Turn-offs for a lady

[Guest **sh****he***ac***th]

I am a cleanly shaved amnesiac...good??!!

 

 

When a guy talks about another lady/ladies incessantly during a get-together. To quote 'Gone With The Wind', 'Frankly, I don't give a damn'... It's not my business what's going on with this girl or that girl, and I simply don't care, so I'll turn the table of conversation quickly if that kind of pointless one-ended talk starts up.

 

Stubble! Guys, please either have a closely shaven face or a trimmed beard. Stubble really hurts and depending how sensitive a lady's face is, it can leave varying degrees of stubble burn.

 

I swear I'm done here on this thread! haha

[Guest wi***w]

Im seriously thinking of switching to " contact me through email is preferred"

 

When I started in the biz (9 yrs ago) I used email and cellphone. Even though my ad stated my hours, not available short notice, I'd get called all day/night. It made me crazy. I've never had a website cause they don't read half of it anyhow, but I do advertise at SEA and once in awhile I post an ad with EC if I'm not as busy as I want to be. For past 7 yrs I've used email only and it's worked out great. Most of the requests I get through email are very gentlemanly and they usually provide the screening requirements as stated in my ad. Even my regulars that I've seen for years still go through email.

 

Willow

[Elle Diablo 1345]

Very few and far between, but a man who makes absolutely no effort during session, a dead fish I might say ... so a girl never knows if she's doing what turns him on.

 

Oh and a man who lacks rhythm, but yet will not follow direction. :confused0024:

[mrgreen760 37785]

"For past 7 yrs I've used email only and it's worked out great." I recall 9 yearsish ago in Wpg when one very nervous first timer emailed you and you were very kind and patient and it ended up being the reason you were my first :) I could have never made a call.

 

Peace

MG

[Exotic Touch Danielle 31676]

I prefer my appointments being confirmed and booked via phone only(I just like to.hear the voice of whom I am going to be intimate with an feel what type connection we may have).I also don't like to give my address email/ texting

 

I have had two girlfriends call my number asking who I am and both times I explained to.them that their boyfriend's must have written the number down wrong that I.had no idea who they were(smh)

 

I never send out my location unless we speak!

 

 

Another pain in the ass (turn-off) for me is when someone books an appointment and.confirms and no call or reply back???

It only takes a moment to call/pm to cancel

(No shows=time wasters=on my ignore list)

[VedaSloan 119179]

Things that will make me cranky if you contact me and do them:

 

1. one word texts. e.g. hi

2. using terms of endearment when we've never met. e.g. hun, sweetie, baby

3. trying to negotiate the rate after I've said it's not negotiable

4. asking if I do bareback full service

5. Via email, asking if I'm available now

 

Things that will make me cranky in person:

 

1. bad breath

2. dirty hands

3. body odour

4. cheese dick (this one will get you kicked right out of my incall because it is honestly the grossest thing ever and an affront to my senses, not to mention disrespectful)

5. asking for bareback sex

6. asking for my real name

7. asking for future discounts because "you'll be my regular"

8. washing your dick in the sink and getting water everywhere. If you're that dirty, just get in the shower.

9. sucking on my clit like you're some sort of sexual vacuum cleaner.

10. talking shit and/or gossiping about other providers

[peacectryguy 12523]

I honestly don't understand how guys can text the "hey baby" thing. It's so disrespectful, imo. I could see an opening conversation starting with that being a total turnoff for you ladies. Most of the turn-offs I read in this thread are pretty obvious ones and a guy would have to be pretty stupid not to realize that.

[CristyCurves 169032]

I've never had a website cause they don't read half of it anyhow,

 

Willow

 

Excellent point!! I am questioning the value of one because even with many gents here more than not ask about details when they contact rather than simply viewing my site, which is clearly posted on my profile and in all of my ads. Makes me wonder but I've learned not to let it bother me and now expect it.

 

Additional Comments:

The number one things that pisses me of and this is not directed at Cerb gents. Most ladies advertise elsewhere of course and one common theme is these people don't bother to read one thing about me.

 

I get tons of calls and there is no, "Hello my name is Bill, how are you?" Sometimes its , "hey just wondering what your rates are". If I'm in a good mood I usually tell him that if this is first question it probably isn't going to work. lol. If I'm in a bad mood I just hang up. Generally this type of fool will call right back and say the same thing. Never once have I been able to turn this sort of call around.

 

Have peace of mind knowing this happens to all of us:( and far to regularly. But I will say men from cerb and not from cerb are guilty of it. It's just rude imo. If that's all a man is concerned about why does he think anyone will want his business. Most of us want to know more about you than your wallet, shouldn't you want to know more about us than what we charge and this goes beyond having a budget!

 

My biggest turn off is men who can't keep their word. Unreliable clients, clients that state they are 110% interested, 110% certain about their scheduled time and contact after contact assure you of a meeting then cancel the day before or the day of and with the silliest of excuses. So, I used to question, is this done purposely, just because, for a joke or because they couldn't help it but now the reasons are irrelevant. I've come to expect that most men, cerb or not are not going to keep their appt and the reasons aren't important. What is important is my time and how I manage it:) So I now keep a list of those unreliables and simply refuse to see them again. I'm sure that is no loss to them but at least I know who is who :)Fool me once shame on you fool me twice shame on me:)

[Guest Na****a***mers (RETIRED)]

On a topic of bad breath....

