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I've been following this site for a long time now, and it is amazing how often the same, issues, concerns and complaints come up. Things that should be obvious often are not. I thought it might help if I compiled a summery of some of the more common concerns for the newbie section. Hopefully it will help get some of the new gents to the hobby off on the right foot. There may be some here that don't apply to all people or situations, but these are some of the more common ones I have seen over the years: 1. Do your homework first. Nobody likes to have to spend time writing out answers to questions they have already provided answers for on their website or ad. 2. Be respectful during the initial contact. Being abrupt or rude is definitely a bad start. 3. Don't be too explicit. The laws are such that everyone is restricted in what can be said. Some are more careful than others with this, but remember that you are simply compensating for her time. That's all. Asking for anything more specific will often get you no reply at all. 4. Don't haggle. This is not a flea market. Nothing kills the mood faster than telling someone that they are worth less than they think they are. If she is out of your price range, move on politely. 5. If you have to cancel, let her know ASAP. Life sometimes gets in the way of the best laid plans. Their time is their source of income and they have promised some of it to you. At least give them some notice if you won't be able to make it. If you can't give notice, consider offering to compensate her. It has already cost her the time, whether or not you were there. (E-transfers can make this super easy.) ....And just not showing up without letting her know at all is so incredibly disrespectful and uncool. (and a sure way to get yourself black listed.) Just don't do it. 6. If you are sick, cancel. Nobody wants your illness. (But see number 5) 7. Hygiene -It shocks me how often this one comes up. It is for your own benefit to not have her repulsed during your time together. Take a shower and brush your teeth as close to the appointment as possible. If you can't, then ask if she has shower facilities. Many do. (But remember it is on your time.) oh... and wear deodorant! 8. If she asks you to take a shower before hand.... take one. It means one of two things. a) She has a policy that all clients take one, or b) you smell. Either way, it is the same answer: Take the shower if she asks. 9. Respect her time. This means being on time, but not early. Not always easy to be precise, but do what you can. If you are late, don't expect that she will let you stay later to make up for it. Also, don't expect her to be ready early just because you showed up early. Remember, you have an appointment. Respecting her time also means leaving when your time is up without having to be asked over and over. 10. Have the envelope ready at the beginning of the date. Don't make her ask. It kills the mood. I just place it on the dresser or table as I walk in. They can address it or not as they see fit. Of course, all of these points can be summed up with two words: "show respect". If you use that as a guideline, you can't go wrong. I know there are some points that I have missed and some that not everyone will agree with. Remember, this isn't my list. It is a compilation of the most common concerns I have seen since I started following the site. Feel free to add to it if I have missed any.

I had the pleasure of meeting Serena a couple of weeks ago and I am looking forward to seeing her again. The ad and photos are legit and accurate. She was easy to get a hold of and, as she says in the ad, is tiny, very cute and very friendly. I really enjoyed my visit.

Hello Gentlemen, I am available Today at a private location in Ottawa (south area-15 min. from downtown) from 10am-9pm. I am an attractive elegant lady who loves her work and enjoys making new friends! Please identify yourself with your name/handle when contacting me . Blocked numbers will be ignored . Call/Text 613.809.2610 http://www.taliaciarra.com

