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"There is something beautiful about all scars of whatever nature. A scar means the hurt is over, the wound is closed and healed, done with." -Harry Crews, novelist and playwright (b. 1935) I ran across this quote and thought it would resonate with various folk.

To everyone here. Over the past weeks I've posted about my dad's cancer. I have received in many PM's, comments, posts etc words of sympathy and support. I just wanted to say thank you all for your support. It really is appreciated This board is much more than an escort board, it truly is a community Again to all of you out in CERBLand, your collective support is appreciated more than you know Thank you RG

The replies so far do a bang-up job of answering your question. I'll just reiterate that: - pursuing special interests is extremely common - you should briefly explain your interest during your initial inquiry; and - worst case, she'll say "no, sorry, I don't do that" but she won't judge. When describing your interest give enough information to let her know clearly what you're after, but not so much that you're writing amateur porn. ;) Something like: "Hi! My name is [name], I'm [gender] and [age]. I saw your ad on CERB and I'm considering making an appointment with you soon. I have a real fetish for X, and during our session I'd like to try doing Y and Z involving X. Is that possible? If so, an appointment lasting [duration] on [date] from #:00 to #:00 would work well for me. I hope we can meet, and I look forward to hearing back from you." If her answer is "yes" you can always provide some more detail about X, Y, and Z in a follow-up before finalizing the appointment. She may even have some suggestions to add, or questions of her own. Then you're off to the races. Good luck and have lots and lots of fun!

I have more scars than I can count! 99% of them are from combat. They are a reminder of everything I've been through and each one has a story to be told behind it. I've always felt scars are part of the story of someone's life and something to proud of.

Well after dealing with the Passport Canada bureaucrat from hell who said I wasn't a Canadian citizen and tried to get rid of me, and that was on Dec 31st...I now just today received my passport. Only thing, I was hoping to bump up my visit to see dad next week, but he goes to the Moffitt Centre (specializes in cancer treatment) in Tampa Florida on Monday so he asked if my original travel plans could be kept On an upnote, he seems positive again, and maybe this centre can treat him...keeping my fingers crossed and praying But all things considered, this seems like a highlight RG

Thinking of you and your family, RG, and wishing for peace and trust for everyone. We haven't been able to meet in person, yet, but I'm confident that your warmth, generosity and compassion are even greater in person than they are online. I'm sure your father is proud that you're his son.

Tonyb, it's only appropriate to speak about our individual, personal experiences, so it's unlikely that you'll get meaningful replies to your queries. Moreover, this is personal information that many people would not want to disclose to strangers on a public forum. If you're interested in convictions related to prostitution, keeping a bawdy house and so on, you might search the Canadian Legal Information Institute database which provides links to judgments that have been made in the provincial courts and the Supreme Court of Canada.

What you may have Sophia is called Seasonal Affective Disorder, a reason for that is that days or shorter (Dec. 21 the shortest day of the year), keep your chin up the days are getting longer everyday now. It could be a lack of sun(vitamins), have you tried light therapy? Or even go outside on a bright sunny day(if there is any) and go for a walk specially early in the morning, you do not need to look at the light or the sun but the rest of your body does. Just trying to help!

I've seen Claire a number of times over the past year and it's no surprise she has so many recommendations. She's very attractive and playful but one thing stands out: Claire's really happy to be there with you. It's a small thing but you feel it in so many ways. She's always happy, she's always with you. And sensually, she really enjoys giving and receiving pleasure: you know she wants to make you feel great and a big part of that is making her feel great too. I always feel good after seeing her. I'm just another guy so this isn't special treatment, it's just who she is. A happy, friendly, playful, giving woman. :bowdown:

The trapped killer whales-it is not looking good for them . I pray they'll survive.

