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When you walk in the door for your encounter, the outside life of you and the companion do not exist. For the time you spend together it is just the two of you and nothing from real life matters. For anyone to think that because we are Paid Companions and we are not allowed to date or be married, is just plain out there in my opinion. Your married or involved so should I be bothered. Plain and simple we are both meeting for pleasurable stress relief and nothing outside the door should matter. As well, don't ask a question that you may not want to hear the answer too.

I also just want to throw something out there since we are talking about reviews. Some may NOT agree with me and that is fine, after all we are entitled to our own opinions! If you view most, and I say most, NOT all, they are rec's about the smaller/spinner and younger SP's. I have seen ALOT of Cerb members, they have written recs on many ladies, even on ladies they have seen AFTER me, so is it because Iam "bigger" and some men may not want to admit they have visited a "fat" chick? This thread is not about me, I know that, I am using myself as an example and I believe I speak on behalf of some of the "bigger" and/or "older" ladies here. We feel like this is the case. It's sad, but it's reality. Like I said in my previous post in this thread, Recco's are a touchy subject, many ladies do not feel comfortable asking about them, the same way he dont like having to ask about the "donation/gift/money" whatever you want to call it. It's uncomfortable, but we appreciate it when it happens. Like I said, I am only mentioning this because this is about rec's, I am not fishing for rec's, or trying to make thoose that I have seen in the past feel guilty, it's just something, you may want to think about the nest time you see a "bigger" sp...

This whole issue is very perplexing. If you have the time to respond to threads, why on earth could you not take 2 minutes to write a reco? Actually, I am surprised that we haven't seen an influx of reco's since this issue has come up. No matter how popular the lady, a reco is still very important for many reasons. We are all human and certainly vanity plays a roll. Who does not like to read about how great one is? It is almost hurtfull when you know you had a great time and yet nothing was mentioned, especially when you have seen that person more than once! Furthermore, eventhough not every person reads the recos, alot do, so yes, it is a strong advertising tool. Such a board could not exist without the participation of it's members. This participation should not be limited strictly to the "fun" threads. Reco's are what inspired this board and what will keep it fresh and useful so....get on the reco train!

Truth >Some writers participate more then an hour appointment, OR they are never rushed out the door when the timer goes off after an hour. Factor >I guess it is your approach with a lady acting like a gent will lead to a more non-rushed pleasant time together, so you do end up having lots of time to do all what was written, but if you are a jerk you probably will be asked to leave when the 60 minutes is up if not before hand. Factor> I failed to see any humor in this post where someone decided to say HAHA. This is the typical analogy of the issue why some other's do not even post a recommendation here, if others think that there is fluff thrown around, they are saying to themselves "Why even bother" and then have if it backed up by someone.

To be honest, I don't see that it's any of my business, provided it doesn't have any impact on me. I see no reason why any SP should have to tell me about her SO (or lack thereof), much less justify any decisions she's made to the likes of me. This is her life we're talking about, not mine. This sort of thing would, of course, be the one exception to what I wrote above. Fortunately it's never happened to me... touch wood...

Interesting thread, I'd also be curious to hear people's responses. Although I'm not in a committed long-term relationship at the moment, dating is definitely something I'm open about and I tell me partners I'm an SP. Sometimes I wonder whether it's the wisest thing to be telling clients I'm dating and/or have a relationship... I feel it might be negatively perceived? (I'm glad to be reading otherwise!) If my partner(s) aren't supportive I generally don't date them, so those that stick around know of the work I do, they also know it doesn't define who I am as a person.

I fail to see why having an SP ask for a review is such a serious offense, especially when she gave such fantastic service. To me, it is similar to a colleague, whom you respect, asking for a job reference, or a contractor who did an excellent job for you asking if he could give your name as a reference. Would you then vow never to use that contractor's services again?