I just got a phone call and did not answer because I am not available (in the ad I posted 2 or 3 days ago it said not available past 9pm and it is 3:30am now lol). He left me a voice mail so I listened to it and he said(in a not so nice tone of voice may I ad) 'call me back if you wanna make money'. Um, ya right. No thanks! Another thing I have been getting more of is getting asked 'what do I do for" or will I do this or that for $40-$50$60. Now I just want to say that it is perfectly fine that some ladies choose to do services for that amount! But, when it clearly says right in my ad that you must be kind and respectful when contacting me in order to see me because I am picky over whom I spend my time with, AND I give my donation rates(which I was doing lower 'special rates' which were beyond reasonable considering how amazing I am :)), it should be a clear indicator that it probably isn't a good idea to try to bargain with me. It has been discussed many times, but again, if someone doesn't have the right amount kindly say thank you for your time, or even let her know politely, and then either see her when you do or don't see her at all. I keep track of every. single. phone call. and. text. If you try and bring down my price 6 times and then contact me when you finally give in and have the right donation amount, I won't even be interested in seeing you any more because it is just disrespectful to negotiate a girls set donations and I know you will be bitter and probably feel entitled, or worse, you might show up with less than what is required and expect me to 'let it slide'. I understand to someone that is broke a girls prices may seen expensive, but there are many, many gentleman that will be MORE than happy to pay and even tip at the end. I still find it amusing how a guy with $50 thinks it is okay to contact me, a girl he found on a paid companion site, and expect to see me for 30-60mins. Being a 'hobbyist' isn't the right hobby if you can't afford it, there is POF or tinder for hook ups if that is the case. lol

A fun thing to try and hey February has only 29 days. http://complaintrestraint.com/ Peace MG

Good Day, I like to start with a warm welcome, maybe a nice hot shower together, a little strip tease, next moving into a strong yet soothing massage, until you cant take it and you need me to... Oh, yes well you will have to come find out what these magic hands and mouth can do for you. You WILL leave feeling refreshed and satisfied! Call anytime for details thats only way to get my attention~613-413-9195 Donations start @80/15mins 120hh~200HR specials for the week. I am waiting for you, Vienna xo

Hope you like what you read ! http://www.chantallovewebselfnet-07.webself.net/ Welcome to your most intimate fantasy come true. I am a young exotic french lady best described as having moist lips, sensuous skin, a tantalizing figure....and oh yes... an ass to die for! My sole ambition is to make you smile and to be the best part of your day. I am drug, alcohol and tattoo free and best of all offer a slow, relaxing service. Your comfort is assured. I don't watch the clock. My hidden hideaway is in Ottawa, conveniently located only 10 minutes from Gatineau. My normal hours are Monday to Friday from 9:00 to 6;00 pm. I am also available on the occassional Saturday. Please feel free to contact me (phone or text) at 1-819-930-4158. Home 613-237-6735 Sorry that I can't guarantee that once is enough...but I can guarantee that YOUR PLEASURE IS MY PLEASURE xo I have 5 options. 1/2 h full service 1 h 1 h Royal Treat 90 min couple 1h All the special you can do it 1 time 2 time or 3 times again and again its ok you just need to stay in your time. with the + 20 you can have the first part of the service with no protection ( lips ) to go inside always protection. The Royal Treat includ a shower together + something good in the shower + a nice massage + a full service + I will play with my toy + will try to make you score again mmm. To spend time with me and be happy ! Hope to have the chance to make you fell my talent. Let me know when you will arrive so I can make your reservation. Each time you have a session with me you will have a coupon and on next monday you will see a winning # and if you have the same # you will have a free session. I think its better then a free cofee lol. see you soon xx PLEASE NO NEGOCIATION ON THE PRICES . PS: Im French. INCALL ONLY!

tongue firmly in cheek... why the over 35 crowd gets the girl.... 1. Multiple shots on goal means a three day booking 2. We are extraordinarily grateful that someone will even stay in the same room as us when we are naked. 3. Nap time is on the clock. 4. Cuddle time may just be the best we can do. 5. Less likely to stalk, we barely even remember where we live. 6. While we remember to bring the envelope, we might not remember why we came. 7. We can help with history assignments in post secondary courses. We were there when it all happened. 8. Arthritis prevents us from being too grabby.

