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I think this is an excellent question to raise. I've always found it interesting when it comes to women the norm is "every woman is different, learn your woman" especially in regards to oral sex but you never hear the reciprical comment geared towards men. Every man is different. No two men masturbate the exact same way so why would we think they like to be sucked the same way. I have techniques I like and enjoy but I always look, listen and feel for cues. Sometimes it is difficult and direction would be great. HOWEVER, like most things, it depends on how the direction is offered. There is a proactive shared communication and there is a "jerk with an attitude" type. Most people would not react well to the latter and it would definitely spoil the mood rather quickly. Sex is all about exploration and finding what's pleasurable and enjoyable. Communication and direction applies to everything: BJ's, oral, nipples, kissing etc. We are all different and we all react differently. I LOVE having a cock in my mouth and I believe I'm good at what I do because I am passionate about it and try to be tuned in. I always say once you believe there is nothing left to learn, it's time to die. As for deep throat, it depends on the cock. With men of size, depending on the throat, it can be uncomfortable where for another shape/size, it's heaven. Sex should never cause pain (unless you're into those aspects of BDsM) so if it's feeling uncomfortable or even painful, please stop it. I'm very interested to see more replies to this topic.

OK I confess I'm dumb in this area. But what is the benefit...advantage if you will of Twitter compared to say, email or texting. From my understanding it is short little statements (Tweets) that you post for all (well those who have access to your account) to see. Maybe (well likely) there is nothing tweet worthy in my life to post about which is why I don't fully understand it. And can everyone who has a Twitter account read your tweets. If restricted to only certain people, well those people would already be contacts in my two email accounts and via pm through CERB, so I don't know about any benefit for me at least to use Twitter I guess it is hard to understand for a guy whose text messages read like mini emails, so short posts are really hard for a guy like me to figure out BTW this isn't a bash of any sorts against Twitter, I truly don't understand it except for what I know already, and would appreciate any insights as to it's benefits. Thanks RG

This one is both guys and ladies to comment on. I've never been a huge fan of BJ's. I'm not completely sure why but I assume that it 's because I've not completely enjoyed the technique used by the lady. To a certain degree most ladies have a technique that they use and I guess that they assume that their specific technique is enjoyable given that it's been successful for them in the past. In fact some ladies I'm sure would think that they give awesome BJ's. I have had some BJ experiences that quite frankly were not only not enjoyable but actually uncomfortable and I've had to move the lady on to other activities to spare myself. However, recently in the middle of a lack luster BJ I decided to take control of the situation and provide "direction" to a lady on how to provide a BJ that I would enjoy. LOL, while she was proceeding I gave her detailed instructions on how I liked it how much pressure to use, what speed, how wet, and specific tongue techniques etc. What was a poor BJ turned in to a awesome one. I guess enjoyable BJ technique is something that is specific to each man so as a lady it might be difficult sometimes to determine what technique to employ to make it enjoyable for the man. A question I have for the ladies is would you find it rude for a man to interrupt your BJ technique by providing direction to you on how you should provide one to him? Also, gents can feel free to comment on their BJ experiences and perhaps some techniques that they preferred to others. For example, Deep Throat has always baffled me as I've ALWAYS found it uncomfortable given my size so I always cringe when a lady tries it. Cheers

I'm loving all these comments and discussions...like DUH, I love cock! Thanks for bringing up the BLS as I enjoy this as part of the overall lovin'. I find ball play is even more highly specific then a blow job and the one aspect I want input. I've found balls can range from "don't even look at them the wrong way they're so sensitive" to "put on those boots and trample me". I've had those who love to be licked but not sucked, sucked but not licked, hands only and everything in between. I do want to say, on a personal note, that I want to please you and would very much prefer communication, even if it has to be a forceful STOP, over suffering through. Sometimes I know I can be a little intense and I have thought to myself on an occasion or two whether I was reading or misreading cues; only human and all. If I'm being too intense or teasing too much, I would rather know especially if I am misreading. As Peachy said, we are always learning and growing and just because one is a professional, does not mean learning has stopped. Communication really is the key especially if you're only seeing someone every now and then. The longer the interactions and more frequent, the greater the ability to "learn" someone. Just remember to make the learning part of the fun and not a put down, demand or other negative aspect. let's share the pleasure, giving and receiving. Oral anyone??? *rawr*

True, but this will only really happen once she's decided to visit. I was talking more about the "Hey, I think you're really hot, will you visit my city" mails/PMs/whatever, which I'm sure have a fairly low conversion rate into actual bookings.

