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In another thread discussing the genuineness (is that a word?) of the encounter, I mentioned that I thought that sex was a basic human right. Kubrickfan suggested I start this as a topic, so here we are! My reasoning behind the assertion that sex is (or should be) a human right is that on a very basic level, everyone requires touch and intimacy. Sex doesn't have to be something that is limited to marriage or relationships and it's not a bad thing if you like to fuck all the time (join the club!). It's an emotional and physical release. I know when I'm cranky, a good fuck will make it better. I tend to think the world would be less fucked up if certain people were getting laid more! Society often puts restrictions on sexual behaviour and what makes a person worth sleeping with and that means that some people get the shaft when it comes to the sexin's. That's totally fucked up to me. Why shouldn't everyone be able to enjoy sex, when they want and how they want? So Cerbies, what do you think?

There is no reason nor need for a martyr. Everyone's preoccupation should be that of positivity. Quite frankly, dwelling on the perceived notion of negativity only perpetuates the notion of its existence. Can we not just move on? :)

It sounds like there is a genuine concern here for the OP. I'm not sure if this thread is the best place to post jokes about sex addictions.

I believe that everyone should have the right to pursue the sex they want, with the consenting partners they desire, as often as they like. I think that the attitudes that would seek to limit, repress, or shame such activities are harmful to both individuals and society. The fact is, we are a very sexual species- and like our closest primate relatives, the chimps and the bonobos, we have sex not solely as a means of reproduction, but also as a way to form bonds, to relieve stress, to alleviate conflict, to show friendship and demonstrate love, and a whole host of other reasons. Desire and sexuality is part of what makes life so awesome. At its best, it can help us connect better with ourselves and with others. Of course it should be a human right. It's human nature!

Sometimes there are no other avenues. The best thing to do is document all your attempts to have sex: pick-up bars, dating sites, etc. If all attempts to attain sex fail within a reasonable amount of time, say a month, then you should have the right to see a service provider legally. What are you supposed to do, wait out this sexless life until you win the handsome gene pool the next life around? I don't think so.

Sometimes my posts are too serious, so I thought I'd post this silly idea I had. I've seen situations (terrorists, hostages, etc.) where a photo or video is released to the public, and an accurate sports score or recent newspaper is announced/shown to prove that the photo/video is recent. What if SP's and MA's posed with today's newspaper to prove their photos are current? Is there some sort of prize I could claim for this silly idea? Megan :)

I for one have always been a supporter of the mods and the work they do.....outstanding!! That is why I love cerb........ Then there are the members of this board who are a blast......the ones who enjoy posting fun and informative items in threads.... I really admire the people who do not take offense to a little humor now and then...... Posted via Mobile Device

I am sorry for the surrounding ignorance to all of this drama here right now, But from what I can see here, is an individual who feels " on the spot" for what he may feel or think about some of his relations here?? No matter if you are an SP or a hobbiest, you should be feel welcomed to express your point of view openly. As long as it is positive and in good spirit! If not then please feel free to not say anything at all! Sometimes we as SP's may feel uber competitve, but when we can stand together it would be so much bettter then when we stand alone! I for one will miss PP post..... but will continue contact:) xoxo

Hmmm...now I am probably going to ponder for ever on that one. I agree with you on the most part...but everyone? no, not in my eyes.If a pedophile, someone that only want to have sex with kids, is only obsess with them, shouldn't be allowed to have sex. But as for the rest...fuck away! For me it's honestly a need...sometime physical one, but most of the times when I literally urge to be with someone...it's because I want to let go. I want to share a moment of vulnerability with someone that I think you can pretty much only access when being physically bond. Thought one thing I found strange...sex is now really open, literally you open a magazine and bam sex! and orgasms! and whatever...but yet we are so up-tight about it! It's literally like you need to have lots of sex, BUT the society tell you, you need to feel guilty about it right after... bah. I hump for fun. I try not to complicated my life with the "basic" sex...I already have hard time understanding bdsm and all that go with it:P