Cerb seams to be back to normal - Speed wise (Some new features have been added as I did a update to the software that runs cerb and it has some socialgroup features we did not have before) If anyone is getting any errors, seeing things missing or anything bad happening please PM me and let me know (Details please with links if possible) I am fixing the stuff as it is reported or found... lots of things were broken in the last 5 days that I have had to fix but it does look like we are back to at least 95% power / speed for page load times. (always room for improvement) Thank you all for baring with me I know the site has been very unstable for the last few days (So have I been! - Little sleep deprived)

I too had the extreme pleasure of meeting Malika during her recent visit to Kingston. Malika is an amazing woman...smart, funny and so damn sexy. She made me feel completely at ease and I absolutely enjoyed the experience. I can't add much to the many rec's here other than to say I agree with all of them. I would absolutely recommend to anyone and most certainly hope to be able to repeat. Pete....I have to agree...the swearing in french...ADORABLE.....I loved it!!! Thank you so much Malika!!! I had a wonderful time and can't wait to cross paths again.

Well I've got the ol' tummy stretchmarks from having had kids... I have long ago left behind any stigmas I had about having them, simply because: I am a goddamn tiger who earned her stripes!

One hella fine specimen ...

Wether they are intentional or unintentional they are part of you and they make you unique. Their story is for you to share or not to share and part of your journey to becoming "you". Others may look at them and see them as ugly, some may not notice some may find beauty in them but what is important in the end , for all of us is how we see our selves. Sometimes when we become externally marred our internal being grows stronger, more accepting, understanding-beautiful and imperfections can be more appealing sometimes then perfections.

I've got a new scar-in-progress! Right now it's still healing up, a fresh hook-shaped scalpel-wound where the doctor cut me up last week to remove a benign tumour from my ankle region. It doesn't hurt now (well, except when I stretch it too much), and I'm starting to grow rather fond of it. This was my first major surgery and I'm damn proud of myself for getting through it so stylishly.

You were correct. I have scars rather then tattoos. Not that I went out and planned to get them. Each one has a funny or fugly story behind them. And generally a lesson on how to be more careful when handling sharp, heavy, radioactive, flammable, explosive, toxic things while standing on the "Do Not Stand" part of a ladder.

:vl:Every year like most of us, I am having a " Winter Blues" week Duuno know why?? Or What...but it is there! I find it rather annoying, as I am a cheerful and possitive type thinker:) I have gone for tans, which always cheers me up:) An 8 min tan, and I am good to go for 2 days!, lol.. I eat well...have awsome sex life, but yet, I still feel the Winter Blues! What is it?? More snow this year? Are there others who feel this...this year?? What are your Winter Blues solutions??

Happy New Year to everyone! I know there is a thread some place regarding this issue (I was too lazy to look for it) Since it is a new year, I just like ensure that the line of communication between a SP/MA and a gentleman is followed to a tee,and without fail. My thoughts of Text A B C 's a) Initial contact between both parties through a text is to initiate time/place and confirming the appointment.Or it can be done through a phone call. b) After initial contact has been made, ONLY and IF only that "I" make contact with the provider,than it is fine for that provider to text back. Example ME - "Thanks for a great time it was a real pleasure meeting you" HER- "No thank-you, I had such an enjoyable time " c) On NO account should a provider right of the blue text me weeks later, or in fact months later.(Awkward to explain to my teenage daughter who picked up my phone because it was left on a table) :( I know the same is in reverse for the gentlemen, as I have initiate a text to ladies in the past, but there was never an issue from them. If there is an issue or was an issue, the provider would of certainly let me know. I have a few ladies that are in my contacts, and we have kept in touch, the issue above I have not contacted her by text over months ago. These ladies that I consider good friends we have kept in contact,without any issues from both sides. Perhaps emailing,or pm's would suffice if both parties have not spoken for a couple months. All I'm asking is for discretion and consideration. When I initiate a text, I might say "Okay to chat? " I might not hear back, or she may reply "Hi how are you? yes we can chat! " Or I might get 'later okay" For myself, it makes things simply for booking an appointment, and not waiting at times for schedules to be posted. Anyways, Happy 2013 AND carry on folks :)

I don't like when sps are trying to solicit business with randomly sending out texts and it is hard to imagine there is any other reason for them to do it. I think we are limited to placing our ads and REPLYING to queries, whether by text, email, pm, chat or phone, and not to initiate any kind of contact. Always excepting the client who has made it clear he wants that sort of connection of course. I think of it this way, texts are more like making phone calls than they are like sending an email. I know that a client keeps his emails private and is only going to read them when he is alone. Texts are not private, they just spring up on the phone. Anyone is able to read that, a co worker, a family member, or a stranger is they were in the right place at the right time. Not only that, but the texts hang around forever until deleted. Something that can be checked and read by anyone anytime, hours or days later. I think that someone who would say they wouldn't dream of phoning a client out of the blue two weeks after having met them for the first time, would think nothing of sending a text. But they should think of the text in exactly the same way as they think of making a voice call. Or even more like, walking up to him while he is sitting in a cafe with other people and saying hello, when are you coming to see me again. In many ways, sending a text is exactly like that.