Well, you've got the link for the next social already. One other thing: Quite a few ladies have a social rate for this kind of thing (although it may be more aimed at going out than staying in), and if someone you'd like to see doesn't have a published social rate, you can always ask her if she does. If you're looking to hang out off the clock... if she asks to hang out with you, then that's great, and you'll probably have an awesome time. But if you ask her, then bear in mind that in her eyes you've probably just become yet another cheap-ass guy looking for free stuff, and she's probably got enough of those already. Once you get to know someone well it may be different, and close relationships do arise between SPs and clients... but if you try and force it then it almost certainly won't happen. I hate to be a downer on this, but it's probably wise to set your expectations realistically.

I have experienced anal a couple of times, and for me its not the taboo aspect, but that your partner is giving all of themselves to you. This is the last frontier for a woman, as bj's and vaginas are are the norm for sex, there is only one thing left. I agree that anal sex should not be rushed into, there should be practice first, to make sure all parties are both able and comfortable, then when the time finally comes, and pure ecstasy takes over, it can be a wonderful experience for both! Of course I wouldn't expect to do this every night, but a few times a year would be awesome, and of course the practice would have to be reciprocated on me either with strap on or in an mmf situation! Cool thread....

I have intel on her. If anyone wants it, then PM me.

They've sued each other back and forth, Apple suing Samsung was more on the design of the phone and not about security features or anything. Apple is not more secure than Android in terms of security. Maybe Blackberry would be a little more better in terms of security. Anyways, someone will always make something for someone and someone will want to use the technology. It would be very hard to control. Is what it is. Basically you can only do what you can do to keep things private from other people...you control your phone...or for some the phone controls them, but different topic all together lol

Well I maintain several account for different reasons. It's not so much about what I tweet but for me it's a chance to stay up to date about what's going on out in the world. You can follow any number of tweeteres on an endless variety of interests. There is no obligation for others to follow you or for you to make tweets. As an example, I keep up events in Ottawa, the media, BNN, just to name a few. I do also have a second account and follow some members of CERB, and some of the ladies. For you, there is no cost to opening an account and simply start to follow others, and when comfortable try a response. On my BB they have an app that I can switch back and forth between accounts.

Although I was a bit green in giving instruction, I have learned over the years to take cues from the ladies in terms of nipple and daty plays. When a lady pushes your head gently away from her nipples or says it is sensitive, it is time to stay off the area for a while. The same with daty, after her O or after a while, it is usually sensitive time and it is crucial to take the hint and give it a break. Like RG says, it is also nice to get feedbacks from a lady. So far, I have received comments like, "I like the way you kiss and touch here, it is so sensual", " I like you using your fingers to squeeze like this", and " I like your technique, I have been looking forward to seeing you,". These comments are gratifying and they make the whole experience that much more enjoyable. However, if I need improvement in some areas, a constructive criticism is also very helpful and welcome, I do not mind at all. :icon_smile:

That is something that can happen, which is part of the reason why some people, both women and men, don't want others touching that area. The fear/embarrassment/queasy, etc. And I totally respect that. I personally like anal, a lot. I've had some of my most intense orgasms that way. But as pointed out above, there always IS a possiblity that something 'unpleasant' may be visible on the condom afterward. Before an anal session, many girls (myself included) do some sort of preparation in order to prevent this from happening - but nothing is 100%. My attitude is, you wanted to fuck my ass, you need to be prepared for that small possibility. If that will gross you out, then it's not an activity we should share. There defintiely have been times when I've been on the giving end of anal play and things are there, but I don't bat an eyelash - I always have tissues and wipes right there, and it doesn't make me uncomfortable at all. The pleasure anal sex can bring to both women and men is way worth the small chance of a mess.