There are probably a lot of answers to this problem on here already, but I thought I would bring this up in a new thread. Some people do not know the lengths that providers go through to make themselves available for you. 1. we have a profile and/or a website that requires maintenance to keep up to date, taking up some of our time. 2. we have ads that we place elsewhere so that we have a variety of avenues in which you can communicate with us, which also require maintenance. 3. we spend many hours of a week just answering texts, phone calls and emails to your inquiries. 4. we keep ourselves fit, meaning we are spending time working out, whether that be at home, or going to a gym. 5. beauty is not instant, so we take the time to have manicured nails, hairstyles, spending time shopping for just the right products and articles of clothing. 6. maintenance of our locations, whether they be where we live or a place we rent just for these occasions. (cleaning services are not free, or we do it ourselves, meaning more hours in a week dedicated to what we provide) 7. we purchase professional photography so that we have nice pictures to display for your pleasure. 8. we ask for a little bit of notice to prepare for your date, as we all have a life outside of this. 9. communication and understanding on our part for discretion is very important to both gentlemen and the provider. 10. we have almost zero information about you coming to us, but we are expected to reveal all about ourselves. So why in the hell is it so difficult to let us know when you can't make it to a booking? We provide you with our addresses, our time and our efforts to be able to entertain you at your request. I have noticed over the last several months that more and more bookings are no more than a ploy to gain access to our whereabouts and have nothing to do with actually wanting to see us. Why is that? Do guys take pleasure in making us run around so that we can accommodate you when you have no intention of showing up? Is it a thrill that you get from the fact that we are getting ready for you and you are just sitting back at home kicking back on the sofa watching tv? I don't know about other providers, but I spend an average of 12 hours a week just answering twitter and emails. I go to the gym everyday for an hour at least. I spend to keep my appearance up. I provide a nice place to entertain you (at a cost). I take the time to confirm and/or reschedule so that it can fit into your schedule (with no regard to my own schedule). So why can't you follow through if you have made a commitment to see me? I find it very inconsiderate and disrespectful when someone makes a booking and then just doesn't bother to show up or let me know they can't make it. All it takes is a little effort on the guys part to do this. Just look at the efforts that the girls are putting out there. When a booking is made and confirmed, we do not book another person for that time. It is made for you. Not for a bunch of guys and going to whatever one shows up first. I do know that perhaps traffic can be bad, accidents, s/o suddenly appears, but you can always go to a bathroom/hallway/garage and let us know you can't make it. Guys make a big stink when providers don't show up, sometimes it is for the same reasons above, bad traffic, stuck somewhere, meetings that go over time at work, but we take the time to let you know we are running late, why can't you show us the same courtesy? For some providers, this is their livelihood, it is how they survive. For others it is a fun side business, but nonetheless, would it kill you to let us know? There is nothing more frustrating to me than to go to a restaurant somewhere and find that I can't get in, it's why I make a reservation! If you are going to make a reservation with us, please have the courtesy to let us know asap if you are not able to make it. We spend hours to prepare for you, take a minute to tell us. I have had some wonderful encounters from the gentlemen on Lyla, and from other sites, but also some frustrating ones that pull this crap. Be courteous to us, we are to you. My rant after a very frustrating 2 weeks.

I decided on a whim to contact Sophie Lee after seeing her ads, and in particular her photos. I am so glad I did. She is in town from Montreal for a short visit. She replied promptly to my emails. No problem at all setting up our date. The location was clean, easy to find and centrally located. Parking was not an issue either. She greeted me at the door, wearing a sexy blue negligee (my request) and Wow!; What a strikingly beautiful lady. Candles were lit, and the mood was set. She is quite tall (The heals added to the effect) which being tall myself just made me melt. Legs for miles, and a beautiful face. Everything in between is spectacular too. I won't go into too many other details except that she is quite fit and quite flexible. Those years in gymnastics were not wasted ;) She is bright and outgoing, well spoken and easy to talk to. She put me instantly at ease. I could have spent the whole day with her, but alas I had to pry myself out of there. Thank you Sophie for brightening up my day. I'll be keeping an eye out for your return.