This is how Emma ended up in Montreal !!! True story ;) One hundred Cape Bretoners are travelling on a bus heading towards Edmonton, AB, they pass a sign by Montreal that says Maximum 90, so 10 of them jump out. Emma jumped first............. ps....She loves me !!! Right Emma ??? Emma !! ??? ha Right the topic....Brandon ! We have a Five Guys burger joint !!

I've been on both coast many times, skipped through the prairies, but i always go back to either Ottawa, Montreal or Québec City as places to live in. Ottawa, while some may find boring, is great for cycling, skying, and is not that far from Montreal. I find it's a pretty green city (lots of parks in the middle of downtown, the Canal etc ...) Montréal is indeed great for it's diversity among other things, i dont think i'd ever be bored, and no need for a car while on the island. Québec City is great for the history (Old Québec City and it's winding streets and colonial buildings ....)

For the not so good part of this post.. having to hear two orange tabby cats ( one being my own) going at it at 11 Pm on a fence. He is so God damn territorial at times. And for the highlight of the day.. Realizing that I have a pretty good arm for pitching when the only way to get them to stop was to throw a snowball in their direction from the door hitting the fence right under them only to see my cat jump in 3 ft of snow and see all 15 bs of him wade through all that snow while he was playing in it. He's so cute and little shit disturber at the same time!

Good post Pete. A good reminder and understood. You and any hobbyist be sure to let the ladies know what you expect. Myself ...who runs on the opposite end of the spectrum will let the ladies that I have met or intend to meet know they can text me anytime 24/7. My phone is my lifeline and the most secure, safest and passcoded piece of technology I own. This is how my dates are booked. This is how I truly get to know the ladies. This is how I know most times when a lady I repeat visit with is coming to my neck of the woods. I am in the stix....not Ottawa. I received a few Happy New Years texts as I sat home alone this year and that made me really smile !! I am guilty of random texting gals....guilty here. I do it for various reasons. To make a connection..... to just say Hi....but believe it or not very very often it is to cheer someone up when I read a post or my gut senses that they are down and need a pick me up smile :) Discretion for me is huge too ! I have more serious discretion issues with email and PM's so this is why I personally prefer texts. Not trying to cause a problem....just pointing out that circumstances and preferences may vary.... What works perfect for one may be the enemy of another. Clarity from the start is the key in my eyes. Cheers :chug:

Just wanted to say that my prayers and thoughts are with you. I can relate to what you are going through as I recently lost my dad after a month long hospital stay and if it wasn't for some fine folks from here on cerb, I think I would have lost my mind. I agree that this is a great community and we will stick with you every step of the way, RG. Take care of yourself so you can be there for your family.

L is for licking

If there's someone who interests you but doesn't seem to offer the things you're looking for, consider asking anyway. There are many reasons for not advertising some activities, including creating a perception that the we only engage in kinky play, that we're happy to do something frequently or several times a day or a week, or that those activities are always available without making arrangements ahead of time. You should always feel free to change your mind once things get underway, too. Don't feel that, because you'd expected to do something, you're required to do it! Needs and desires shift and change depending on comfort level, mood and other things. Changing your mind the first time doesn't mean you shouldn't try again another time. However, if your companion has agreed to do something, or that she'll try to do it, she should be willing to fulfill the agreement. If she's not able to accommodate your request for some reason--perhaps she was spanked yesterday and is worried that any more of that today will cause bruising, for example--she should let you know before the meeting begins.

I enjoy the pretty yellow blooms of a big canola field in the summer :) Then in the fall I harvest it and make money ;) I like that too !

2 words: search tool If someone hasn't already asked your question, that will be what shocks me most.

