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I agree , especially the bold text. This is modern society in a nutshell. We have become lazy in everything we do and along with the laziness is impatience. It's like a bunch of adhd 4 year olds who want everything right now and are clueless about anything outside their aura. As for myself, I love a well thought out ad or website that shows me more than just a few sexy pics and the basics in simplified terms. That may be just me though. I'm not sure. Regardless of how it's written, it would serve us all well to take the time to read before we pick up the phone and start texting. I understand that the LG is hard and wants to play but we still have a brain somewhere, don't we?

Well, for me, I don't see things changing at all or at least, very little. I already don't talk about services, rates etc. on texts and emails. I also only deal with established reputable providers. I use boards like this one and CAF regularly so I know who these ladies are to some degree and then there are the ladies that I have repeat business with. We will figure it out pretty easily. As the case is now, discretion is key. I do understand those that are afraid of the criminal record part. If you are in a job that requires a certain amount of discretion and possible foreign travel, that could be problematic for sure. The thing there is by using the tools we have already described, the odds of actually being arrested and charged go down dramatically. L.E. are not going to be going out looking for the one guy visiting one lady. They don't have the time, resources or the inclination to do so. Now the fool who is trolling the backstreets looking for streetwalkers is another story. The biggest problem I am having with the discussion is the completely over-the-top paranoia that seems to be arising from some. "The cops will assign an officer to sit at a desk and monitor e-mails all day and radio out each time there is a meeting set up" was one I read a while back. That is not going to happen, they have much bigger fish to fry. Or another was "they will park outside a known providers incall location and harass every guy that goes in". I mean really, that is just silly. A 20 unit condo complex and they try to bust everybody? The biggest one that I see quite often is the talk of being sent to jail. No judge in his right mind will send a guy to jail for this regardless of how the law is written. Hell, they are hard pressed to send and keep the real sexual predators in jail. If a judge did give jail time, it would be overturned on appeal quickly and the law would be fast- tracked to demolition and all those involved in the justice system know this. For myself, I just am not worried about it. It is not worth the stress and like an old song says "stop wishing for bad luck and knocking on wood".

This made me laugh. Why contact an SP if you have no money? Do they honestly think they can charm her into giving it to them for free? You gotta know their idea of a "nice restaurant" is Denny's. I guess Denny's is a "nice" enough place, lmao.

As for myself, obviously, I'm in an area that doesn't really give me the opportunity to see many CERB ladies unless they happen to tour up this way. If/ when I do get an opportunity to get out east and possibly visit one of you lovely ladies, I would hope that I could get a reference from someone that you all would consider reliable. Having said that, most of my experience out here in the west is with ladies from CAF as the ladies from Alberta are the ones coming to my area, more often than not. So far, I have yet to be asked for a reference. Part of this is to do with posting reviews and getting positive responses to those reviews. I would think that another part is having conversations with some SPs that give them a better idea of what I am like. Of course, maybe some of them have pm'ed each other and asked without my knowledge. Now, I know all too well that people can portray themselves on message boards and chat rooms as upstanding, honest and respectful people and be completely different behind closed doors. This is a real legitimate concern for all you ladies but I would like to think there would be some weight given to how we behave and respond on here as well as some reference from reputable SPs out there. Correct me if I am wrong. Fwiw, I am quite willing to try and fulfill a ladies wishes for some type of idea of who they are about to see. Your safety and security are of utmost importance as is ours.

Watching "The Third Man" on Netflix and having my post dinner cup'o'coffee and chocolate cookies. Trying to decide if I have room for fresh peaches and cream for dessert.:icon_biggrin:

Well, as someone who has a grandchild that is 18, I have trouble seeing someone that young. The thing is though, it's hard to put a number on this. Normally, I would say that I prefer above 25 because of what has already been stated. However, my ATF, as it were, is 24 and loads of fun. She also is mature beyond her years and we have fantastic conversations about everyday life. A little while back, I saw a 22 year old and she also, was quite mature and our chemistry was great. Normally though, the ladies in their 30's who have been around this for some time seem to be able to make my experience more enjoyable just because we relate to each other a little better and her experience shines through.

Wow, this is a tough one for me. I have never been one to pay a lot of attention to scents. My sense of smell is not all that good at the best of times but as long as it isn't too strong, I'm okay with most of them. I guess the earthy tones would be my preference if any. I had no idea that lavender was effective for the libido. Go figure.:biggrin:

Erotic Lounge, that's the one I referred to in my earlier post. That is awesome. Thx Miss Thora. I love that smooth jazz vibe. Just find it completely relaxing and sensual.