 

I always provide mouthwash, and it's quite obvious when it was used for a total 3 seconds.

 

Another pet peeve of mine.. Sink not getting rinsed after rinsing out the last pieces of lunch.

[roamingguy 300291]

Just my opinion, but I find websites very useful for getting the information I need to book an encounter with a lady

Yes I like looking at the pictures

Yes I like reading the lady's writings, be it her "About Me" "Booking Procedures" "Fees" etc. The website allows me to know a bit about her, whether on our first date, the ultimate blind date, and whether we will click and have a good time

I don't know another way to have all the information needed for a potential client to see to peak his interest in meeting a lady...with the caveat, speaking for me, an encounter is more than just a chance to have sex....encounters are time spent with a lady, more akin to a date,...a GFE, just that you are rolling in three to four hours what usually takes place in two to three conventional dates.

Most of the ladies I've seen, it was their website that got me to initiate contact. If there wasn't a website, no email would have been sent

Anyhow, a rambling

And just my opinion

 

RG

[SexxxyRebecca 57974]

When someone show up and pee the door open...

[Ice4fun 78396]

On a topic of bad breath....

 

I always provide mouthwash, and it's quite obvious when it was used for a total 3 seconds.

 

Another pet peeve of mine.. Sink not getting rinsed after rinsing out the last pieces of lunch.

 

After an amazing 1st meeting with a wonderful CERB Lady I popped her a quick thank you message and said that I hoped to see her again... she was very polite and professional as she replied that she thought she had wine on her breath when we met and that for our next meeting we both might want to freshen up with some mouthwash... lol... yes she politely told me my breath was not great.... i learned from that lady and now alway have mouthwash and toothbrush and toothpaste in my vehicle... when I get to hotel I head to one if the public washrooms brush my teeth...use monthwash ...wash my hands and then text the lady to say I have arrived. I am quite thankful to this lady for being so honest yet tactful with me.

[sockobuw 130]

very helpful thread for someone just getting into hobbying.

[Guest Na****a***mers (RETIRED)]

After an amazing 1st meeting with a wonderful CERB Lady I popped her a quick thank you message and said that I hoped to see her again... she was very polite and professional as she replied that she thought she had wine on her breath when we met and that for our next meeting we both might want to freshen up with some mouthwash... lol... yes she politely told me my breath was not great.... i learned from that lady and now alway have mouthwash and toothbrush and toothpaste in my vehicle... when I get to hotel I head to one if the public washrooms brush my teeth...use monthwash ...wash my hands and then text the lady to say I have arrived. I am quite thankful to this lady for being so honest yet tactful with me.

That's a classy lady right there!

 

Just be gentle during tooth brushing as it may cause tiny tears in gums and that will make it easier for any sort of infection to pass. I read it's best to brush at least 2 hours prior to an encounter.

[fortunateone 156618]

On a topic of bad breath....

 

I always provide mouthwash, and it's quite obvious when it was used for a total 3 seconds.

 

Another pet peeve of mine.. Sink not getting rinsed after rinsing out the last pieces of lunch.

 

 

I have one guy he used to be good about using it, now doesn't, so i pop a tic tac in his mouth. he's a smoker, he gets the humour of it lol.

[Exotic Touch Danielle 31676]

One thing I absolutely hate is when someone books and then cancels because they don't know/like the neighborhood you are in

Like please stop with that ignorance ....you don't have to be located in the south end.of Halifax to get good service in a clean safe environment

I hate being judged on where I live...o well your loss! On to the next for you

[VedaSloan 119179]

Just a quick note about chewing gum: please spit it out before we start kissing/getting down to business.

 

Once a gent got gum in my pubes, no joke.

[Highsexdrivebabe 11800]

Hi RG, not that I think U will book an encounter with me (!) but just so U know not all ladies, I am one of them, have websites!! As for me it's in the works but not my first priority at the moment so I have to live it with it and this is where for me CERB is so important!

 

And like U say it was just my 2 cents!

 

Barbara!

 

Just my opinion, but I find websites very useful for getting the information I need to book an encounter with a lady

Yes I like looking at the pictures

Yes I like reading the lady's writings, be it her "About Me" "Booking Procedures" "Fees" etc. The website allows me to know a bit about her, whether on our first date, the ultimate blind date, and whether we will click and have a good time

I don't know another way to have all the information needed for a potential client to see to peak his interest in meeting a lady...with the caveat, speaking for me, an encounter is more than just a chance to have sex....encounters are time spent with a lady, more akin to a date,...a GFE, just that you are rolling in three to four hours what usually takes place in two to three conventional dates.

