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Summertime is now upon us, which means YAY for short skirts and tank tops! After one day of donning such attire in downtown Ottawa, I've already been reminded of my least favourite thing about summer: the cat-call. My experiences with cerb gentlemen have always been respectful and courteous, so this message is in no way intended to snip at any of you - however, this is just a gentle reminder to the people out there I may not have met, so who may not be as gentlemenly. NO LADY likes to be yelled at when walking down the street. Honking, whistling, 'ya-hooing', etc. Not acceptable. There are ways to show your appreciation of a nice-looking woman without acting like a pig. The best one: a SMILE. A smile goes a long way, and usually results in a return smile. A leer however can sometimes result in my middle finger being flashed at your face. For myself especially, as a heavily tattooed woman, I expect the looks. Today already I had the purrfect examples of polite, and downright rude. As I sat down in the hair salon waiting room, the older lady next to me smiled, looked at me, and said 'HOLY COW! that's a lot of ink!' then proceeded to talk to me about them. Totally fine. Made me smile. Unaccepable - the woman sitting on a bus bench who dropped her mouth at me, sneered, then turned to gawk at me with a look of disgust as I passed (see, my intended lesson in this message isn't for men only, women can do this too!). That made me angry. All I'm really trying to say is this: pretty girls know they're pretty, and want to wear pretty things. Please don't make us feel like garbage about it - because then we'll cover up!

Mrrnice, I do agree with you. Potential criminalization affects the lives of our clients--absolutely! I don't think anyone should face the possibility of having a criminal record simply because he was ready to pay, or had paid, to have intimate companionship with a willing, consenting person. How a man spends his time with me and what we do or don't do together--including the willing exchange of money for time--should be no one's business but our own. I think it would be absolutely fantastic if many men would come forward and state, publicly, that they actively seek and enjoy the company of paid companions, massage providers, strippers and dancers. The public has an idea that most of the men who engage our time and services are profoundly deviant in many, many ways. This is absolutely false. I'm sure that all of the ladies here will join me in stating that our clients are ordinary, regular guys from all walks of life who usually would not have a problem finding unpaid female companionship if they wanted it. For many, it's simpler, cheaper, less risky to their marriages and families and less emotionally demanding over time to spend a few hours with one of us occasionally than it is to have an affair. For others who have little time to devote to a relationship, seeing us fulfills their need for intimacy and human contact which may or may not include sex. It's true that men with disabilities, disfigurements and physical limitations also seek our company. Why shouldn't they? The desire for physical connection, closeness and erotic engagement is a basic, human need that has nothing to do with physical abilities. It would gladden my heart if the public could understand that the men who visit me and others give every indication of being as stable, respectful, compassionate and non-violent as the men who never engage us. The anti-sex feminists and others have done a very fine job of convincing the general public that men who pay for sex always want violent, dangerous, degrading and dehumanizing things from their paid companions that no "normal" woman would reasonably agree to do. It's a lie that's difficult to combat. Every one of us who has been in this business for any significant length of time will have a few unfortunate stories to tell. Admittedly, some of us may have nightmares to relate, as well. We screen as carefully as we can, or as carefully as we think we can get away with, but we don't pick up on every subtle nuance or detail. Some men do approach us because they do, indeed, want things that are outside most of our boundaries. But those men are few and far between in my experience. I've been in the sex trade for years and entertained hundreds of men. Not one has ever harmed me physically. I do not consider my work to be traumatizing. I expect to retire one day, perhaps one day soon, and when I do, I don't anticipate coping with unpleasant memories. I can't say the same about my marriage, however. My ex-husband is a very manipulative, emotionally and psychologically abusive man who took deliberate, carefully calculated steps to harm me and our children, all within the confines of what appeared to be a very good, middle class, heterosexual relationship. He was dangerous, yet he acted within the limits of the law. My clients are not dangerous men and should not be forced to limit their actions by laws that don't apply to them or their needs, or to me and mine.

