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I don't know the lady but from reading that, "feisty" might be understating things. I'm not one to believe in total political correctness but she appears to have no filter and appears to get angry rather easily. And I agree with RG on the trust factor if she revealed anything confidential in nature. Maybe I'm off base about her though. It isn't a good look though.

Yeah, 26 is far from a teenager and her being so defensive would always be a turn off for me. I won't ask the details of the exchange and won't make judgements either but sometimes how we handle these things says a lot too. I also think there are always ways to advertise subtly without committing to a specific age group. For example, I've seen several women who have advertised as a "young looking, mature companion". I realize that for some clients, that might be a little too obscure but at least, we might not be as surprised. Last year, I did have an occasion to have a date with a lady who advertised she was in her 40's. She could have easily passed for a woman in her 30's imo but during our date, she admitted to me that she was actually 52. With our conversation and chemistry, she felt that she could be honest with me without me being upset. She was right, of course and it was a fantastic encounter for both of us. Now, with someone else, that could have turned out completely different so I guess we have to take that for what it is.

I think sometimes the age thing can be a bi-product of the clients in this biz and some of the review boards that cater to the misogynists out there. I can somewhat understand a ladies desire to maximize her clients potential. And there are a lot of guys out there who are looking for that ego boost of being with a young 20 something woman with that certain look. Having said that, I sometimes think an escort has to take a step back for just a minute and decide if these are really the type of clients she wants. I think embracing her age could be beneficial for her to attract clients that respect her for more than just a hot body and sexual skill. For some of us and I know we are likely in the minority, we embrace a woman's other attributes. Her inner confidence, honesty and down to earth qualities as well as the outer beauty. For me, at least, I enjoy the company of women of all ages, body types, race, whatever because I look deeper than just the image and age. I would never tell an escort how to run her own business model but maybe she just has to adjust that from time to time. I don't really know anything though.

I think that is the biggest thing from my standpoint in regards to her as well. There is a certain turn off with a "stubble". I don't mind hair or smooth but the in between just seems weird to me. As for me, I keep myself completely smooth down there, partly for the ladies but mostly just because I don't like hair around my genitals. I'd like to do laser removal at some point.

I've never had this conundrum. At 59, I still can't grow a beard, lol. Hell, I only have to shave every 2-3 days. I'm the polar opposite of those guys that have a 5 o'clock shadow at 1:45 in the afternoon. But I do make sure I am clean shaven before any date.

Thank you Melanie. Okay, maybe I went a little off track in some respects but parts of that article really pissed me off. The following quote, for example. There was some stuff in there that was not a case of emotional labor. I mean the cleaning up after office celebrations etc., I can kinda understand but a lot of that is a case of a woman trying to "fix" everything for people and being the center of attention. That article was not a clear definition of this at all, imo. Like I said, I'm not being dismissive here. It's just a bad example. Constantly smiling, making small talk, planning birthday celebrations, cleaning up after celebrations. This labor extended to her personal relationships, too—endless texting to help siblings through breakups, evaluating whether friends’ hookups were fully consensual, cleaning her roommate’s dishes.

I meant to come on here and post something from this Canadian icon on his 80th birthday but got sidetracked. At any rate, better late then never. Happy 80th to the great Gordon Lightfoot.