I received a pm from a very special lady to inform me that she is reopening her in-call spot. Hooray!!! Additional Comments: Just noticed I've hit 200 posts. Yay!!

For me, I follow the rule of ratio of weight to colour. If my balls start to drag on the ground or turn a bright blue, then I know I need to conduct some business. I like to leave a little room in my pant legs to allow for some "droppage". If the junk starts to interfere with other pedestrians or get caught up in the snow blower, that's a clear signal I need to consult a professional. The other side of the equation is what I like to call: "The Shining". The Shining is most noticeable in the dark. You can actually see a couple of darling & tender fur covered nads hovering over (if not actually laying on) the floor. Please don't mistake them for rodents and try to stomp on 'em. They belong to someone - most likely me. I wish my hair stylist could address this issue for me, but I live in an uptight suburb.

Excellent post Pistol Pete and I agree in all respects. Another thing I thought I should mention.. Please don't text an SP out of the blue without the intention of booking an appt and wanting to get into long texts or sextexting. I've had people attempt to do this and puts the SP in an awkward position and I am the one who has to take the upper hand and shut it down. I'm not interested in doing that and if I were, I'd be working a 1-900 number. Thanks for your consideration.

My boys... During our traditional weekly sunday morning snuggles :)

As Mod said it "Has nothing to do with reputation. Police act on public complaints." That's why clients should be discrete when they're coming and going. If you don't draw attention to yourself, you don't draw attention to your service provider.

Usually SPs and MAs have a business phone and a private phone. I usually check with a lady I like to repeat with if texting during posted working hours is OK. If I haven't met a lady I'll initiate with a PM, Email or phone call. Unsolicited texts from SPs not appreciated as my phone is not just for hobbying.

I don't mind initial contact via text, and even a few questions back and forth, but if it goes on much longer than 5 or 6 texts, I do ask the person to call me because otherwise I could find myself texting all day. If I don't get to the phone and see a text that was sent more than half an hour ago, I will not respond unless I recognize the number and know it's safe to text back. By then, you could be in the car with your SO, daughter, etc. However, if you want to book an appointment, you must call me to do so, as I do not book by text and never give my exact address out ahead of time. I don't know if it's some teenager or jealous spouse who has gotten a hold of a client's phone. Since I don't require references and go mainly with my gut feeling, this is a minimal part of my screening requirements - that is to say I must hear the caller's voice. Like I said, once we have met and you want to rebook, texting only is fine, but I also do not expect the client to just show up at my door either. They must go to the visitor parking and call from there. I would NEVER text a client out of the blue for whatever reason, even if we have a good connection. It's tacky and not very discrete. However, that being said, I do have a few male cerb members who I am friends with who I text with to say hi, but I have their explicit permission to do so because I know they are single/unattached etc. and they know they can do the same with me. Pete, I agree. There is nothing so urgent that cannot be said in a quick pm or email, especially if it's after-the-fact. You are not being unreasonable at all, asking that you not be contacted out the blue. It's just good manners not to do so. The ladies who do that perpetuate the stereotype that some of us are desperate with no manners which is unfortunate.

Never, ever, ever too old, unless you've let yourself think you are. And even the most mature escorts will always find some clients particularly interested in what they have to offer. Although I haven't seen it much in Canada, I've seen some escorts in their 60s on some British sites. They clearly feel sexy about themselves, and that alone makes them genuinely sexy. Some are slim and pretty and look younger than their years; others are more matronly, wonderfully self-possessed, and clearly still having fun and enjoying their sexuality. (Not only are they simply sexy women, but for the latter type there's an element of "proper lady isn't so proper after all", and that has its own appeal. Some revel in old-style, full-fashioned underthings, evoking the traditionally unavailable mature ladies from our youth now made available...) I'd book time with them in an instant. I rather wish we had the same thing here.

