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Maybe I'm a bit cranky at the end of a long week, but I have to say that I am weary of hearing the assumption that paid companions are likely to stalk, harass or blackmail clients if we have any of their personal information, even if it's just a cell number. I think this is a way that some men project and deflect guilt connected with their decision to seek out paid companionship. It's not simply unreasonable, it's narcissistic. As I always say: no matter who you are or who you think you are, no matter what you do or who you know or love, the person who is taking the most risks is always the paid companion. Always. I think I spend too much time reassuring potential clients that I'm balanced, safe, sane, warm, genuinely human and real--in other words, that they can trust me. Just yesterday someone wrote to me saying that he didn't want to give me his number in case it was part of some kind of elaborate set-up. He told me outright that he wanted me to calm his mind because he was worried I might rob him or give him some terrible disease. I am stymied by such men's lack of insight and empathy. He's worried I might rob him? Well, gosh. He's making arrangements to be in my home, in my bed, in my body. I will lavish time, care and attention on him. I will do my best to make him feel so wonderful that he'll want to come back and see me again. I have to try not to worry that he'll tell my landlord or the neighbours what I'm doing. I have to try not to worry that he'll show up sometime without an invitation. I have to try not to worry that he might hurt me or refuse to leave when it's time. I also have to try not to worry that he might rob me. And I have to forget that, if something unexpected happens or there's an emergency--a fire breaks out or maybe he has a heart attack--he will be portrayed as a decent man in an unfortunate situation while I will just be a hooker. Every man will say that he's not like the kinds of men I've just described. Just about all the time, that's true. Nearly every one of them are just doing their best to get through their lives. They don't want to hurt anyone or cause trouble. They're a lot like us companions. We're all just doing what we do, trying to keep on keeping on. Relax. Stop the fear-mongering and suspicion. Stop assuming that the whore with the heart of gold is a rarity. We're here by the dozen. Calm down. Take a deep breath. We're all on the same side, and we're in this together. Give your companion your cell number.

Well gals and gents. I think it's time for me to take a break from this hobby...or possibly to quit it altogether. "The one who got away" has suddenly and recently resurfaced into my life....the one person I've always wanted to be with and who I've always wanted a second chance with. I owe it to myself and to her to give it my all. Which means I have to focus all my attentions on her, and unfortunately that means no SP's MPs or SCs. I just want to thank all the ladies I've seen for the wonderful times we've shared. I want to thank the gents for the great advice and reco's, and I want to thank all of cerb for the enthralling and always entertaining threads of many different topics. I'll be keeping my account open....if things go south, I'll be back....with bells on! ;) To those ladies I've seen and to those I haven't had a chance to see, you're all wonderful people in your own right, and I wish you all the luck and happiness in the world. To the ladies I've prebooked with, I'll be sending you PM's shortly with a personal apology and explanation. Take care all, remember to always play safe and above all, have fun!

I am sure this has been discussed before but indulge me. The number one reason I ask for a number is mutual trust. If I am going to disclose my location to you, I need to feel safe. The only recourse I have is you giving me your number. If you trust me enough with your number, then I know I can trust you with my address. I have never and would never abuse this piece of information in any way, shape or form. We have a need for discretion as much as you. Second reason is for cancellation purposes. Just like you wonderful gents, life can sometimes throw a wrench into our plans. Yesterday, I was forced into being a no show. I have met this person before and he booked well in advanced via email. I had an incident that kept me away from my incall location as well as away from the internet and therefore I had absolutely no way to contact him to cancel or postpone. He called me several times from a payphone but at the time I was unable to answer the phone. If I had his number, I could have saved him the trouble of driving all the way over! Later in the day, I emailed him to apologize, explain, and mention why it would have been a good idea for him to give me his number. No response so I am going to assume that he is pissed off that shit happens to us too. The last couple of days I have been bogged down with a few repairs and of course scheduling goes out the window in these cases. A very nice gent that I see on occasion booked some time with me. I had his number and was able to call and reschedule. There is the trust! He knows that I would never call or text him out of the blue. The number is there for an emergency not to use to solicit. Ladies...I would love to hear more reasons (if any) for why a number is so important.