Hi everyone, I have been to TO before but have never advertised my visits as the times I have gone was to see specific gents I was already acquainted with. My next trip will be the first time that I announce a visit and meet new people. TO being so vast, I was wondering what the best areas would be for my venue, so I decided what better what then to ask? I would be staying in either a hotel or apartment that rents by the week. When I visit Ottawa I usually try to stay in an area of downtown that is close to everything but still has amply parking available. (Im assuming this is too much to ask for TO?) As far as TO goes, I'm not sure what is best; downtown? outside of downtown? north, east, south, west of downtown? I welcome the opinions of both hobbyists and SPs alike. Hobbyists telling me what is most convenient for them and SPs who are willing to share info, offering the areas that served them best in all aspects. Thanking you all in advance for any insight you may share. Have a great day!!!

Resurrecting a thread from 2011. Care to clarify your point?

A whole pile of leftovers mixed with pasta and baked in a casserole with a cheese and breadcrumb topping! I am the queen of reinventing leftovers! Lol

Hey I am hosting today today until 6pm and as well as tomorrow. I am available on the southside of Fredericton in a private location. My rates start at 140 for half hour and 200 for an hour. If you want to get in contact send me a PM or an email :)

I noticed this a lot when I tour. I always put my phone on silent upon going to sleep and would wake up to like 10-15 texts. Mostly "time wasters".

Having my flight delayed, causing me to miss my connection and then having my replacement flight be delayed....

Sitting in yet another airport awaiting my again delayed flight....

Good morning, I am leaving tomorrow afternoon, but I still have one great day left here in Ottawa, and I couldn't think of a better way to spend it then with you! One thing I would like to mention firstly is, if you have any special requests please don't be shy to ask. I want our time together to be something you will never forget, and if there is a way to make it even more special I would be more then happy to accommodate, if possible. These are some thing we could do today....... Trying new things, teaching you new things and you teaching me new things. Role play, submissive, dominant....... all things that I love. I am sensual, and seductive; but I know when it's time to get a little naughty, and rough. I will give you everything. Even a very passionate head to toe rub. What could make this any better you ask?...... Well, maybe it's the way I make you fell sooooo comfortable from the moment we meet. It will be like we have known each other for years, or maybe it's that my personality will leave you amazed. You'll know that I'm honest, sincere, and that you have never met anyone like me before. You'll never want to leave. I'm staying downtown at an upscale and discrete location. To arrange a date please email me at [email protected] To learn more about me please either ask me, or check out my website http://www.carleychase.com I hope your day is wonderful, and looking forward to seeing you! Lots of love always Carley xox

Hi! I'm excited to be visiting Ottawa (near downtown) today Wed (3rd) from the late afternoon, until noon/1pm on either Friday or Sat (5/6th). If you'd like to see me between Friday afternoon and noon Saturday, please try to let me know by Friday morning. As always, I'll be in a discreet, smoke-free location with ample street & lot parking available. During my visit, both day time and night sessions are available. (Late night visits by advance booking only) Also, I'm an early bird so don't be shy if early mornings are a good time for you (some advance notice needed, unless PJs, bleary eyes and a teddy bear being dragged by his paw is your thing) It never hurts to ask though =-) For those of you I have yet the pleasure of meeting, here's a bit more about myself. I'm someone who is open-minded & enjoys romance as well as the wild loss of control where chemistry causes a lack of inhibitions and even for those who are more daring... the darker world of fetish, bdsm, role playing & domination etc. I'm a slim & athletic but curvy 5'7, (5'11 with heels) 36D 24 34 with very long (real) dark hair and big blue/green eyes. I invite you to visit my profile to learn more about me and see some of my pix. I just added a bunch of new ones! Planning ahead is recommended but not necessary. I am available for over-night companionship and dinner dates (obviously we'd have to plan ahead for that lol) as well.I'm educated, worldly, well cultured, unassuming and have eclectic taste in everything from music to hobbies to philosophy. I think versatility is the spice of life. So I can be soft and delicate, wild and eager to please, impish and Fun or assertive, domineering and nasty. I'm a passionate person and not afraid to dive deep into someone I am with.. So don't be shy to tell me what mood you are in and I can tap into that part of my psyche and have a great time doing it. =) I LOVE getting all dressed up and requests are more than welcome. I have a vast array of outfits, (school girl, sexy stripper, romantic lingerie & domina (PVC,Latex etc), regular/secretary) as well as tools for the more daring of adventurers. I aim to please because I want to see you again when I next visit. Chez moi $240h $160hh (multiple hours work on declining scale. Benefits to on-going relationship/frequent visits.) 2hr $440 3hr $600 Please contact me if interested in Overnights, 24hr and Multi-Day-Get-Away packages. Chez vous $290h (within reasonable distance) For Dom, Fetish & BDSM, please see below. Women and Couples also, very very welcome (additional contribution for additional companion Fetishes, BDSM and/or domination, are by hobbyist specific request only and further contributions may or may not be requested, depending on several factors. IE the nature of the subject, frequency of visits, appointment length, number of extra specialties within one appointment and so on. I pride myself on being very fair to both of us in my pricing. For those who are interested in such ventures; I am very well versed in this world and have a great selection of equipment/toys/attire etc. As for fetishes, many have been surprised that I was the one girl who actually heard of "it" before. =) To see what others have to say about the time they've spent with me, please check out my recos via the link below. http://www.lyla.com/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=53018 And don't forget you can check out my profile for pics and a bit more about me. My face, Tattoos & piercings are hidden for discretion's sake but photos are otherwise unaltered. Please allow a few days for reply via PM. Text is best for prompt reply.. Please note, nowhere near all my interests are listed here. Im very versatile and um... creative *giggle* No private numbers please. Hope to hear from you soon! Kisses, JessyCeleste 613-793-4183