I am going to be totally selfish here...I want a woman client! I had duo and saw couples....but I want to experiment a woman that way...thought I probably be even more nervous then her:D

Kindman If you truly suffer from sex addiction, you should be seeking help from a therapist/psychologist. If diagnosed as such already, your therapist/psychologist would likely direct you to appropriate chat rooms. He/she would also likely tell you to stay away from escort sites, such as CERB. I do understand Alexandra's point about CERB, although I have to agree with Loopie. First question coming to mind is how you came to CERB. I found CERB when I decided to begin embarking on this lifestyle, and used Google. If it were me, and I was to be looking for help regarding sex addiction, I would Google sex addiction Here's what I quickly came up with http://www.sexhelp.com/am-i-a-sex-addict/sex-addiction-test This can tell you whether you are a sex addict or not (if not already diagnosed), or at least it's a starting point. Some quick ramblings RG

After being lucky my whole life to never have worn eye glasses.....I had to get reading glasses this morning :( They were expensive ! $10 at the drugstore ! Now I will look distinguished like a judge or something with glasses on the end of my nose ;)

I've always found it strange that this is the one business where the "genuineness" of the encounter always seems to be questioned (I don't necessarily mean by CERB members, more in general). No one questions whether their nanny or day-care provider "really" cares about the children they look after, despite the fact that they are paid to do so. Like Cat, when clients come to see me, they meet "me," flaws and all. I give 100% and I do genuinely care about my clients because I personally think that sex is something that EVERYONE (rude/offensive notwithstanding) should be able to access, regardless of ability, size, race, age, gender, etc. In my mind, sex is a basic human right, and I see myself as providing a service that is much needed. I often feel like I am doing something good for someone else, giving them something that they sorely need (and I don't just mean orgasms) and that is what I love about my job.

This is exactly why I posted this in the ELITE/SP ONLY area. A small handful of people are creating a hostile environment for some. Pushing good members like Pete to do things like this! It's bad for the board, bad for the ladies as it makes potential and really good long term clients not feel welcome. I think jealousy is playing a role in this with some and maybe even boredom for some? Not sure but what we need to do is suggest to the council that anyone causing a hostile environment here gets ONE warning then the BOOT! I know myself and the other mod have talked about this for a while now and we both agree... it's a handful of people killing the vibe for many and it has to stop. Those people responsible need to find a new thing to focus on! Pete, I hope you come back and post. Your a valued member here and one many of the guys look up to. I know I appreciate all your contributions to cerb and this post hopefully opens up some peoples eyes. The ladies who are doing this are just making themselves and other ladies loose business. You kill the friendly vibe of the site and kill off the top members and the quality posters you kill the traffic to the site and hurt business for yourself and the others. It's just dumb!

I suffer from sex addiction i.e. the constant pursuit of sexual pleasures. I laugh when I read that this is not a real addiction. I would like to hear from others who have seen sex taking over their lives. Many think this is a myth created by men as an excuse for their actions. I do not agree. I also think it afflicts women. Surely the solution to sex addiction cannot be more sex?

Golden. http://youtu.be/MJwb_wEaW2M

Kudo's to the Mod, his staff, and the council for a job amazingly well done ! I think what they do becomes lost on us sometimes in everyday life here on Cerb. There are only 7721 active members from all walks of life, 68,000 threads and 279,000 posts to date that have to be moderated. Pics to approve, attitudes to adjust, websites to maintain and program, laws rules and regulations to uphold.....etc...etc...etc.... A big big job and they are doing a damn fine job !! IMO I bet this is what the guy in his chair in his office in Barrie, Ontario is thinking some days ;)

My dogs My family My friends My health My sanity My freedom My safety Free will... Yup. That about covers what I cannot live without. Or truthfully, would rather not have to live without. I'm just really thankful for the aforementioned. :)

Hey strip club buddy, I see you like Karine! Yeah, what's not to like? She's fantastic and one of my favourites.