Meg's thread about phone numbers got me to thinking, from the vantage point of the lady's safety. Do the ladies prefer an outcall to a hotel or incall to their place. It would seem to me (I may be wrong here) but the safest one for the ladies would be an outcall to the guy's hotel (after all it's his name on the registration) I kinda like the outcall myself, getting ready for the encounter, wine chilling etc, and the anticipation of the knock on the door. Some thoughts, both from the ladies and hobbiests RG

Good luck, great you got that second chance, but don't go there thinking about things going south. Commitment isn't about having an insurance policy, go all the way and close the account.

I think any suggestion that everything can be found on cerb can be answered with the same type of retort when asking a SP why they advertise on those other sites or, formerly, craigslist. There are many girls on cerb that have used CL in the past and are starting to frequent the alternatives as well. Also, to assume that every person that is not on cerb advertising elsewhere is a reason to fear for level of service or personal safety, is as short sighted as someone dismissing all SP's as being drug addicts, mentally ill, etc. There is no be-all encompassing solution to what everybody is looking for

Best of luck on this your second chance. We are not always lucky enough to get a second chance in life so make the most of it and again all the best.

Perhaps my comment, may be a bit uncalled for, but here goes: In my opinion the ladies you should want to meet & spend time with are here on CERB....yes, the other list had plenty of updated ads but many were individuals who posted the SAME ad consistently and.or like 5 times a day!!! Those for sure you will have difficulty finding them as those postings did not cost them anything AND they were not moderated. The legit ladies, again IMO, are not afraid to be part of a MODERATED site....If they choose not to be, well to me that says ALOT..( I am not referring to the ladies on the DND/DNR list, that is something completely different, as a lady should have the choice to ensure that details about her & her services are not discussed, however, most of these ladies on the DND/DNR list are established & on other escort advertisment sites ,which they pay$ for) Sure there may be a few good ones out there, whom only advertise once in a while, who do it only on occasion...but as someone who advertised plenty on the the list....I openly admit I would read the other ladies ads & had a very good idea of who's who on there...and from what I see now, most (NOT ALL) but most of the ladies ad's who you do not seem to see around right now are the ladies who have been on the cowboys list for some reason or another OR who do not want to take part on a moderated site. There are a bunch of ladies who were never part of this site before, and have joined since the closing of the list, AND they have been obtaining some really nice recs too...there are many, many great ladies to choose from on here, why take the risk ( especially if you have never met them) Vanessa

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Hmm, Klute is an interesting film to bring up in this environment. :) Jane Fonda really is gorgeous, and I remember guilty pleasures watching the silliness that was Barbarella just to see her in... uh... intriguing outfits. Ah, those were the days. Now when I think of Jane Fonda, I always think of her 2007 interview with Stephen Colbert. Colbert had his own crush on Fonda in his younger days (like many of us...) and had tried to disavow them by putting them "on notice". Fonda decided she wasn't going to let that go unchallenged, and took steps to rekindle his fantasies during their interview... :) Jane Fonda and Stephen Colbert Stephen has the best job in the world!

Motel Adam and Ritz are close to strip clubs too. Motel Adam is at spitting distance from both Taboo (separated by a parking lot) and Pigale (straight across the sreet), if you fancy a visit to a club as well. I heard that it's not bad a place to stay.