Most of the ladies I've seen, it was their website that got me to initiate contact. If there wasn't a website, no email would have been sent

Anyhow, a rambling

And just my opinion

 

RG

[Meg O'Ryan 266444]

Wash your hands after using the bathroom...maybe I should be a bit crass...when u piss, flush not only the toilet but your digits too!

[Miss Jessica Lee 43328]

I have a couple of gents who contact me every few weeks by text, to say things like:

 

"nice new pics, I hope I can come see you soon!"

"happy easter, want to book some time soon!"

"happy mothers day beautiful ... maybe we can get together soon!"

"merry christmas babe, I will come see you in the new year!"

"more sexy new pics? you're gorgeous babe! see you soon!"

"happy Hanukkah sweetheart ...." ... ok I'm kidding with that one ... but seriously...

 

.... guess when was the last time these guys actually booked a visit? My curiosity makes me wonder if I'm one of fifty ladies these dudes text. Maybe he sits on his phone all day every day ... sending happy holiday wishes to all the girls. fml...

 

Additional Comments:

Hi RG, not that I think U will book an encounter with me (!) but just so U know not all ladies, I am one of them, have websites!! As for me it's in the works but not my first priority at the moment so I have to live it with it and this is where for me CERB is so important!

 

And like U say it was just my 2 cents!

 

Barbara!

 

I don't think it's a big deal because there's plenty of gents who don't necessarily require a website to book.

 

Another note to keep in mind however, I don't provide references to ladies I don't know if I can't find a website. It's a way to determine legitimacy for us, too :)

[McMonkey 456]

This is a very helpful thread. I've steered clear of most of the hazards here but I think I could improve my initial contact conversation (primarily related to texts). I'm pretty sure I always at least started with a greeting. However, I had figured that you probably get a lot of texts (mostly time-wasters) and much back-and-forth would get annoying fast. Thanks for educating me. :)

[Genevieve Marceau 68000]

Besides the major and obvious turn-offs that have been covered on this thread (poor hygiene, lack of communication, bad manners, negotiation, etc), one of my biggest turn off is the client that you have to constantly remind that this is a no string attached escort/client relationship that works BOTH ways.

 

There is a minority of men who cannot just take our "relationship" for what is it, and won't hesitate to pronounce the "L" word. They soon will develop a sense of entitlement and even become jealous, possessive and intrusive. They will constantly try to push your emotional boundaries. They are used to conquer in order to get what they want. You will give them a inch, and they will immediately ask you - or take - the mile.

 

Not a second it would cross their mind that you may already be in a solid relationship or even married.

 

I find that quite disappointing because it actually usually starts with a great chemistry...However their perception of the escort-client relationship will soon get distorted.

 

Personally I find this to be extremely emotional draining. If I find myself in the obligation to burst the client's bubble more than 2 times regarding the nature of our arrangement, I will unfortunately have to fire him.

 

I understand that this is a sensitive service and that as human beings we cannot always control our emotions - and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. What may turn wrong is how those emotions are handled.

[Guest]

Hello, Genevieve.

 

I agree with you a hundred percent. I have had to put "no strings attached girlfriend" on my ads, website, ect ,to try and explain that the relationship I have with clients will not go past the normal escort/client boundaries.

 

It's really too bad because I really like making connections with people. I like that "established" relationship and I get so excited when I have cherished clients coming over to see me. It's a whole experience and sometimes, yes, it does feel like I'm seeing my special boyfriend. However, when boundaries are crossed it just makes the session awkward, weird, and generally unpleasant. Having a connection with certain clients makes being a GFE escort so great but having unrealistic expectations is just not fair. Clinging to a connection will only destroy the escort/client relationship.

 

The boundaries are there for both of our benefit. We contact and see each other only when it suits both of our schedule. I don't call you at 2:00 in the morning and vice versa.

 

Also for me, I do not want to take advantage of anyone. You start saying I love you and start having extreme feelings, this will put me in a bad position. I escort because I love sex, love building connections and because I benefit from it financially. The last thing I want to do or feel like is that I'm taking advantage of anyone. It should be and should remain a mutually beneficial relationship. The second boundaries are crossed, I have no choice to put a client on a break or ban them and that just doesn't feel good at all.

 

Sorry for the long winded post. I hope this makes sense.

[Exotic Touch Danielle 31676]

As much as I enjoy what I do and spending time with my regular gentlemen I know what the relationship is between us

I have a seperate life from this

I was seeing this one gentlemen for some time and when he asked if I was involved with someone and I.told him yes he gave me an attitude and I.never heard from him again

The time we spend together when we are together is exactly that when.we leave to go our ways what you do is your concern and what I do is mine

We owe each other nothing other than respect and friendship

I provide you with companionship/friendship

[Guest]

As much as I enjoy what I do and spending time with my regular gentlemen I know what the relationship is between us

I have a seperate life from this

I was seeing this one gentlemen for some time and when he asked if I was involved with someone and I.told him yes he gave me an attitude and I.never heard from him again

The time we spend together when we are together is exactly that when.we leave to go our ways what you do is your concern and what I do is mine

We owe each other nothing other than respect and friendship

I provide you with companionship/friendship