This is so nice to know, ie. instructing, or at least coaching. I have been very reluctant to interfer or give advice what a lady is doing, afterall, they are the pros. and I am not. It happened to me once that the lady was using a bit too much force and I could feel her teeth. It was very uncomfortable and unpleasant, and needless to say, I have never seen her again. Now I know what I should have done :icon_redface:.

Someone just sent me this link to this damn funny video from Garfunkel and Oates. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3HbaqlcmDCA I had time keeping my coffee from spurting through my nose. Love the line equating the clitoris to "Satan's doorbell".

In some country/religion a woman must remain a virgin until married but anal sex is Ok, it does not count. So many young girls have anal sex before marriage and some love it so much that this is all they seek after marriage.

Hi This is a question on how you go about selecting a new woman to see? When I first started this hobby 3 years ago, I just lurked and read the recommendations and chose a highly recommended SP, who I had a great time with and have seen several times since. After that it was by going thru ad's, looking at albums and then checking out there recommendations. This method had worked for most cases. Last year I discovered Cerb Chat and started meeting woman, online, I chatted with many of the girls and built many online friendships. After a while I got a feel of what the girl was like, and wanted to meet them. This method seems to lead to better encounters, as because of the online chatting, we felt like we knew each other already and were comfortable with each other. Some girl's I started Pm'ing them regularly as they don't use chat. This method works also, but not as good as chat, as you cannot ask and answer as many questions in real-time. This is the approach I take now, get to know the woman before hand's thru PM, email or Cerb Chat. If we have enough in common and have becomes friends. I would hope to eventually meet them one day and have a great date where we can finally hug and kiss in person :) Encounters where there is some sort of friendship before you meet seems to be better then meeting a total stranger where there was no previous form of communication. How do you decide who you will meet next?

Nothing, the body is a magnificent machine and it never ceases to amaze me. Peace MG

You would be amazed at how easy it is to install a Trojan on an android device. That is, you think you're installing something legitimate like say an Angry Birds game, which you are, but along with it comes a botnet. The botnet can be quite sophisticated, enough to not only track you, but take pictures, videos without you knowing and send that back to a command and control. Scary stuff.

ok...I'm wet. Thanks Pete :p

For me it may sound weird, but the first reaction when we see each other for the first time(or second, or third). Being greeted with a great big smile and kiss, makes everything else go away. That's truly what I'm looking for, that escape from everyday life. Anything else from there is a huge bonus for both of us!

In my opinion, a "friends ex" or your "ex's friend" should both be off the table. No2 this being said I have never been in this situation where I was hit on by my ex's friend, but I have been hit on by my friends gf's and wife's friends. Even with the insane "hotness" of some of these women, I had to decline all and kept my mouth shut about it ever happening(looking around to see if anyone recognises me). Now anyone I have been with know I'm a true gentleman in this matter. But that is just me and I'm not like everyone else. I just find it such a dirty thing to do to one you call a friend.

No shit, this is just creepy! Although, if I had children, this would work for me but discussed ahead of time. You know, " Hey, I know you want your privacy but every once in a while Mom needs to check your phone/computer to make sure you're good." My parents always reserved the right to do a room sweep if they thought something was wrong or pick up the extension to make sure I wasn't planning a bank robbery with my crew! :icon_wink: And these days, with online/cell bullying & pedophile stalkers, I believe parents have not only the right but the duty to monitor those with whom their kids are communicating. My thoughts exactly before I even got to this part of your post. If an SO is so suspicious she resorts to this, doubts existed long ago. I would NEVER do this to a BF. If I'm thinking he's cheating, he gets confronted, I will ask to see his phone, & if he has something to hide, he gets a one way ticket to the door. I abhor liars & flat out refuse to be in a relationship with no solid foundation of trust. And it works both ways, the exception being work. My guests expect & get absolute privacy. If someone were tracking me, saw THEIR messages back & I found out, I would have his balls on my bookshelf in 2 seconds. Sandi