As a client who makes a conscious effort to always be my best when seeing an escort and return the kindness she shows, questions like this can be a little hard to take at times. Do I expect something? The only thing I expect is professionalism just the same as customers in my business expect that professionalism from me. Being friendly and "on point" all the time can be difficult and stressful. It is part of being in any service industry but it also is not something you should have to fake when the gent you are with is some misogynistic ass and turns you off by his behavior. I prefer Meaghan's response to this about it being genuine. I don't think this can or should be faked. It is also something that, like most things in life, is different for every individual. As far as your advertising and rates go, I have always encouraged women in this biz to do whatever she feels is necessary to be successful and happy. What I think is completely irrelevant. As a client, I either will book with you or I won't. I'm not really all that important in the big picture. That's all I can say about the whole rates thing. As for the social issue at large, my biggest problem in all of this is the misconception that all men expect this but are immune from it themselves. The notion that this is merely a woman's issue is false. To use some of the examples from that article, many's a day that I have had to smile and be friendly and all that other stuff at the workplace despite being exhausted physically, mentally and emotionally and also despite having customers treat me shitty and expect me to fix things. This also comes to relationships for us. Many of our S.O.'s expect us to be perfect and fix everything. If we somehow miss the slightest thing, we get the "talk" about how we don't appreciate her and yada, yada. I once was casually talking to someone at a luncheon about home repairs and such and said,"Yeah, I need to fix a couple things on my house this weekend." A week later, after stewing about it, my ex ambushed me for not saying "our house and am I not included BS". She's all crying and shit and I had to walk on eggshells for a long time over something that in hindsight was utterly trivial. That is only one example. I am a firm believer in gender equality. I don't like "man blaming" as some stereotype just as much as I don't believe in "mansplaining", guys trying to explain women's issues to women. I'm not gonna try to tell you what to do and I'm not trying to seem dismissive to the issue. I just wanted to point out that it really isn't just some either/or scenario. It's complicated just like all human issues. All we can do is try to have empathy for others and do our best to walk in their shoes, so to speak.

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The next guy that asks that, you should tell him to send you the $80 and his mailing address and you will send him a bottle of Nivea hand lotion so he doesn't irritate it while home alone watching p**n , lmao. 🤣

I truly had a WTF moment when I first saw this story on Twitter and then read more about what exactly happened. All I could think of was all the idiots after the Parkland school shooting in Florida talking about arming school teachers to prevent school shootings. https://www.wptv.com/news/local-news/water-cooler/6-year-old-shot-outside-texas-mcdonalds-by-security-guard-chasing-a-shoplifting-suspect Texas justice. Let's fire shots all over the place to stop a shop lifter. Really fortunate it wasn't much worse than it was.

I think, aside from the stupidity of calling while the wife was nearby, the real problem I have with this guy is that he feels it's okay to harass an escort about "not being available" whenever he pleases. Rule #1 in seeing escorts is mutual respect. His actions show a serious lack of it, imo. The ladies I have seen on multiple occasions and I consider friends in this biz have always done their utmost to accommodate me and treat me well and when the very odd time has happened that they were already booked or didn't call back right away, I was understanding and courteous about it. You women can't be everything for everybody all the time. It's just a fact of life. Being selfish and petty serves no purpose. That is my 2 cents fwiw.

I think that's a good point about them. For something that truly requires extensive diagnostics and more serious repairs, the "certified tech" stuff is somewhat valid. They have the diagnostic tools and training to figure out exactly what is wrong. Beyond that, it's a scam and the "void your warranty" crap is utter B.S. imo. Of course, if it's a lease, then they really have you under their thumb because they technically, still own the vehicle. However, for general maintenance stuff, you have some pimply faced kid right out of high school and the service manager doing a quick visual check when he's done. So it's really hit and miss in that regard. Some kids are really good and have the aptitude and other's don't. I have always done my own oil changes. It's easy to do but I understand that not everyone is comfortable doing mechanical things. As for the cost, it usually costs me about $50 for material because I use full synthetic and a little higher end filter and it takes up about a half hour of my time. 10 minutes at Can Tire or NAPA or whatever and 15-20 doing it. Obviously, the dealers get their parts, oil, etc a lot cheaper.

Lol, RG, I'm kinda the same way about being honest. Usually for me, it has less to do with the business I'm dealing with and more to do with the employee across the counter. Like if the cashier gives me the wrong change or something. Heaven forbid the poor kid gets fired because their float doesn't add up at the end of the day. As for car dealerships, I doubt that I would be as honest as you however. Their service departments bill out every minute and every nut and bolt and never cut anyone any slack. Sometimes even doing the repairs before even getting the okay from the customer. I would take the free oil change and be quite happy. I guess $83.00 in this day and age isn't much but I'd take it. But you are right in the sense that it is dishonest. Cheers.

