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My heart goes out to you. We have three (not by choice) but the nicest of all found us and came to my door one day with a completely broken paw and near death from starvation. A lot of money on vet bills later, she is the nicest cat I have ever known. I knew that if we didn't take her in, it was a virtual death sentence. During the 6 weeks it took for her paw to heal we kept her in a spare bedroom with a kitty litter, food, a radio (for some faint ambient background noise so she'd never really feel alone) and each evening I would take my note book computer or a good book and lay on the floor next to her for hours to keep her company. Now she follows me everywhere though out our very large house, more like a puppy dog than a cat. Every morning without fail she is waiting for me to wake up so she can make the trek downstairs with me for my morning coffee, I don't really understand this ritual but it seems of the utmost importance to her. I know she will be waiting for me this evening when I come home (as she knows exactly when that will be without the aid of a watch). They really are or do quickly become members of our family with their own personalities.

Well not for breakfast but a dozen nice trout will make a nice dinner for some friends and I. :)

I was thinking the other day about how long I've been on cerb, about 3.5 years, and how much I've changed. Then I looked back at my very first posts and reminisced about where I was in life in 2008. My first two posts are pretty dorky. I remember being shy and hesitant about posting because I'd been on the other boards and never felt they were healthy, welcoming sites. And then cerb came along... So different and I felt at home right away. Here are my first two posts: #1 New to Halifax Hello everyone, I'm new to Halifax and I want to meet new people! I was working in Edmonton and decided to relocate. Everyone's made me feel so welcoming so far, I know I'll find the same here... Feel free to pm me or write here! xoxo Amelia #2 I'm trying to post photos but have no idea how! Can someone enlighten me? Duuuhhhhh :) What was your first post and how have you changed? xo AM

Not only did I spend my birthday alone this week, which completely sucked, came home today to find my beloved cat of 19 years sitting on the stairs very quiet. I picked her up, cuddled her, she looked at me, mieowed, lifted her head to look at me and passed away on me. She was a unique cat, a Hemingway, she had 6 toes on each foot, and two thumbs! I cried for about an hour before I called for the vet to have someone take her. So I don't think things could get any worse for me this week, if they did, don't know what I would do.

Well, we are all familiar with Murphy's Law which in its simplest state says, "If anything can go wrong, then it will." I am going to put it to the test. I had brand new snow tires put on in the fall and never once because of the winter that we had felt that I was in need of them. So, this afternoon the summer tires are going back on. According to Murphy's Law, we all know what is going to happen here don't we! I expect that many of us have great Murphy's Law anecdotes.

If party A says they don't want sex to happen, and they're clear about it, and it happens anyway, then it's sexual assault. Period. I don't care if party A was breathing fasts, flushed, rock-hard, or came in a giant mess of goo. Unwanted sex is an assault no matter what the orgasmic outcome. Party B doesn't get to decide when it's "really" an assault or not, second-guessing party A and using the state of his/her body against a statement of will. Among other things, the alternative leads to "well sure I hear "no", but if I just keep going she/he will realize she/he really wants it... it's perfectly obvious to me!" No thanks.

Sophia I understand what you are saying, but, and I think it may be a bit gender oriented here, but for a guy there is some pressure to lose his virginity, especially in this case, at age 26 I don't disagree with setting the stage so to speak, a lunch date (or longer encounter with time to socialize over drinks) chatting getting to know one another. Hell, I do that now with encounters. But I can almost guarantee he'll remember very fondly the first lady he was intimate with, and took his virginity. I remember fondly my first time, that was 34 years ago And a little friendly advice James. Don't talk about it as the v-card and so on. Contact a lady here who you find attractive and interests you. Book an encounter with her. In the course of your pm's/emails let her know you are a virgin. But when you book and have your encounter, treat it as a date, as with any other lady. But most of all, treat her like a lady and be a gentleman. You'll both have a good time. Good luck RG

Why would you (or anyone) assume it is a FS place? With a MP the assumption should always be exactly the opposite. If they wanted to be FS they would advertise as an escort agency. I don't have any info on that massage place, sorry.