The system does not give me the choice as to WHERE the it censors the words. It's ALL or NOTHING when it comes to censored words. We use them to remove bad websites. Other advertising sites and sites where the ladies have refused to place a link back to cerb. Cerb is free and if they are using cerb to advertise the least they can do is return the link... if not they will not reap any of the benefits of advertising that site on cerb. Sorry the system censors your PM's... I actually find it annoying too to be honest but I am not (at this time) able to censor the public forms and the PM's separately (It's just not part of the settings in the system that runs this site)

My Darling Victoria, I understand your sentiments and I THINK YOU ARE SPECTACULAR! If it was understood to one and all, what the overhead is to run a business like yours they would understand that reco's make life so much easier. I know how much blood, sweat and tears you pour into all that you do and I admire all that you are. Kisses, cat

I agree with Berlin that not one person can fulfill all of our needs and desires. I don't like to hierarchasize my relationships into primary and secondary either. Ultimately when I'm with someone I want it to be because I want to be with them and not because monogamy is privileged in society. When I'm in an open and/or poly relationship, I want to share the experiences I've had with other people because I want them to be a part of my life in its entirety. I want them to be a part of my personal growth! Although this is negatively perceived by a lot of people, I wish people saw this as me wanting to share my life (and all its facets). I do not like to compartmentalize my life into fragments. I want to live my life as a whole with many different people =)

I Additional Comments: If that is the case, then that is really sad. We are ALL grown adults here, every man has different taste. This is not high school anymore

I've been reading this thread and as others already explained those who have reputation points have earned them through their posts which other members here agreed on enough to either nominate their post or give them reputation points, which as previously mentioned can be good or bad. This however in my opinion does not make a member trustworthy, as Roamingguy said trust is earned and at least in my case I do not label/consider a member here trustworthy based in their reputation points. Reputation is 'the general estimation in which a person is held by the public.' Trust on the other hand is 'a firm reliance on the integrity, ability, or character of a person.' I consider a member trustworthy or not based on how he carries himself in here, the kind of posts made by him, how he interacts with people and yes, the reputation influences in the opinion made on someone but is not the only factor. Bottom line of what I'm trying to express here is reputation points most times represent our agreement or disagreement with what one has said or that's the way I see it. If you guys don't agree then I guess I'll get a few bad rep points but that won't make me untrustworthy, will it? ;)

I'd agree with your reasoning, but then to follow it to logical conclusion, really only two parties should be represented in the debate, Conservatives and Liberals, since the choice is between them who gets into power No one outside Quebec cares about the Bloc, and the Bloc doesn't care about outside Quebec, so why should they even be heard on a Canadian national debate NDP, a waste of seats...after Bob Rae's NDP's screwed Ontario, they just don't stand a chance. But then, if media fortune telling determines who gets to come to the debate, why not just let the media pick the winner and loser for each election, and to hell with elections totally. RG

Different things appeal to different people and as a client one should know what your personal turnoffs are. If you know this early, you are well on your way to enjoying your experiences. What someone may find appealing or acceptable may be the total opposite for someone else. Does this make someone right or wrong? Hardly.

Well even us odd guys (and what do you mean little) need affection and intimacy too:wink: RG

I think in some cases, guys will hold back on a rec even if they had a good time because they think other guys might not feel the same way. So if a girl is older or not a spinner or whatever, they'll believe others won't find her attractive and they won't share their experience. Sort of like, "I don't mind that aspect about her, but all the other guys will." Maybe it might dash their credibility as a rec-giver and they're concerned it will affect their 'cred' amongst the boys...who knows? All the recs here need to be taken with a grain of salt anyways. Every encounter is subjective, every person has different tastes, and frames of reference can differ wildly depending on the writer. Sometimes they're not even close to truth because of these factors. Not to mention how much fluff gets thrown in that probably didn't happen in the first place. When you read a guy go on about making out with her for 20 mins, then going down on her for a half hour, then trying desperately to last those 15 mins with that awesome BBBJ being so difficult, then missionary, doggie, reverse cowgirl, conversation, tickling, shower, etc, etc, etc. And all of this happened in one great 1 hour appointment. Do the math. Whatever.

I hate it when it's assumed 3 guys got together in a back room, had a couple of beers, and randomly decided to ignore something without giving it any thought, then gave self-congratulatory high-fives to each other while giggling about how powerful they are. The media consortium came to a logical conclusion to include only parties with seats in the house. Yes the Green party has people running in all constituencies and they did get some of the popular vote. And personally I think they have enough of a presence to be included in the debate. However, if they set a precedent where the rules are bent, then it's a slippery slope where we'll eventually end up letting in any wingnut that got a vote and having 14 people in the room trying to scream over each other.

I was quite touched last year to see two of my colleagues wish each other a Merry Christmas. I was touched because one's a Muslim, and the other's a Jew. There's still hope while common courtesy can triumph over religious differences.

I'd vote for that: it's a simple statement of fact (most of the time), rather than a potential judgment.