I think whether the guy was a client, driver, bodyguard, or whatever, it just is bad form to be out in the hall when a client is leaving. A client shouldn't even get a room number until after you are long gone. I have never been texted a room number until the lady is fully ready. Sometimes I have waited an extra 5 or 10 mins in my vehicle and I'm okay with that. Hell, I don't even go into the hotel until she gives the go ahead. Driver's are usually contacted afterward as well. Security has always been and should be invisible unless needed. And I'm in the same camp with those who mentioned clients being back to back. Any reputable provider allows at least a half hour between finishing one appointment and starting another. Honestly, that goes for almost every service but is especially important in this one for the obvious reasons. I don't know what her situation is in this case but I would not give her a reco or ever see her again regardless of how good her service was during our time together.

This part of the article says all we need to know about emission testing. But as cars got cleaner and cleaner, the then $35 test became an irritant for drivers especially after it was revealed by the auditor general of Ontario that the vast majority of vehicles pass and the worst polluting vehicles were exempt from testing. I lived in Washington State for a while and they had the same thing. Because my Pick-up came from Canada, even though fairly new and very well serviced and maintained, I had to do the tests every year to get my tabs. At the same time, countless cars and trucks on the freeway every day polluting like crazy because they were old enough to be exempt from the test. Like you say, nothing but a cash grab and an utter waste of time.

Lol, RG, We have a dope too. And yeah, that was a bit of a groaner.

This shouldn't really come as a surprise to anyone. The US is one of the most backwards countries in the world when it comes to customs and immigration. They have had a long standing policy of refusing entry to Canadians with the most minor of very old criminal offenses. But rich Russian gangsters have flooded the country in recent years with extensive criminal records and they turn a blind eye. I was recently having a conversation with a friend of mine in real estate who actually bought a house in Texas and spent $7000+ on immigration lawyers trying to get a green card only to continually be stymied by red tape and utter bullshit until she finally gave up and sold the place and stayed here. It's almost like Canadians are not welcome other than sports stars, actors and medical fields. Just don't rock their fucking holier than thou boat.

Took the words right out of my mouth. Enjoy the moment and be a good client. All the rest doesn't matter to me. When I see an escort, I don't need her to think of me as her best . I just want her to be happy to have met me and to look forward to repeat visits because we had fun and enjoyed each other's company.

I am also one of those guys that looks at a website as a positive and use it as part of my decision making process. It's not just about looking at photos either, although a nice array of photos is quite nice to look at. I read the bio which is usually more detailed than the ad. It also helps to see what her likes and dislikes are. How professional she is and her specific protocols for how she wishes an encounter to proceed. Certain contact info, her wish list if I am inclined to bring a little gift which I often do and as was pointed out, what if the other ad sites are attacked or go down. It helps you ladies to keep yourselves advertising without having to rely on outside forces. Having said all that, I realize that those of us posting on here who read these websites and ads thoroughly are probably somewhat in the minority when it comes to men but maybe that can help in the overall screening process too. When a guy contacts you who obviously has made the effort to go about things in the proper manner, it is likely a good sign that he is a client worth having, imo. I've also always believed that a positive presence on forums like this helps in the screening process. References from other providers are also important but in my experience in the hobby, I have honestly never had to provide one even though I've offered. I don't know if that is even a good answer to all this but I do understand and sympathize with you ladies for all the idiots out there that just don't "get it". Believe me when I say you are not alone in this. It's people in general these days. They are all like ADHD 4 yr olds. They want what they want and right now. I get it in my business as well.

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I've never completely understood the old "pictures aren't accurate" thing, tbh. I get that most guys are visual creatures by nature but even photos that aren't touched up or anything rarely are exact. Cameras have come a long way and selfies are all the rage and so on but depending on lighting and angles and all kinds of other factors, the real life in front of someone and the photo can have anywhere from subtle differences to things that are very different. I just don't see it as a deal breaker but again, I understand that some guys can be extremely specific in what they want or envision in an encounter. Having said that, perhaps he could have been more tactful and perhaps your reaction to his offer could have been less emotional but what's done is done. It's water under the bridge now. You probably should have accepted the offer and been compensated for your travel time but too late now. I guess this isn't much of an answer but chalk it up to experience and try not to take it too personally. Cheers and be safe out there.