I never actually used Twitter until a few months ago. I have never had a personal account, and only have an account for my SP identity. I have found it very interesting, and more so the more I get involved in it. Mostly I like to follow people who I find are interesting; politicians, activists, bloggers, environmentalists, news agencies & columnists, musicians, scientists, writers, and popular sex workers from all around the world. These kinds of people are often tweeting links to news articles, blog posts and videos that I find interesting. Or tweeting about different subjects (sometimes controversial), and inviting followers to engage in the conversation. I do a bit of lighthearted personal interaction with people I know, clients and other local SPs, and sometimes I tweet pictures of myself, updates to my blog etc, but mostly the draw for me is the other stuff. Keeping up with what's going on, learning new things, finding interesting people, and sharing things that I find interesting and important. I have found that it's a great way to connect with a wide variety of people, and it puts everyone on a level playing field. Everyone is on the same platform and gets the same speaking time. And yes, you can make your tweets private, and only available to friends who you approve. But I think most people simply only tweet things that they don't mind being "out there" and leave the door open to a varied response. It's not for everyone, but for some it's great! :)

It's rather simple, there are followers and followed. If you want to follow someone you ask to follow them, and they can accept them or not depending how they are set up. Most people allow this to happen aromatically. So if you have some one wanting to follow you, accept them or reject them.

It is not her ex boyfriend calling her its her ex boy friend's Male Buddy

Comparing Twitter to email or texting is like comparing sending a letter to a friend and posting an announcement on a bulletin board. The two are completely unrelated. There are many uses of Twitter. The three main uses that I've seen are: Personal - the type of people I want to share my life with friends, and instead of facebook updates, Twitter is now the new medium. And if you still don't get the point, think about why people blog. It's an expression of thoughts/jokes/pictures/ideas. Twitter allows that, but 140 characters and/or 1 picture/video at a time. Professional - Organizations use Twitter to release information all the time. Not everything requires a press conference, but perhaps a small snippet of info that might be of interest to some of all their customers/clients. There has also been a secondary use that's cropped up for this, that is being able to respond to customers requests/complaints. By allowing the company to respond with 140 characters or less, they don't need a long time to respond especially if what you're asking is simple. It's good business practice. Celebrity - People buy magazines to read about the lives of their favourite actors and actresses. Twitter has given the same people to control a bit of what's going out, and using it as a self promotion. ............ Just to give you a clearer idea of why people use Twitter, some of the people I follow/used to follow: Prime Minister's Office- News doesn't report everything, and some outlets have a bias. Whether it's a conservative or liberal prime minister, it's just nice to have a sense of the day to day activities of what's happening. OC Transpo - I love using transit, and used it in Ottawa as much as I could. On occasion, there would be bulletins for protests, bus breakdowns, reroutes, etc. Twitter was a great way I could keep in touch with stuff like this. BlackBerry/Apple/Google/Tech companies - Small announcements keeps me in touch with what's new every day Town Council - There is a wealth of information that you get just from their twitter feed. I keep in touch with meetings about zoning applications, transit discussions and so much more. All this information is available in the local newspaper, but having it on Twitter allows me to control how/when/where I get this information. Newspapers are nice, but require a slower lifestyle to properly sit down and read. Doctor Who - I love Doctor Who, and it's the closest thing I have to a celebrity follow. They sometimes have snippets of cool info. My MP and MPP - Their office is much better at responding to tweets then emails. And I get to keep in touch with whenever something is happening locally.