CR = Champagne Room

Snowman homicide It took me a bit to get it. Lol

That's awesome! I know what you mean, though... For me, an appointment is more about the entire experience and really enjoying a woman's company. I remember there was a lady who I shared a true bond with some years back; I believe she's since left the industry - there were times when we'd just cuddle for a few hours and watch a movie and talk.... great times, and much more than just the physical aspect.

Just met her this afternoon. One word.........YES! Great from beginning to end. Very laid back and smelled great. Very pretty, young and knew what she was doing. I was a little nervous but she made me feel relaxed. She seems to have a playful side that might be explored once She gets to know you better. She does not book a lot but if you get the chance definitely take it. Plan on hopefully being a regular. Two big thumbs up!

Hi!! <3 My site under construction: http://www.vipchristina4u.com (New videos and more to come soon!) I will be available for incall and outcall from my hotel downtown Halifax Monday Feb 8 until Friday Feb 12 at noon, before making my way to New Brunswick! My schedule: Monday Feb 8 (Early evening onwards, after I check in - In/Out) Tuesday Feb 9 (Flexible Times - In from Downtown Halifax hotel and Outs) Wednesday Feb 10 (Flexible Times - In from Downtown Halifax hotel and Outs) Thursday Feb 11 (Flexible Tmes - In from Downtown Halifax hotel and Outs) Friday Feb 12 (MORNING ONLY, before I check out - In from Downtown Halifax hotel and Outs) My rates (For single dates or for couples): 120hh 200hr 300-90 min 350-2hrs (I charge for time of our date only! No "extra" fees or whatever... everything included =)) I'm 5'10, 23, in shape, very small waist and large hips - hourglass with a bit of a booty LOL. I have long platinum blonde hair, pretty face, always groomed nails and try to keep a tan on my lightly freckled body! 36DD-24-38, enhanced but told I'm very natural feeling (I was originally a full C) I'm very open-minded, happy and friendly! I enjoy playing as much as I do talking and cuddling! If things get really wild I tend to be submissive and let you drive. I guess we can't list specific things anymore, but I am open to most safe activities and willing to try a lot of things =) I have a lot of great reviews (Thank You <3 <3 <3) on here if you want to read them first. http://www.lyla.com/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=197925 http://lyla.com/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=5160 http://www.lyla.com/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=9828 PM me or email me [email protected] if you want to setup a date! =) <3 Kisses, Christina <3 xoxo

Happy Birthday To You !