That kind of text seems to be a common theme. Seriously, I can almost feel the frustration that you ladies must have at this utter nonsense. Would it honestly kill a person to say hello? And, to be frank, if that was the initial contact, it is just wrong. Never have I asked for a ladies address or location until after booking, confirmation and right before the encounter. Part of the problem, imo, is this whole "text speak" thing we have going on in the world today. It seems that many people are completely unable to put together a coherent sentence structure. Hell, most of the time they can't even finish a word correctly. Our language is being flushed down the digital toilet.

I completely understand how hard this really is. I went through it with both my dad and mom. You do need a support network to help you with it for sure but not everybody has the ability to deal with these things. The siblings may just not have the tools to deal with it. I don't know, obviously but perhaps there are others outside of the immediate family who you can trust to take some of the burden. It is emotionally and mentally draining on a person and that also takes a physical toll so try to eat well and stay as healthy as possible. Wish you well to get through this.

Was listening to some Bob Dylan today and thought of another song... "Lay, Lady, Lay"

My thoughts are with you Victoria. Sounds like your "Mami" is a remarkable lady. Hope she rests easy and goes peacefully. Thanks for sharing with us. Big hugs out to you. At least internet hugs. (((((hugs)))))

It's kinda all just background noise for me but if I had my choice, it would be a toss-up between some Coltrane or Miles Davis maybe. Some other possibilities would be Santana's "Samba Pa Ti" or Van Morrison's "Moondance". One of my all time favorites. Now that I'm thinking of it, I recently had an encounter where there was a compilation of covered 80's songs done to a bluesy/jazz style. That was pretty awesome. Then again, the lovely lady I was with was beyond awesome so maybe that had more to do with it. It was nice while laying there after though.

Well Victoria, as someone that has met you in person, you are neither stupid nor ignorant. What you did is something that many businesses do when they need extra cash flow on a short term basis. You offer a special to attract extra customers. Virtually every small business does this at some time or another. It's quick sales to generate a little extra cash, nothing more or less. I, for one was happy when you were running your specials when we met, although I don't think I took advantage of that too much. :D Anyway, don't listen to this jerk and you are right. If all a person has is insults, then they should just keep their big mouth shut. P.S. Any plans on coming back out west (and north) in the future? Would love to get reacquainted with you. You are such a lovely lady. In the meantime, be well and safe out there.

I'm with you guys on the title reeling me in to look further. Then my biggest thing is the wording the lady uses. I absolutely love a well thought out bit of prose or poetry that shows an intelligent witty sophisticated person behind the beautiful picture. The alternative to that is one that is very cleverly humorous and makes you think this girl can make you laugh all day. The pictures are important only to the point of helping with the visual. We are, after all, visual creatures but a lady could have the most stunning, sexy pics in the world and if her wording was too generic or came across as a vapid 80's "valley girl", I would have no interest.

I couldn't agree more. We seem to have an ever growing issue in today's world of accepting the word "no". People assume that they flash money and everybody should be at their beck and call. This business is like many other service businesses out there. Just because we advertise a service doesn't mean everyone gets to have us at a moments notice. And there are certain times when a potential client just doesn't "feel" right. I get it in the business I am in too. I talk to someone about doing their plumbing job and get a feeling that they will be the type that I have to chase payment for or the job is just too much trouble and not worth the ensuing headaches. They, however, act like 3 year olds who can't have candy while in WalMart with mommy. Back to you ladies, you have every right to refuse service to anyone for whatever reason you want. Guys need to understand that and move on. And no, you do not need to provide your reasoning. The only thing I would want in that situation if Iwas being refused is courtesy of a speedy reply and a politely worded refusal. Nothing more.

I think that hits the nail squarely on the head piano. They regurgitate the same rhetoric that they hear from there favorite conservative voice, be it politician or clergy or whatever because they haven't the capacity for coming to their own conclusions based on fact checking and intelligent reasoning. Part of that is sheer laziness in their part but a lot of it has to do with a lack of intelligence and a bunch of brainwashing. We've seen this throughout human history. The Crusades, the inquisition, prohibition, the drug war, etc. Prostitution has always been the easiest and most targetted. And yet, here we are in the same old boat, the minority of intelligent, logical thinkers trying to persuade fools of their folly.