So... last year we discussed things that were awesome... not like a billion diamonds awesome, but like sunshine awesome. This year we are looking at the anti-awesome. Things that suck. Large. But not large like a plane crash, or having your toes grow together (if that happens)... everyday suck stuff that you can look back at and sorta, giggle. 1. Grooming yourself at the public restroom, you lean too close to the vanity. It appears SOMEONE had been doing a full body bath before you. Result... faux pee stain on the front of your khakis. 2. You struggle and strain with the lid on a jar of something... say like jam (or instead of like jam, jam would suffice.) You pound it with a knife, you whack it on the floor, you run it under cold water. Finally brute force spells success. As you make the final brutal turn, the jar slips from your hand, flies through the air and crashes to the floor. Smashed into a million pieces, a million gooey sticky pieces. You have the lid in your hand. 3. In an intimate gathering you feel the discomfort of excess abdominal pressure. Using your ninja skills, you pass the discord silently into the room... forgetting the meal of cabbage rolls and sauerkraut the night before. No one is amused; they look at you and speak of a person that dines regularly on roadkill....

I had the fantastic experience of visiting the most recent CERB Social in Ottawa (thanks to organizers to Nicolette Vaughn and AngelaofOttawa). In addition to meeting the incredibly warm and welcoming hospitality of the CERB community in Ottawa, Everyone had the pleasure of meeting folks from acorss the country, but mainly Ottawa based for obvious reasonjs. There were several Atlantic CERBites who were enjoying the fantastic and genuinely warm hospitality of the graciuous Ottawa hosts. It was not much of a stretch to copy this idea and see if it would be of interest the the CERB community down here. I recently ran this idea by a very well reviewed SP lady here and she had a very positive view, in fact, so positive, she was willing to help organize. Short version is that I would like to guage the interest factor about holding an inaugral CERB get together here in Atlantic Canada - Halifax would be the proposed initial site, but that could be easily changed based on responses. What are your thoughts? 1. Is this a credible idea? 2. Timing - early, late summer or fall 3. Location - Halifax or other? 4. Duration - evening event 6PM till closing 5. Other The inaugral event could be modelled on the hugely successful event held in Ottawa organized by Nicki & Angela last month (May 11) - Very classy, discreet location, business casual attire, event location and particulars only provided to those registered and paid up. Registration fees would be in the under $50 range, ladies n/c. Having said that, all suggestions are open - after all the "Kitchen Party Format" works beautifully down here as well... It would be wonderful to see the Atlantic region have a larger presence in the CERB landscape in my view and would love to help facilitate making this happen. Any and all feedback is more than welcome! G11

Heya! I had a questions for everyone in Ottawa...well ok mainly the gents:D For a long time I've consider to dye my hair purple and blue...but would it be consider a bit too wild for some? I currently have bright pink hair for the past 4 months and I don't think that many people actually mind it. But pink look more like red, then blue/purple. I am fairly crazy and silly but in the good way:D and crazy hair are a part of who I am I guess with the tattoos and piercings. But would it be too much as part as the industry? Especially since in Ottawa, where something a bit different seem the edge...

Another example, sadly, of people needing to be trained in etiquette, good manners, common courtesy and common sense. I don't know, I was raised to be a gentleman and thought it was normal to be and act like a gentleman. It was the minority that had bad manners. How would these guys feel if it was their mother/sister/daughter getting cat calls. So simple a concept, treat others the way you'd like to be treated (or in this case, your mother/sister/daughter treated) RG

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And to add to your post Angela, likely, if the chemistry wasn't right for you, likely it wasn't right for the guy too...one of those ymmv (which to me includes the chemistry between the lady and gentleman). Sometimes people just don't click, and it's nobodies fault But that's why I prefer two hours. In part because I do have to travel to see a lady, so one hour just doesn't seem long enough. Three hours, for a first encounter, well if no chemistry, three hours could seem like an eternity LOL. Two hours seems just right. I should add that when I am looking for a lady to meet, a lot of what I use in determining who to see is the lady's profile/website/pm's/emails/posts, and yes, I look at the pictures too Gives me a idea of her personality, and whether we will connect and have a good time Thus far, it's worked for me pretty well Some ramblings over my first cup of coffee RG

Do you remember your first exposure to erotica? Someone's movie collection? Magazines? I recall being in my early teens and stumbling across a relative's stash of playboys. Needless to say it caught my attention. Those days of different lingerie styles, body types, hairstyles. Not saying those days need to come back, just thinking back. Your thoughts.