Happy Birthday Toine Enjoy your special day RG

Happy Birthday Toine! Xoxo

Hello gentlemen I will be hosting today in Kanata just off of eagleson From 1030-7pm I ask a donation of 80-15m 150-30 220 hour Please text or call 6138890709

Happy Birthday, toine. Thanks for all the great pics!

Happy Birthday Handsome Xox

I was just thinking that today was your birthday! Have a great one, and a satisfying year ahead!

Happy Birthday Toine I hope you have a great day

Happy Birthday Toine.... May your day be wonderful....

It still amazes me that this actually happens. I can't imagine booking an appointment and just not showing up. It shows a total lack of respect for other people. Life does sometimes throw you curve balls, but it would be inconceivable not to at least call if I had to cancel. I have also been stood up for dates by a couple of different ladies over the years. On two different occasions, I showed up at the designated hotel and texted as planned, and nothing. Radio silence. No explanation, no apology. Needless to say I didn't try to book with either lady again. As far as being on time goes, I don't mind waiting 5 extra minutes if that's all it actually is. One time 5 minutes turned out to actually be 30 minutes, while I tried to inconspicuously wait in the lobby. Then I was actually told that the reason was that the gentleman before me was late arriving so his time went over. (First of all, not my problem, I was on time. Second of all......take a breath between appointments!) I always arrive at the location a bit early to allow for traffic, etc, although I never contact her until the designated time. I like specific instructions as it takes away the guesswork. I don't want her pissed off at me before we even get started. ;) A little respect goes a long way.

Hey gentlemen I'm Megan new to lyla! I'll be visiting Halifax, Truro and Sydney in February. I'm a petite blonde 5'0, 34B, 115lbs with soft blonde hair. I love what I do and would love to see what the gentlemen of Nova Scotia have to offer a young lady like me :) please visit my personal page or feel free to text or call with tour dates (613)604-6106 Megan

Yeah unfortunately sad to say I have gone through this numerous times as well as alot of other ladies...it is a coward move and very distasteful As far as I am concerned anyone that has to post lies about someone on line obviously has issues they need to work on Wether it be another SP or a client with a problem .... CL has went down hill and that's sad because at one point it was a decent place I have learned the best way to deal with that type of bs is to not entertain it and continue on with your life ... those who know you would know the truth Misery loves company

Instead of saying to the lady "do you do....?" Why not just say what it is you are interested in and asking if she would be interested in accommodating you? And if that is just too much like asking for a 'menu' why not just state your interests and see how she takes the conversation. .... Now that I think about it, sometimes just yammering on about what interests you can be viewed as just wasting time instead of you being taken seriously about your preferences. I guess there are sometimes you will just have to except what a lady interprets to be the best experience, with maybe not a total fulfillment of your wishes. Until you find your gem ;)

I will speak for myself, as not everyone feels the same way. I wrote a blog once about feeling like a McDonalds drive thru. "I'd like a ... And ... And ... And ..." "Would you like to supersize your order?, drive to the first window please." The funny thing is, what they want is what I love, but I felt like I was being broken down into a sum of parts and not looking at the whole experience. So, when the laws changed, I decided to take control of how communication was done. It's not that I have an issue with LE, but I finally have the ability to determine what is and is not acceptable. Yes, I loose out on some invitations, but they are the ones I don't really want to meet. Personally, I would approach it with first asking if she would like to have a discussion about how you envision your encounter. That is completely different then someone texting me out of no where saying I want X, y, and z. It can be a bit of a shock when I'm expecting "hello, my name is ..., how are you doing", vs "I want X, y , z. So, if you open the communication first, ask if she is interested in a discussion, you will find that she might be open to the discussion. Good luck.