I just want to say that I have had great success with Agencies, may it be GOE,Montreal Fantasy,Cupids,Tristan Angels,Pink Kitty and others. They are managing the time for the ladies they represent, the ladies have more time for themselves..not always on the phone or missing out on calls. Agencies are easy to book with, I never had any bad dealings with any of them over my time, I can speak freely OR write emails to their phone person, prior to and after may that person be a male or female. I don't think any agency should be painted or mentioned at all with the terms in this thread as handlers / pimps. There is some ladies that also use an Agency when they may be touring to a city and she might be a indie from her city.

It is an automatic function. I am certain that the only way MOD can view a private message is if someone hits the "report this" button.

I think Reviews are a touchy subject, EVERY lady wants them but knows she shouldn't and can't ask for them. Reviews to me are a sign of appreciation and that you truly enjoyed your encounter with the lady you just spent time with. I do agree with Apex, it is tacky to ask for a recco. But.... WE should not have to ask! If you cas review one lady, why cant you do the same for another? Unless she did some B&S, her pictures are not of her, she lied about the services she offers, walk away and dont review her! But if you enjoyed your time with the lady, why is it so difficult to say something nice about her? We try our best to give YOU the best services, mutual respect goes a long way!

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Personally, I don't think it's a big deal. If Cerb came up in conversation during our meeting or if we communicated via Cerb PM to arrange a visit, I think it's a reasonable request. And if it feels too artificial, I'll probably politely say I'll see what I can do and then forget to post anything.

for me, my social lie has pretty much vanished, but im starting to get it back again. Personally i had friends who were not really friends (had nothing to do with being a SP) you live and learn. If i go to the bar, im not out there to make new clients, and usually im with my friends that know what i do, and accept me for me, if i need to answer my phone, i just say its a friend. if you start making an excuse for something, its like a white lie right? and everyone knows that one will turn into another, you will eventually get confused and it will come out! why bother hanging with someone that seems to be waiting for you to mess up? i would just get not bother, if your friends cant accept you or who you are, what you do, or even the fact that you dont want to tell them, then how are they your friend? thats how i determin it now, and ive gained good relationships from sticking to that. I dont want to be friends with someone who doesnt accept me, and vice versa.

Such a shame seeing all those Lib/Con votes slapping democracy in the face. Oh well, we'll be a full blown dictatorship within 10 years anyway.

its absolutly awful! My ex boyfiend used to be a pimp before we met, and after a few months, his "old ways" came back, i put up with his shit for 5 years, i was beaten every once and a while (got worse toward the end) I wasnt allowed to do certain things, see certian people, so, it really affcted my business, as well as my personal life. Thank god ive smartened up, and i am doing so much better without it. its just a huge stress on your life, and its not worth it.

Thanks WIT for doing this poll. I am personally very interested in the outcome. I am surprised at the large number of CERB members who intend to vote Conservative. I am sure a continuing Harper government will not have a positive attitude towards sex workers. I personally intend to vote Liberal.

Lookin -- There is no such requirement ... everyone has to start somewhere. But your post here isn't a bad start! If you are at all like me, you may be more comfortable establishing some communication online with a couple of the ladies rather than "cold calling" a lady. That's OK ... just make sure you aren't wasting the ladies' time. Its also a good idea to give some background about yourself in a non-explicit manner. And always be polite and respectful. Most of the ladies here are interested in meeting new clients that fulfill those requirements. If you put together a polite inquiry, its highly likely you will here back from them.

To me, monogamy is unrealistic. It is unrealistic to assume that one person will fulfill all of your needs. Certain people are better at certain things. Love is also not finite; a mother doesn't love any of her children any less the more she has. The only constraint is time. If you barely have time for one committed relationship, you're certainly not going to have time for two or three. But that's the beauty of polyamory. You might choose to have one primary partner and a couple of secondary partners with whom you are not emotionally committed to. Or you might find that having two primary partners is what works best for you. I, personally, try not to think of relationships in terms of primary, or secondary, because that creates a hierarchy and implicit in a hierarchy is that the one at the top is the best or most important. I have two relationships and both are equally important to me in their own ways. These kinds of relationships won't work if you (all parties involved) can't communicate. Additional Comments: I don't mean to single you out personally, but your response exemplifies something for me. Your wife has explicitly made clear that seeing SP's is a no-go and yet you do it anyway. Your relationship "works" because you omit the details of seeing SP's, not because you are actually monogamous.

i pay my accountant by the hour - i pay my lawyer by the hour -i pay my house cleaner by the hour- all professionals -why would your services be any different- except more enjoyable