I can relate to what your going through Victoria. A few years back, actually Jan 2010 my cat, Max died on my lap. Got him from a shelter, and he adopted me. Had him for eleven year. Just like losing a family member. I thought out of respect for him, wasn't going to get another cat right away. Hard coming home, always heard him come to the door to greet me I still have a photograph of him tacked to a bulletin board over my desk...he isn't forgotten. It took me a year but I adopted a grey feral kitten (he doesn't crave going outdoors) who was saved from going back to the feral colony (Humane Society said at his age this was best). My thoughts and prayers are with you Victoria RG

Again....I still have a crush on Beaker!! Meep meep...no really, you are so positive, upbeat and fair! I love your mind!

I have been asked to see a few ppl who are virgins. I do have to admit that I have a bit of moral issues with it for me. I hesitate mainly cause, I myself had a very meaningless encounter as my first, and wish it was more special. I have suggested to the few who have contacted me, to have a lunch date first.( of couse as a gentlemen you should compensate at least half her time and pay for dinner:) ) Time to chat, flirt and feel at ease. It will allow you time, and me time to know if this is how you really want to go about it. You may consider this when seeking a lady's companionship. You dont want your first time to feel like a transaction, or out of desperation. You need it to be sensitive, romantic, and know that you are being treated kindly. Of course we have fantasy's of how it will be, but just be natural. Allow yourself time to open up, then perhaps explore your adventurous side?

Well ... I was at a lounge for drinks with a few friends the other day...and a waitress who's happy meal was short a few fries came up to me and asked .... "are those people who were sitting at that table beside you sitting there right now?" ..... so I look over and there is nobody sitting there so I replied .... "why yes sweetie they are still sitting there they are just invisible" .... true story and I got cut off :(

Having had the pleasure of meeting Peachy recently I would never have guessed she lacked anything. Being a great sp has everything to do with being fun, enthusiastic, engaging a great listener and someone who enjoys pleasing others. She has this in spades. I've always thought the aspiration to reach for something out of your reach was inspirational. My hope for P is that should she want to seek further education she does not let pinheads keep her down or disuade her. She has life experience that will seperate her from the rest and serve her well with all she comes in contact with.

Well I started here on CERB in Feb 2010. I can't find my first post, I think it was something about terms and what they stood for. I was absolutely new to this lifestyle (in fact my first time wouldn't be till July 2010, that's when I lost my "lifestyle virginity" LOL) and it was a major decision for me to enter the lifestyle...but a decision I am very happy I made. I learned the stereotypes the public have, are nothing close to the reality of this lifestyle. Strange, considering the stereotypes, all I have met are ladies or SP's. I haven't seen or met a whore or prostitute in this lifestyle, but to "society" in general, they would have you believe that is what this lifestyle entails, along with johns I tried some of the other boards, I dropped them, and just stayed with CERB. What I like most of all is how CERB is a recommendation board, not a review board and strives to maintain a positive atmosphere (hats off to the Mod and Council for that) As for my postings I try to be positive, treat others with respect. And in this lifestyle, I treat the ladies the same way, with respect As for partaking in this lifestyle, well every encounter, whether it's seeing a lady (and yes, all I've seen are ladies) for the first time, or a repeat encounter for the second,third, fourth or fifth time, I still get the pre date nervousness/excitement in anticipation of meeting (sometimes again) a lady that interests me Some quick ramblings RG Additional Comments: And I found the very first thread I posted, god was I naive and dumb LOL Newbie Here-First Post This is my first post after registering a few days ago. Not only am I new to Cerb, never been (yet) with an sp I do have a couple questions. Apologies if they sound dumb. First, I know what ymmv stands for but exactly what does it mean. If your a late middle aged man, doesn't work out at the gym, do you get a less enthusiastic encounter than a 20 something man...or what. Just not clear how objective/subjective a term it is. Second, if dealing with an agency, how fair is it money wise for the sp. Are the sp's doing the work and someone else making all the money (thought running through my mind is some pimp making all the money, don't know if that is true or not...maybe I watch too much Law and Order). Is it better to deal with an independant. My last question, for now, if you use a cell phone solely for your phone, is that aceptable to provide the sp when setting up an appointment. I know blocked phone numbers/payphones not allowed, but is a cell phone ok Thanks for now RG

Sonny and Cher-I Got You Babe Thank god for Cher, saved us from a "Y" LOL RG

I like backrubman for welcoming me to CERB and for all his funny posts on the forums :)

I used priceline last week for out of town guests and got the Marriott in downtown Ottawa for $93. And that was on a long weekend!