You might list more details such ethnicity, body type, personality, of course donation that you are willing to contribute! So we can suggest someone that meets your taste :)

To clarify a few things, anyone I end up having a date with has had at least 5-10 emails in exchange with me - so we can get to know one another (nothing was off on his communication and he was forth coming via email). When one is nervous they usually are non-forth coming in emails as well as in person. I asked him the questions I ask anyone (not like i asked of this address and SIN number) and have for almost all my time in this business. Ive dealt with nervous people in the past and non have ever pulled this type of BS behaviour. He knew all too well where my hotel was as when we confirmed on the phone I made sure he knew where I was, where to park and where the entrance is. There is only one of the chain brand of hotel I was staying at and the only one at the intersection - so I'm sorry I don't buy I'm lost when he texted ( 15mins early and when I asked where he was parked it was a 5mins walk (even if he had to walk up the stairs, 8min max) As for the housekeeper, she was 3 doors down and in her own world, he claims because she went from her cart into the room (the one she was cleaning) that is must be a sting. Im sorry you watch way to much A & E. People come and go into hotel hallways and rooms all day long, no one pays attention to much unless you bring it on yourself. Im clear on my site and in my ads that we will be communicating before and during our date (after is up to you). Considering what i ask to screen is more invasive than what i ask in person, I don't buy nerves with this guy. (plus the first time I've had someone say my questions were too personal) Someone who goes through as much communication with a companion as he did, should have some butterflies as we all do on a first date. Once inside the suite that is well lit with open doors and the person they booked standing in front of them after they are hugged should in most cases be able to breathe a sigh of relief. I even offered for him to look in the close or dresser if that would he help him relax to show I was "alone" and not part of a sting. From my time in this biz, newbies have a way they act and this guy was no newbie he played my screening to be a douche. Im willing to bet that every SP he has booked he has played the same stunt with - after much thought I know when I have been played. I get nerves and respect they do happen, but people serious about a date generally relax at some point, laugh and have fun. This was not the case.

I'm typically that chick that does in fact have a double life. Not like a cheating kind of way.My partner is aware and totally supportive of my lifestyle choice. For some reason, everyone sees through it. No matter the back story or double alias. It's as if I have a big sign on my head "Lady of the night". Some of my close friends, who are supportive of my lifestyle, say it's the way I walk or the way I dress. I don't dress like that chick from Pretty Woman.... so I thiiink it's probably not my clothes.Maybe it's my care free attitude and bubbly ways? I think I'm generally a quirky type of person. I don't understand how people have been able to literally just look at me and know there is something under there. Maybe I can't lie subconsciously? I have even had a lady who reads cards look at me after she put out the cards. She told me that I offer companionship. I offer it door to door. This was when I was in Ottawa only offering outcalls. It threw me back. Maybe EVERYONE is on BP. That has to be it. Am I the only one that feels this way? Excuse my spiel. I do that a lot.

There was an app before that is similar to a "little black book" allowed you to keep all thee information about a person you could want to and it would link with google calendar for the appointments side of it. I have never used it but a friend did. The reason she used it was that it was an encrypted app, all data stored in it was separate from the rest of the contacts and such. And it required a password/code to access it. I am sure that it or something similar would still be available, I know that she had to pay for it but it was only a couple bucks. Try searching for little black book and you might find something.

Today a man hit my car. I could tell by the look on his face he was expecting me to start screaming at him. There was a little tiny mark but nothing to get mad about. I could see his expression change for the best when I reacted the way I did. This made me think........... .... I am starting this thread in hopes that we can create a positive vibe. Not only virtually but in our every day to day life................... This thread is for, "A Good Deed Of The Day". It can be helping an elderly lady with her groceries or doing something special for someone with out them knowing. Just about anything that sends a good vibe for the day! So I will start.............. ************************************************************ I reacted kindly in a situation that typically someone would be angry in. By reacting this way, I brightened someone elses day!

So today my pay it forward was... I was out doing my grocery shopping and decided today was a good day to pick up my annual Turkey dinner donation for a family in need. The response I got for families in need this year was overwhelming and I most definitely will be picking up some more turkeys to help some more of this families.

Where do you buy yours?! I would love to buy in bulk but I've never found a place to do so!