A simple but apt truism, imo anyway, is that you can't use logic and reason with those that are illogical and unreasonable. They will never try to walk in someone else's shoes or try to see anothers point of view if it doesn't conform to theirs. The vast majority of people are unintelligent sheep that follow blindly and unfortunately, they have the loudest voice in our society. They have no idea of what they speak (the perfect example being the one that talks of sores, disease and lesions, etc.) and are likely the same people who refuse to educate their pre-teen and teenage daughters and sons about sex because they have a misguided belief that talking about it will make them promiscuous. Then are shocked when said teenager comes home one day pregnant or in the case of the boy, has gotten a girl pregnant. Back to the comment about disease, he has no clue that legalization of the industry with proper support will drastically reduce the spread of sexually transmitted diseases. Honestly, seeing a reputable SP is probably the safest sex there is. A helluva lot safer than trolling the nightclubs, etc. Just sayin.

Thank you Peachy. Good to know that it doesn't effect things too much. And I totally agree with you, negotiating the price is never an option and should never be. Just being informed and making a decision based on that information is enough. I think the only thing that I would avoid would be the DATY, as much as I love that part. Just as a precaution. I would never worry about the FS otherwise. One thing to add before I get off here, I do agree that despite the shock of something like this happening, I don't think that I would take all of my donation back like that. I would more likely have just said I couldn't continue and left it up to the lady to possibly offer something. A reschedule or whatever. If not, then so be it. I do agree with some that have posted that this would have been very hard for her too. I think that a few moments of pause and reflection when an accident of this nature occurs could have made a huge difference.

Well, looking at that list of foods, some that jump out (for me anyway) as a hell no are asparagus (makes my pee stink), bananas and figs (make me fart) so those things would make the experience worse because it would make me nervous. Nothing worse than being in the middle of coitus and have a loud fart come out the other end or worse yet, during 69, omg, omg, omg.:icon_eek: In all seriousness though, I think it is nothing more than a placebo effect. Oysters have never really done a thing for me as far as enhancing the desire or experience.

I would say that possibly disclosing that this is happening would probably be a good option but obviously, some ladies don't feel that way and it is their decision in the end. I think for fellas that love DATY, this could raise some issues if this accident occurs or if there were any leaking or anything of that nature. So knowing up front and possibly taking DATY off the menu would just be a little better way to go. Just my opinion. I do have a question for you ladies out there though. During this time and having the sponge in there, does it negatively impact the pleasure and experience for you? If so, do you just do your best to "fake it" so to speak? I'm just curious here because a big part of the enjoyment I get out of this hobby comes from the mutual pleasure. If I get any thought that the lady is just "going through the motions" and not really getting pleasure, it is a big turn-off for me. I do have a lot of experience and am pretty astute at picking up on signals but obviously, some are better at acting it out better than others.

I agree with what RG said. Her safety trumps my privacy and honestly, if I can't provide her with some sense of honesty about who I am, then I shouldn't be in this lifestyle. I don't pick up ladies off of street corners here. It should never be an issue to have a phone that is not blocked or to provide her with some basic info. As for references, that could be hard if one hasn't been with a lady registered here but I would think if I have been with other ladies out here in the west on CAF, for example, or a touring lady, their reference would suffice for a lady in Halifax if I was in town visiting. And if it's a first foray into the hobby, then politely say so and there are some ladies who do offer first-timers. Pretty simple really.

Although this is an older thread, it definitely is something that has to be brought up from time to time. There are certain lines that should not be crossed in this industry. Actually, in any professional relationship, when you stop and think about it. I don't wish to be "friends" with my family physician and that little prostate exam is pretty damn "intimate". Okay, that rather silly joke aside, honestly, since when should we ever ask to be friends? Friendships grow and develop on their own if they are meant to be on both sides. I would say that I can be friends, to a certain extent with several people here, even though I have not met, nor likely ever will, meet in person. I would never ask for some "special friendship" consideration from even my most favorite SP, even though we could be considered friends, in a very real way. We really have to think with the big brain and make sure the little brain doesn't think, just goes with the flow. Gabby, sorry to read that you are having some tough times. Wish you well and hope that this passes and makes you better and stronger. Be well and stay safe.

Wow,12 grand and counting. That's a lot of ramblings RG, but always well said and honest. Keep them coming, good sir.

Eating my dinner and watching the Ken Burns documentary on Prohibition. Absolutely amazed that politicians have been that short-sighted and stupid for so long and remain that way to this day. Two lines in the commentary stand out. The first being "making the law is one thing, enforcing it something entirely different.". The other one being,"In a democracy based in the notion of individual freedoms, how can you enact a law stripping people of their freedom?"