Like Nicki, I would not agree to meet someone for 3 hours unless I had seen them before. Even at 2 hours, if I felt the chemistry or other factors was not right after an hour, I would politely bow out and return a portion of the donation. Since I mostly cater to the half hour day-time on the run crowd, it is nice when I actually get to spend an hour with someone.

Well for this guy, a one hour encounter would seem like a quickie to me, and not my thing. I prefer my first encounter with a lady to be a two hour encounter. It's enough time to get acquainted, sitting, talking, then go to the bed for fun, and lie back kissing cuddling. If it's a good encounter I'll see her again, and for at least another two hour encounter, but more likely for a three hour encounter. But I guess for me I like a GFE, and kinda hard to have that with a quick one hour encounter At least in this guy's opinion RG

Tuesday May 31st will be a day forever etched in my mind. It is the day our hockey team finally came back and the day I met Amelia. I booked her for a 2 hour appointment and it certainly was one of my most memorable experiences ever with an SP. First of all, Amelia is gorgeous from head to toe. She has an amazing body that looks great from every angle. She also has this effervescent personality that made me feel at ease and it felt so great to converse with her. We talked about a lot of subjects but she knew that the conversation always came back to hockey and the Jets coming back. Although not a professed hockey fanatic she surprised me with her knowledge and memories from her past experiences with the Oilers (boo!). I'm not one to talk about our bedroom encounter but I must say her kisses basically melted my heart and her lap dances and sensual touch were both mesmorizing and gentle. She has the most softest skin in the world. Thank you Amelia for sharing this very special day with me. You are a wonderful young woman and I really hope you come visit our fair city again. I promise to take you to a Jets game the next time. G

I don't know what a "kitchen party" is but, the "Ottawa Social" that Gentlemen11 is referring to (hosted by Angela and Nicolette) is much more like an sp/hobbyist office party. There is no "taking it further" or "other rooms" involved. The intent is just as described: a social meet and greet. Nothing more. (As public solicitation is illegal.) It's a nice way for people to put names (handles..lol) to faces and have a good time. :-D Kim