I always have a aerosol can of arrid deodorant for clients that I buy at WalMart for under $3 and doesn't have a scent to it. Actually that's what I use for myself. Posted via Mobile Device

I found this list on a tumblr site (http://free-speech4sexworkers.tumblr.com/.) It is quite an exhaustive list of sexwork reference resources including biographies, Sociology texts, documentaries, how-to guides, novels, magazines, movies, TV shows, etc. I thought it would be worthwhile to post here. Here is the URL for the list: http://free-speech4sexworkers.tumblr.com/post/112850462653/swer-media-club

I know sometimes it's hard to read tone in a post, so my post below is being written as an attempt to explain one point-of-view for not answering blocked numbers, it's not written in any confrontational way, and definitely not an 'I'm right, you're wrong' or anything like that. A few months back I posted a thread about one-word texts saying 'Hi'. I thought they were rude - and from the responses I received, I realized I was wrong. Things aren't always the way you think they are. I am truly sorry if some people think we're being rude by not answering blocked numbers - for me, it's part of keeping myself sane in this business, and it's not rude at all. Before I briefly retired from SP-ing and became and MA for a while, I used to answer blocked numbers. Because, as has been pointed out, sometimes men block their number because they are calling for some more info and don't yet want to give our their number. But I'll tell you what my experience was by answering those calls. For the info calls, after I answered the questions, the call would go one of three ways: the gent would accept the info, and decide to call back to book with an unblocked number. This was the least common result. The more common was to either try and convince me to give him my location info on the blocked number, and the second most common was for me to realize the man was jerking off on the other end of the line, no intention to actually book. Websites like cerb show us the wonderful side of this business; it helps you gentlemen to see how many other gentlemen there are that take part in this hobby. So it's easy to think it's simply gentlemen calling for info and hiding their privacy - but sadly, in reality, most of the time the people hiding behind those blocked numbers are not gentlemen: they are creeps. So, about half the time when I answered a blocked number, it went one of the three ways I mentioned above. The other half of the time... well honestly, the other half of the time I would receive demoralizing, and utterly deflating cruelty. I'd answer blocked numbers and have teenagers making prank phone calls. I'd have men breathing in my ears. I'd have people scream "WHORE!" when I answered. I'd have the sound of men jerking off. I'd have people calling with disgusting - and I mean DISGUSTING - requests. These calls would sometimes reduce me to tears. It was very hard to pick back up and put a smile on my face. The cruelty that can exist out there is staggering, and in my experience, these cruel assholes hide behind a blocked number. They're not going to expose themselves when they make these kind of calls. I've posted in the past about the main reason I left being an SP for a while, and went to an MA, but the phone calls are a big part of it as well. WHen I was an MA, there was someone else taking the calls. I didn't have to expose myself to those creeps. Yes, that also meant I didn't get to communicate with the true gentlemen out there. But my brain needed that break for a while. When I was able to come back, I set myself some limits in order to keep myself safe, and sane, in the business. And one of those things was to never, ever, answer a blocked number. And by doing that, I've almost eliminated those cruel, prank phone calls. So I do hope you can understand that it's not at all being rude by not answering those calls. But in this business, we need to set up barriers in order to stay safe, and for me at least, this is one of the things I do.

Well all I can say Carley, you have brighten my day by posting this thread :) it is so nice to hear from you. :) ***************************************************** This is a very true story , happened here in Ottawa a SP very recently checking in at a hotel using a prepaid Visa Card did not have enough to cover the additional 50 dollar security deposit. For what ever reason they would not accept cash,only a credit card. I drove downtown to help her out and put the 50 dollar security deposit on my Visa. She was for ever grateful and there was no extra play time for me, in fact I was to be at a dinner function,I just pushed the dinner to a later start time to help her out. It put a smile on my face, for helping out someone in need. We met the next morning as planned I had no higher expectations nor looking for a discount. I was told that I was a very sweet and caring man, and that my friends is how you establish a good rapport with women. *****************************************************************

Thanks all for taking the time to provide your own perspective on this, some very interesting reads in this thread. I hadn't even thought of the "younger brother" reason which makes a heckuva lot of sense :)