In my youth, I used to think there was no such thing as a bad BJ. With more experience under my belt (pun), I've come to realize some techniques can make a BJ unpleasant. Unpleasant = teeth. During one such tooth session, I provided feedback to my SP, but to no avail. I finally had to request a change in venue. Fortunately, that experience was by far the exception. The remainder of my experiences range from ok to mediocre to exceptional. What makes for an exceptional BJ you might ask? I believe it's when the SP accurately reads her client's responses. Pleasure cues are often subtle, so the true professional needs to appreciate and interpret non-verbal communication. Body language, posture, positioning, facial expressions, silence, breathing, hand guidance - it's all part of the equation. Is it a science? Nope. An art - I believe so. But you decide.

At least I haven't got the tap, ever, touch wood A Seinfeld episode for every occasion Just thrown in for a bit of humour But I do agree with you NLWC about communication. RG

I have an adult son who has Asperger's Syndrome which makes him very much of the "introverted loner" type. I found what this article said very much "on the money". As a sidebar, the first thing my son bought when he moved out on his own was a dog. I worried about his ability to relate to the animal and care for it but in hindsight, it is probably the best thing he ever did, for at the dog park he fits right in. He doesn't seem any more socially awkward than the others there. The dog has given a very introverted young man a connection to the rest of society. So I certainly concur with introverts and pets comments previously made.

Midnite, I think you could be right in that providing direction to a lady is all about the delivery of the direction. For me it was more of a "Oh baby, that feels good now just a little softer and slower with your hand. Yeah that's it. Ooooh, don't be afraid to make it wet baby. Oh yeah, now slower and swirl your tongue around the head. Oh God that's so good!" (and so on, and so on as we progressed) Basically, it turned into a tailor made BJ exactly the way I like it. When it comes to sex I've never been a fan of trial and error. I like a lady to provide direction to me that will help me along my way when trying to provide her pleasure. I would be very embarrassed to know that a lady might be rolling her eyes at my technique so I'd rather she just tell me.

When it comes to anal too much lube is almost enough. I've enjoyed anal many times and for my enjoyment the lady has to be really comfortable with it and find it pleasurable. Most of my pleasure is usually derived from the ladies pleasure so if she's only so-so about it I'm not interested. Slow and steady is the name of the game for Anal. To a certain degree it might be the taboo aspect of it but for me I actually find visually watching entry to be very erotic and that moment when the head actually "pops" in is exciting. For many ladies anal is pretty cut and dried they either like it or they hate it there's not much middle ground. Anal play should not usually start with going right for cock-in-ass. It's really something to be worked up to over time and usually the lady has to be very "warmed up" from other play. I've been told that for ladies there's a different sensation of fullness with anal and the sensation of orgasm with something in the anus is quite interesting for both males and females. Something to keep in mind there are not many asses that can take a pounding like we might be lead to believe from porn. It's better as more of a slow erotic grinding as opposed to a pounding.

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It's the last stretch!! I've received a few more payments today, so the last spots are going fast! Remember, guys, payment ensures you are on the guest list!! Ladies, as usual, you can expect a little bit of baking ... would'nt be a social without one. I just need to dust off my recipes .... hopefully i'm not too much out of practice!! ;-)

Seeing that I have a LOT of catching up to do, I can never imagine anyone ever wanting to go there as far as I'm concerned. My Chocolate Starfish (sorry, Limp Biscuit reference) is taboo. I wouldn't want to subject any women to that area. If someone even wanted to slip in a digit, I would get incredibly uncomfortable. I could see me doing it, but only after I really knew someone, or after a bottle of wine.

Note sure if it is bad form to cite your own postings but NotchJohnson's comment reminded me of a funny video I saw http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=139882&highlight=God%27s+loophole

A much needed power nap and baking :)

I love anal and everything to do with it.To me sex is not really complete unless I feel this sensual sensation within(Sapphire)

For me, what I do now is perfect. It's the meeting of two (or three) people intimately and enjoyably and I find more time than not I am energized by it not depleted. I've had jobs in the past where my favorite parts were when I could sneak off to silence for a little bit and make everyone go away. Too many, too much. How many would ever think to say sex workers are introverted!