Solicitation in the context of prostitution law means communication in a public place. The courts have ruled that private communication is excluded. Defining public versus private communication is dependant upon the means of communication and/or the place where the communication takes place. Offering, discussing or negotiating compensation (financial or otherwise) in a public place (street, park, bar, hotel lobby etc) is solicitation. It doesn't matter that only two people are participating in the discussion and that no one else hears or observes the discussion. The communication is occurring in a public place. E-mail, snail mail, texting, phone, skype, talking in your home or a hotel room are all private communications. Offering, discussing or negotiating compensation for sex in these situations is legal. These communications are all taking place in private spaces or are communications to which only the particpants have legal access. It's possible that the privacy of these communications may be violated by a third party, but that doesn't make them public communication (i.e solicitation). It just means that the third party has violated your privacy, which depending upon the facts can be a criminal offence. Communication involving more than two people (e.g. negotiatiatung a threesome or an orgy :-)) is still private communication. It doesn't matter how many people participate in the communication. What matters for the purposes of solicitation is how and where the communication occurs. So, communicating by privately by e-mail (legal) and then meeting in public without any further discussion of compensation (legal) is not a problem. I've never heard of the police action which was described as taking place in Halifax. There may be more to it. This tactic has been used to arrest men who have been seeking underage girls, for free or paid sex. If it involved adults it sounds like entrapment, which is an illegal police tactic and would explain why there haven't been any similar cases.

as others have said, prostitution is not illegal in Canada. Various acts around the sex trade, however, are or may be. So public solicitation is illegal. This really only applies to the street trade, which you should stay away from in any event. Being found in a common bawdy house (a place routinely used for prostitution) is an offence under the criminal code. So technically that makes incalls (you visit the lady at her location ... whether it be an apartment, condo, or hotel room) potentially illegal. However, if you stick to well respected ladies, this isn't a problem. Generally the police are interested in incalls only if there are other issues: underaged girls, reports of drug use, disturbances, neighbour. complaints, etc. An Ontario court, however, has ruled that the Bawdy house provisions of the Criminal Code are unconstitutional, although this is being appealed to the Supreme Court of Canada. So the law in this area is a bit up in the air. So it is quite clear, that outcalls to your location are 100% legal in Canada. Incalls with respected ladies are not a problem. If the lady is operating out of hotels, make sure she is working out of a respectable hotel, rather than some dive. In my area there are a couple of hotels known for having lots of working girls, associated drug use, pimps, and general problems. Not necessarily unusual to have visits from the police in these locations. As has been suggested, stick to the wonderful women of CERB and you'll have no problems.

If you want to be totally in the laws, not in the grey zone, stick to outcall (have the SP visit you to your home or hotel) and stick to reputable ladies on Cerb

Just want to post a quick note of thanks to Madison Sparks and Goombata for the toughtful and generous advice. I have tried numerous times to post and respond to PMs with lengthy messages and I have been booted off the server too many times, (lol). Anyway, this is great advice from both of you, and again, many thanks! xo

I had the opportunity to finally meet Malika, when she was here in Ottawa late last week.We greeted each other with a warm embrace, and kiss hello. It really did not take us long to spark up some conversation, get comfortable with each other, then of course I stripped and headed for the shower ;) After coming out the shower there was really nice sensual DFK, and then some oral for her, I kinda really enjoyed listening to Malika swear in french, moan, swear some more, clinch her fist and turn real red in the face and hit that plateau. It wasn't long before she had to have her way with me, and I must say, this lady is very orally gifted, she really knows how to pleasure her man. We used multiple positions after her long oral foreplay for me, I really enjoyed Malika riding me on top, then reverse we finished off in mish, and what a ride and again I loved her facial expressions of enjoyment being pleasured. Plus me viewing her sex bum when she was in reverse cowgirl was awesome :) We laid down after, my 1st SOG, chatted, stroked each other, she told lots about her travels past and present coming up. It was not long before a deep kiss, a lot more stroking and then some of her gifted oral again on me, it took all of 20 seconds and I was hard as rock for our 2nd round, of positions, and I also must admit that Malika is very flexible, and I enjoyed moving her around in positions that made her swear a little more, and I enjoyed listening to that. It was about time the two of us met and I'm glad I did, when she returns to Ottawa gentlemen, make sure you visit her, she is fun, and very gifted. :) Thanks Malika !

thanks Cat, I was kind of wondering about that myself (being new to this and all).