Wow, talk about the word spreading like wild fire. I know this your Halifax party and I have no hand in organizing it or having anything really to say about it, except that this needs to be addressed sooner than later. I have already have a few ladies who have pm'd me concerned about some of the guys who are under the impression that a social means they can expect things like "lap dances" and the girls performing in other ways, etc. You need to be very clear that at least as far as the Ottawa socials were concerned, it was just that "a social" - a place to meet and greet without any hanky panky, groping or inappropriate gestures or language being toelrated. So for those of you who think your $20 is the key to the Champagne room, you might want to rethink your expectations. Private parties where ladies offer services is another type of party format that is generally not organized at a public location. I will look to the organizers Penelope and Taloon to back me on this point, that this is a public social where folks are expected to behave accordingly? Carry on...

I wouldn't want any gentleman to feel that he's not allowed to ask questions about what the lady offers and what her restrictions are. If you've checked out her website--where such things are frequently described--and still have questions, by all means, ask for the information. I can't imagine why any of us would consider polite inquiries to be a waste of time. Compatibility makes for a good rendez-vous, after all! Time-wasters are not trying to determine whether the lady is right for them. Most are more turned on by the fantasies they have while making contact than by actually meeting us. Their inquiries are not so much about trying to figure out whether we're compatible as they are about material for their own, private, solo pleasure, for free. Some of the time-wasting things I've experienced from men I've not met have included: Peppering me with long lists of questions about minutiae. I once had someone send me a list of 75 questions to which he wanted me to respond on a sliding scale of 1-5, from "absolutely not" to "our meeting would be a failure if we don't." This wasn't a BDSM scene negotiation: the questions were about "vanilla" activities. Demanding information about what went on in my recent meetings with other clients. Expecting me to provide a list of clothing and lingerie options from which he would decide what I would wear and, if I didn't have something that he thought he would like, also expecting me to go shopping to acquire whatever he thought would be suitable. At my own expense, of course. Sending highly explicit pornographic scene descriptions to which I was expected to respond, giving exact details about how closely my responses to the activities would or would not match those of the woman in the scene. Asking for advice about problems they're having at home or at work. Pointed questions about my sexual fantasies. Trying to turn phone conversations into phone sex, which is not something I offer. Describing encounters they claim to have had with other companions in the city, whom they name, and expecting me to offer opinions about those ladies and their alleged actions. Repeatedly making appointments a week or two in advance and then cancelling the morning of, or one or two hours before, the meeting. (I know that unexpected things happen to everyone. But if short-notice cancellations happen twice in a row, I may not agree to meet with a prospective client a third time without a non-refundable payment in advance.) The most common time-wasters, though, are the fellows who want to exchange e-mail daily or even several times a day about unimportant things like the weather, what kind of music I listen to, what I'm reading, what I cooked for dinner last night, and so on. These men tend to sulk or chide if their expectations aren't met to their satisfaction. I'm quite happy to exchange e-mail, sometimes two or three times a week, before meeting, particularly if the man is from out of town, but my notes will be fairly brief, warm, cheerful and rarely include much info about my personal, private life. I've received many other, similar time-wasting requests. I'm sure that most of the companions on this board could easily come up with quick lists, too. I'm happy to answer serious questions. I know how important it can be to find someone who provides experiences that he hasn't been able to have at home or elsewhere. If the man seems to be nervous or anxious, I usually suggest we have a strictly social meeting, first, like lunch in a restaurant. My social rates are lower than my private rates and I'm happy to get to know someone while relaxing over a meal without the expectation that we'll have private intimacy afterward. These social meetings aren't a waste of time, at all. I enjoy them!

One word, repeated over and over again: Penelope, Penelope , Penelope, Penelope, Penelope .... ..... It's been 6 hours and I'm still weak kneed!!

Robynxoxo :) And again. Thanks Robyn.