace and comfort through CERB but really you need to talk to a professional about this. Find a therapist for yourself; this is what they're for, and they can help you work through your thoughts and feelings on this. It's commendable that you're looking for help in this difficult time. I just advise you to go one step further and consult someone who can help you properly in this terribly complicated situation. I can understand that for those who married young and built their whole lives as a couple, letting go of that vision and contemplating any other is deeply painful and terrifying. It challenges your entire perception of the world, your life, and your place in it. What I can tell you is that, unless you do something about it -- no it won't get better, it will just carry on, unfold into a crisis, or you'll become deadened and resigned to the situation. Don't let those things happen. With some professional gudance figure out what you really want next, and then make changes of some kind in line with what's really important to you. You're not alone. Good luck and heartfelt best wishes.

I have to be honest and say I have never been in that type of love. I have experienced love-for my family, friends, my fur babies-my dogs, but not a so. But clearly I can empathize and offer this. You are mourning the loss of something that once was, nothing stays the same. To sit and wait for something that once was is wasted time and energy. When in a relationship where feelings aren't being reciprocated feelings of resentment can arise making things worse and possibly add to her health issues and even damage yours. Move on, accept your friends back, fill your time and energy with positive things and people, these will help you heal and in time if she becomes more healthy and wants to share in a more balanced relationship with you, then if you are ready, you can accept her back. Hun, people change, life throws us unexpected hits. The true test is how you deal with those and you can still love her, but from a distance and you never know maybe there is another "truer" love out there just waiting for you:)Our hearts are delicate, but resilient, they do and can heal.

Snacks. :icon_wink: Goes something like, "Life is terrible, might as well have a snack" (A lot of snacks) Kim

I most assuredly believe in love and love in many different forms, variations, intensities and ways. I also believe love is a choice just as relationships are a choice because they take work. I believe people have to start being more honest with themselves and others as well as addressing personal issues like beliefs, learned behavior, ego etc. There are many people who don't know what they want in a relationship or they do but won't admit it or accept it. They settle for someone because they feel they should or it's time or they're scared to be alone. You can have feelings for someone or even love someone and not belong with that person. Sexual incompatibility will always lead to stress and frustration yet people are in these relationships every day. Different goals, ideas, needs and wants all impact. Relationships are work, even the good ones. You have to chose to work through problems instead of throwing in the towel, chose to change or step outside comfort zones. You must also realize when it's time to walk away. I believe if you want something bad enough, you WILL make it happen, good or bad. If you're honest with yourself about what you want, you're willing to take a risk, you have a clear focus, it will happen. I also believe in can happen more than once...at a time. Love is a wonderful uplifting thing that makes us feel wonderful. It's when the ego gets involved with its jealousy and control and ownership that things get fuzzy. I too believe that the SP/client relationship is intrinsically honest. Each partner knows what they are getting, there is communication and boundaries and these are discussed. I also believe within these boundaries real love can and does exist. Love doesn't care that it's a business transaction it only knows how the people feel and what value these interactions add to life. If one or both partners have an SO that doesn't detract from the honesty of the SP/Client relationship. Honesty means what you say is true, it does NOT mean full disclosure. If I have a secret that has no bearing on you, if I don't tell you, that doesn't make me dishonest. If you ask me and I lie, then I am dishonest. Love comes in many forms and if you're open to that, you can and will find it. If you're only looking for the "fireworks and lifetime" descriptors that seem to be societal norms, you are shutting yourself off from anything outside this which means some bliss may be passing you by. This is such a big topic with so many ins and outs but it boils down to "listen to your heart, follow your intuition and be open". Screw what everyone else says or does, this is YOUR life and you have to do what's right for you, including love.

It depend on your preference (age, background, looks, services, budget..) You may should take a look to the recommendation section for the girls who kept your attention! Good luck!

Every lady I have been with is a gem. To compare them to each other is impossible and unfair to all of them. Research, explore, choose and enjoy the company of the one you're with.

I have had 6 or 7 sp's in love with me. Once two of them were literally fighting each other for my attention. The worst part is when the alarm clock wakes me up!

The most simple course of action would be avoiding marriage entirely! ;)

Wow, thats fast apon us, I would love to join in the fun but cant till close to fall, Everyone, please support the lovely ladys and show your Eastern hospitality by attending, I'm sure its lots of work to put it together! Cheers all,

You never fail to have something up your sleeve for everyone. Whether boobies, bums, fripples or music, you give us our daily dose of sexy. You also support all our community members so for that, thanks and keep em coming!!

and one for the ladies..... it's a totally new kind of tampon!!! Vibe For Women from Analeigh Tipton

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Dogs have the ability to turn any moment into a better one. I seldom get down as I have to much to be thankful for but if I am feeling a little low I just think of how lucky I am to have what I have, watch my dogs play, or go shopping, that cures everything:)

In the immortal words of Red Green...... (closing line of each Handyman Corner segment) If the women don't find you handsome, they should at least find you handy. Posted via Mobile Device

Not many ladies can hold a candle to Kassi when it comes to a cute and pretty face.

On the plus side, at the rate he's been writing the books you'd have many many years left to live...