I think that one thing to keep in mind is that most providers who ask for a reference also have alternative screening methods if a reference isn't possible. So it's not quite the roadblock some have made it out to be. I would also say that it is not the case that providers who ask for a reference are not also paying attention to tone, manner, wording, etc. I do not believe most SPs substitute a reference for their own impressions, so I find it odd that it's presented as though there's this dichotomy - either she uses her gut or gets a reference. A reference isn't an excuse not to think for yourself. I'm sure most girls know that. But as to why they would be requested at all, I think that a very good explanation has been given already for why travelling providers use them, but I would also point out that references can be very helpful to someone new to the industry. It's fine to say that we can go by our gut alone, but generally it takes some experience to hone our instinct. Instinct is not some magical talent that some people have, it's not a sixth sense. It is data gathering and pattern recognition most of the time. It takes time to gather enough data to start spotting patterns and figuring out what sounds like a time-waster and who sounds like bad news. We've all interacted with people all our lives so we don't come at this with no data. But for most girls this is still a new way of interacting with people so they need time to learn. In the meantime, references are a second opinion that can help you figure out if your impressions are correct or not. I know that some people are proponents of the school of hard-knocks, but I think in this business the knocks can be pretty hard. For those who are not so new that continue to ask for references, I would simply say why not, if it has always worked for them? For many gentleman, obviously, it is not seen a hoop to jump through so there is no particular reason for them to change a working model. And, as I mentioned, most will offer to screen by more old-school methods if a reference isn't available. But honestly, the whole debate about references only applies to providers who do advance bookings. I don't see how a provider who takes short-notice bookings could ever be expected to contact and hear back from a reference in time. So I think there are just as many valid arguments to be made for not using a reference. I don't think anyone should be judged for using references, as though they are failing to use their own good sense and are making clients jump through hoops, nor do I believe it's ever fair to insinuate that a provider who doesn't require them is being reckless. I also believe that there are reasons a provider would choose not to give references as a policy. I won't go into them in detail, some have been mentioned, but I don't think it's really necessary to defend. CERB is very positive and I love that things can be discussed and debated but I get a bit frustrated, or maybe dismayed, to see people put down for their preferred (and effective) methods of screening a client.

I'm over 60 and didn't have my first encounter with an SP until my late 50's. Can't see stopping just because you reach a certain age. I think also it's a matter of personal preference and once again being up front with the lady you want to see. Personally I'm not interested in seeing a lady under early 30's, that's just my preference. On the other hand I appreciate the fact that some ladies may be uncomfortable seeing someone my age. When first corresponding with a lady you haven't seen before I think it's best to let her know your age and ask if she is comfortable with that. As usual better to be up front about things. I'm very appreciative of the ladies that will see an old fart like me.

Alright! GREAT idea!!!!! I can start a Cerb friendly retirement home. I already have resources and research ongoing. My nursing home will be more lenient than the one written about below. Katherine and Lee, ready to sign on the dotted line?

"Would you be exclusive to me in exchange ____$ monthly allowance" I got this one a few times and my answer has always been the same: A cage, even made of gold, still remains a cage!

It's fun. I love to dance. I have to give it to the gents, it must be hard with so many lovely ladies to choose just one and sometimes two and I agree, not a hobbyist but Katherine is yummy and she can move!! That is all I will say:icon_wink:!!

I personally agree that GFE does consist of bbbj....as well as LFK/DFK & DATY, things of the like. I also have heard references to safeGFE and assumed this was referring to CBJ....but i also assume it still involves kissing and the sort....If there is anything we can learn from the boards it's that everyone's opinion varies on the topic....every client has his own thoughts that vary, as does every SP. Now, as an SP, when seeing "GFE" or "safeGFE", my assumptions won't cause me any grief, but as a client, yours might if you plan on seeing an SP and ASSUME that her idea of GFE / safeGFE is the same as yours. Hope my input helped. While we're on the subject....I've always been a little confused as to why some ppl have reviewed my services PSE as well as GFE....is it the outfits? the toys? the facials? the extras (greek...cim) ?? what's the honest to god difference? I've never advertised myself as PSE....should i have been? These are all things i was more than willing to do with my past boyfriends....so to me, it's all GFE...i hope someone will shed some light on the subject....a few ppl gettin in on this would be spectacular.