According to the movie Incredibles, Edna (the incredibles fashion designer) says "NO CAPES" !! And that the following superhero's have had a disastrous ends by cape snags such as... Thunderhead-his cape snagged on a missile fin Stratogale- Cape caught in a jet turbine Metaman- express elevator Dynaguy- snagged on take off Splashdown- sucked into a vortex I strongly advise against capes!!

I've done variations on this recipe that have turned out nicely... You can get really creative! http://www.acouplecooks.com/2011/11/stuffed-acorn-squash-with-quinoa-and-herbs/

Maria and I agree on these favourite things. Raindrops on roses whiskers on kittens, bright copper kettles warm woolen mittens, brown paper packages tied up with strings Cream colored ponies crisp apple strudels, door bells and sleigh bells schnitzel with noodles. Wild geese that fly with the moon on their wings. Girls in a white dresses with a blue satin sashes, snowflakes that stay on my nose and eyelashes, silver white winters that melt into springs, Even when the dog bites, or when the bee stings, or when I'm feeling sad, I simply remember my favorite things, and then I don't feel so bad.

Thank you Wit. After privately chastising the op (heehee all in fun) I am so pleased that we are all embracing the virtues of cerb!

Be grateful, my Frames and lenses (progressives) cost me $600.00 Even with my health insurance benefits through work, my balance of the glasses was $400.00 I'd kill if all I needed was reading glasses RG

Looking forward to that last helping of yummy stuffing and discovering someone else beat you to it. What a let down!!!

I do not have a sex addiction........i just do not get enough sex........

bahaha. I did the test. They say most addict are above 6. I scored 15 0_o

I like that even though the board is heavily Ottawa-based, most are friendly and welcoming to those all over the map. An awesome sense of comaradrie within the nation. :)

Cerb is an experience, a hobby and fetish at once The people are wonderful. The atmosphere is grand. I've met wonderful, caring sweet clients from here that appreciated what I have to offer them. For the one's I haven't met..I've never had strangers be so nice to me. Thank you! P.S I notice the pages load faster, thanks !!

My all time comfort food ... pasta. Even canned pasta would make my day, sadly I don't have any, if craving does not go away I may just run to the store for one of those chef boyardee things.

@ Loopie, I sort of agree with what you're saying, but given that sex and everything surrounding it is a highly "hush hush" subject in a lot of social settings, it might make sense for someone to bring up a topic such as sex addiction in a setting like CERB where we all gather on the basis of sexual experiences/encounters amongst other things. It also seems plausible that people in this setting are experiencing similar things and thus can private message the OP with some ideas or support resources. And so while this topic may not make sense to be discussed on CERB for some, it sort of makes sense to me for the reasons I've stated above. Sky

The Mods have quite a bit of work, and must feel at times like they are unappreciated. In fact they are the unsung heroes of this board. If it wasn't for their effort (and the Town Council's) this would be JAEB (just another escort board LOL) The ladies and gents can meet here, in a safe environment and discuss matters. Here is where we are IMHO opposite sides of the same coin, not an us versus them. Good thread. And again, thanks to the Mod for CERB And thanks to WIT for posting the business plan Some quick ramblings RG

I don't mean to be rude, but posting a thread asking for support in quitting sex on an escort message board seems a bit like having an Alcoholics Anonymous meeting in a bar. I have tried to understand this addiction because it gets a lot of press lately. And I will admit that I do not feel I understand it. Nobody has really provided me with a consistent or meaningful definition. So I can't really say I even understand what the problem is and what sex addicts feel they would need to do in order to cure themselves or treat themselves. But if you feel sex is ruining your life, I really don't think this is the place to get away from those temptations.

Berlin -- This would be a great topic in and of itself ... as you asserted it, I will leave it up to you to decide whether to post it.