Stealers Wheel---Stuck In The Middle With You

Im here this evening until 9, last apt 8:30 I will also be back here tomorrow afternoon :smile: Kindly take a look at my different angles recommend MONDAY 6:00-9:00 WEDNESDAY 6:00-11:00 THURSDAY 3:30-11 FRIDAY 5:00-11:00 SUNDAY 10:00-4:00 more angles to view, but you have to come, of coarse

Thank you for visiting my personal profile. My companionship is well-suited for distinguished clientele who prefer confidentiality and privacy. You will find me a rare, special blend of exquisite beauty, integrity, and solid character. I am well-educated, articulate, genuinely kind, and possess a great sense of humor. I am also ultra-sophisticated, extremely feminine and posses a down to earth charm. I believe in treating people with dignity and respect, as this is very important to me. Taking extreme pride in my body and appearance, I am always impeccably groomed and dressed for any occasion. Most of all, I believe beauty comes from within then shines through on the outside. These qualities are paramount to a true exclusive luxury companion. I prefer to spend time with a very selective, mature man who enjoys a woman with an effervescent personality. I don't take anything for granted that life has to offer. I am a soft-spoken, passionate, and sensual woman who possesses a mixture of incredible sex appeal combined with a charismatic personality. I strive to put you at ease in any situation and this will be evident when you meet me. I enjoy intellectual conversation and laughter. If you are an affluent, distinguished gentleman who prefers a lady with a great attitude and demeanor, and who also enjoys quality over quantity, then I am for you. :spank: I like to kiss slowly, forgive quickly, laugh easily, and enjoy every moment to it's fullest. I have a very warm and caring personality that will make you feel like we've known each other for years. I have a college education and can appreciate intelligent conversation. I believe that intelligence, humor, wit, self-confidence (somewhat humbly so), resilience, strength of character, and a willingness to learn are incredibly important qualities to have and share so I tend to gravitate toward those who possess them as well. I would like to think that I'm the kind of woman who can awaken passion and stimulate the imagination. And I can only hope that others enjoy my company, as much as I will appreciate theirs. A: All it takes is one prick and its all over. HERE UNTIL 9pm:shehot:

Being naughty and safe both turns me on 100%...I enjoy what I do and my services show exactly that...I always do my best to provide the men I see with respect fun and good vibes ...great conversation a clean candlelit atmosphere and top notch fun!! And I welcome all to come experience what I have to offer and I'll let you be the judge... Thankyou all for your comments .... Much love to all and lots of naughty wet sloppy fun xo

I really respectfully disagree. Although the anti-sex work radfems are highly vocal, they are but a small subset of the Canadian population, the majority of whom don't think about prostitution at all. And even at the OCA, while bawdy house provision was struck down, the living off the avails law modified and the communicating law upheld, the decision to uphold the communicating law was not unanimous. Another strike against the prohibitionists is that although they are quite vocal, the judges are not fools. They have in the past two cases recognized the inferiority and flawed nature of anti-sex work "research." Given that the SCC already ruled that the federal government could not close down Insite (North America's only safe injection site), a similar controversial issue, I have a good feeling for the SCC decision on prostitution laws. Plus, this case is important for more than just the laws. It is important that sex workers be heard. This challenge has done more than just challenge the laws, it has brought the issue into the public spotlight and highlighted how damaging the laws are to sex workers. Most people probably never thought about prostitution before, but they will now.

There is a pervasive perception in this industry that rate=quality. The lower the rate, the lower the quality of the woman behind it and the experience you will receive. To this I say, take your judgments and misconceptions and ***** them. Until you meet someone and interact with them, you will never know the quality of them so to make the above statement is judgment clear and simple. Personally, a rate reflects more than just the quality of the encounter because like any business, there are more things taken into account than the service provided. There is the space used for said services, how said services are presented, bells and whistles that accompany the service, the availability of the service and the service itself. I do not consider myself any less or any more quality than anyone else and to others, that is a subjective thing anyway. You could pay $50 or $500 yet if you don't connect with the person, that impacts the value you believe you received. Rates are personal to each individual and are set based on their own criteria and what the market will bear. Are rates set based on how each individual views themselves and the worth they believe they are bringing to the table? For some people, yes. This does not mean for everyone. Some offer lower rates due to the place they live and work. This is a business and as such, you need to be in the business to make money. If you're spending out more on business related items and not making anything, this is not a good business model. All I'm saying is that just as there are many individual providers with individual personalities, likes, dislikes, turn on's, turn off's, so are there reasons behind rates. Just as the value and quality of a hobbyist shouldn't be based on how big his wallet is, SP's shouldn't be judged on how much they charge, high or low. I know people won't change unless they chose to, this is just a "food for thought" topic because I for one, am not cheap or lower quality. It also works on the other foot as well, SP's shouldn't be judged if their rate is higher. They shouldn't be classified as a greedy or a snooty b**ch. Lower rates shouldn't make higher rates look bad. These are all judgments and perceptions that we are in control of. We CHOSE to make these comments that then create tension and negativity. Think about it...maybe.

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1. Put on music and dance my blues away 2. Candlelit bubble bath 3. Clean with the music on 4. Go for a walk or run listening to music 5. Write my thoughts down and then BBQ the paper to rid the negativity 6. Hug and hold my sons tight, they are great cuddlers and always make me never go a day without smiling 7. Do something special for myself 8. Take a day off for me time 9. Visit with family and/or friends 10. Have a glass of white wine and read a book

I thought that you may find this cute and interesting. did you know that there are also seeing eye horses. Check out this site: http://www.guidehorse.org/ They are so cute :)

I've seen two, and although they were very different, it would be impossible for me to choose one over the other. What they shared was that both were so enthusiastic, gorgeous, and nice ladies, so I always found my time with these ladies an amazing privilege and wonderful delight. But out of the two, only one is in Ottawa, (the other is in Toronto), so I don't mind giving out her name. The fabulous Peachy. If you see her, be a gentleman and have the utmost respect for her.

I've had great experiences with 90% of the women I have met here. Most of them have been great in different ways. Each woman is different and has special skills. But they all enjoy sex and had the desire to treat me like a king. And each one I consider a friend and a special memory. And each one I would like meet again. But it may take a while, but I will do my best to see most of them again :) They are each the best in their own way :) because they make me happy and loved :)