The answer to your question depends largely on what you would like to achieve by publishing your memoirs. Are you looking to just have a few copies printed to sell individually and give to friends? Or are you looking to to have you book published and marketed seriously in bookstores across the nation? There are three general routes to go based on my previous interest in publishing. 1) The classic route, which is to go with a mainstream publisher. If you decide to go this route, you need an agent. Most, if not all publishers get more manuscripts than they can read, so they won't even look at a book from a first time author. A good agent will make sure that your book gets at least a cursory glance when it's submitted to a publisher. Pros: You'll get professional help with all aspects of publishing, i.e. typesetting, editing, etc. If a publisher decides to publish your book, it has a greater chance of exposure, especially if the publisher decides that it's good enough to spend a marketing budget on. This option requires the lowest initial costs, since you don't need to pay anybody. Cons: The chances of getting a book published this way as a first time author are minuscule. An agent doesn't make money by submitting the book everywhere, since then they would just get ignored. They will typically send in only their best stuff, so some people being represented by agents actually never get their work submitted anywhere. Even if your book is published, you'll typically be seeing only cents on each dollar of sales. Rule of thumb: every first time author gets screwed over in their first publishing contract. 2) Self-publishing, which means doing everything yourself. This means you'll prepare printer-ready files yourself (no, do not use Word to write your book), apply for your own ISBN number (you must get this!), getting it printed and reviewing the sample copies, etc. There's a lot of work involved in going this route, but it can be worth it if you're willing to spend the time. Pros: You make the full amount on each sale (minus costs) by being your own publisher. You can dictate every last detail going into the book. Cons: This is the costliest option, though it's not as expensive as it used to be. Last I looked, you can now do a small print run of a couple hundred books, getting them printed in China and shipped here for <$1,000. However, you have to do your diligence on the printer, and many are pretty sketchy outfits. You'll have to take care of all marketing and logistics, i.e. receiving and storing the books, selling them yourself. It can be difficult to get your book on shelves in bookstores. 3) Publishing with a so-called "vanity" publisher. This can be a happy medium for a first-time author, but you should be aware of a number of pitfalls here. You'll have to prepare your own printer-ready files (pdf files are accepted), but the publisher will take care of the distribution logistics. You have to be careful since most of these publishers are scam artists in my opinion, they make their money mainly be charging an inflated rate for printing, and selling most copies of the books to the author. I think lulu.com is one of the more reputable publishers in this regard in that they will at least get your book listable in Amazon. I believe you will have to buy your own copies to put in brick-and-mortar bookstores, though. Pros: Pretty minimal work, you can get your book listed online and then market it through say a blog. When I looked at this option years ago, they actually had a few hundred dollars in "initial" costs, though looking briefly at lulu.com just now, they claim you can get your book published for "free". You get most of the money from each sale, lulu getting a cut from each sale. I would definitely take a closer look at the fine print to see if there's really no startup costs, I'm generally dubious of these claims. Cons: No editing services (unless you pay extra), so make sure you've carefully proofread your work, since it's published as is! The biggest drawback in my opinion is avoiding the scam artist publishers, as I said lulu.com is pretty reputable. That being said, I've never used their services myself. Good luck with your book, if you'd like some proofreading and/or editing I'd be glad to volunteer, you're a very interesting gal from talking to you! Also let me know when you do get it published, I'd be interested in a copy!

I understand that there is a move a foot and some support in the US to ban the "N" word in the classic "Adventures of Tom Sawyer." In addition to replacing the N-word, there are changes regarding the villain: "Injun Joe" to "Indian Joe" and "half-breed" becomes "half-blood." Yes its "nice" to try and not offend anyone, but works of literature and music that use the words in a context to make the story credible are, well words to create an effect and an experience for the reader or listener. If its not "hate" literature or music written to incite violence, leave well enough alone. I think North American society is going to far on one hand, but how can we explain allowing up and coming ?classics? like "Jersey Shore" with F this and Bitch that, and story lines that are totally. off the wall...? I heard they had 8 - 10 million viewers last week. WTF.

In regards to not being able to answer the phone when your SO is around and you're late for an appt, can't you just turn it off? Or send a quick "sorry" text and then turn it off? There has to be something you can do to meet us half way on this one! Sky