SA, I don't know where you get your information, but most paid companions work indoors and are not coerced by pimps. We are no more likely to have drug or alcohol addictions than women in "straight" professions. About 85% of us work indoors. Nearly all of the women who engage in street prostitution have multiple problems: most are addicted to illegal drugs; many also have significant mental health issues and the great majority are aboriginal women. Poverty, though, is the critical factor underlying everything else. Canada has laws against human trafficking. Good laws with stiff penalties, they are, too. The problem is that there is little police or judicial will to enforce these laws. Most of the people who are caught up in genuine human trafficking are farm and industrial workers, not prostitutes. Some women are migrant sex workers. That is, they leave their home countries to come to places like Canada in order to engage in the sex trade. They hope to make a significant amount of money that they can send home to help support their families. Many of the Asian women in the micro-brothels in Vancouver are migrant sex workers who make genuine, deliberate choices to come here on visitor's visas to work for up to six months before returning home. They are not "trafficked." We also have laws against the sexual exploitation of children. They, too, should be relentlessly enforced. There is no excuse whatever for sexually abusing children. That said, if we were to document every person who was sexually abused by anyone before the age of 18 or 19, the number would be staggering! It may be that a large number of women who work as paid companions have been sexually abused at some point in their lives. I do think that many of us have been abused in some way, at some point, usually by fathers, brothers, male relatives, boyfriends, partners, lovers or husbands. It maybe that survivors of violence are over-represented among sex trade workers, but that may not be true. Violence against women is endemic and also sanctioned in our culture. If you don't think so, have a look at debates about what really constitutes violence or how to define what is or is not genuinely abusive. Physical violence is only one kind of abuse. Emotional and psychological abuse are both more prevalent and far more destructive. The Harper Conservatives may try to pass legislation that will make prostitution much more dangerous for many women. The women who are most at risk, however--women working on the streets--will not stop engaging in it. They work in the sex trade because they have no other legitimate alternatives; because of poverty; because of addictions; because of mental health problems. These workers will work in conditions that are much higher risk than they are, now. Pimps will thrive because they will offer to protect the women who work for them and because they will strive to guarantee male clients' safety from the police. Some of the rest of us may decide that it's not worth the hassle to work around whatever new laws are created. These women will retire to other professions. Make no mistake, though: many of us will simply carry on doing what we do. The demand for paid companionship will not go down, regardless of what legislative bodies do. Indeed, when men are under greater pressure to avoid arrest and prosecution, paid companions such as me will have a far easier time screening potential clients. That is, there will be fewer arguments about references, contact information, cell phones and the real identities of our clients. Not only that, but expect our rates to increase, considerably, too! If the Harper government has any genuine interest in protecting women from the likes of Picton, they should outlaw poverty, put an end to the drug trade and make effective mental health resources available to everyone when needed, rather than forcing many to wait months or years to see a psychiatrist. I don't think this will happen, though. Legislating a minimum, liveable income would be expensive. Ending the drug trade would have a profound impact on many economies. Vancouver alone would be directly harmed by such a step. And the government is doing its utmost to limit access to health care already because of the expense. The government is not going to do anything that will actually benefit women, protect any of us from predation or violence, or end the sex trade.

sigh.... Some of these proposals actually sound reasonable, provided that one doesn't know the truth. More and more, I recognize that a few of us companions could probably make a very big difference in any discussion of prostitution in Canada. Most of us, here, are nothing like the stereotype most people subscribe to. The trouble is that the stigma associated with this profession is so damaging and can have such far-reaching repercussions that most of us can't afford to take the risks required. It's a sad irony that, because the governments and police departments have so little interest in taking steps that would protect the lives of women in the sex trade, it's not safe to speak the plain truth about our lives.

I agree with Shelly, all one liners or anything rude is deleted and fast. I used to write back and explain my idea of proper manners but then realized if I have to explain common sense I don't want to see the person anyway.

I would hope that most guys realize that we're running a business and are seeing more than one gentlemen. If me telling you that I've got another appointment scheduled ruins things for you, I'd say you're a bit too high maintenence for my liking anyway.

I was about 8yrs old. My family was given the opportunity to use my mother's employer's cottage for the weekend. Being the snoop I always was, I found a treasure trove!!! Playboy, Penthouse and the one thing I stole. A copy of the Happy Hooker. I read the book over and over once I got home! WOW...is all I can say :) guess that was when I figured out that I like girls as much as guys :)

My first real brush with erotica was in the late 60's. I would babysit for an aunt and uncle and one night I went downstairs to crab a coke and found a room with these neat stacks of magazines. There was more than 100 and it was Playboy. They dated back to the mid-50's until present day. I took a half doz upstairs and after the kids were in bed I started thumbing through them. Each time I baby sat I had the same routine, after the kids were in bed I'd grab a half a dozen and would go through them. It was really neat to see how the centre folds changed over the years, body shape, age, stylle and nudity which at the begining was pretty tame. I started to notice there really weren't many pictures but a whole lot of articles and interviews. These were heady times, viet nam, civil rights, the women's movement, Kent State and on and on. The monthly interviews were eargerly anticipated and featured the key politcial and enterntainment figures and writers of the day and certainly left of centre. This was pre internet and mags like Playboy, Rolling Stone and Interview were very influential and because of Playboy I sought them out. My Dad bought me a subscription when I was 18 and renewed it for me every year until he passed at 84 almost 40 years of subscriptions. So thanks Dad and thanks Hef.......you were a big part of who I am today. Peace MG