This is a great thread! Thanks for starting it. I don't know how to be anyone but me, so I don't try. That said, there are aspects of who I am that I don't express in all areas of my life. I think that most people would say the same thing about themselves. As I get older, I notice that I'm both much more confident and more protective of myself, too. What that means in practical terms is that I don't see anyone unless I think I'm going to enjoy being with them. Life is just too short for that. If I have the sense that I'm not what someone is looking for, I don't hesitate to say so and, as much as possible, to make some suggestions about others who may be more like what he wants. Going through meetings when I feel that the other person and I are basically incompatible is an emotionally and spiritually draining experience for me, not worth whatever I'm being paid for my time.

A great thread you've started here, DixonD. Coming a little late to the discussion (a dozen posts have been made already), I don't wish to restate too much of what others, particularly RG, have already stated perfectly well. I've only recently begun my hobbyist adventure, and along with first introductions came the nervousness and giddy anticipation - a mixture that really is, upon reflection, pretty exciting! It subsides quickly once the ice is broken, and gives way to the pleasure of spending time with a wonderful person who you like and if she does likewise, then you've hit it off. Whether that is sexual --to varying degrees-- in nature, or more for companionship, depends on the people and situation. The encounters I've had have definitely left behind a pleasant warmth, the recollection of a satisfying meeting of mind, heart, and body. So, in a sentence (gosh, that might be hard) it boils down to trust, respect, kindness, and liking each others' company. Allow me, if you will, just to add that, IMO, looks are quite secondary to personality, but naturally there are certain body types and attributes that will add that certain je ne sais quoi, but *to me* what makes an encounter so special is in part something ethereal that can't be anticipated or defined. And why would we want to lose any of the mystery of it all? Wishing OP and everyone here on the board blissful moments always. ;)

Shortbread Cookies & Butter Tarts....Not a dish exactly but they should be....

I agree with RG, without a genuine connection I wouldn't be hobbying. I almost decided to stop hobbying before discovering cerb for exactly that reason. I was relying on ads in the newspaper or ads on EC to find SP's. In other words there was no real way of getting a feel of the lady's personality or knowing if we would click or not before meeting, and more often than not, we didn't click and everything was a very mechanical business transaction. Which was no fun at all and didn't exactly work wonders for my ego. But since being on here I can converse with a lady at length through PM's, and from reading their posts on different threads and topics I can get a good sense of her personality and decide from that whether or not we'll click. If it's our first encounter (or sometimes even if it's not) I like to spend at least 15-20 mins chatting with the lady before getting "down n' dirty" :p, I like building that feeling of familiarity before getting intimate....and also after being intimate. It's a good way to ensure there will be a genuine comfort and a real connection between both parties. There's nothing better than leaving an encounter and feeling and knowing that you've made her day just as much as she made yours, and for a lot more reasons than the "donation" you left.

My parents were always givers..always helping the less fortunate...I sometimes went with my day when he delivered the presents he and his friend had bought for families.. at the time i didn't understand the tears i would see from the moms... When my dad passed away I did my best to continue...I couldn't afford much as i was young but i always managed from saving my baby sitting money to help at least one family. So my parents were not only my hero but helped shape me into being a giver ... a giver from the heart. I still do this today.

I wonder if the reaction would have been as positive if it was a male couple. :icon_eek: Just food for thought.

Thank you all for your 'get well' wishes. They have lifted my spirits. I'm back from a follow up visit at the hospital. Stitches will be removed in about a week, collar bone to remain in a brace, and the doctors continue to monitor a blood clot from my head injury. Some could be angry and bitter from this type of accident...I choose to be grateful. - Grateful that no one was with me in the passenger seat, police say no one would have survived the accident from that position. - Grateful for the airbags in my vehicle that limited the injuries. - Grateful for the donors who gave the 3 units of blood I needed at the hospital. - Grateful for family, friends, and my CERB family for thier kindness and support. We all have an ability to impact drinking and driving. This is not just a problem at Christmas time, but year round. I ask all of you to make proper choices in this area. I am proof that your choices do not impact you alone. I am grateful, I am lucky...this time. Thank you all for your caring thoughts. E.