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Need advice on best way to handle a client who is making verbal threats to trash your apartment

if you won't return his money after services have been provided for no apparent reason other than

buyer's remorse?   Even if you call the cops, they would never get there in time to help you and it

would be your word against his anyway that he made the threats and who needs the embarrassment

such a situation would bring to you, so you are intimidated into refunding the money.  It's a tactic men

use to get free services from the fearful independent provider.   Best just to cut your losses and refund

the money and block his number?

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For your own safety, I'd say yes, give the idiot their money back, and get them out of your space.

 

Block their number and if you're not using that app that was mentioned here a few months back, share the bad experience and number with any of your provider peers so they don't get into the same situation. 

 

Also remember his style of texting / speaking in case he tries again from another number...

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  Not knowing what was agreed upon versus services given, it's hard to form an opinion.

I only once asked a partial refund and got it. It was for a question of time and not services. Had paid for 60 min and she pushed me out after 20. She had a 30 min rate and I asked to be refunded for the difference. I was firm in my demand, but not violent.

  Negotiation is always the best course of action before escalation is needed.

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1 hour ago, Greenteal said:

  Not knowing what was agreed upon versus services given, it's hard to form an opinion.

I only once asked a partial refund and got it. It was for a question of time and not services. Had paid for 60 min and she pushed me out after 20. She had a 30 min rate and I asked to be refunded for the difference. I was firm in my demand, but not violent.

  Negotiation is always the best course of action before escalation is needed.

He had been drinking and was impotent and could not get anywhere no matter what services I gave him to try and get him even a bit erect.   Normally I can tell over the phone when someone has been drinking and don't take them at all.

I even gave me more services than he paid for in an effort to please him.  I gave him money back and could not wait for him to leave, but don't want a repeat of that night if I can avoid it.

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2 minutes ago, West End Tara said:

He had been drinking and was impotent and could not get anywhere no matter what services I gave him to try and get him even a bit erect.   Normally I can tell over the phone when someone has been drinking and don't take them at all.

I even gave me more services than he paid for in an effort to please him.  I gave him money back and could not wait for him to leave, but don't want a repeat of that night if I can avoid it.

   That makes a bit more sense. Hard to deal with someone under the influence. Like you said, the best prevention is avoiding those type of situations. 

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To be completely honest here I did ask for some money back after having dates go wrong but never did get anything from that except for once.  That one time it was an Asian girl who had just started her period and wanted to carry on.  I told her to give me back the difference between the full hour and the half hour.  I had barely seen her naked and didn't even touched her.  Many other times the lady was not the one that was on the ad and even though I always book for a full hour they would rush the service to have me in and out in less then 15 minutes.  I will politely ask for the difference between the half hour and the hour even if they offer the 15 minute service.

I'm debating on only asking for the half hour service to new providers and if things look good I 'm willing to pay for the full hour if she has the time.  Everyone knows that a turned on man can be done in 10 minutes if well taken care of.

 

I'm sorry I did not mean to hijack this thread but just wanted to put this on there.

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Safety is always the most important issue. So never try to deal with a potentially dangerous individual.

One thing I might mention. If you ever have to involve law enforcement, they are on your side. Unless you live in the States (especially in Texas), the police will consider the client as breaking the law. I'm not saying it will go well if you call the police, however, if you call 911, and feel you are in danger, give your location and drop the phone (don't hang up). You then become a high priority and they will be there right away (if you are in a city not remote location). I would never recommend this unless you were in danger.

I've dealt with police in the past, its not an easy thing, however, you are not breaking the law. I'd rather give the money back and be safe then be hurt, apt trashed or dead. 

Sorry this happened to you. For what it matters, he committed a crime or even sexual assault. Not everyone agrees, but that's my opinion. 

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Sorry to hear that happened to you, Tara. FWIW I think you probably did the right thing; despite the fact that he has absolutely no right to a refund, having him smash your place up would have cost you a lot more, probably... and that's not to mention the trauma of having it happen. And if he'd turned on you personally it would have been even worse.

But yeah... block, blacklist, spread the word to other providers if you can, and if there's any justice no provider will ever see this asshole again.

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Wow I’m so sorry this happened to you. In over 25 years of working as a provider, I only encountered this once but it was me who Offered him his money back so he would leave because he was high on coke and being paranoid and it made me very uncomfortable. I was not willing to go through with the appointment. 
 

I would say in your situation probably best to hand the money back rather than it escalate to an ugly outcome. 

 

 

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On 5/24/2020 at 12:38 PM, Meaghan McLeod said:

Safety is always the most important issue. So never try to deal with a potentially dangerous individual.

One thing I might mention. If you ever have to involve law enforcement, they are on your side. Unless you live in the States (especially in Texas), the police will consider the client as breaking the law. I'm not saying it will go well if you call the police, however, if you call 911, and feel you are in danger, give your location and drop the phone (don't hang up). You then become a high priority and they will be there right away (if you are in a city not remote location). I would never recommend this unless you were in danger.

I've dealt with police in the past, its not an easy thing, however, you are not breaking the law. I'd rather give the money back and be safe then be hurt, apt trashed or dead. 

Sorry this happened to you. For what it matters, he committed a crime or even sexual assault. Not everyone agrees, but that's my opinion. 

I agree! If you provide the service and they take the money back, they are negating the contract so that is sexual assault, because you never agreed to service them for free. Just like if they were to remove the condom or ejaculate where you did not consent to. This is very real and would be legally binding.

Also pressuring a lady to offer unsafe services is coercion. 
I was not intending on hijacking this thread, but what you said is very important.

 

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