Im loving Zurick

I went to go see Rona the other day .. She was in a fairly good mood , she kept joking around with me .. It was nice to see her smile so much .. I went for a hour , the massage started out as it always does with her hands she did my back .. Then she got up on the table and gave my back and legs a good walking on it was not the best back walking I have experienced but it was good .. About half way through she almost fell off as she had oil on my back .. It scared the heck out of me .. I thought am I going to have to call 911 lol .. , on the flip she was down to her undies she gave my front a good work over with her fake but nice breasts , it was almost a body slide , it was most enjoyable .. And as always she provided a awesome finish . She then gave me a good wipe down with hot towels , I know a few guy said the have left oilily from her place , myself I haven't had this issue , she has even offered to let me shower on most occasions , so guys if you feel she didn't clean you up enough I am sure she would let you shower or at least use the washroom to clean up

Anna Sweet from BP...a blonde Nicole Kidman-esque looking woman with high cheekbones, striking eyes and flawless skin.

I am pleased to offer lots of atypical situations and fetishes. I have found that the more atypical the request, the higher the chance of a no show. The no shows are costly and discouraging. GBs are atypical and hence lead to a high rate of no shows. The solution is to charge deposits. Would anyone like to start a thread about deposits?

Additional Comments: I disagree 100% Allow me to elaborate.... If you limit the amount of orgasms a man is allowed, you are selling an act not an experience. The act being ONE SOG. I personally don't see any GFE when a woman says "we can't have sex again because you already blew your load" -- A woman who says this sold SEX not TIME. (act vs experience) Yes, GFE is a lot more than just the completion of sex...that I do agree with....but saying MSOG is not allowed is super hypocritical if you advertise that your TIME costs X amount of dollars.

An interesting and easy to understand article explaining what could be next after the laws are struck down and what sex workers want and need in a post-decrim Canada: http://rabble.ca/columnists/2013/04/sex-workers-are-coming

In April I found out that I have cancer and the prognosis was not good. I had known for a while that something was wrong, but being the person I am, I just shrugged it off as being over 40 and not a big deal. Clearly it was. Instead of dealing with the issue at hand and informing those I care about and love, I decided to keep things to myself. When I finally started to tell those people depression and anger had set in to my heart. It had become obvious to those around me that I was no longer myself, the positive attitude and sense of humour were gone. I was trying to push those I love and care about away so I could be left alone. I was a fool! After telling my father of the situation, he realized that darkness and despair had filled my heart. He flew over here on Friday to spend a solid couple of days with me. Knowing this I thought it was time to tell him everything about my life since I left home at 18 and joined the Royal Navy. He has always been a pillar of strength in my life, there to listen and never judge. I am sure there are things that I told him over the last couple of days that he never wanted to hear, but he never wavered and just listened. This morning as I told the last of what I wished to tell him, he put that gigantic paw of his on my shoulder, looked me in the eyes and said..."get your goddamn head out of your bleeping ass"!!!! He's right!!! After more words of wisdom from my father, I realize now that it is time to enter the fight. I want to say I am sorry to those I care about and love, I should have been stronger from the start and told you the situation. That was my mistake. Thanks to my father I have my positive attitude back and sense of humour. I do not want anyone's sympathy, for it is an emotion that commandos have little value in. What I want is for people to smile and laugh, that is what gives me strength and always has. Though there will be times where I will obviously not be around while I deal with certain things, those of you who I am in contact with and consider to be my friends will know the situation and where I am. I will not keep you in the dark any longer. Now to leave this on a funny note. ;) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8DdeLUA0Fms http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GLpO-OvJU74 Spud271

Must be a really good song she's listening to!

Hahaha .... Yes.... WestJet loves when I have a boner cause I ring dingle them and pop on over over the great lakes to Ottawa it seems lately ;) I need a plane !!! I shall name it "Boner"

In my case, it's a bit different... I am recently out of a 17 year relashionship. I do not in any way want to even date right now, or any time soon. Still have needs to fill... and to be honest, most of the girls I have met are nicer, more affectionate and just plain more fun then I have had in my life!

tattoos are amazing <3